Su'in seems quite funny & strange sometyms, it also makes me laff.
Women r jelous on everything!!!!!!!!!!(I stress it out everything......................g).
Literally speakin..................if a chick heard a hearsay about her man gettin her a new mate............. she starts trifflin......I heard a chick nearly killed a man with a kitchen knife cuz anoda partner is comin in!!!! (imagine) I believe as long as theres respect, he'z gon treat us equally...........oh' doors open shes highly welcome. D reason she married my man is d same reason I married him...........so wat?
Nxt relationships...........if she spots her fiancee b/f of wateva any1 calls em' chattin with a gurl who happenes 2 b him relatives (mayb :-/) she starts burnin. with jelousy........Lord jelousy has possessed her blood!!! Its burnin @ 90 degrees....nxt..........arguments , if care is not taken she go fit slap her man & all sorts.(Things like this r from everyday life.........I c with my peeps)
Gurls vs Gurls.............its also there.............nawa......even amongst female groups that thing called "the lord Jelousy" dey!!! Gurls get jelous of each other agree 2 diagree?
Women get jelous over things like "she has it & I dont", "shes prettier than I am or mayb that guy needs 2 date me & not her (and all sorts of things). Anoda hearsay I heard was this "Lord jelousy" he is there even with parents vz grand kids..........they rather, prefer & love kids that come from (I think d mum) (cant really remember).
2 me Lord jelousy is crap, He brings his lordship in2 minds of women, make them du things that r unbelivable or overreact. Y b jelous, it juss causes pains............ Men r not as jelous as women, but If u bring topics like this up. As I was once conversin with my peeps.............'n' this lil 17yr old goes.............(even God sad u shud b jelous of who u love). I was juss lookin @ her bemused & speechless young gurls kuma!!!!(cant rmbr where that kid gurl came from) oh yeah...my freinds sista
Y shud 1 have lord Jelousy rule her? Y shud she b jelous in d first place.............So also it goes 4 men. Men could b worse than women sometimes when they r jelous.
Let me put a stop here (probably :-/) I have overanalysed d situation here.
Make I carry my legs comot
Blad? Blad? How many times and multiplies did I mention yuwa name................I swear ampkwara pa swek....Nyori kpa si poi..... Chew!!! Chi!! God forbid bad thing. If my bobo wan bring anoda wife. mhmmmmmm I go go wear armour.........I go come carry sword go fine di gel... I get jealousy well well. Na true as di seventeen yr old talk "Allah yace ka so abunda kake so, kuma kayi kishi akai".
Tabdijan!!!!! wai an haifi barawo a gidan dansanda. Wallahi ya kawota........gidana........mhmmmm a bar kaza cikin gashinta. banson na fiffige ta tayi tsirara.......
U see as I dey burn ma sef.....becasue this one I just dey think.
But where I go take side with Blad....is where you mention gurls and gurls...........thati one na korect.........na pure korect. U go get firends but they go dey jealous you. I get wan oyinbo firend wey come tell me she no dey like all my firends....why I dey get attention and as I dey new of my uni I come make alot of firens. that one di gel dey vex. I justi tell her say....Oya go carry grenade blow yuwa brainz out.
Kishi kumallon mata....................but some women ma sef topiakwa..............allah ya sirye su
This is certainly true............for onces a gurl knows the truth and wouldnt object that her counter parts (I mean female are very jelous). This is where my recent story comes in. Jealousy is something that we cant simply get rid of.
It doesnt happen with women only, even men...say business partners, some would deprive their hearts with happiness but fill it up with bakin ciki and kishi.
Religiuosly Jealousy is not good, but as you said them lil gurls, da ance kishi ba kyau (sai kaga mace tana zakewa, ana tafa hannu, ana juya ido, ana protesting cewa she has to be jealous if she trully loves someone).
I have an aunty who couldnt stay him her husnbands house, not because he maltreated her or something of such nature...........its just pure kishi. Even when one should be jealous of something he/or she loves there aare howver limits to where one can say alrite lemme, put a stop for now.
We need literate ppl to preach to young gurl and women that jealousy is not the way to a successful living life.
I cant possibly imagine or bear seeing freinds advicing a newly wedded bride on how to use black magic to get rid of the first wife. Yeah its happening.
Oh well..... cannot bann jealousy off the minds of women. Its one thing that makes them a woman (as I was being told by my sista) But I guess thats part of their nature :-/
humans have jealous minds guys are juss as jealous!
well in a way dyme haz said everythang
thesame reazon that makes most women jealous iz thasame that same reazon makes guyz equally jealouz
Duh!!! then y shud they b jealous in the first place...............
Puhleeeeeeeeeeeez ::) make una reason well.........think deep.
Well we gotta be jealous Ummita cos even Allah didnt give room for no competition on our side.
lemmi see if i can think deep ;)
Well obviously tha reason women are considered so jeasolous iz that dey cant hide and juss overlook certain petty issues.thats wat makes them different from men.
men tend to be strong(OYA! gals crucify me) in a way by by showing confidence and stability in most circumstances
Yar Uwa tsaya kiji. Wanda suke da kishi, idan sun san anfisu shike kawo musu kishi, bakin ciki. Kishi is a link to many crisis in Naj, Why are we facing political crisis, saboda bakin hali wasu basu son wasu su hau. Family sai kiga don kishi da bakin hali irin na mutane sa su son cigaban wani. So gurl keep playin lovunum & let all haters play the hatinum!!!.
Well N star has explained it all, but men are also jealous. Yeah I dont think your question will be answered. Yeah it seems puzzling to me as well. Yes Y should they be so jealous that they can commit sucide. I heard a woman killed herself because her husband was getting a new wife.
QuoteWell N star has explained it all, but men are also jealous. Yeah I dont think your question will be answered. Yeah it seems puzzling to me as well. Yes Y should they be so jealous that they can commit sucide. I heard a woman killed herself because her husband was getting a new wife. ?
LoL!... now that's DEPRESSION! not JEALOUSY....
gurls r in a betta position to xplain this cuz i see no reason to be jealous.Idan dai mata na ne,then thats undastandable but chik :o , y should i? i mean juss cuz ure my chick does'nt mean i should ........if she truely loves me then i dont think any body is a threat ;)
Very true Mohammend.
Make I unleash my jealousy for jealousy topic. As I come read Inspirational Lyrics by Fyne Dyme.
Ummita come put her own. And Ebi like say she praise very member bringing them out in their own styles but me she come use one useless tin (Hafsy the chick that makes things grill)
hABA SAI KACE WAT ROASTED PIG!!!!! ::) ::) ::)
I jealous no bi small. I dey jealous all of wuna names. wUNA OWN BETA PASS MY OWN. Eno fair :-[
Hafsah kina bani dariya da yawa :D
uhm...I know I do have "kishi" but, but, it's not to the extent da har zan yi something bad. I mean ofcourse I wudn't want my hubby going after other matan...but if he wants to marry her, fine! just make sure I have my own house.
I said hubby coz I don't even have time to do kishi on a b/f!!! I've got better things than that. Miji ne dai ma a dan yi coz there's errr, ummm, love...but him ma ::) Not that babu "love" with the b/f, but it's not like hubbys' ...anyway... :-X
See this Hafsa WO! u no wey no be member dey come complain un top sumtin we should, shurrup jare ;D
so hafsa all this while u no be member? ??? ,lallai da ke member ne sai mun gudu cuz of bayani ;D :D(lol)!!!
kai adeee we go send u packin for thiz site if u know take tyme ;D
i'm out :D ;)
Quoteso hafsa all this while u no be member? ??? ,lallai da ke member ne sai mun gudu cuz of bayani ;D :D(lol)!!!
Ana yabon ka sallah na dage kaki alwala ;D
Whuz responsility is it 2 c 2 d fact that hafsa get 2 b a member. She has contributed immensly 2 topic.........so yana kamata ne kayi convincin nata tayi joinin. ::) :D
Seee all d members of this forum........naso I come blow spellin mistake & all of wuna blind 2 correct me. Jelous (jealous).
Naso pessin go carry on for daftness & una no go fit korrect man pikin ::) (she laffs)
I think u guys should just leave da babes ;D cos being a member if not by force, ::) ??? abi :P
Anyway Hafsy i think u should sign up 4 a membership, cos there's no point of u shouting and contributing 2 this forum FROM DA OTHER SIDE OF DA KATANGA, so it's better 2 come tru da door. lol
Hey come 2 da topic.................... y we i mean y du they have jelous minds???? Saboda suna da ragun zuceya.......anyway i don know. ;D
QuoteAnyway Hafsy i think u should sign up 4 a membership, cos there's no point of u shouting and contributing 2 this forum FROM DA OTHER SIDE OF DA KATANGA, so it's better 2 come tru da door. lol
Yes Blad Yes Blad!!! That iz so funny.............
wow! ummita. I hope you going to keep your words. jeolous is part of being human, you have to remember there's a part that hausa say that even nana Aisha was jeolous, so we are just human. also about being jeolous female aren't the only ones, one conversation that I had with some males they believe that the reason why god didn't say females can marry more than one man is because males can not handle it. there will be a lot of murder going on, but us(female) we can.
your story about a woman going after her husband with a knife? listen to this one, this woman burned her husband house with him inside the day after his wedding fatiha. now that's what yu call jeolous... i guess is like this, if I can't have him all to myself we might as well not have him at all. jeolousy is also driven by love and careness. you only get jeolous of the person you care about or love, so it's all out of love.
Gimbiya. Hope your project is coming along fine!
You took the words right out of my mouth (or mind as the case may be here!). I was about to write something of men being more jealous than women in reality. Kishin matan aka fi jin labari saboda su ake yiwa kishiyoyi. Amma kuwa maza da yawa sai su saki matarsu, kuma su rika kyashin suga wani ya aureta!
Akwai wata da mijin ya sake ta sai ya kara da gori "oho dai bazaki taba samin wani kamata ba! Sai dai kije ki auri tsoho!"
Da ike ita kuma 'yar duniya ce, sai ta je ta samo saurayi ta aure shi, kuma ta aika wa tsohon mijin katin daurin auren nata!.
QuoteI think u guys should just leave da babes ;D cos being a member if not by force, ::) ??? ?abi :P
Anyway Hafsy i think u should sign up 4 a membership, cos there's no point of u shouting and contributing 2 this forum FROM DA OTHER SIDE OF DA KATANGA, so it's better 2 come tru da door. lol
Hey come 2 da topic.................... y we i mean y du they have jelous minds???? Saboda suna da ragun ?zuceya.......anyway i don know. ?;D
Abi? Hafsa and Fulanicious is not one and the same Gurl?
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Abi? Hafsa and Fulanicious is not one and the same Gurl?
Nah...not same... :D... I know that for sure coz Fulanicious is my Twin ;D
Jealousy is what makes a woman complete!!!
