women r naturally jealous so if u treat them equally u have less problems.if i am sure my hubby would be fair btw us then i would not let all hell loose but really how many men are?my fear,as is all women's,is would he really love me,would he change or still treat me special,would he want to spend time with me when he marries another?would i have that attention that was given me when i was alone etc,etc,etc.so if theres an even slight possibility he will change then its KISHI and RIGIMA and TASHIN HANKALI.u get me?
so am i fighting for my right or what?
men do u know get it?
I feel yah, sista! Exactly my thoughts too! Ni kafin ma aje gayin wata matar! Yanzu baku yi aure ba yana ta wani ji da ke and all. I always think to myself, will he go on being like this? or will he change? How is he going to treat me?wasu mazan will be all goody goody outside and da anyi aure kuma zance ya baci! to me aka yi kenan?(same for matan ma). But mata sune abun tausayi! Idan fa kika yi auren nan fa babu zancen wai zan sake wani mijin! in dai ba u want to get a divorce ba. And if that is the case kafin ki ce me ana kirga auren ki nawa!
Maza on the other side have a choice of having more than one wife at a time. Idan ta gida bata yi ba sai su kawo wata! mace fa? either ta fita ta aure wani (a ce ta fiya aure) or ta zauna ta sha bakin ciki!
To wannan kenan. An kallalame ki an aure ki sannan a zo a sake maki fuska kuma. Kina zama da dadi ba dadi sannan kuma ya ce zai kara wata matar. Amarya tazo wulakanci ya karo! Dan kuwa har ita za'a hadu ana yi maki!
To wannan fa bazan dauka ba! Na tsani jin kalmar saki a rayuwata! Dan haka duk wulakacin da zaka man (wanda bai zarce hanakali ba), ba zan taba zancen wai ka sake ni ba! I will tolerate your iskanci and all BUT fa wai amarya ta zo ku hadu kuna man! Wannan kuma kunyi karya.
I don't blame some women for being "choosy"; they have their reasons for being so.
My addu'a as always...Allah Ya hada ka/ki da mai albarka. Wanda sai dai mutuwa ta raba ku...Allah Ya albarkan ci auren. Ya sa ayi zaman lafiya.
We are not looking for perfect husbands;there is no such thing as a perect person. Everything has its ups and downs...so does marriage.