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Title: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 04, 2002, 01:25:11 PM
Salamu alaikum wa rahmatullah taala wa barkatu
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I aint here to find trouble....just seeking for opinions and explanations (reasonable ones!!!!  :-/)  

Is it a kind of trend  to get 4 wives or what ????

What is wrong with getting just one wife????!!!!!

I will be straight wit yall..... back in the olden days, men could handle four wives the way Allah commanded....but now a days,  bout 85% men have no clue how to treat their wives equally...therefore creating tensions and problems within the wives and children.... :-[  

I  just brought this topic up  coz just this year, i keep hearing second, third, fourth, twentieth marriage stories  :o

Is it coz its more of a tradition...... or  trying to carry out the Prophet Muhammed'S (SAW) Sunna???? or maybe dem guyz's  heart is just too enormous to contain only OnE gurl in ;D ......

whatever it is....i need some xplanations coz dont understand whyyyy its more common with hausa people!!!!

If I offended any of yall........my  deepest apology  :'(  :'( :'(:-/
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 05, 2002, 12:20:13 AM
oh gelle.. u and ur apologies...  :P

newayzzzzzz.....

well... i wouldnt exactly say "only" hausa men... but... many are triflin' oh... but i also met a number who know whut to do and maintain their bizness...so i give 'em maddd props...

but my beef... when a man gets all succesful... his friends pressure him to marry another wife....
for wheytin reason????????? after he suffered with his wife to be where he is...another woman comes and enjoys whut the other woman contributed...
newayz sha....

"Marry women of your choice, two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them, then only one or one that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice." (Qur'an 4:3)

men..beware... ur in for a lot of trouble.. if u juss marry and gather!!!! in some cases.. men are also careless wit' their kids... so take heed... and maintain..
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Dan-Sokoto on October 05, 2002, 02:04:43 AM
Fulanicious, there are many dimensions to your poser. One, there is the issue of religious tenet permitting men to marry more than one wife up to four. However, condition ofr exercising such permission has also been imposed, that is, justice in treating the wives. Secondly, there is also the issue of human nature. Human nature makes it impossible for a human being to love or dispense justice equally. This has led some people to posit that, Islam discourages polygamy that is why the condition of equal justice (which is impossible to attain) has been imposed. Allahu a'alaamu.

To me personally, the rampant case of polygamy in our society is due to lack of proper islamic education for our people to know what it really involves to marry more than one wife. Because if they trully know with all its attendants implications they will think twice before they do it.

My only prayer is that, may Allah continue to guide us on the right path - amen.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: al_hamza on October 10, 2002, 01:35:24 PM
there are more women in this world than men.
if we continue with the pro-western idea of one man one woman
where will the extra 300 or so million women go?
guys we cannot give up our Islamic traditions.
what we can do is to preach Islam to the already muslim born people, cos we have distorted some of the values of our beautiful religion.
ma'assalam
se anjuma
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 10, 2002, 02:55:17 PM
Hmmmm well  if thats the case, lutta men DO NEED to go to special SCHOOLS only for teaching how to be just and fair among his wives.....and believe me, it aint as easy as it sounds....  

lol, freaky, just imagine half of the students coming out with D and  F  grades :D

salamu alaikum
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 10, 2002, 08:53:48 PM
um...hamza... polygamy is not an islamic tradition... its been happenin' a looooong tyme ago...at least thatz how i view it...

and there should be a shariah court agreement on whether or not a man should marry again...(juss my opy, oh  :o)... the man wantin' to marry another woman... better come up wit' a reasonable reason...
cuz luts of men.... do NOT have good reasons.... sumtymes its juss to tick of their wives, juss to brag to friends, juss for the sake of "mata na hudu', etc etc.....
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 10, 2002, 11:21:35 PM
Assalamu Alaikum

I hate to join a debate like this but its now necessary.
I would like to call to our attention abinda Mallam Dan sakkawato yace game yan uwa dasuke baudewa idan sun sami halin yin karatu a kasar waje.
It would have been impossible for Fulanicious(whatever that means ???) to be uttering this opprobrious comment on why polygamy is out of vogue. (Feminism and indeed gender activism are but a sign of moral decadence which are greatly despised by Hausa people).
I say now, Duk abinda Allah ya saukar game addini gaskiyane jiya, Yau da gobe. So auren mata 2 or Hudu a idon addini ibadane, sunnane, kuma  babu wanda ya isa ya haramtashi.
It is also true that Allah yace idan baka iya adalci tsakanin matayen ka, to sai ka auri daya. This is perhaps what Fulanicious( by the way, I hate this name) wanted to convey.
But, what then becomes the problem is who judges the way a man take care of his wife? certainly Fulanicious cannot. And neither does her fabricated statistics of 85% of men being abusers hold any truth.
I shall say my opinion is for men to really change their reckless unIslamic habits rather than refraining from marrying more than one wife.
I my self intend to have one only! In the Future!
Sai anjima.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 11, 2002, 06:49:15 AM
SALAMU ALAIKUM....

AWWW LORD OF MERCY! WHO TALKED ABOUT FEMINISM??? BROTHA CHILL
 
LOOK, I DO KNOW SOME PEOPLE, THAT  HAVE FAMILY ISSUES...AND THE MAN OF THE HOUSE IS USUALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR IT! AND ALSO KNOW 3 CASES OF VERY NICE POLYGAMOUS FAMILIES, AND THE MEN THERE, NEVER DIFFERENCIATE THE WIVES AND CHILDREN.....

SO  U CAN TELL, IF U KNOW THE FAMILY, WHETHER THE MAN IS BEING FAIR.....GET IT NOW?!

OOOH BY THE WAY, SORRY I CAN'T HELP BUT BEING F-U-L-A-N-I-C-I-O-U-S.... IF U HATE THE NAME, THEN DONT EVEN SPELL IT! BETTER LEARN TO LIVE WITH IT COZ U'LL BE SEEING A LOT MORE OF FULANICIOUS IN THIS FORUM!!!!!!

FULANICIOUS MEANS FULANICIOUS.......

WALLAH  IF U KNOW ME OUTSIDE THE NET,,,BAZA KA MA FARA WANNAN ABUN BA..COZ THERE IS NOTHING I HATE MORE THAN TROUBLE, THAT, EVERYONE THAT KNOWS ME PERSONALLY WILL TELL U THIS!!!!