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Nah...not same... ?:D... I know that for sure coz Fulanicious is my Twin ?;D
Oh Goodness! How nice for you both!. :) :) :) :)
... and me yake wa namiji?
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Abi? Hafsa and Fulanicious is not one and the same Gurl?
Ummul ogini? :o U dey see double ne? Or u nak head for wall?
I am H with an A with an F with an S with an A
Hafsa pronouce it ....Good gel
and the other pesin is FU-LA-NI-C-IUOS mema I no dey see di gel. But uno say Ihsan always talk true as I dey read for posts, so take it from her na her twin.
Waisu masu twin ::) Ihsan we bi Sextuplets b/4 we b quadruplets amman yanzu mun samu wasu new bladz. ;D
Quoteso hafsa all this while u no be member? ??? ,lallai da ke member ne sai mun gudu cuz of bayani ;D :D(lol)!!!
Mohammed mind yuwa sef wo! Mind yuwa sef. I go use sword fish sword you alive. I justi dey live you because as I gane you and ummita na good partners. So I will pardon you. But next time.
Yes I go bi memeber if I want. Da ina so da nazamo tuntuni ai.
Jealousy is every where. Infact jealousy dey for this forum...Make i begin mention names? ;D he he he Na wa for jealousy or Lord Jealousy as this gel come give titul. Well even between little children Lord Jealousy dey. You will see a child running to sit on his mothers laps because probbaly her attention was on another child.
Hear this my aunt gave birth to a baby. She already had a 6yr son. She went for a shower. I went to get some bites from the kitchen. Something jost told me to go to the room, I did and God :o :o Hafeez her 6yr old covered the baby with a towel sayin "ka mutu, ba mama na sonka ba" tace ta siyo a kasuwa" bla.. blah... I justi use my super girl technique fly to di bed. and then I celebrated my victory: I saved d child. Go go super gurl ;D ;D
Quotewow! ummita. I hope you going to keep your words. jeolous is part of being human, you have to remember there's a part that hausa say that even nana Aisha was jeolous, so we are just human.
Gimbiya, Na so I come say make I use my big mouth ansa yuwa question. as ummita no come. Di gel na sabi jealousy at all . Na one kine mumu she be. She no dey jealous. One time I na mi de zuga her say make we gather bit one gel. Jealousy dey inside me wellu wellu. Na so sometimes I come de wonda say "anya ummita ma macece kuwa" because anshe kishi kumallon mata to ita bata ma karyawa dashi balentana cin na dare da shi ;D
Kinga ni kuwa, duk wanda yace zai kwacemin dan maigida...chashi..ai sai inda karfi ya tsaya sai dai in bani da rai. 8)
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Ummul ogini? :o U dey see double ne? Or u nak head for wall?
I am H with an A with an F with an S with an A
Hafsa pronouce it ....Good gel
and the other pesin is FU-LA-NI-C-IUOS mema I no dey see di gel. But uno say Ihsan always talk true as I dey read for posts, so take it from her na her twin.
Waisu masu twin ::) Ihsan we bi Sextuplets b/4 we b quadruplets amman yanzu mun samu wasu new bladz. ;D
U are right! Ibi like sey i don nak my head for metal wall an now i come see triple not double (!!). So wuna sef, Hafsa ihsan and fulanicious come dey enta dis world at di same time or what? (Make wuna no laff at my pidgin oh!)
No worry, I no dey Jealous yuwa phigin so I no go laugh. Oya ge be frank tell me you geti Lord jealousy for inside you, same to Ihsan and Gimbiya? Between God & Mighty tell me the truth :'(
(Kai I talk too mach ko?) jama'a. See your mouth nayi suturun bakina ko naki/naka ;D
I like all de fifs wey zey por hiya. Wuna like mi? ;D
;D Ummul... me and fulanicious never henter di world togeda but we be twinz ;D
Hafsah...u always put a smile on my face :) Ay na fadi I do have "kishi" but not mugu kishi... "good" kishi. Hubby wants a second wife, fine!! bring her... but make sure she's in a sep. house. As for b/f... I don't have time for him if he decided to make us two... tun ba'a je ko'ina ba an fara haka!! ::)
aiight sista.......what made u think me and hafsa r the same person.... strange
aniwayz thanx amora for backin me up
plus my opinion on this topic is that........yes, women are jealous.,...but men r equally jelous...or lets say a bit more jealous than women in most cases.....
it just happenes that women tend to express and pour out their feelings more than men.....
men are very good at hiding their feelings......
aiight peace
salamu alaikum
Go supa-hafsa! :D ;D ;) ,u really try wo.
And yeah guys,men etc r jealous but gara na su akan na mata ,at least they dont indulge in some evil practices da some mata suke yi anan(gurls i'm not trynna cause any ...........but ya'll know this is true).ight have fun ;)
QuoteGo supa-hafsa! :D ;D ;) ,u really try wo.
? ?And yeah guys,men etc r jealous but gara na su akan na mata ,at least they dont indulge in some evil practices da some mata suke yi anan(gurls i'm not trynna cause any ...........but ya'll know this is true).ight have fun ;)
Uhm Minister kenan err I mean MO... wa ya gaya maka maza basu bin wannan hanyar.... sake shafawa dai kaji...ban jin kajiyo dai dai (lol)... abunda yanzu komai na mata don fly go to di men... gulma, na maza. so witch kine come sey u no fit do hevol tings... ::)
Ihsan babu wanda baya maganan(gulma) wani but i think na mata is totally different from na maza.And the evil practices that women indulge in which i think the male coutrparts rarely do includes shiga bokaye to mention but a few(i might be wrong though)
Au.. anyi ba'a yi ba... to who r di bokayes and "malams" idan ba mazan ba (lol) Kuma believe me, maza na bin wannan hanyar...kawai dai a bar chicken in her feathers ... ;D
Ihsan ke nan :) .Kin ce dai a bar kaza cikin gashin ta amma dai zai fi a fiffige ta ;D .
QuoteIhsan ke nan :) .Kin ce dai a bar kaza cikin gashin ta amma dai zai fi a fiffige ta ;D .
Minis...errr MO kenan... if u wan fige wa di kaza...bismillah... but make sure I get di body coz I no fit get di head and leggediz... na bar maka wannan (lol)
ehem... I mean I no sabi take di head and leggediz... di bodi hay want...
lallai! Ke ma zan sama miki wani suna ai ;) :D ;D ,to amma ke ma kinsan ba zai yu ba ai sai dai a raba jikin gida biyu(wa ke son kai da kafa) ;D .ight have fun!
iigh i can see u guyz are crackin ure heads sossai!
back to tha issue of women and their jealous minds i've said it tymes without number that both sexes getam for jealusy tha only difference be sey as guyz we dey maintain and dont necessarily dwell on petty issues .as for ladiez well dey tend to get a bit jumpy at any petty drama wey de fit overlook and move ahead so thatz y theirs iz more realized than ours
i'm out :D ;)
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Gimbiya, Na so I come say make I use my big mouth ansa yuwa question. as ummita no come. Di gel na sabi jealousy at all . Na one kine mumu she be. She no dey jealous. One time I na mi de zuga her say make we gather bit one gel. Jealousy dey inside me wellu wellu. Na so sometimes I come de wonda say "anya ummita ma macece kuwa" because anshe kishi kumallon mata to ita bata ma karyawa dashi balentana cin na dare da shi ;D
Kinga ni kuwa, duk wanda yace zai kwacemin dan maigida...chashi..ai sai inda karfi ya tsaya sai dai in bani da rai. 8)
I just wish I understand a word that you have said. I'm sorry me can't understand. amma kin yi gaskiya, domin nima kam haka na fada I don't tolerate all that "namiji mijin mace hudu ne" sai in karasa masa da cewa "idan da aldaci ba" :D. you know some girls nowadays settle for less that's why some think kishiya? so what? ta shigo ni ina ruwana
Gimbiya r u sure thats the way some mata think? nnyway ure in a better position to know that ;D .
? ? ?And abdulmaleek i agree with u ,and i also think wani prob da mata have is sometimes they dont think of the aftermath of their actions(mata sorry wo,i dont mean to disrespect u),i mean sometimes basa tuna gaba ,na there and then dem go scatter ur head finish everything,if u no take time me sef dem fit stretch hand ;D
Jelous is nothing to do with being a women.
Is just a human nature, be it a man or woman,
even animal have it.
And Men have the worse jelouse mind.
In my own thinking. I agree with Ummita. We were created to love not to hate. Jealousy should only exist in something good. Why dont we have people in this world being jealous in things like I cant recite the Quran, if she can why cant I? Things like kishin karatu, but only useless kishi against kishiyoyi. honestly speaking I dont see where this jealousy is taking any woman. Men are not as jealous as women, not that I know of. Men could even hide their jealousy and a woman simply cannot. I would advice chicks that are so jealous to just calm down. Life is not about being jealous. Life is about livin it to the fullest.
QuoteIn my own thinking. I agree with Ummita. We were created to love not to hate. Jealousy should only exist in something good. Why dont we have people in this world being jealous in things like I cant recite the Quran, if she can why cant I? Things like kishin karatu, but only useless kishi against kishiyoyi. honestly speaking I dont see where this jealousy is taking any woman. Men are not as jealous as women, not that I know of. Men could even hide their jealousy and a woman simply cannot. I would advice chicks that are so jealous to just calm down. Life is not about being jealous. Life is about livin it to the fullest.
now u talking ;D , every word u said is true ;)there's no doubt about it
Husna sai ynzu naji magana, u see dats from a lady.
There is a simple answer to y women av jealous minds. i believe they r born with it, its one of the natural behaviors that makes the difference between men and women. its rather unfortunate but its true... ;D
iblink.. i hav noticed u....
Quotewow! ummita. I hope you going to keep your words. jeolous is part of being human, you have to remember there's a part that hausa say that even nana Aisha was jeolous, so we are just human.
MARK MA WORD: Kamer yadda na feda, duk namiji de zai aure for instance say.........(a man I am married 2)!!! Honestly...she is sooooo welcome whole heartedly, as long as their wud b respect, & there wud b similarities with no differenciation from our husby'z treatment 2wards us....well yeah!!!! she ias welcome. Kishi doesnt go 4 every gurl. It doesnt bother me....(4 jealosuy in other issues...ni HATERS boost ma morale) (she laffs).
I see no point in being jealous. & it has a high peak rate on eps marriage grounds. Puff!! dey get time ne. kuma Gimbz...da kikace even Aisha.....did this..that was history...besides doin that doesnt give others d priviledge 2 du it,
Besides irin jealousy de Aisha tanayi....is by no way comparable with hausa gurls.....Compare this...if Aisha gets jealous...she does her ablution, recites d quaran & then calmz down...A typical hausa gel........zetayi zagi, grab a knife & can spend a century tana masifa & holdin grudges!!! So how is that!!?
