GROWING RATE OF DIVORCE IN KANO

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HUSNAA:
ETML Ka rubuta wa Ado Saleh Kankiya na BBC wasika ka tambaye shi ka sha labari. Ai nima daga BBC nake jin news din. Kuma in har BBC za ta bai wa labari air time ba sau daya ba ba sau biyu ba, to lallai akwai walakin goro amiya. Kwanakin baya da sika tashi bada rahoto na musamman ai katsinan sika dirar wa sika ba da labarin. Kuma ba tun yau ba nake jin labarin sace sacen mutane a katsina. har ta kai ma wai mutane ba sa kwanan waje. Kuma an bada labarin wata yarin yar da ta fita talla sai kan ta a ka samo bayan kwana da wuni, baban ta yana gani ya suma a wurin. Da suka tashi bin sawun labarin sun sake ziyartar sa. Kuma wata mata ma musamman wani mai satar ya shiga gidan ta da dare kamar barawan kirki wai sai ta bashi yar ta karama.

EMTL:
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 19, 2008, 05:33:13 PM

ETML Ka rubuta wa Ado Saleh Kankiya na BBC wasika ka tambaye shi ka sha labari. Ai nima daga BBC nake jin news din. Kuma in har BBC za ta bai wa labari air time ba sau daya ba ba sau biyu ba, to lallai akwai walakin goro amiya.

Assalamu alaikum,
Anty HUSNA kin san cewa Hadejewa sun yi yawa a BBC, dayansu abokina ne kuma yaron katsinawa kullum biki yake yi mana mu kuwa muna mashi hidima. Don Manzon Allah (SWT) yayi bayanin cewa- shugabanni su suke wa na kasa dasu hidima. Kar ki biye abinda Bahadeje ya fada game da Uwayen gidansa Katsinawa. Allah (SWT) ya shiryemu duka.

Dan-Borno:
Oya Engineer, jiya nayi mafarki you dey for india
tell me about the growing rate of divorce in india
compared to the situation in northern nigeria -
after all na the woman dey pay dowry, who go
divorce who?

EMTL:
Assalamu alaikum,
For the stats i need to visit the statistics office india. i asked a friend about who pays dowry and who divorces- he didnt understand and kept asking me if i have seen any body that impresses me around and having some kind of ideas- I tried to explain that am not From Hadeja or Bidda...

EMTL:
Assalamu alaikum,

Before the Kano divorcees’ street protest       
Written by Is’haq Modibbo Kawu     
Thursday, 22 January 2009 

In 1995, I made a package for the BBC’s NETWORK AFRICA program on the problem of divorce in Kano. As part of my research, I spoke with intellectuals at Bayero University and had the epiphany that many women in Kano actually visited with Malams who also double as marriage consultants of a sort. I interviewed one somewhere off Zoo Road in the Hausawa Quarters of the city and was surprised that one of his clients was the wife of a leading political figure in Kano at the time. I knew the lady in question as a post graduate student at BUK. It was obvious to me, that there was a serious problem with matrimony in Kano, with its very high divorce rate!

The 1995 episode came to my mind, when I read the report in SUNDAY TRUST of January 11, 2009, that Kano’s divorcees were planning a mass street protest by the end of this month. The plan was attributed to Hajiya Attine Abdullahi, who was described as the Executive Director of the little known National Association of Divorcees, Widows and the Orphans of Nigeria, to highlight the growing divorce rate and “insufficient husbands in Kano (that is a very serious matter!)”. Hajiya Attine promised a “one million divorcee” march and promises that it will be “the biggest in the history of Nigeria”! And what a sight that would be on the Sharia-compliant streets of Kano!

Hajiya Attine’s Association had addressed the press at the end of an emergency meeting, prompted among other reasons, by the incidences of divorce that have become “a growing social problem bedeviling the communities of Kano State”; and the fact that the Kano State House of Assembly has been unable to redeem a three year old pledge to initiate laws against the menace. The divorcees’ association wants the one million person street manifestation “to protest against the outrageous number of divorcees currently sent out of their matrimonial homes and of which no one is doing anything”. And if they have forgotten, Hajiya Attine reminded the responsible officials of state, that society faces “a serious social problem that has the capacity to impact negatively on the social fabric of any society that has chosen to neglect it”.

Furthermore, Hajiya Attine underlined the raison for the anger of members of the National Association of Divorcees, Widows and the Orphans of Nigeria: neglect. “It is this seemingly neglect (SIC) that we will come out to protest and we hope the rally will equally create awareness on the plight of these mothers as well as draw the attention of the community to this serious social problem that is not viewed with the seriousness it deserves”. The divorcees are unhappy that their developmental roles in society are not adequately recognized and the rally will raise such awareness amongst the leadership of the state. But they also have a message for the offending husbands as well. “We hope (to)… also draw the attention of our husbands who should know one million divorcees that will be on the street on that day are their failure for keeping their home fronts”! This is a naming and shaming exercise of a very novel type in Nigeria in general, and Kano in particular!

But if any reader thinks that this is a freak issue on the margins of a deformed democracy, you better think again, because our reporter said that last year, a committee of the state government in Kano, comprising of NGOs (was the National Association of Divorcees included?), the Ministry of Women Affairs and even Adaidaita Sahu (the morality enforcer in Kano) came out with a report which said that over 80% of Kano marriages were “unstable”! Again, that is very worrisome. The committee attributed the problem to the absence of sincerity during courtship; ignorance about the religious status of the marriage institution; economic down turn; working women phenomenon (whatever that meant!) and materialism in marriage! The truth is that marriages are endangered in Kano and it threatens the fabric of the family. I know a leading son of Northern Nigeria, who will not to allow his daughters to marry men from Kano, because he said they mistreat their wives and rush to divorce them!

It is clear that we must think through this problem of divorce and find ways to help stem them. We cannot build a stable community on the very slippery foundation of divorce; children must have the stable ambience to grow in order to reproduce the future of our culture. In this construction of societal continuity, men have to assume responsibilities which help the survival of matrimony with its stresses and strains. We must also fight the culture of patriarchy and chauvinism which refuses to recognize the role of the woman in a fast changing world.  Similarly, education and liberation for women must also mean an added sense of responsibility in matrimony and society, to help strengthen the community and our nation.

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