I JOINED THIS FORUM TO BENEFIT FROM MY FELLOW BROTHERS AND SISTERS...NOT TO GET DISTURBED, SO TELL ME WHO INSULTED U ON KANOONLINE YET???? THEN WHY PICKING ON OTHERS? LOOK IF U WANT SOMEONE TO PICK ON, WALLAH I AM THE WRONG PERSON. BETTER CHANGE THE DIRECTION OF YOUR WIND...AIIGHT?
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 11, 2002, 09:10:02 AM
amin.. ur approach was sexist, unprofessional, and whack!... wheytin da sistah do to u?? ??...
abi u wan choose betta name for her??  :-/

there are many cases that apply to whut she's tryin' to say... u didnt have to be sour...

she's sayin'... its more of a trend now... and b'cuz of that..problems take place... i believe similar to whut u said about it being lack of Islamic morals... so why did u have to attack her like that.. very UNPROFESSIONAL...

:-X
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: kariballa on October 11, 2002, 12:14:23 PM
Amin apologise to my sister pls. :-[ :-[ :-[
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2002, 02:19:01 PM
Wawwwwwwwww.ai duk wani musulmi sai dai yace ba ayin adalci amma ba wai ba tsarin musulinci bane yin mata hudu,alkur'ani ne ya fadi haka,infact da wannan ayar aka bude suratul-nisa'i,ma'ana itace ayar da take bayani kai tsaye game da hakan,kuma annabin rahama ya dada jaddada halkan,sai dai kuma mun san duk wani musulmin kwarai kamata yayi ya yarda da abin da alkur'ani da sunna yazo dashi,wanda kuma yayi sabanin hakan to bamu san inda ya dosa ba.sannnan ai idan muka duba yawan matan dake zaune ba mazaje,sai muga sun ninka masu mazan ,kamar yadda wani yake cewa idan ba ana yin biyu zuwa samam ba sauran fa,muna da kanne muna da 'ya'ya,kuma mafi yawa idan kaga mace a yanzu a cikin hausaewa ta kare secondary ba miji,to kasan an rasa matayi ne,ko kuma ita tace sai saurayi,wanda hakan bai samu ba,kuma annan kano duk wani uba yana so ace 'yarsa taci gaba da karatun gaba da secondary a dakin mijin ta,domin annabi ya nuna mana mu aurar da 'ya'yayenmu da zaran sun balaga,zanci gaba in Allah ya taimaka.
muazzam yusuf
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 11, 2002, 06:01:40 PM
Salamu Alaikum
Ina matukar farin ciki da abinda nace a forum dinnan rannannan.
I love controversy actually.
BUT, yar fillo, dont misunderstand my criticism for something else.
Many a person said I should apologise? for what ? BUT any way, Girman kai ilimin tsiya.
I DO APOLOGISE FOR MAKING THOSE COMMENTS. BUT, I shall continue to stand by my word regarding the statisctical evidence provided by the Dear yar Izala.
As for saying I hate your name, yar fillo, I believe the Nigerian constitution gives me the right of free speech and freedom of choice, association.......
I have the liberty of defending myself based on those freedoms enshrined in the Nigerian constituition.
Lest I forget, it is important to remind YOU of  the RIGHT to DEFILE, DENIGRATE, BESMIRCH..... my name if you wish.
I for one would never do it again and whole heartedly seek you forgiveness from ALLAH YA'ISA.
Sai anjima.

PS_ Mrs Queen, what is unprofessional, sexist of whacky in my approach? Evidence pls. Immanuel Kahn said " Detail without structure is vanity" know what I mean?
By a stint of Irony, Yar fillo, not me is the one being gender-centric.
View Muazzam Yusuf's post to understand in detail what I meant to convey.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 12, 2002, 11:27:48 AM
Assalaam Alaikum,

Wow...Masha Allah, Masha ALlah.

Quite interesting  ;D. Hmmm...Allah ba cewa yayi namiji ya auri mace hudu idan zai yi adalci a tsakanin su (not wai kawai for the sake of auren hudun). Yeah it is Sunnah, but at the same time ba kowa ke bin yadda sunnah take ba (babu adalci tsakanin matan). Yeah Annabi (SAW) loved Aisha (RA) more than his other wives, amma mazan mu ai ba annabawa bane   :-X Kuma as the Qur'an says, idan zaku(maza) yi adalci tsakaninsu.

Kuma wallahi I can agree that maza da yawa basu san yadda zasu yi treating matan su ba. Wasu suna aurensu ne dan kwadayi; I have seen this first hand (not that I'm married, amma ya shafe ni), idan kuma aka ga ba'a samu abun ba, a fara waulakanta mace. Yeah ba duk mazan ke yin haka ba, da akwai masu adalci wanda shima I have seen  (mai mata hudu kuma they have been together duk su hudun for more than 30yrs now). At the same time, that does not mean wai matan suma duka ne masu kirki, kwarai kuwa wasu matan kanyi aure dan kwadayin abun duniya ko basu san mijin  :-/ Wasu matan suke sa auren ya baci...da namiji ya kara aure sai tsana ta shiga tsakaninku...ko da kuwa the husband tries as much as possible wajen yin adalci tsakanin matan..yeah, ance kishi kumallon mata...ko wives of the Prophet(SAW) sunyi amma nasu was a clean one ba kamar namu da yake kazami ba. Ni kam nasan bazanso miji na ya kara wata macen ;D amma in dai har na tabbatar zai yi adalci tsakanin mu, to wallahi he is more than welcome (amma fa daya ba kari LOL) idan kam na san ba zai yi ba (which zai iya kaishi wuta i.e rashin adalcin) to fa za ayi gwagwagwa  ;D

Maza kam ba duka ke da adalci tsakanin matan su ba...sai kaga an ware mace daya cikin mata hudu wadda ita ke ma controling household din...idan taga wuri har mijin ma tayi controling :-/

Brother Amin...ina ganin girman sunan ka da yawa...amma what do u mean by 'yar izala??? ni kam yadda nasan me ake nufi da izala sune masu bin Qur'an and Sunnah...amma malam bahaushe ya laka masu 'yan izala. Da an gan mutum da gemu ko wando da yake saman ankle da kadan,  ka ji ance wannan dan izala ne, ai gemun da saka wandon haka shine Sunnar. Kuma ai ma it's izalatul bidi'a wa iqamattus Sunnah and I think it means (I don't know how to put it) errr...hana yin bidi'a da bringing Sunnah up  :-/. Plz someone help me out here if you do know. Thankx

Anyway...Allah ya gyra.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 14, 2002, 11:00:46 PM
amin.... u may have rights to say whut u wanna say.... but use it wisely... juss dont go around hatin'... and unlike some people... we dont waste precious time "defilin'" other people's name...... so clean ur act up and be straight... there are better things too do...