Ummita I like that flow. ;) You said it all babes. But to me, this jealousy issue exist only in the minds of haters
QuoteSeee all d members of this forum........naso I come blow spellin mistake & all of wuna blind 2 correct me. Jelous (jealous).
Naso pessin go carry on for daftness & una no go fit korrect man pikin ::) (she laffs)
Bingel kenan, kin bani dariya. But then you corrected yourself.
GASKIYA, How I wish other chick have the same positive attitudes on kishi like you did. Kice ashe zan auro mata goma (10) BAZAN SAMU MATSALA GUNKI BA KO ;D ;D ;D
I forgot I bi her GODFATHER :-X
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Besides irin jealousy de Aisha tanayi....is by no way comparable with hausa gurls.....Compare this...if Aisha gets jealous...she does her ablution, recites d quaran & then calmz down...A typical hausa gel........zetayi zagi, grab a knife & can spend a century tana masifa & holdin grudges!!! So how is that!!?
THAT IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE. KISHI IS POINTLESS
I have`nt read the entire log, but ummita I read your log, the topic. I gave careful examination, and thoughts to the subject in consideration and I arrived at a conclusion: Ummita u r wierd. Don`t get it ruff but every creature, every soul has some jealosy. If u have a cat or dog and bring in another, they begin mortal Kombat, if u have a guy and he sees another, a similar story, even the devil was jealous of adam, or still is. Women are obviosly associated with jealousy because of polygamy in practise. If polyandry was in practise, this topic wouldnt be here today. kapish.
I'm sorry once more if u find it insulting...just trying to help. ::)
Quotebut only useless kishi against kishiyoyi.Men are not as jealous as women.
Men are not useless... :D and besides, I dont blame em, they want a man, they got him ;D.
Men are equally jealous, u just haven`t come across the crazy ones I think. Goodfella, dan Allah tell her about guyses.
QuoteI have`nt read the entire log, but ummita I read your log, the topic. I gave careful examination, and thoughts to the subject in consideration and I arrived at a conclusion: Ummita u r wierd. Don`t get it ruff I'm sorry once more if u find it insulting...just trying to help. ::)
mhmmm.........I didnt feel offended...not @ all. This is juss a thread in a forum...nefink upsets or bothers me. Neither did I get it ruff.......I keep things smooths 8) Juss kiddin.
Ok frankly speakin it has nefink 2 du with being weird.........Well mayb its juss ma normal reaction in ppls abnormal circumstances. Truss me, if a man wanna bring in a new chick...........doors open shes welcome........y shud I b jealous...as far as therez equal treatment.......its all sorted out then,.....as I always say d reason I married d guy...is d same reason anoda gurl married him, so y shud I deprive her of wantin d same thing I want if @ all it makes me happy....y wud I wanna hold bck su'in that will make her happy as well. That wud have been soooo ludacricious!!!
Besides....I kinda blame older women/some parents........they label kishiyaz like some sort of jezebel....so when a teenage gurl grows up...she hears her moma speakin of kishiya is bad...kishiya this kishiya that!!! Obviously shez gon form that sort of hatred & bad impression about kishiya.....so when she gets married & meets a kishiya....abun de anyi brainwashin nata daga gida akan mates.....then she starts actin shady........I mean come off it gurls....how can we trully know how gud these kishiyoyi wud b, when some of ya'all neva gave them a chance 2 show their gud side....U keep makin trouble & they keep retaliatin, d door swings both ways....so If u play fair..........she plays fair....& u gon leave happily eva afta..juss like in d fairy tales (she laffs) I still dont mynd!! & am keepin an open mynd on this!!
Wallahi your second paragraph really got me going. Yes I agree with you, sometimes it all run down to how these girls listen to what their mothers speak of agaisnt kishiyoyi. Haka ne maganar ki.. ehemmmmmm had it been I didnt know you. I would have sworn that my daughter, you no bi gel at all at all. I go take say na boy you bi. Don lallai kin karaci halayen yanuwanki mata. I blame some mothers, I once heard this young girls chatting...kunsan girls talks naku, they were telling the girl to retaliate and should not let the other one do what she feels like in the house. Kawai na kalle su na kau da kai, nau you see this is a very typical issue of what Ummita has pointed out. Ni dai mi and my daughter stand as outkast! Ba ruwan mu ;D
Amman you will see all these young girls masu bakin suturu..suna cewa ai wallahi bata isa ta kwace min saurayi ba, or lallai ta isa ta shiga gidan migina, kaga suna yi suna tafa hannu suna jujuya idanu. Kai mata I fear wuna. Alamuransu sai su. Boys, just take a time one day ku zauna ku kalli irin tigalalun matannnan masu baki yadda suka wani juya da murguda ba. I find it very funny.
ur right...absolutely...but still wierd. (he laffs)
Quoteiblink.. i hav noticed u....
:oshould i be scared?? :o
Lol iblink...
Ummita, I'm with u all the way...let him bring in another lady...na his own wahala...as he's the one to stay with her not me...su karata can...
Duk namijin da yace zai min kishiya...mhmmmmmmmmm to kawai make him kill himself, don bazai so ni ma kashe shi ba. Ya ma aka kare da yanmata snatchers, I sabi commit shege for these gels. Mmmmmm ni ko muryar wata naji a background din maigidana I go dey bigin fut question (?)
UMMITA halin ke kadai nasani da wannan, had it been I dont know you I for say na lie lie lie lieyz.
Mhhhhhhhhhmmmmm bari na tafi dan ban gane wani jujuya idanu da wacce yariyan ke ma man dina ba ::) ;D
I AM SOOOOOOOOO JEALOUS OF EVERYBODY IN THIS FORUM
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MARK MA WORD: Kamer yadda na feda, duk namiji de zai aure for instance say.........(a man I am married 2)!!! Honestly...she is sooooo welcome whole heartedly, as long as their wud b respect, & there wud b similarities with no differenciation from our husby'z treatment 2wards us....well yeah!!!! she ias welcome. Kishi doesnt go 4 every gurl. It doesnt bother me....(4 jealosuy in other issues...ni HATERS boost ma morale) (she laffs).
:oWOW! Thats a first!
QuoteDuk namijin da yace zai min kishiya...mhmmmmmmmmm to kawai make him kill himself, don bazai so ni ma kashe shi ba. Ya ma aka kare da yanmata snatchers, I sabi commit shege for these gels. Mmmmmm ni ko muryar wata naji a background din maigidana I go dey bigin fut question (?)
UMMITA halin ke kadai nasani da wannan, had it been I dont know you I for say na lie lie lie lieyz.
Mhhhhhhhhhmmmmm bari na tafi dan ban gane wani jujuya idanu da wacce yariyan ke ma man dina ba ::) ;D
MohT, u where talking about mata masu kuri...they end up...
I gotz ta go
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:oshould i be scared?? :o
VERY VERY......
scuurrrrred
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VERY VERY......scuurrrrred
ok then, i`ll watch mah back
u berra...
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MohT, u where talking about mata masu kuri...they end up...
I gotz ta go
Iblink mind yur self wo! You no wan dislocation for yur left leg ko? Oya take time.
Jealousy I must do.....kuma ba kuri ba...don anytime you see me on the front page of a news paper, dont bother reading the headline cuz keep it in mind na murder I commit due to kishi ::) so ba zancen wani kuri. Ni ma dai make I say: beware & be warned.dont enter my trap fa!!!!
LOL she always makes me laugh ;) Keep keepinin it real Hafsy
QuoteI AM SOOOOOOOOO JEALOUS OF EVERYBODY IN THIS FORUM
So? ba yadda zakiyi kuma ba...nan gani nan bari :P
QuoteDuk namijin da yace zai min kishiya...mhmmmmmmmmm to kawai make him kill himself, don bazai so ni ma kashe shi ba. Ya ma aka kare da yanmata snatchers, I sabi commit shege for these gels. Mmmmmm ni ko muryar wata naji a background din maigidana I go dey bigin fut question (?)
UMMITA halin ke kadai nasani da wannan, had it been I dont know you I for say na lie lie lie lieyz.
Mhhhhhhhhhmmmmm bari na tafi dan ban gane wani jujuya idanu da wacce yariyan ke ma man dina ba ::) ;D
lol!
QuoteI AM SOOOOOOOOO JEALOUS OF EVERYBODY IN THIS FORUM
Notice Me or I die Girl. :P
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VERY VERY......scuurrrrred
Plz GudFella b/4 u proceed 2 ur unguwa...du u myd droppin Fyne & Iblink 2 d creache center, idan ba'a bude ba plz I take God beg u drop them 4 play ground........& stick a baby sucker in their mouth...surutu dai bai karewa haba!!!
lol Ummita, que divertido! ;D
Nafeey and he,himself watever, shud go too...
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Plz GudFella b/4 u proceed 2 ur unguwa...du u myd droppin Fyne & Iblink 2 d creache center, idan ba'a bude ba plz I take God beg u drop them 4 play ground........& stick a baby sucker in their mouth...surutu dai bai karewa haba!!!
DanAllah look who`s talking!!
lol lol lol ni kwana biiyu ma, ina ta buya ne (ummita)?
Guys let me point this out. I have a girlfreind who has been dating her boyfreind for the past 2 years but things started getting rough and they broke up...Now she is with a new guy who seem to keep her face smiling, but the ex dont seem to get the hang of "ITS OVER" rather jeoulousy has pushed him to far. He was so jelous that he keeps cursing her in the pressence of people. He txt her with insults brain washes people that she is a nasty person. On an occasion he even attacked her boyfreind. He is always after her. Kallon banza kuwa never seems to end. YET SOME OF THESE MEN SAY WOMEN ARE THE JELOUS ONCES. I honestly believe that men are more jelous that women. And the reason why women are jelous is just because we have a weak heart. But the point is our jelousy doesnt drive us insane, We could control it but I dont think men can!!! :-/
Dont you think this topic worths praise and needs an intensive debate, because if women should understand why they are too jelous, i think problem of marrying four wives will be accepted in the african style of unionism.
I strongly appeal to you all especially the sexes concern to please state their WHY'S over this issue.
uumm wot i think is that this topic shud be why do men have jelous minds not woman coz ni i think men have jelous mind more than women................people dont yu sometime say why is it men can marry up to 4wives and woman just one husband? well i think it coz men have jelous minds... im out but will be back with more
but to be honest ladies love men that are jelous ko ba haka ba?
ya ladies love men that are joelous.
then why bother ourselves let's accept the reality
what is the reality that we gonna accept....... ??? ???
::) ::) Pleaseeeeeeeee! not AGAIN!!!
See, we all know both men and women have jealousy in them! Besides -mutum yana kishin abunda yake so ne!
wallahi ihsan i agree with yu fa mutum kam bazai yi kishin abin da baya so ba ............. so i think guys will like mata masu kishi koko ???
