The sleeping around issue is enough a disqualification for them.
About romance kuma,precious once asked the guys of kanoonline what our definition of romance was and only DB gave his own definition.So i guess it depends on your own definition of romance.
I can agree with you that even before marriage the southern babes devote themselves more such that the difference btw the relationship stage and the marriage stage has very little difference.
Ni wani abu da suke birge ni da shi shine how they value the guys. I noticed it among my southern friends that their girlfriends run some important errands for the guys.Like one of my friends from delta was in Jos and he needed some documents from delta min of educ that said English is the language of instruction in the schools,it was the girl that did all the 'ups and downs' and got him the docs and sent them to him. Another one got his girlfriend to process and send his transcript to him.
Anya kuwa namu za su yi maka haka?
The reason why the southern girls seem to value their guys is because they sleep around so much. Therefore they dont have a strong hold over the guy, becos girls are so available to him. That is why the girls must go the extra mile to keep
the guy by making them (guys)need
them (the girls). Simple.
Because the northern girls dont sleep around and kuma generally it is haram in our religion, so that both guys and girls dont really engage in it especially if the guy is serious about the girl, then the guys go to ashawo but at the same time, they come back to the girl becos they want 'yar mutunci as the mother of their babies. Its not the same with southerners where a girl has to prove her fecundity before marriage.