ITK!
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 15, 2002, 09:50:02 PM
well I have alot to say about this topic. but for the sake of not causing more problem than what it is, I
m going keep my mouth shut. but I'm in line with fulanicious. that's all I can say.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 16, 2002, 03:00:35 PM
;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 16, 2002, 08:03:56 PM
Bissalam

Mhm; it appears like the ladies are all ganging on one side :)
Mata naturally basa son kishiya.

Waziri
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 16, 2002, 09:07:54 PM
Habba Malam Waziri - ai maza can't cope with kishi, ba mata ba.  At least mata sun hakura da abinda Allah ya kaddara masu cewa mazan su zasu iya kara macce, amma maza get blinded with jealousy if their wives even look or talk to other men.
Remember God doesn't give us more than we can bear and kishi is something men cannot bear.
Allah knows best.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 16, 2002, 10:33:24 PM
Although I felt as if iam late at having to contribute to this topic but I still want to say a word or two. Auren more than one wife is halal based on conditions defined by Allah. In essence, I would like to look at things from the poit of view of the fulac.......(wateva) in that, I know of some men who marry more than one wife and then swim in the joy of divorcing one out of the bunch to bring in a fresher blood. By Allah, this is pretty bad!!! I remeber vividly a chat with some male friends where one was narrating to us that the reason he wants to get more than one wife is to enjoy the fight( kishi) they will engage over him while each one of them tries to give him the best... imagine tjhis.......
well....there are alot more to say
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 17, 2002, 02:29:28 PM
AWWWW  LORD  OF MERCY!!!! KAMIL,   F-U-L-A-N-I-C-I-O-U-S ,  GET A PAPER N PEN!!!!!  :)

I personally know about 5 men that marry and divorce , marry and divorce, always replacing the fourth wife....

Wallah, I dont want to mention names... this "ALHAJI" kept changing is 4th wife 11 good times!!! A relative of mine married him. That gurl was nearly half his age and is a steaming beauty and has a very good and clean heart !!!!

In less than a year she became his 12th divorced wife!!!! and immediately after having his TWINS !!!   and guess what? he got himself another prize the same year!!!!! And my relative is now scared of marriage... till now she keeps rejecting men...

I just dont get why gurls would even wanna marry people like that???? anyways he has the money to buy them, and sooo this is what they get!

But still not even a DOG deserves to be treated like that!

Well  I am not saying that ALL men r evil. But the percentage of the bad ones is Higher than that of the good men.

And my sister, kdgirl is right.... men's jealousy is hotter than fire...  and do u even blame the gurls... its perfectly natural to be jealous over who you LOVE...... so.....

Well, Allah kare
Salamu alaikum
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 17, 2002, 03:53:44 PM
Assalaam Alaikum,

Kamil...abokin ka bai san mata ba!!  ::) ranar da suka yi ganging up on him he wouldn't think of discussing it with you or would not think of the "kishi" as fun ...he better be careful  ;D

Yeah, it's really annoying yadda wasu mazan ka sake mata, within few years of marriage, kamar yadda zasu sake riga...dole wasu matan suji tsoron yin aure  :-/
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Bahaushiya on October 17, 2002, 04:18:25 PM
Mhm
It's realy a pity , mazan hausawa mostly basu ma san ma'anar kishiya ba balle hukuncin  zama da mace fiye da daya ba all they know is that "mata sun cika kishi" , su sun manta cin amana sukeyi .
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 17, 2002, 07:05:31 PM
....Ihsan, Fulanicious, zku yadda dani cewar akwai kuma mazan da they really try in doing just among their two wives? The big fear is that very few men can do that and at the same time a great number of men wnats to have more than one. it is even a mockery thingy to a man that has just one wife, kunsan sunan da ake gaya masa; 'aminin gwauro' and that makes him to want to go get another without having to think of the wahala in it or simply checking himself ko zai iya. Imagine....can i ask a question here? well, is it possible for a man to hsare his love? if man cannot they he should simply give it all to one person, ko kuwa?
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 17, 2002, 10:05:13 PM
Assalamu Alaikum,

O.K let's try and strike a balance; kunga dai a cikin masu kontributin akwai maza dayawa wadanda suka nemi yin adalci ta nuna cewa abinda Allah Ya saukar game da al'amarin aure a kur'ani Ya yi ne don Ya kare mata don kada ayi musu kishiya.  :-/  Ma'ana tun anan munga cewa maza suna kokarin yin adalci a cikin zantuttukansu har ma Amin(kawace ko abokine ga Fulanicious?) shima daya kare zancensa saida yace ammam yana tunanin mata daya kawai zaiyi.

To amma su mata fa? Duk sun taru wai basa son a fadi wani abu me kyau game da auren mata fiye da daya. Ko da Ali ya nunashshemu cewa auren mata daya zai kai  ga cewa wasu mata miliyan 300 su rasa maza, basu gamsu ba. Su dai su IHSAN in sun damuke dan mijinsu shikenan :) saura kuwa ko oho. A'a to in ba haka let them say one good thing about polygamy mana.

Ina Fulanicious mana kina jina? What is the add-vantage of polygamy? FYNE, kdgirl, bahaushiya and gimbiya it is ur challenge.

Sannan kuma shi Amin da zaiyi mata daya ni na samarmashi mata, sunantama ya Fara da Farko I pray she is not hooked.

My peace

Waziri
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 17, 2002, 11:17:20 PM
Mallam Waziri - let me make my peace as well. No Muslim, man or woman, in their right mind is against polygamy for we know it is ordained by God. That's a fact that no one dares to challenge.
The issue is how it is implemented in the society, just like what's going on nowadays with Shariah punishments for the poor and destitute (but we won't go there now !)

Before trying to put words into other people's mouths, let me give my personal opinion. I support my sisters in polygamous situations, May Allah protect and strengthen them. There are many advantages to polygamy and only Allah knows them all. But, many of the benefits are obvious ....