Ai it feels nice to see women fightin coz of u? ;) ;) ;)
To nidai bani da ta cewa sa dai nace....duk girls din forum dinnan Dyme, Fulanicous, Hafsy, Twinkle and most especially Ice they all know the are my wives and none of them is jelous to each other ko?
Even my darling Godchild Ummita was not jelous to have plenty new mothers ko?
;D Hey am just happy to be back in the family. No offence!
JELOUSY AI SAI MATAN KANO. ITS BECAUSE OF THEM THAT I HAD TO QUICKLY PACK MY LITTLE CLOTHES AND GET OUT OF AWAY AS FAST AS I CAN.
Honestly yan matan kano, abun ba'acewa komai. I went to visit a freind who was creeping on his last Degree final and some how I think my nigga was two timing. Ni dai in my presence two of the girls came to see him, you know to celebrate Idanuwannan nawa guda biyu (BEARED WITNESS JELOUSY BATTLE) yanmatan nan suka fara fada da habaici, dayarin she stood as a barrier to the guy and was cursing the other girl cewa "he is her man"!!! kaji yanmata.......wai her man (abun ya bani dariya) na fashe da dariya...To inbanda kishi mai yake har ga zagi. Alamarin mata sai mata kawai!!!!!
Now if you ask me I can say....this jelousy is every where. Even on the net you will see girls mailing each other akan samari, ko kishi........
I THINK THE BIGGEST THING THAT CAUSES JELOUSY IS ENVY. WEN A PERSON IS ENVIED BY OTHERS. THEY WILL SOON BE JELOUS OF YOU
QuoteI THINK THE BIGGEST THING THAT CAUSES JELOUSY IS ENVY. WEN A PERSON IS ENVIED BY OTHERS. THEY WILL SOON BE JELOUS OF YOU
Correcttttttttttttt father, juss lyk wen u were jelous because ur freind was a woman charmer ko? :P
Assalamu alaikum,
Yes, it is natural for every man and woman to be jelous but every thing have a limit beyond which it becomes un-reasonable.
One of the parameters of love is indeed jelousy, for one to love anything, especially a spouse, he/she must be jelous with any encrouching rival. The bottom line is we must fear and have trust in Allah (SWT) in whatever we do.
EMTL
B'cos men marry morethan onewife :'( :'( :'( :'( :-X
Assalamu alaikum,
Yaya ta Kilishi, i belief you will agree with me that men marry more than one wife to fullfil a religious injunction....................... Please refer to the following hadith: As narrated by Said bin Jubair (RA) who said bn 'Abbas (RA) asked me, Are you married? I replied, No. He said, Marry, for the best person of this nation (Muslim Umma) of all other Muslims (i.e., Muhammad [PBUH]), had the largest number of wives."
EMTL
QuoteAssalamu alaikum,
Yaya ta Kilishi, i belief you will agree with me that men marry more than one wife to fullfil a religious injunction....................... ?as narrated by Said bin Jubair (RA) who said bn 'Abbas (RA) asked me, "Are you married?" I replied, "No." He said, "Marry, for the best person of this nation (Muslim Umma) of all other Muslims (i.e., Muhammad [PBUH]), had the largest number of wives."
EMTL
But are the men following the same injunction in treating their wives????or is it just marry morethan one,with out any rule and obligation?????
QuoteAssalamu alaikum,
One of the parameters of love is indeed jelousy, for one to love anything, especially a spouse, he/she must be jelous with any encrouching rival.
EMTL
One of d parameters of 2 luv is jelousy koh? So 2 luv mah mum,a freind, a sister, a brother, a neighbour I shud b d jeolus? :-/
EMTL I totally agree with you, on d other hand, Men are only allowed to marry more than one wive if they can "ONLY" show equality amongst them...which is not really possible with the present "MEN OF NOWADAYS"
KILISHI, It is so ok 4 a man 2 marry 4 wives from mah own point of view.............y shud u b jelous or y shud one b jelous......same reason he married me, same reason he married her & d other & then d 4th!.........as long as there is d love, equality & respect...............allow man 2 marry 20wives is his heart so desires............however, if it is "ONLY" permissable in Islam..............................
Being jelous is sooooo not good.........it has caused alot of things, wud anyone agree that jelousy is the cause of marriages breaking down irretrievably? Wud you believe that it results in divorce & thats why we have so many divorcees? So! woman learns her man is gettin her new mate, she shows her unapporval, man says theres no stoppin him, woman packs & leave! marriage has broken down irretrivably....cuz she is jelous, instead of her 2 calm herself, accept things d way they gonna b, know that is Allahs will & try as much as possible 2 stay in peace & harmony with d new mate........renderin love & affection 2 husby & entire family,.....a'a mata zatayi packing kaya nata & leave d house!!!! ::) Selfishness!!!! & jelousy go hand in hand. Sumtyms is d mothers that I blame, the daughter will grow up hearing her mother sayin kishiya this & thats!!! shes evil so she shoud b crucified!!! Daughter grows up picks up same theory & adopts it in her matrimonial home.....Allah dei yer kiyaye
well...first of all we have 2 put it in mind zat any guy or chick not married "yet" is still free like a cloth in the market place(so they say), so any guy or girl would always want to go for the best...right?
but another thing is that jealousy is natural kind of inbuilt in us (male and female) but the solution to jealousy is just one...if u feel that someone is trying 2 kwace ur buduruwa or saurayi or even ur miji (no mata in this case), then try as much as u can 2 retain, maintain and protect ur interest (not violently or fetishly because i know u chicks) by stealing him or her away, do the things they like, draw their attention 2 u and wait for the result.
A topic concerning women has flared so immensely, hmmmm
that only shows how far women have to go to accept reality and how far men have to go to understand they can never win in an argument involving women
hi, its only natural for a woman to b jealous coz it runz in our blood, some do tend to hide theirs while otherz dont, and the men??? they can b worst ...........
Tabdijan! Am saying this, Ummita wallahi idan naga saurayi na ko magana da wata and it so happens that I dont know the girl and if she claims that "oh we are just freinds nonsense" heaven will let loose. Besides my man better keeps his eyes on me and me alone! Kishi works for me veryyyyyyyyyyy well, but jelousy between myself and other girl haters.....to hell!!! Those! I dont have their time. Amman fa baybee gul, Its so unsual for girls that are anti-jelous, had it I dont know u THISSSSS much I would have said you are a fake, but you foreal honee ;) Ki bari idan kinyi aure, zan zo na aure mijinki sai inga idan zuciya zai kishi
haba 1/2, ai ko jealousy din ya kai goron dutse girma ai sai ki san yanda zakiyi ki rufe wa saurayin naki ido ya dai na kalon wasu ko da suna neman shi. kin gane ai? kiyi abun da zayi konsatratin' da ke kadai. ba ki san wasu mazajn idan sun san mace tana kishi sai su yi amfani da wannan offocuniti din don su rika bata haushi ba?
AI CIKAR YA MACE SAI MA ZAFIN KISHI :lol: . HAFSY INA BAYANKI. A'A SO YOU PEOPLE DONT LIKE WOMEN TO BE JELOUS, JELOUSY IS A RELATIVE TO LOVE. IF YOU ARE NOT JELOUS OF YOUR BOYFREIND HAVING ANOTHER GIRL, WHERE IS THE LOVE?
[Dont u think women do have a jealous mind cos they always like thinking deep about everything? feel me! And theres 1 more thing i cant put ma finger on.somebody help me out! kit kat,where are? [/color]
Quote from: "Muawiya"AI CIKAR YA MACE SAI MA ZAFIN KISHI :lol: . HAFSY INA BAYANKI. A'A SO YOU PEOPLE DONT LIKE WOMEN TO BE JELOUS, JELOUSY IS A RELATIVE TO LOVE. IF YOU ARE NOT JELOUS OF YOUR BOYFREIND HAVING ANOTHER GIRL, WHERE IS THE LOVE?
hell yeah..kishi cud be parta luv coz i reckon luv brings all abaut it(in d case of r/ships be it marital or otherwise)..so long its within d healthy range..so now y'knw being jealous is ONE thang but overdoing it is entirely ANOTHER thing ..then me began 2 wonder where u got d idea "dat cikar ya mace zafin kishi
THIS'S WHUT ME'V GAT TA SAY...(perspective based on guy/gurl r/ship)
i've olweiz blieved dat 'WE' as humans see thangs @ diffrent angles,& with various perspectives...if anyone asks me i'll say being overtly jealous is part of insecurity,Most ppl get jealous @ som tyme or another. It's often based on insecurity kawai! - u think so little of u-self dat u cnt blieve dat ur gurl wud stay wif u Or y'think so much of ur gurl dat you're convinced she can hav her pick of men.
as a result, u get over-wary, ultra-suspicious...u start seeing signs of disaster everywhere & typically u then go 1 of 2 ways - u become an angry 'control freak' - challenging everything ur gurl does - or u turn in2 a clingy 'victim', wen u act all weak & dependent.
On 1 level, jealousy's instinctive - u want 2 protect ur r/ship & kip ur gurl. But lyfe x-periences can make us all vulnerable 2 jealousy. If u've bin upstaged in luv, if a previous luver left 4 another guy 4 example, den u be mo wary. Or if u haven't had much luck in finding som1 or don't feel u cud get a replacement partner, then u may be mor susceptible 2 possessive feelings.which springs 4rm various reasons..oky now..U luv her madly & she luvs ya in return. Or does she? u keep ge'en these suspicions dat she's eyeing up others, or evn playing away ..u suffer d agonies of d damned,u're so jealous dat it hurts & yet y'knw dat if u carry on being so jealous, you're gonna end up driving part d r/ship!
..oh dats juss d nature of jealousy in guy/gurl/ r/ship,several other factors contribute...i cud go on & on & on but...fullstop(lol)
& ..er..rm..one more thang..i dont quite relate 2 this..som guys/most women think men are neva jealous..it 's funny,ironic & quite ridiculous!..i juss dunno..is it an assumption???..then its a rong one..arent men humans???..afterall humans :arrow: luv :arrow: jealousy..abi??? kawai its juss dat men & women r wired quite diffrently & y'all can tell dat 4rm diffrences in behavioural pattern..it means men & women react 2 situations diffrently...do u xpect ur guy 2 fight every guys he sees u wif??? dat ungentlemanlike & rare but it dnt mean he ain't jealous...
kai kai!..just remembered an undone mission possible..i'll be ryte bak @ y'all
Quote from: "sadiq"[Dont u think women do have a jealous mind cos they always like thinking deep about everything? feel me! And theres 1 more thing i cant put ma finger on.somebody help me out! kit kat,where are? [/color]
how d'ya mean??? i dun gettit!
