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Offline Muhsin

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We are all jealous
« on: April 20, 2016, 06:05:57 PM »
Jealousy is, to an extent, encouraged in marriage in Islam, and so it is in many religions and cultures around the world. While some are born jealous, others are made so. Yet, some defy the religious, cultural, even commonsensical precept and choose to be unenvious. They care not for their wives, daughters, wards, sisters, etc.

I was told a story of a man, an ardent fan of Indian films. He everyday tells his wife, while watching the films, that the most beautiful women are in India. The wife doesn't like that, yet she keeps mum. It disturbs her a lot for obvious reasons.

One day, the wife told the husband that even the handsomest men are in India. He was quickly aghast. He though repressed his infuriation but decided to never watch any Indian film henceforth. That's to avoid what he could have done to the wife should she repeat what she's just said.

A professor at BUK once told us a similar, however far more upsetting story of one of his friends and his wife. She praised an Indian actor in his presence. That became the genesis of their eventual breakup. How unfortunate!

My word of caution here is: husbands should equally understand that their wives are also humans with feelings and all that. Don't only think that you are allowed to add another wife (for Muslims), and that's a licence to extol other women in front of your wife. You can do that but in discretion and, preferably, in her absence. Doing otherwise is sincerely speaking insensitive and inconsiderate.

It's said that what's good for the goose is good for the gander. So, let's be human, careful and considerate.
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Re: We are all jealous
« Reply #1 on: April 22, 2016, 10:01:19 PM »

A professor at BUK once told us a similar, however far more upsetting story of one of his friends and his wife. She praised an Indian actor in his presence. That became the genesis of their eventual breakup. How unfortunate!

My word of caution here is: husbands should equally understand that their wives are also humans with feelings and all that. Don't only think that you are allowed to add another wife (for Muslims), and that's a licence to extol other women in front of your wife. You can do that but in discretion and, preferably, in her absence. Doing otherwise is sincerely speaking insensitive and inconsiderate.

It's said that what's good for the goose is good for the gander. So, let's be human, careful and considerate.



Salaam,

You are so right Muhsin!

It's so important to be considerate of your spouse's feelings.

You know our men sometimes like to paint their wives as crazy and jealous,

but they won't consider what behavior of theirs is driving the woman crazy.

*sigh*


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