Anyway, please don't misconstrue criticism of the situation with criticism for God's Law.
kdgirl
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 17, 2002, 11:20:31 PM
waziri, u are funny  ::) anya ka yi rabon dai dai kuw?lol
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 17, 2002, 11:46:51 PM
Salamu Alaikum..... Waziri, my brotha....

Okay.... the advantages of polygamy are: the man is seen as someone important, and SURE the man has more than 1 woman to enjoy himself with, another is that a man gets his "Foot ball team" ie  500 children  ;) .......THESE R FOR ALL THE MEN!!!!!!

and what about the WOMEN? why always so selfish and never consider the ladies ??

Anywayzzz for the women , polygamy is "great" too, HER KISHIYA HELPS HER FIX THE HOUSE....OR THE KISHIYA HELPS HER HAVE A BAD HEAD ACHE!!!!!!

OFCOURSE THIS POLYGAMY IS 97% ADVANTAGE FOR ONLY THE GUYZ.. :o :o :o

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U know what? OFCOURSE  POLYGAMY IS SUNNAH OF THE BEAUTIFUL PROPHET(SAW) AND PERMITTED BY THE ALL MIGHTY.....  BUT EVEN THE ALMIGHTY HEEDED MEN...

PLUS  IF  THE MEN WOULD TREAT THEIR WOMEN EQUALLY, THEN WALLAH I  HAVE NO BEEF WITH THAT...

AND IF THE HAVE A STRONG AND RATIONAL REASON FOR MARRYING ANOTHER, WALLAH I HAVE NO BEEF WITH THAT EITHER.

BUT WHAT WE, THE GURLS HERE ARE WONDERING ABOUT  IS WHYYYYYYY DO THE MEN GO AHEAD AND MARRY MORE WIVES IF THEY KNOW THEY CAN'T HANDLE THEM???? OR  WHYYYY DO MEN KEEP RECYCING THEIR WIVES?????? ::)

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U GUYS  DO U KNOW THAT IF A MAN  DOESNT TREAT HIS WIVES EQUALLY...ON YAUMAL KIYAMMAH, HE WILL BE SEVERELY PUNISHED?? ?? AFTER THE SECOND TRUMPET THAT MAN WILL COME OUT OF HIS GRAVE WITH A HALF BODY!!!!  :o :0  AND THATS JUST THE BEGINNING (freaky, i know!)

YESSSS, AND THEN WHY WOULD I WANT MY HUSBAND WHO I WILL LOVE SO MUCH, GO AND MARRY A SECOND WIFE, ONLY TO HIS DESTRUCTION..... NOT ALL MEN CAN DO HALF OF WHAT THE PROPHET DID!!! SO ITS ABOUT TIME THE MEN STOP SAYING "THE PROPHET DID IT TOO"  YALL AND THE PROPHET CAN NEVER NEVER SCALE UP THE SAME, SORRY!

IF A BROTHA CAN TREAT THEM EQUALLY...GO AHEAD MARRY ANOTHER, LOL, I  WILL EVEN TAKE CARE OF ALL THE WEDDING ARRANGEMENT  FOR U....
BUT THE BIGGIE HERE IS : WHY WOULD U MARRY ANOTHER, WHILE KNOWING U CANT HANDLE THEM , AND GO HALAKA YOSELF?? ??!!!? ?? ??

My brother Waziri...lol  go and  look after your four wives and stop trying to hook up a brother with a second wife, lol...amma ur funny!


salam yall......
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 17, 2002, 11:59:30 PM
THIS IS MY ANSWER TO KAMIL'S  Q....  

  NO WAY,  A MAN CANT LUV MORE THAN ONE WIFE EQUALLY!!! SO IMPOSSIBLE FOR A  MAN TO SHARE HIS LUV EQUALLY!!!!

TO BE ON THE SAFE SIDE GIVE IT TO ONLY  UNO CHIKA!!

OOH BY THE WAY, EVEN THE PROPHET DIDT LUV ALL HIS WIVES EQUALLY... THAT EVEN CAUSED HEAT AMONG HIS WIVES ESPECIALLY  AISHA, WHO WAS VERY JEALOUS  ;D

OKAY  THIS IS EVEN THE PROPHET..WHO WAS 24-7 FAIR AND JUST TO HIS WIVES... THIS IS THE PROPHET THAT FEARED ALLAH WITH EVERY ATOM IN HIS BODY, THE PROPHET WHO AL QURAN KAREEM WAS REVEALED TO......NOT TO TALK OF JUST YALL ORDINARY MEN.....

*sigh* i talked too much

A huta lafiya

Salam alaikum.......
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 18, 2002, 12:06:13 AM
well I heard this saying from this Hausa men..."you get tired of eating meat everyday, so you need fresh one". multiple wives in nigeria is very very common we know that, but it's not fair for the wives. it might seem good and dandy to the husband but all he's doing is creating tension in his household and that will drive him away from his family or make him marry another until he reached the maximum. you know what happen if he reached the maximum of 4 wives and still no peace in his house that's the time he start going outside and getting him some more women. well to me that defeat the point, I thought some argument claim that there's alot of female population and the only way to solve this is by marrying multiple wives. also this can be a solution of stopping outside marital affairs. well what do you guys think?

sorry I have to go but I will write soon.

Gimbiya
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 18, 2002, 01:01:48 AM
hmmm... first of all..... lemme state that...
fulanicious... polygamy does not favor only men... whut u said could be close to "sapo".. cuz if it was "chuta" to us women... Allah wouldnt have allowed it... PONDER ON DAT 4 A WHILE! 8)

And the prophet (saw).. did not marry anyone while khadijha was alive... it was after her death... and he was a single father for 5 yrs too before he got married....
and he married to secure and promote tolerance.... all his wives were widows...except for aisha... he had purrrrrrrrfectly good reasons to marry them which was to unite the region and to support the widows.... and to teach/show/educate men on how to treat their wives.... a very fyne example he was...