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Wen ur woman sees u chattin wit a lady, she thinks u even hav kids together somewhere. What i cant put a finger on has 2 do wit their complex nature.Help me out! :roll:
u saying women r complex??? dat i believe ya 150%..they can be so unpredictable..wit women y'neva knw whut comes next..can i let ya in little?? k,dis sounds more like a confessional but y'gotta b'lieve its f'real not make believe..where do i begin??..dis gurl i knew 4 close 2 say..er.erm..say 4 years..to me?? half JUST ladypal & half my gurl(lol)..funny huh?? but dats juss whut it was!..though she knows whut i really feel 4 her was more dan JUST mere frendship yet often times she treats me no more dan a casual frend..thot bout quitting d whole frendship ties betweenus but..somhow i felt i was gonna be on d loosing end if eva i ventured in2 dat coz she neva seem 2 care..dont get me wrong,we get2gether,blend well,swap txt msgs,calls,chats,hang out & all..but dat aint half close 2 d real thang ,is it? nope!...this went on 4 a very darn tyme...y'knw..though she told me she's boyfrend free & any guy she hangs wid is juss as mere a frend 2 her as i was..or so she said..she neva gets jealous weneva i mention a new gurlf or sum'en..y'knw its really killing wen u dnt knw ur stand..s***t was too damn casual(xcuse d S word but dats exactly whut it was)..den i left kano 4 skool..still we kept in touch y'knw on & off...dis particular tyme came wen she sent me an unusual txt msg(coz she sends me frenship dis..frendship dat txts)..it read...
"I WISH I NEW WHY I SENT THIS TEXT & I WISH I KNEW WHY IT HAS 2 BE U"..i was like ..weida min! is she falling or whut??? half me wants 2 b'lieve but d other half was adamant 2 be b'lieve so i just let slide & carry on..more intimate txts went on d way..a'a i got so confused & i cudnt bring meself 2 tel anysoul coz i b'lieve nobody cud conprehend it..normally wen i come 2 kano i call her 2 announce my arrival 2 see if she wud luv 2 hang wid me or som'en but NAH!..if she's not sooper bizy wid skool den she be attending a special wedding or party/get2gether sometymes even funeral..kai all sorts of lies dai..i olweiz invite her 2 any happening i come accross but she declines my offer..siting reasons like being bizy or som'en..so dis time i was in town..not any curious 2 cee her like b4 coz i was already loosing interest in d whole thang..i sent her a text telling her i've bin around 4 like a month & juss decided 2 say hi! how she reacted??? she freaked out!.."so u've bin around 4 2 long but neva rememberd 2 come ova & say hi or see me"..she went on & on & on..which confused me d more..cos dis was som one who neva takes special delight in seeing me other dan d casual ritual..not 2 talk of hanging out & yet all of a sudden she's perplexed,annoyed & surprised by ma indiffrence 2 visit or call her ..a'a ..dis gurl was really falling & dats f'real!..it got 2 a point wen she cud no longer hold on so she called 2 see if i cud come over 2 her crib..me neman kuka an dake shi(lol)..ofcourse i went..no sooner dan i settled dat she started blurting out..as if she's bin told she's gon loose me if she ddnt...she started..d truth is..i..i..i..then went ahead 2 beat abaut a perfect bush..eeek! infact triple eeeek big tyme!..went silent 4 a coupler mins..y'knw dat kinda thang..den i went...see i perfectly undastood u ..i really got ur jerk..y'neednt say it & all..she was kinda relieved..leaving a big shock in me..even as i rode home..then came endless,txts,mails,calls,..olweiz asks ma frends thangs abaut me..or if i'm around or if i was spotted hanging wid some gurl or som'en..i began 2 wonder..why all d sudden change of mind?? is it possible not 2 lov som one @ 1st & then go ahead 2 alternate/ change?? is it f'real??? dusnt she hav an ulterior motive?? is dat how women's heart works?? are women dat complex??? ...i knw its narrow mindedness 2 conclude dat all women r like dat but one but lotta lotta women r dat complex i just dnt get it! is it dat they find it hard 2 say d three words or better xpress them..must they play hard 2 get ??? is it a trait in hausa gurls??? an onliner whose name i think is..humrah once said som'em which made a prominent relevance in respeact 2 hausa gurls..she said som'en about hausa chicks not being honest 2 themselves & going 4 whut they truly want..instead they reverse d caes under d cloud of pretense..she went"they r heavily paying d price 4 it" and its tru @least in mah case coz truth be told..WALLAHI..i've lost considerable interest in her now dats she's ready 4 som'en real..though i cnt deny dat i still hv a little thang 4 her cozy'cnt eradicate it overnite.can ya???..so SADIQ..i think women r more complex than a chemical compound(in some ways)..peace y'all!
dan kauye, wasu matan haka suke. They play the hard to get game and then at the end kuma give in easily. I guess it depends on the nature of the person. I know I don't give in easily with regards to such things and so the guys think that I am playing hard to get...but that's not true; I have my reasons.
It's true we r complex...one min we want this and the next we have changed to another...but that's the nature of human beings...we are unpredictable (all of us). So it's not just the girls but also the guys. Allah Ya na gani ina tsoron complexity din ku maza. Lokacin da ake wutar sonki (the first few months) they act like idan kika ce su shiga wuta, for u, they will. But da an kwana biyu kuma sai zance ya sake! U will think is he is really the same person that was doing all that wooing and stuff? Dan haka ni kam ina dan baya baya da maza shi yasa har sukan ce ina playing hard to get. I HATE to get into a relationship just to be...err what is the word...yeah! MISERABLE after some time. Relationship has it ups and down...I do expect to have a "lover's spat" among other things. But I hate it when a guy give me that "I-am-never-going-to-break-your-heart", "you-are-the-world-to-me" image; be real!
As for the main topic ...women and jealousy, all I can say is (as I have sai before)...idan munyi kishi a ce munyi, idan ba muyi ba a ce ba mu son mutum...to yaya zamu yi saboda Allah? And jealousy shows that we care and that we do not want someone to step into our territory :lol: . Same goes for the guys...they have jealousy in their blood. And we like to see our guys jealous over us (lol)...it shows they care.
AMMA...da kwai jealousy din kuma da yake na fitar hankali. Every move u make ya sani! or vice versa. I don't like that! It's as if you do not trust one another. Relationships are about trust, caring, blah, blah, blah. Trust comes first...without it, all is lost.
I think u guys shud read this book:'why men dont listen and women cant read maps'.apart from being educating its also entertaining.And really a lot is explained about the differences btw men and women.
Quote from: "precious"I think u guys shud read this book:'why men dont listen and women cant read maps'.apart from being educating its also entertaining.And really a lot is explained about the differences btw men and women.
think i heard of dis very book..toyed wid d idea of ge'en it but ddnt quite went round 2 make any move..& there's dis other book..erm..'men r 4rm mars, women r 4rm venus..its really gr8,insights on diffrences in behavioral pattern wid respect 2 gender but in a novel way or som'en..though i agree 2 disagree wid a couple of d authors' views..d book is a definate classic!
@ ihsaneey,yup..me thinks its not really gross 2 play d hard 2 get game a little..it dusnt hurt either..afterall nothing good comes easy & in some ways its a feminine xpression of self worth but ovadoing it -is d troublem!..& dats a regular occurence in d r/ship style of hausa girls....oky,she loves him fine!..but plays sooper-hard -2-get..how d heck wud he knw she luvs him wen she acts like she ain't care,refuses 2 answer his calls properly or talk 2 him non-chalantly like she dusnt need him,wen she robs him of his confidence-yes!,wen she deflates his ego,wen ..wen...wen..then he feels cheated & looses interest ..there she goes trying 2 refresh an expired page??? revive whuts dead? starts feeling if i had knwn??..dama 'y'neva whut you have till its gone'..then u begin 2 want whut u cnt have or touch whut u cant grab???ina..emotions are not toys @least not in r/ship !
i believe there's an awesome diffrence between being MALE & being MAN..how do i possibly xplain dis?? if y'knw d diffrence btw a HOUSE & HOME then y'knw where i'm really coming 4rm..some r just male..but not men..it takes a lot 2 be real!..wen u real evrything else abaut u becomes real ..driving my point home-a real guy/man wont stop luving ya juss coz u reciprocated ur luv 4 him...dats a whole ball game of its own & i wnt deviate in2 dat @least not now..
women & jealousy..whut more can i say??? It's okay 2 feel jealous, as long as u can contain & channel it in a positive manner .oky....i s'pose y'all knw dat there r difrent kinds of jealousy..lol..cute,healty & obsessive jealousies..i'm not venturing in2 dat too ....i agree wid ihsan dat trust is d backbone of every healthy relationship & u shouldn't let ur insecurities destroy urs. More importantly, show d lady d same respect u wud want her 2 show u. If u can do as u please, then so can she.
just found this..5 ways 2..
Here are five ways to get a grip on your jealousy before you lose control and do something you may later regret:
1- Learn from past experiences
Look at how your behavior affected past relationships and use that to help you behave better. You may soon discover that these tantrums are the cause of your troubled love life. Realize that getting upset with him for no reason won't help your situation.
2- Deal with reality
Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening because with time, you may end up having difficulty distinguishing fact from fiction, and you don't want to kill an otherwise perfect relationship over things that never really happened. Don't let your imagination dictate the kind of person he really is.
3- Respect yourself
Realize that he chose you for a reason and there is no need for hhim to be so easily tempted elsewhere. Remind yourself that you're every bit as deserving as those women you feel threatened by.
4- Get a third party's opinion
Ask a friend to take note of your behavior around your boyfriend. It may help you to fully understand the extent of your actions (as well as his) by getting a neutral party's perspective.
5- Set some rules early on
Try establishing some general guidelines as to what is and isn't acceptable for you. This way, you'll both have justification for outbursts when either of you is behaving improperly.
don't overreact !..peace y'all!
Quote from: "Anonymous"@ ihsaneey,yup..me thinks its not really gross 2 play d hard 2 get game a little..it dusnt hurt either..afterall nothing good comes easy & in some ways its a feminine xpression of self worth but ovadoing it -is d troublem!..& dats a regular occurence in d r/ship style of hausa girls....oky,she loves him fine!..but plays sooper-hard -2-get..how d heck wud he knw she luvs him wen she acts like she ain't care,refuses 2 answer his calls properly or talk 2 him non-chalantly like she dusnt need him,wen she robs him of his confidence-yes!,wen she deflates his ego,wen ..wen...wen..then he feels cheated & looses interest ..there she goes trying 2 refresh an expired page??? revive whuts dead? starts feeling if i had knwn??..dama 'y'neva whut you have till its gone'..then u begin 2 want whut u cnt have or touch whut u cant grab???ina..emotions are not toys @least not in r/ship !
i believe there's an awesome diffrence between being MALE & being MAN..how do i possibly xplain dis?? if y'knw d diffrence btw a HOUSE & HOME then y'knw where i'm really coming 4rm..some r just male..but not men..it takes a lot 2 be real!..wen u real evrything else abaut u becomes real ..driving my point home-a real guy/man wont stop luving ya juss coz u reciprocated ur luv 4 him...dats a whole ball game of its own & i wnt deviate in2 dat @least not now..
women & jealousy..whut more can i say??? It's okay 2 feel jealous, as long as u can contain & channel it in a positive manner .oky....i s'pose y'all knw dat there r difrent kinds of jealousy..lol..cute,healty & obsessive jealousies..i'm not venturing in2 dat too ....i agree wid ihsan dat trust is d backbone of every healthy relationship & u shouldn't let ur insecurities destroy urs. More importantly, show d lady d same respect u wud want her 2 show u. If u can do as u please, then so can she.
just found this..5 ways 2..
Here are five ways to get a grip on your jealousy before you lose control and do something you may later regret:
1- Learn from past experiences
Look at how your behavior affected past relationships and use that to help you behave better. You may soon discover that these tantrums are the cause of your troubled love life. Realize that getting upset with him for no reason won't help your situation.
2- Deal with reality
Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening because with time, you may end up having difficulty distinguishing fact from fiction, and you don't want to kill an otherwise perfect relationship over things that never really happened. Don't let your imagination dictate the kind of person he really is.
3- Respect yourself
Realize that he chose you for a reason and there is no need for hhim to be so easily tempted elsewhere. Remind yourself that you're every bit as deserving as those women you feel threatened by.
4- Get a third party's opinion
Ask a friend to take note of your behavior around your boyfriend. It may help you to fully understand the extent of your actions (as well as his) by getting a neutral party's perspective.
5- Set some rules early on
Try establishing some general guidelines as to what is and isn't acceptable for you. This way, you'll both have justification for outbursts when either of you is behaving improperly.
don't overreact !..peace y'all!
ASHE AIKIN BANZA NAYI,ME UP THERE 4GOT 2 LOG IN.
Quote from: "precious"I think u guys shud read this book:'why men dont listen and women cant read maps'.apart from being educating its also entertaining.And really a lot is explained about the differences btw men and women.
see www.marsvenus.com , the site of John Gray author of men are from mars women are from venus. I think it's something along the lines of the book you refer to above, but although thse comparisons hit the nail on the head most of the time you have to consider the cultural context under which they're drawn from.
I think the bottom line is women are definitely more emotionaly complex than men, and my personal creed is not to waste time trying to understand something thats beyond human comprehension and is in a constantly evolving state. Just live for the moment and assume youre dealing with someone that's as equally suprised at some of the things she does, as you are most of the time and you'll be fine , otherwise you'll end up in therapy.
Consider this connundrum. If jealousy is a reaction borne out of true love and true love can only exist in an atmosphere of mutual trust, then why should a woman get jealous about a guy shes caught umpteen times in the past and does not trust him beyond the front door? She'll not allow any female friends or even acquaintances because she has a graphic memory of more than 20 "friends" who have turned out to be something else. Then why bother??
Another question that queries the love-trust-jealousy triangle is polygamy. Knowing the possibility always exists should a woman trust that her husband will never really marry another in our society? If he goes ahead (The dog!! :evil: ) should she be or continue to be jealous of the new wife? If she dosent or she does initially then moves on , does that mean shes fallen out of love, or never really loved him??
Answers please ladies, on this issue im as dumb as the next guy. I just live by my own personal rules and they've worked for me so far :D :D
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Consider this connundrum. If jealousy is a reaction borne out of true love and true love can only exist in an atmosphere of mutual trust, then why should a woman get jealous about a guy shes caught umpteen times in the past and does not trust him beyond the front door? She'll not allow any female friends or even acquaintances because she has a graphic memory of more than 20 "friends" who have turned out to be something else. Then why bother??
Another question that queries the love-trust-jealousy triangle is polygamy. Knowing the possibility always exists should a woman trust that her husband will never really marry another in our society? If he goes ahead (The dog!! :evil: ) should she be or continue to be jealous of the new wife? If she dosent or she does initially then moves on , does that mean shes fallen out of love, or never really loved him??
Answers please ladies, on this issue im as dumb as the next guy. I just live by my own personal rules and they've worked for me so far :D :D
I don't really get the first question (too much programming in my head I guess (lol))
As for the second question...hmmm...a woman should never put it in her head that she'll be the only woman mijinta zai aura! Ay dama kawai mace ta saka akanta namiji fa na mace hudu ne! Never take it to ur head that u'll be the only one when a guy tells u "you r the only one - daga ke ba kari"...yana cikin giyar so ne ya fadi haka. Give him few years zaki ji ya zo da small voice wai zai kara aure!
So first rule: a guy is for four women; never think that u'll be the only one!
I know I wudn't like to share my husband with another. But what can i do? in dai har ya saka kanshi sai yayi auren nan fa it's better to let him go ahead with it; kar ma ki tayar da hakalinki!(Yeah, right!) Da tsohuwar zuma ake magani!
Kishi a wurin mata ai adone,the only thing iss that wasu basa kishin yadda ya dace meye na kishin mace don mijinta nason girkin dayan instead of zafin rai da bata rai just try and learn how to cook kema in zani tafi ki iya daura wa then tie your wrapper well so that ba afiki tsumma ba baza a yaba miki kwarkwata ba.
Na yadda da maganar ihsan cewa maza basu da tabbasa din kara aure ,akwai friend dina da kullum tadin ta shine mijin ta yayi alkawarin ba zai yi matra biyu ba,infact da ya tashi gini he made provision 4 only one wife,this made her ta bugi kirji ta ce ai bazai iya aure ba,kuma a fannan komai na kyautatawa tana masa,she dont have problem with his family and friends they all like her cos of her fara'a da son mutane,kwatsam sai gashi mijin ta yace zai yi aure,inda ta rufa wa kanta asiri shine bata nunawa mijinta bacin ranta sosai ba,musamman tunda ba tare zasu zauna ba,amma kuma fa almost every day sai tayi kukan kishi for almost six years haka take in kun shigo gidan tadin kenan but she didnt show her damuwa to the husband .only that ta bada sharudda wanda you know men in zasu yi aure they have to comply.
Quote from: "dan kauye"u saying women r complex??? dat i believe ya 150%..they can be so unpredictable..women r more complex than a chemical compound(in some ways)..peace y'all!
C pessin!!.........who'z wri'en longggggggggg naaaaaa? :evil:
Well ha! seems we got alotta profs `n experienced daters...but it still wouldnt change humans. The human mind, male or female is like a living thing of its own. It makes every decision of what is happenin to us `n what will happen... no matter our efforts we gotta defeat that first. Nothing has an enourmous effect on the mind than fear... thats obvious huh?, then the next thing is excitement, constant, momentarily and new. Nothing much. Humans trade very important things in thier lives no matter how dearly(sorry love) for excitement. Congratulations, love brings us that excitement!
Its kinda advisory 4 peeps to tell the truth in a relationship, no sweat to it! Yeah, 4 a lady I do believe a lady widout much pride has got nothing...no matter how preety or smart(she cant be even). Shez gotta play d hard to get thing but in a right way(our gurlz need lectures on this), u do dat to check on sincerity, until ur convinced dont make it easy... When u r...its best 4 u to be true, to him and most importantly, urself.
On another issue, male female relationships need not be empty. Thats wat comes about the extinction of it. When u share, u expose...but try to find a way to be suspenceful... neva lack out of her. Stay away if u both are empty. Your partner is suppose to be th one who knows u most not ur friends (since when?).Some tmes I see thangs dat makes me believe we r all illusinatin... search ur self `n prove it wrong
Jealousy on its stage is simple instinct, no overreaction, no staging, nada! Its always there, all day everyday. It becomes a problem when it cant be controlled, like a wild beast insida ya, popping up as ur mind double. Its not female or male...I think the jealousy syndrome is juss as large 4 both sexes. In our society(the world today infact) there are more women than men, I guess dat explains it all, yet again like mah sista Ihsany said up there, there are more Males than women, just a few men though, If ya get mah point.But while u remain a captive of anothers heart, you cant afford to see som`n so dearly...forgive me "dat dearly" under threat not 4 a second. But when it happens, ya juss take counter measures...Hey I dont mean get someone else, but find it in u to be sincere...at least to no one else but ur partner. Remind him or her of ur mutual importance, and if any hesitation comes up, beleieve me, ya gat som`n 2 be pissed at....take a hike, I mean a brake at it. Its not easy, but its a test 4 both of ya. If the offender is real enuff 4 u, she/he will come back. Remember, whateva was meant to befall u was neva meant to miss u, `n wateva misses u was neva meant to befall u... If ur partner wants to run away there is no winning back, only trouble! (I hate those battles) Ci sorry ka mari forget as much as u can, and hope for a betta one. If ur married haha its alot different I swear.
Complexity... well I'd say its human nature...but like the laws said in Orwell's novel"All animals are equal but some are more equal than the others!" We have the same things but sometimes differ in manner or extent. Reason? They'll be nothing to write home about if we all know the same things and are all alike in all respects.(search ur holy book) So female complexity is way more forward than males. Ya see, Men are complex as humans, but women are complex even more, humanly and womanly. The woman acquires much more faster than a man, sometimes even think faster...source of very fast solutions, but immediate, has little importance to long term problems... the man on the otherhand neva....lets say doesnt forget, makes up for past and long term problems... I betta stop here b4 I get attacked!
And ahhh... Dan Kauye, I feel ya. But dont think every lil concern is lovely, I swear she might not even know what she feels bout u herself...to herself. Define complex? In anycase, I wish ya luck.
What I dont get is why cant things be simple and everyone gets wat he/she wants. If u like som1 why dont u juss tell em, if not move on and it'll solve everyones problem!
Its natural.
To be jealous is devine.
To be tolerant is also divine.
To accept some one is also devine
However, to be foolish is satanic.
Be moderate and Allah will bless you.
From Tukurtukur
Tukur this is right wat you sayd.
my quesion here is "do all men have good and not jelous minds??"
i'm a jelous person when it comes to my...... what of you?
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It doesnt matter if its your girlfreind or boyfreind, your wife or husband, bestfreinds etc and wat eva d circumstances might b I seriously dont c d point of being jealous. God plans our everyday life which is ineviatable. What ever happens, happens for a reason. Jealosuy is juss painting ur inner mind with anger, frustration,sadness,misery,depression, annoyance,vengence,revenge, guilt,doubtness, (& d beat goes on).....& if you allow it 2 sabotage ur inner mind it will turn itself into somewhat......uhmmm (camourflaged evilness). So why go thru all these? Why bruise ur heart that much wen u know u can b far above jelousy. The most blessed of ppl r those who desire nothing bt d hereafta rather than being simply jealous of such & such!
C'mon...ppl (dnt make me laff in tears). How can you declare affection & say u gotta b jealous of it @ d same time? If u cared d world bout some1 then y b jealous. 2 care is 2 c no fault, no blame watsoeva, in d eyes of d oda party. So if so & so r on bout jealousy as a sign of luv. I say no, dats wat I call "tainted love"....... :? Plus lack of trust is a key element of jealousy!