Men in Naija... marry to brag... juss cuz for the heck of it... even after they marry 4 wives, they go for whores and mistresses.... in many cases, they marry a 5th wife... this ish is gettin' completely outta control.... and many men WILL BE punished for their misconduct... too bad many fail to recognize game....

if na so it be da sunnah dey follow.... lemme see them treat their wives as kind as Prophet Muhammad (saw) did...
let meeh see them look up to their wives...like Prophet Muhammad (saw) did
let meeh see them ask their wives for advice...like Prophet Muhammad done did
let meeh see them remain faithful....like Prophet Muhammad (saw) did...
let meeh see them take care of their responsibility like Prophet Muhammad  (saw)....
let meeh see them at home wit' their families like Prophet Muhammad (saw) did....
let meeh see them care for their children like Prophet Muhammad (saw) did...
let meeh see them display that wonderful character our Prophet Muhammad (saw) glowed with....

but nooooo....... they twist everything around... >:( people forget dat God dey.... u go see ur sef naaaaaaaa...



and by za way.......  all these small small pikins whey marry dee rich ol' alhaji's..... dont mynd them.... na GREED that take 'am there... and when they get divorced.. they cry and complain.....
well.. who tell u to diss ur "poor" fiancee for that "rich" alhaji who's known for "sake mata"........
a beg oh........ sometimes these gurls cause all this wahala for themselves.... ::)
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 18, 2002, 02:55:07 AM
Ke dyme...i didnt say that polygamy has  advantages FOR ONLY MEN....

What i said that its advantages are MOSTLY for men....

In normal and right cases, polygamy is done either coz
***the first wife is unable to give birth
***to prevent from having mistresses if he isnt satisfied with his woman
***and other rational reasons...

BUT BUT BUT as mentioned before by a sister earlier, "Allah does not put a burden on one who cant carry".....We women folks have HAKURI.....SO Allah knows we can endure sharing our husbands.....and if we are married and childless, we can ENDURE staying like that---lol, like we have a choice anyways :D

MOST women stay with their husbands through thick and thin if its the man's fault that they are childless....but MOST men, if they know its the wife's fault, will  craze and starve for children...hence marrying another woman.

If polygamy wasnt lawful....look at whats happening in SOUTH AMERICA, NORTH AMERICA, EUROPE.....THESE ARE PLACES that dont encourage polygamy....and guess what happens.....ooops! Inshort, let me say its even better if none of them marry...Coz i dont see any difference between a married person and a spinster or bachelor.... :-X
In Nija stuff like this happen...but Nija is like heaven compared to other places :o

ofcourse , a woman benefits from polygamy, for example : It is better for her husband to bring in ANOTHER WIFE, than to  bring her AIDS !!! that is if her husband is the type that cant keep his hands to only his wife!!!!!

I am not trying to be "MISS KNOW ALL" but Allah knows other reason why he accepted polygamy.... And whatever Allah (SWT) makes lawful, i AM ALWAYS 150% HAPPY TO RIDE WITH IT!!!!! so I GOT NO beef with polygamy,  just beefing with some men who dont know the essence and value of polygamy and mishandlng  it, making 99.5% of women hating even the word "POLYGAMY".....


Salam........
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 18, 2002, 08:17:39 PM
A'a kdgirl I did'nt mention anything about any other person criticizing God's laws here. Pls understand me. But I believe my comments have spiced the discussion with humor. While Fyne Dyme could respond with stronger objectivity; some had reason to laugh like Fulanicious and Kamil, now remain IHSAN :). The idea is simple like a poetess friend would say: "There is no better story than this we live; for we only live once and die, why then do I cry? Let me laugh till the day and die"

My dear sisters I can understand your fears and I also feel sympathetic about how our ppl treat their wives. It has even become a sort of tradition that when a woman is living happily with her husband the gossip in the town or among his relatives is always " Wai ko dai ta shanye shi ne dai?" " a'a kai ai mijin "tace" ne shi; ai sai abinda matan shi tace ya keyi". Our understanding is a woman cannot live happily and peacefully with her husband unless if she visits "BABALOLA". I also find it to mean the source of our socio-politico-economical problems. In 1999 during Eid alFitr I had to even write and flood everywhere in Zaria city with the following message with view of calling the attention of our ppl to look back to their homes for a sound and cogent therapy:

CAUTION

THERE IS WISDOM IN GOD"s CREATION OF MAN AND WOMAN.

COMPREHEND THE ESSENCE OF EXISTENCE AND GRASP THE MEANING YOUR EDUCATION.

COMPLETE HUMAN BEING IS PRODUCED THROUGH MATRIMONIAL RELATION.

CHASE HYPOCRICY OUT OF MATRIMONY AND HELP THE NEXT GENERATION.

UNSYMPATHETIC LEADERS WE ARE HAVING ARE SOLE PRODUCTS OF OUR MATRIMONIAL HOMES:

LIVE FOR YOUR WIFE; HAVE RESPECT FOR HER FEELINGS, THAT YOUR CHILD MAY LEARN HOW TO LIVE FOR HUMANITY AND HAVE RESPECT FOR HUMAN FEELINGS.

BE JUST AND SINCERE TO YOUR WIFE THAT YOUR CHILD MAY BE JUST AND SINCERE IN DEALINGS.

BE FAITHFUL TO YOUR WIFE THAT YOUR CHILD MAY ENSURE FIDELITY IN HIS DEEALINGS.

AVOID TELLING HER LEST YOUR CHILD BECOME A LIAR.

WHAT IS HAPPENING IN THE HOUSE IS WHAT IS HAPPENING IN THE OFFICE.

REVISIT THE SOCIAL SYSTEM AND REVOLUTIONIZE THE CULTURE.

GOD WILL NOT CHANGE FOR US UNTIL WE CHANGE FOR OURSELVES.

AS WE LIVE IN THE HOUSE SO SHALL THE NATION LIVE.

Thank you; with abundant respect, till Monday God willing.

Waziri
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 19, 2002, 01:35:13 PM
Assalaam Alaikum,

Ahlayn brother Waziri...uuhhmm

I never said I have anything against polygamy...infact nace if my husband wants to marry another wife and he KNOWS zaiyi ADALCI, then he is more than welcome. Besides-me yasa zan ja da abinda Allah ya halalta :-X. Yeah...babu wadda zata so mijinta yayi wani auren but, only but idan takama DOLE and that is when shi mijin thinks dole ne. Ni wallahi ma I won't regard matar ka as kishiya, idan ina da 'ya'ya ka kawo man me reno (LOL just kidding) amma really ni kam I'll just call her  matar ka  ;D but not kishiya ta. Ay kishi ma jahilci ne :-/. Kizo, idan kin nemi zaman lafiya, to shikenan, idan ba haka ba kiyi naki wuri nayi nawa.

AMMA kuma, idan after kayi first one din kace zaka kara wata  :o, you might as well fill in the fourth place. Besides- idan mijin ya kara wani auren..."kishiyoyin" ba nawa bane, na sauran matan ne  ;D.

Basically, what I'm trying to say here is, I am absolutely totally NOT AGAINST polygamy...BUT ba na son wata matar. It will ONLY happen idan mijin zai yi adalci...idan ba haka ba, gida na daban, kuje ku karata ku daya  :-/ I can't take the heartache..'ya'ya na ma sun ishe ni, na kalle su naji dadi  :D...cause I won't let laifin UBANSU ya sa ni nayi masu wani abun, saboda nawa ne nima. Anyway enough for now :-X

Ma'3ssalaamah.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 19, 2002, 03:04:16 PM
Salam,
Malam waziri, ur CAUTIONs is such an important piece, I had to print it out with the intention of shring it top the buddies I know, but y do had to wait till idl fitr b4 giving it out? I feel it's an all time stuff! Again, ur last post touched my most feared situations in our community; the 'babalawo wahala' it also reminds us how dangerous mata could be, coz no matter how hard th hubby tries in plygamous house they end up there. It's so scaring, Gosh! I wish they are even like Ihsan who agreed to have a different house and mind her kids, shikenan!! But.... Allah ya sawake.
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 19, 2002, 03:36:49 PM
HAHA...lol but that does not mean wai kuma namiji YAKI YIN adalci...I'm just saying if that is the case, then that is what will happen  ;D

Maza kuma ain't dangerous or what? suma ay wasu matan NO MATTER how HARD sukai kokarin kawo zaman lafiya, ba ya samuwa. :-/
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 19, 2002, 06:43:14 PM
meeh.... my hubby signed contract....no 2nd wifey.... ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 19, 2002, 06:46:45 PM
LOL Fyne...dan haka nan gaba kar ma yace wani abu  ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 19, 2002, 09:00:52 PM
but...first.. there WONT BE a reason to get another wifey.. i'll be holdin' him down f'real....  ;D i'mma handle mah biz like it is!  8)
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 20, 2002, 12:07:08 AM
SALAM, THATS A GREAT TOPIC THERE......."BOKA"!!!!!!

WOULD ONE OF U IBRAHEEM, OR KAMIL BRING THIS TOPIC UP.....ITS REAL GOOD!!!!!

I WANNA TALK ABOUT THE SO CALLED "MAGIC POTIONS" THESE ?UNSECURED WOMEN GET!!!!! BUT LETS NOT FORGET LUTTA MEN DO IT TOO....BUT I KNOW NOT AS MUCH AS WOMEN...... BUT IT WILL TAKE ME YEARS TO CRITIZE THAT ?ACT!!!!!!!

maybe if that is brought up as a new topic, i'll spit out mah piece of mind bout it....

---------
Anyways back to the man and woman......hmmmm ?mijina ya second wife....how would i react? how would i feel? well ?far away from HAPPY.... far far awayyyy....... actually, depends on if he will treat us equally....anyways, what eva happens.... no matter WHAT... I will never never never ever ever never ever ?go to any punk that will CINYE my money for a dumb magani or ?any fortune telling!!!!!!

plus i dont belive in magani, it never works!!! All it does is bring more misery in the household and especially to the person who does it! thats why they r always on the run to get MORE MAGANI.........Allah ya kiyaye

hmmm
salam yall
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: fatee on October 20, 2002, 04:37:16 PM
Allah ya rufa mana asiri kawai! ::)
Title: ;)Re: Hausa men
Post by: MohammedIbrahim on October 21, 2002, 01:47:45 AM
Assalamu-alaikum,concerning this polygamy stuff i personally think its the best for the african man ,and not that i personally want to practice it ,but i mean.......we all know that a typical black man ya cika son mata ;).sorry guys if u're offended but its the truth,i'm not an exception(lol).so i think polygamy zai rage neman mata ,cuz when u have enough at home i see no reason why you should continue chasing women :)
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Dan-Sokoto on October 21, 2002, 02:48:25 AM
Mallam Ibrahim!

Ai even the maximum number of 4 wives are'nt enough. Ka san shi dan adam ya na son variety. However, note this not my view wooh. A friend was preparing to take a second and i questioned him on the rationale of his doing so, thus when he gave me views about need for variety. He went further to explain to me that, how could i imagine eating rice day and day out for many many years? I told him i did not understand. He said, he was referring to his first wife whom he has married for well over 6 years at that time. That he was really desirous of getting 'new blood' to use his expression. Furthermore, he lectured me that, ai shi namiji from time to time sai ya yi injecting kan shi da sabon jini in order to leave a meaningful life moreover, ita uwargida jikin ta ya saki sannan kuma fama da yara ya dauke ma ta hankali.

Well ladies and gentlemen, above is the views i got from a friend when i querried his taking a second wife. He went into theatrics in his explanation which for obvious reasons i cannot repeat explain here, but nonetheless, i found amusing and refreshing.

Doea this explanation make any sense at all?
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 21, 2002, 10:13:08 AM
Assalaam Alaikum,

WHOA!!!!! lallai ma wannan aboki naka! wallahi yayi hankali da kanshi  :o. Yaya ma za'ayi daga aure shekara shida yace wai first wife jiki ya saki??? dan haka zai yi sabon aure??? Amma wallahi ma ya gama da ita! da nasan matar da yake shirin aura yanzu da na BATA SHAWARA kar ma TA FARA!!! Kawai shi dai yana son WATA matar, amma ba yace jiki ya saki ba!!! it is just GREED!! Besides- ay yana da kwamasho wajen SAKIN JIKIN!!!

Hmmm...ita ma wannan da yake shirin aurowa to lallae kam ta shirya dan ita haka sai ya FARU da ita tunda shi haka yake!!!