Like I read above, someone said jealousy makes a complete woman: I strongly disagree. Though some even claimed that jealousy is produced by love, just like ashes are by fire, but yet jealousy extingusihes love as ashes smother the flame. So dnt u think some marriage divorces, relationship break-ups, freindships goin in shambles are all due to jealousy? Like ma brotha use to say when he feels narrow minded(she laffs).......that "Jealousy is the definition of a woman" uhmmm excuse me.......ALOT of men are so super worse! Yet even, some claim that it completes a womans personality...........ko dei it poses as a personality threat?
Or shud we start relatin episodes where women turn their hubbys into barbecue. How many related issues of hot water & oil burnin hav we nt heard bout hubbys getin, on d pronounciation of a second wife? Or is it bulldozin of a new house 4 amarya by d first wife we havent heard? Ok maybe the silliest is where d man divorced his new bride juss afta a yr & a couple of mnths of being togeda in hold matrimony, cus he so happens 2 spot her talkin to a man in d market & thinkin she was havin ex-marital affairs, when the poor guy was actually her own blood brother, or where a guy ended his relationship thinkin he was being two-timed which has become a norm of the men of now adays..... once they spot u talkin 2 a "HE"..........dey don conclude finish dat u cheatin! Perhaps jealousy is not d evil source......because it is gud of a personality right? :roll:
Oya make we all fold arms.....continue watchin these kinda of neva endin stories, jealousy is juss part of showin affection right?!
Brotha Tukur, Obj & Mujahid wuna try well well........mayb wen they show u pepper you might reconsider :lol:
Assalam Alaikum, I was so happy to see such a topic on 'jealousy', infact i've been thinking of such thing as to why do we get jeaolus on petty things? The truth is i'm a very very jealous person especially in relationships but what i realised was that the more obvious ur jealousy is the more the guy's head explodes!! and then instead of making u understand the situation he tries to do more of such thing which then intensifies ur jealousy :x . Well, in short i have learned through experiences and i try as much as possible to control my jealousy. Maassalam
Quote from: "ummita"
Brotha Tukur, Obj & Mujahid wuna try well well........mayb wen they show u pepper you might reconsider :lol:
oya my sis! sorry my ummi! yes ummita. no b only pepper, like mi sef i don see 'chitta'.
but that is the fact of life. na look i de look now. stress and hypertsn de town. abuja demolitn e don add another dimensn.
Make sleepin dog like. jealosy na big disease o.
Tukurtukur
Quote from: "Obasanjo"
Tukur this is right wat you sayd.
my quesion here is "do all men have good and not jelous minds??"
i'm a jelous person when it comes to my...... what of you?
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You dey right o. but de thing be say na moderation. be sure you no have de wrong impression which go land you for another thing if not wahala or regrets. jealousy must be don with composure, sensibly and calmly. react wisely only when you are 100 per cent sure.
Remeber to be jealous is devine. but if you react negatively it is the devil.
Quote from: "Huumayrah"
The truth is i'm a very very jealous person especially in relationships but what i realised was that the more obvious ur jealousy is the more the guy's head explodes!! and then instead of making u understand the situation he tries to do more of such thing which then intensifies ur jealousy :x .
TEN KISSES FOR YOU SISTAH. AND SOME GIRLS WILL BE WAISTING TIME FEELING JELOUS WHEN HER BOO IS ACTING INTENTIONAL TO BOOST HIS LACK OF CONFIDENCE LEVEL :roll:
BUT WHO AMONG MEN AND WOMEN CAN CAMOFLAGE, CONTROL THEIR JELOUSY WHEN AN OCCASION FOR SUCH DISPLAY UNEXPECTEDLY RISES? THE WAY I SEE IT, MEN ARE THE WORST IN JELOUSY. A WOMAN CAN HIDE HERS BUT MEN CANT
Quote from: "Muawiya"AI CIKAR YA MACE SAI MA ZAFIN KISHI :lol: . HAFSY INA BAYANKI. A'A SO YOU PEOPLE DONT LIKE WOMEN TO BE JELOUS, JELOUSY IS A RELATIVE TO LOVE. IF YOU ARE NOT JELOUS OF YOUR BOYFREIND HAVING ANOTHER GIRL, WHERE IS THE LOVE?
THE LOVE IS WITH THE DAMN GIRL THAT TOOK MY MAN AWAY :roll:
Quote from: "mudacris"haba 1/2, ai ko jealousy din ya kai goron dutse girma ai sai ki san yanda zakiyi ki rufe wa saurayin naki ido ya dai na kalon wasu ko da suna neman shi. kin gane ai? kiyi abun da zayi konsatratin' da ke kadai. ba ki san wasu mazajn idan sun san mace tana kishi sai su yi amfani da wannan offocuniti din don su rika bata haushi ba?
Quote from: "ummita"wat eva d circumstances might b I seriously dont c d point of being jealous.
C who z talking? Ip really u r a true Fulany den u r totally wrong gurl....i habe a Fulany chick..(not mine O! Ehen!..she only conpides in me) who told me zat Fulany babes dont know how to lub n how to hate. She purther exflains zat ip zey r in lub...zey badly pall in lub deefly n when zey r jealous, zey knw how to b jeaslous to ze baddest extent n like wise when zey hate, zey hate to ze core. komai ma nasu karshe ne. Haka ma fa kindness..(brabing kenan). So u c, n for ze pact zat it is a natural thing por a gurl to show jealousy.
"Mind you...you r only jealous ip u r hatin n u show it"
Eberything is Eberything!
A word Jalous is only have the best defination behind all women hearts they are the poeple who are in the best possition of answering this question especially poeple like UMITA......................................take care my amigos
I have come to a conlusion
jelousy=insecurity
@ other times
jelousy=obsession
in a way kinda..ya know..i might be wrong though..
Quote from: "dankasa"A word Jalous is only have the best defination behind all women hearts they are the poeple who are in the best possition of answering this question especially poeple like UMITA....................................
Am sorry Dankasa, but I do not accomodate jelousy in this heart of mine...........perhaps Hafsy will give you sufficient infos on dat
QuoteTHE LOVE IS WITH THE DAMN GIRL THAT TOOK MY MAN AWAY :roll: [/quote
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That too is called love me lady!! "LOBIN ZA BOI AND BLAMING ZA FWA BABY"
Quote from: "dankasa"A word Jalous is only have the best defination behind all women hearts they are the poeple who are in the best possition of answering this question
hmm... I think men are more jealous than women, try havin a kishiyi and see, the world will be turn apart. And em bout ummitah, she knows that not. trust me this is experience (I hope)
Quote from: "Ibro2g"
And em bout ummitah, she knows that not. trust me this is experience (I hope)
Haba malam Ibro! Ta yaya ka sani? Ai ko bodyguard ne kai u cannot know d jealousy op a woman. An Ibro, wut kynd op xferience r u trying to talk about...fls xfanciate![/list]
I heard this recently & this is real. This newly married couples from Kaduna: the wife has past love history with ex boyfreinds who loved her dearly but they didnt get to marrying each other due to some circumstances. Instead she married this man that her family didnt like because he was Nupe. Those kind of ignorant parents I guess. Anyway, wife or should I say the new bride fell critically ill after falling pregrant. She was Epileptic which worsened during her term of pregnancy & also she had a prematured delivery & lost alot of blood & the baby. It was required that she gets an immediate blood tranfusion. Her blood matched with that of her aunt but her whole family were off & was it her elder sis, I cant really remember. Though most of her family have gone off to Saudia. Anyway, she disclosed to the doctor that she shared the same blood group with her ex-boyfreind. Immediately after contacting the "hero". He arrived to the hospital in no time & it was said he looked like a mad man because he was scared not wanting his ex to die. You know laidies *those kind of men that will take a bullet for us* Anyway he donated blood and everything was set. The wifes husband came to see the wife for the day & immediately he saw her ex he started misbehaving in the hospital, profanity & even physical attack- apparently he flinged a an iron termal flask with hot tea in it at the ex. Anyway, he was called to order. But wallahi ankace sam mijinta yaki yadda. He refused for his wife to get the tranfusion. Ita kuma stupid woman, she said as long as her hubby said no she rather die (see this kind stupid love) >:(. Her family telephoned pleaded & pleaded but husband refused. Ai ko kunya surukai ya amsa musu. Ex-boyfriend begged and begged. Husband refused. Even to the point where people within the community started attacking the husband as news spread by. Matar dai ranta a hannun Allah. Da kyar mijin ya yarda. He granted permission and subhanala, Allah in his mercy strengthened that woman. After two months of gradual recouperation, the wife was finally discharged from the hospital. It was on that day that he divorced her!!!!!! He he was off to Lagos. The husband claimed that he cannot bear to live with the woman because he so much hated her ex and would not want to bore kids, knowing that his bloodline is connected to in his own words "makiyinci". Seeee Man jelousy!!!!!!!!!!
Gaskiya wannan abun ya wuce abun tsoro.....abun la haula la ku wata ne!!! For some funny reasons I cant forget this matter and am trying so hard to find any moral justifications from the mans point of view but saidai kawai nace "kishi" ne. Or should I say the woman was just plain stupid? Infact idan mijin bai yadda ba, from a religious point of view isnt there any discretion to supersede the husbands objection? Ni wallahi this really scared me. What kind of jelousy is this? Ai ko ana kishi tausayi kan cire kishi ai ko kuwa? :o
A'a mhmmm duniyan nan ~signs~
Hafsy_Lady this is excellent. A good story. Welcome back to the Forum after a long recess.
The story is really touching. Lets look at the following scenarios:
1. Ex Boy Friend donatest blood to sick husband of ex girl friend. = No Problems
2. Ex Girl Friend donates blood to sick ex boy friend (Now married to another woman). = No Problems
3. Ex Girl Friend donates blood to sick wife of ex boy friend. = No problems
4. Ex Boy Friend donates blood to sick ex Girld friend (Now married). = Big problem.
Therefore, the conclusion is that actually men have more jealous mind than women. The woman in Hafsy's story I believe only pretended to go along with the hustband's protest. The man did what was right as far as I am concerned, if not the ex-boy friend will always be in the house. Was the husband consulted before the ex-boy friend was called to the hospital? The husband saved her by accepting the blood donation from the ex-boy friend. He also saved her from further critical incident as the ex-boy friend would be free to marry her and save her in future case.
Quote from: Tukurtukur on November 22, 2008, 07:33:48 PM
Hafsy_Lady this is excellent. A good story. Welcome back to the Forum after a long recess.
Thank youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
Quote from: Tukurtukur on November 22, 2008, 07:33:48 PM
2. Ex Girl Friend donates blood to sick ex boy friend (Now married to another woman). = No Problems
4. Ex Boy Friend donates blood to sick ex Girld friend (Now married). = Big problem.
Yikes! :-\ Am even more confused now.