Allah ya kyauta >:(
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 21, 2002, 10:42:08 AM
Salam all,
This polygamy thing is really dicey, you know. Most of those who want to be polygamous simply have a walter of reasons to defend it. If you look at it closely however you find that the man only wants to take a second, third or even fourth wife because one, he feels he had the means and two, because after all Allah has permitted it. Very few of us men, if any, really bring to bear the commandments of Allah regarding multiple wives.
This is why in the end, many polygamous Hausa homes face problems.
Amma kuma na amince da ra'ayin cewa idan mutum yana da bukatar karin mace kuma ya hakikance cewa zaiyi adalci a tsakaninsu, kana kuma zai biya masu bukatu kamar yadda musulunci yayi umarni, to babu laifi.
Again i want to raise a caveat regarding this adalci ideal. You know Allah ya fada a cikin al'qur'ani cewa mutum bazai iya yin adalci in the letter and spirit of the word ba a stakanin matansa, saboda abu ne mai matukar wahala. To sai dai kuma wannan baya nufin mutum ya nuna fifiko a bayyane....
Allah ya shryar da mu.
Wassalam
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 21, 2002, 11:31:51 AM
Tahiyyatiy al-Islam,

Mallam Dan-Sokoto... mhm... so keeping one wife is synonymous to eating rice every day, so ppl should have variety? Well I like that it was interesting, no, i think  EXtresting since it was an out pour of what is deep inside you ne. But I can see IHSAN disagree with the fact that she is only one among the variety(s). But does that means that a woman with only one husband should crave for different variety(s)? Kai! this issue appears to be complex but I think we should find a more reasonable reason for this polygamy thing. True to God it is not a dogma - i mean a belief - in which we all have to subscribe to blindly. Let's explore, explore and explore. I believe we will find a more cogent reason to it may be Prof. Abdalla, Mallam Salisu Danyaro and Mallam Magaji Galadima should intervene since the have as it seems a reasonable amount of working experience in it.

Waziri
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 21, 2002, 11:50:54 AM
Salamu alaikum

D-S, I am sorry, but ur friend's reason is just UNACCEPTABLE.... and very unfair of him too....

And him telling people that is just so raw...

Plus he needs to understand that WE WOMEN aren't items...its not just like wearing shoes and after they get spoilt, they get changed....

Plus that was soooo wrong that we are compared with eating RICE!!! I am sure even the Prophet Muhammed will be against this..."eating rice everyday"  lol, the logic is funny too, but still haba...we are living beings!

Salam
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 21, 2002, 01:20:09 PM
Uhhmmm...Waziri...ban gane what kake nufi ba...ELABORATE more plz  :)
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: awwal on October 21, 2002, 02:25:34 PM
Assalamu Alaikum

To lalle kan mal. Waziri na yarda ra'ayinka cewa a yi bincike kan dalilan da suka sa musulunci ya halalta auren mata hudu ga maza, don ina ga idan har saboda son "variety" ne kamar yadda abokin mal. Dan Sokoto ya ce to ai dan Adam ba zai iya kure wannan "variety" din ba kamar yadda Ihsan ta ce kuma koda ma ya auri na biyu ko na ukun ko ma na hudun to fa zai sake bukatan wata "variety" din to ka ga anan kuma sai a wuce gona da iri Allah Ya sauwaka.

To a dai yi bincike a gani, to amma tun da dai Allah Ya halalta a yi hudu ina ganin duk wanda ya ga yana da hali kuma zai cika sharudda to babu wata matsala ya yi hakan, sai kuma shawara a nan ita ce a yi taka tsantsan kada garin neman "variety" mutum ya sa kansa cikin matsala.

A huta lafiya

Awwal
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 21, 2002, 03:11:01 PM
IHSAN, I too had that feeling that I was not being very clear. I am sorry please, I was a bit unstable emotionally ne a wannan lokacin. But the idea is: Idan mu maza zamuyi aure saboda variety ne, me zai sa su ma mata ba za su yi miji fiye da daya ba suma don su sami wannan variety din? Shi ne na kara da cewa kila Su Mallam Salisu da Abdalla ko Magaji Galadima zasu dan sa baki ko maji opinion na wadanda suke da iyali- though I can’t be absolutely sure- don koni dinnan da na takarkare ina ta surutu ban riga na san dadin ko rashin dadin aure ba tukuna ballantana in tafi neman variety. Kai wannan aboki na Mallam Dan-Sokoto da ban dariya yake.  Yes, “there is no better than this we live; for we only live once and die. Why then do I cry? Let me live till the day I die.”

Waziri      
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 21, 2002, 05:50:06 PM
Uhhhmm...I was actually not talking about that...what I was referring to is kace "But I can see IHSAN disagree with the fact that she is only one among the variety(s)." shine nace bangane me kake nufi ba :D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 21, 2002, 10:07:31 PM
dan soks.... amma ur friend disgusted meeh... wallahi he should check himself seriously.... if i see him... i will stone him... tirrr....

so whut kind of silly (i wanted to put stupid...but i guess i'm not allowed to use that. ;D..*ahem*) whut kind of SILLY variety is that? ? ? ? ? how degrading....!!!!!!
and fulanicious... ur laughing... thats sooooooo NOT funny!!!! *hiss*...jikin ta ya saki... wallahi u men make meeh SICK!  >:( so when ur own jiki "sake"... we should bizounce and get another man ko?

put ur self in that woman's shoes... how would u feel?
did ur friend marry her out of LOVE or LUST?... or whut the jahnama is he tryin' to say?..... wackness i tell ya...wackness...

and mohammedibrahim.. u berra mynd urself. :P.. that african man stereotype is gettin old... hold ur hormones and ACT like HUMAN BEINGS not animals... (ps. u know its nuthin' but luv)...
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 22, 2002, 03:54:51 AM
Dyme, leave me, i DID find it funny....
its was funny coz its such a  lame excuse to get another wife..... such  a sad story....

I am telling u something, I will go hook up with a 97 yr old man, he will be too old and too tired to make uneccessary trouble.....

hmmm if its true alla African men r like that.... then I'mma get me a 97 yrs old  Red Indian or Asian that will be too old and tired to make trouble .......
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: sdanyaro on October 22, 2002, 07:59:34 AM
Assalamu alaikum;


Waziri  

Despite your repeated attempts to drag me into this Topic, I will like to kindly decline to partake in this debate. This is because I neither have enough and  necessary experience nor knowledge of the subject matter to add any value to this discussion. I also think that this topic has been discussed enough and that maybe we should think of closing it and move on to other Non-Hausa-Fulani-Men-BASHING topics. I think Real Hausa-Fulani Men are somewhat becoming an endangered species (being attacked from outside and from within - all you have to do is visit other Nigerian Web sites or read Nigerian Newspapers). Also, despite what many people would say, RELATIVELY RELATIVELY RELATIVELY speaking, Hausa-Fulani Men are more respective, protective, caring and therefore treat their FAMILIES better than many other men from other groupings. All they usually ask and demand is a little RESPECT and understanding.

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I will however, like to offer you a big "NAMIJIN GORO" from Kano not Zazzau for all your efforts.

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Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: awwal on October 22, 2002, 08:48:14 AM
Malam Waziri

Thank you for forwarding the goro, duk da cewa dai babu daman ci but atleast dai ya dan dauke min kewa da kuma kantar min da hankali saboda rashin wannan sinadari a nan inda nake.

Na gode

Fi Amanillah
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 22, 2002, 01:38:56 PM
ah... so its the image of hausa men that is botherin' u?? whut about us females?? ?? we've juss been compared to SHINKAFA!! and thats not degrading??

Oh Lord...forgive them for they not know whut they be doin'.... :-X
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 22, 2002, 02:52:27 PM
God, Fyne I must have missed out on when ma sisters was compared to shinkafa( dafaduka ko fara?lol), that's very unfair! Kai sum hausa men na wao lol
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 22, 2002, 10:21:51 PM
WHAT ABOUT "NAMACE GORO"??? HUH????

(FOR THE LAST TIME I AM NO FEMINIST 8))

I STILL THINK I'MMA GO FOR MY 97 YRS OLD  CHINESE!!!
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 22, 2002, 10:34:34 PM
salam,

oh kamil, dont u know? we are objects :-/
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 23, 2002, 10:48:18 AM
Ukhty, u and ur old man  ;D

Kamil, duka ne (dafaduka da fara) amma ay kwanda dafaduka da farar akan konanne ....u know  ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 23, 2002, 11:48:00 AM
well... i'm still disgusted... people berra check themselves...

kamil... ur not like that right? plz.. we need hope...  :-X

hehehe... ok.. so...
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 23, 2002, 12:15:42 PM
Salamu alaikum

okay okay ooookay... jokes aside....
just wanna speak my mind out... Wallah its true Fulani men are the best when it comes to wifey handling!!! Hausa men ma na kokari.... WALLAH these two men are among the best when it comes to treating their ladies.....comparing to other types of men I know so far....They provide their wifey with all they need, without her even have to sweat to get a job, and take care of the children, they even do good things to the wife's relatives......all these in most cases.....Gaskiya, i will tell the truth...

I know a lot of women that envy fulani/hausa women Wallah....
There was this woman that said "I will marry a hausa man in the next life!"

So fulani and Hausa men, I salute u....

But that wont stop me from getting me 97 yrs old Chinese, kai i change my mind, Japanese  ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 23, 2002, 01:41:19 PM
LOL...daga nan kuma sai Indian...idan bai yi maki ba kuma ki dawo kan hanya  ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Dan-Sokoto on October 23, 2002, 02:05:10 PM
HALO!

My name is Mr Chow, a Chinese, at the young age of 97 years. I am through this medium looking for a hausa-fulani girl of Northern Nigeria extraction to marry, who should be very active to make me feel like 18 years old.

All prosepctive applicants please contact the under-signed at shinkafajikiyasakionline.com

Mr Chow!
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 23, 2002, 02:09:50 PM
:o :o ;D ;D :o
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 23, 2002, 02:21:55 PM
Ya Rabbil Alaminnnn
AAAAW LORD OF MERCY!!!

hahaha that was just to die for.........hahah ashe ur funny like this D-SK?? ?? ?? ?? ??

Well u can count this Fulani gurl out , lol, coz i changed my mind, i want me  JAPANESE  ;D

OOOHHH Amora Ihsan, an Indian sounds gooooood! Let me think over it!!!!
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 23, 2002, 03:14:15 PM
chun chai, chan 97yrs chum fulani?????
A Japanese old  man trying to communicate, hope that message is well understood ??? ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 23, 2002, 03:45:32 PM
see these children.....
oya!!!....all of u should go repent now now....
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 23, 2002, 04:02:59 PM
YES MA!!!!!!! ::)
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 23, 2002, 06:34:17 PM
LOL Fyne...for what sin? ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Ihsan on October 23, 2002, 07:15:50 PM
Ukhty, didn't u say u want no trouble?? and now u'll think about an Indian??  ;D
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Anonymous on October 24, 2002, 12:26:13 AM
ENOUGH PLSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

WE HAVE HEARD FROM SERIOUS AND UNSERIOUS PEOPLE WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THIS MATTER.
WEBMASTER I SAY  YOU CLOSE THIS PARTICULAR POST BECAUSE UNNECESSARY SPACE IS BEING CONSUMED FOR A MATTER SO VERY TRIVIAL.
I CALL ON ALL TO BE VERY MATURED IN WHAT THEY SAY BECAUSE THATS WHY WE'RE HERE. OTHERWISE I WOULD SEEK SANCTUARY FROM MY FORMER WEBSITE "CARTOON NETWORK.COM" WHERE EVERYTHING IS CHILDISH.
CIAO.  
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Fulanizzle on October 24, 2002, 03:39:40 AM
salam...

Amin, don't u know that too much seriousness is bad for the health!  ;)

Plus this topic was getting a lil hot, a nice kool down is good!

and it wasn't actually off the topic... we still talking bout marriage right?  ;D
i rest my case

salam, bro
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Blaqueen on October 24, 2002, 11:35:23 AM
amin... plz... if YOU have anything serious, propose it.... lay it out on the table...

if not.....

....there's a back button on ur window.... use it!
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: Dan-Sokoto on October 25, 2002, 10:05:16 PM
Fulanicious! Don Allah either you or somebody else should initiate a topic called 'hausa-fulani women' for us to discuss. I am giving you that responsibility cos you started 'hausa men'.

Let us discuss hausa-fulani women. i got a lot, the good, the bad and the ugly to say about hausa-fulani women.

So, see you folks at sabon dandalin hausa-fulani women, ko?

D-S
Title: Re: Hausa men
Post by: al_hamza on October 27, 2002, 07:38:29 AM
hello
my name is ravi shankar prem pujari dastan wald kashi ram
eye aam un indian annnd
am lookeen far a wafe
fuullani sound good
who want to grab my hand?
namaste