TukurTukur, If a woman can exercise note 2 of your analysis. Why then should it be a problem if a man exercises point 4 of your analysis. What I really what to know is this:
Addini musulunci bai yadda jinin wani namiji ya shiga jikin matar aure bane in ba na muharraminta ba kawai ko kuwa especially when desperate measures calls for it? Otherwise, wannan wani irin masifa da jaraban kishi ne? :o
After hearing the story from the womans close family. The question I first asked was if the ex was establishing any form of contact or phone calls or visitation with her despite a change of her status to 'married' but it was confirmed: "NO". Ance the day the woman's hand was given out in marriage to the Nupe man was the end between ex boyfriend and the woman. He let her go because religiously she was not his right. To, babu wani external marriage affairs or any underground business da ke tsaninsu ko kadan. Ance ex boyfriend bai masan where she lives ba even though they were in the same state!Quote from: Tukurtukur on November 22, 2008, 07:33:48 PMTherefore, the conclusion is that actually men have more jealous mind than women.
Is that so? ;D ;D ;D ;D A je dai a hankali, a hankali, kuna daure kanku da kanku
Quote from: Tukurtukur on November 22, 2008, 07:33:48 PMThe woman in Hafsy's story I believe only pretended to go along with the hustband's protest.
Dama pretending dakeyi ai da da sauki Tukur. Ance maka, rai a hannun Allah ai ya wuce zancen pretence. Sakaryar matar wai ita son miji! Tunda yace a'a bai yadda ba, wai ita biyayyan miji a barta a haka ta koma ga Allah. To gashi ta rayu, lokacin nata wajen ubangiji beyi. Irin shegen iyayin mune na mata ~hiss~ wai ita love & obedience to husband, she also said no unless he permits for the transfusion. If he too the husband trully & really loved her he would have obliged to let her have the blood transfusion. Ko ba haka ba?
Allah ya kiyaye, if it was me in such situation and my 'abunan' should try such stupendous rejection >:( hmmm ai daga gadon asibitin nan zan *anyway* :-X
LOL.hafsy kenan...allurar zaki ciro ki zunkuda mai a ido ko?
Gaskya mijin bashi da tausayi. Wannan kishin yayi yawa har ya wuce gona da iri.
In a life and death situation things like this are forgotten.
However, to give him the benefit of doubt,i think there is something that the wife's family didn't tell you hafsy. Ordinarily,he shouldn't have reacted that way,especially the divorce. If however, babu wan hidden agenda then he really wasn't fair to the lady.
Quote from: Hafsy_Lady on November 22, 2008, 08:20:44 PM
TukurTukur, If a woman can exercise note 2 of your analysis. Why then should it be a problem if a man exercises point 4 of your analysis. What I really what to know is this: Addini musulunci bai yadda jinin wani namiji ya shiga jikin matar aure bane in ba na muharraminta ba kawai ko kuwa especially when desperate measures calls for it? Otherwise, wannan wani irin masifa da jaraban kishi ne? :o
OK Hafsy, lets see it this way. The man can marry 2, 3 or 4 as enjoined. The woman can accommodate a second whether physically or in spirit (as in the blood of the man). But the man cannot find it funny most importantly having known the ex-boy friend to accommodate him in spirit (as in the case of ex-boy friend's blood in his wife's). Definitely, in case of desperate situation the forbidden could be permitted in Islam. But I would like Urztazia Husnaa to elaborate.
Hafsy what a big banging way to come back! Wuna welcome wellu wellu. ;D Your tory dey very interesting Wallahi. it come make me enter forum kuku to say something.
Kai TKTK rufa mun asiri, I no be ustazia fa! I like the rocking life too much hehehehehe ;D ;D ;D ;D
Ni dai from my own point of view, which doesnt count since it has no religious backing (and I dont mean to say that under Islam that it is haram), but from my own point of view, there is nothing wrong in a man donating his blood to a woman who is not his wife or sister or in other words there is nothing wrong in a man donating blood to a woman who is his haramiya. I believe ppl tend to misunderstand some aspects of segregating men and women. Its simply to safeguard against sha'awa and the evils it leads to. Now I cant see how a man donating his blood to a woman becomes a bone of contention. How many of us have had blood transfusions where maybe the blood is obtained from a blood bank? Do we know whether it is female or male blood that is being transferred into our systems?
Ni dai to me, this action by this man surpasses jealousy. Its sheer madness. If I was the wife, I'd give my resignation letter before I got the sack, cos clearly he is not in love with her. Ce! the moment he refuses to accede to the transfusion, then we are done between me and him! Saboda dama ita ma matar should have seen this coming... After so much begging and he finally agrees and she believes he will take her back? Jo! make she go back to her x boyfriend at least ya nuna yana son ta fiye da wannan wanda ba soyayya ce ma ta hada suba, but auren dole. Its a cause for celebration for her at least. Its an all's well that ends well story after all i.e. she's reunited with the love of her life!
Quote from: Tukurtukur on November 23, 2008, 02:00:31 PM
OK Hafsy, lets see it this way. The man can marry 2, 3 or 4 as enjoined. The woman can accommodate a second whether physically or in spirit (as in the blood of the man). But the man cannot find it funny most importantly having known the ex-boy friend to accommodate him in spirit (as in the case of ex-boy friend's blood in his wife's). Definitely, in case of desperate situation the forbidden could be permitted in Islam. But I would like Urztazia Husnaa to elaborate.
Now you have lost me COMPLETELY!!!! I dont understand. Though, kaga irin abin naku na maza ko. Ana zance kishi you just had to use this opportunity to remind us that men are allowed to marry 2,3,4 even though its clealy written on you people's forehead!!! Muna sane da haka.
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 23, 2008, 07:55:32 PM
Hafsy what a big banging way to come back! Wuna welcome wellu wellu. ;D Your tory dey very interesting Wallahi. it come make me enter forum kuku to say something.
Kai TKTK rufa mun asiri, I no be ustazia fa! I like the rocking life too much hehehehehe
Allah sarki, thanks Husna. Wallahi kici duniyar ki da tsinke tun kafin lokaci ya kure. Rock n Roll baibeeee!!!! Mu gashi nan an barmu da cizon yatsa. >:(
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 23, 2008, 07:55:32 PM
Now I cant see how a man donating his blood to a woman becomes a bone of contention. How many of us have had blood transfusions where maybe the blood is obtained from a blood bank? Do we know whether it is female or male blood that is being transferred into our systems?
EXACTLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 23, 2008, 07:55:32 PM
Ni dai to me, this action by this man surpasses jealousy. Its sheer madness.
I am on the same script with you. Indeed yafi karfin kishi. Haka maza suke nasu kishin? :o :o :o
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 23, 2008, 07:55:32 PMIf I was the wife, I'd give my resignation letter before I got the sack
To fa! Yar'uwa anan ne kuma dai za'a samu matsala. An la'anci duk macen da ta tambayi mijinta saki wo! Ebi like say you get high temper!
Quote from: gogannaka on November 22, 2008, 09:15:46 PM
LOL.hafsy kenan...allurar zaki ciro ki zunkuda mai a ido ko?
Mhmmmmmmm ai ni wallahi inda nina ai abun da zanyi ya wuce haka. Ai Gogannaka what I had in mind is not even worth a minute part of what you said. Chabdijan!!!! ai that is nothing compared to what I have in mind. :-X Lallai! Ka bari kawai. Allah kara mana imani kawai;D
let me first of all welcome you back madam, your are most
welcome. Let me seize this opportunity to apologise to my
one and only daughter in this forum UMMITA (she knows y).
back to the issue at hand, gaskiya akwai sentiment a cikin
the whole story as narrated by hafsy, wai kaji she was even
referring the ex as HERO, how did he become hero after he
was beaten hand down lokacin neman aure - abeg spare me
and call him the opposite.
haba, yan arewa a kline kuyi tunani mana, you just came to
the hospital and saw this guy har ya ba matar ka blood with
out your knowledge, i courtesy demands that you be contacted
as soon as your wife requires that blood, ko kuna son kuce
the husband doesnt have yan'uwa ne sai wannan "kwarton".
I will react more than how this man reacted, i will first and
foremost lock him up in one of the dirtiest prison in town for
interfering with my personal property, then later deal with him
for the rest of his life - i will not tolerate this nonsense.
Ita kuma, though, i am not the divorcing type, amma definitely
zata ci ubanta wallahi, i dan ba wulakanci ba da fallasa da kuma
something underground is crawling with out my notice, me yasa
baza a bani OPTION ba? haba guys think this over mana.
kuma ai soyayyarce ta sa shi ya bada jini, in shi mai hankaline
he will refuse and demand that her husband contact him before
he could donate, amma kawai gododo ya zo ya bada jini, ta mutu
mana, wani kayan gabar ne mutuwan?
Quote from: Dan-Borno on November 24, 2008, 10:29:03 AM
let me first of all welcome you back madam, your are most
welcome. Let me seize this opportunity to apologise to my
one and only daughter in this forum UMMITA (she knows y).
back to the issue at hand, gaskiya akwai sentiment a cikin
the whole story as narrated by hafsy, wai kaji she was even
referring the ex as HERO, how did he become hero after he
was beaten hand down lokacin neman aure - abeg spare me
and call him the opposite.
haba, yan arewa a kline kuyi tunani mana, you just came to
the hospital and saw this guy har ya ba matar ka blood with
out your knowledge, i courtesy demands that you be contacted
as soon as your wife requires that blood, ko kuna son kuce
the husband doesnt have yan'uwa ne sai wannan "kwarton".
I will react more than how this man reacted, i will first and
foremost lock him up in one of the dirtiest prison in town for
interfering with my personal property, then later deal with him
for the rest of his life - i will not tolerate this nonsense.
Ita kuma, though, i am not the divorcing type, amma definitely
zata ci ubanta wallahi, i dan ba wulakanci ba da fallasa da kuma
something underground is crawling with out my notice, me yasa
baza a bani OPTION ba? haba guys think this over mana.
kuma ai soyayyarce ta sa shi ya bada jini, in shi mai hankaline
he will refuse and demand that her husband contact him before
he could donate, amma kawai gododo ya zo ya bada jini, ta mutu
mana, wani kayan gabar ne mutuwan?
I'd really really like to say why am I not surprised, but I find that I am truly upset by DB's post. Ta mutu mana, ba kayan gabas ne ba mutuwar. I'm surre the woman's relatives will think otherwise. Allah dai Ya kare 'yayan mu da fada wa hannun irin masu wa'yannan ra'ayin ameen.
The topic asked why does women have jealous minds... But Hafsy's post and that of
DBarno proved men have more jealous minds then women.........
I believed a woman will have no second thought where help comes when her hubby's
life is in danger..
I can't even understand how that husband got time to think where that blood is coming from..
Emergency situation is period where you have to do with what ever readily available to save
life,,, Is the life that count then and nothing else.... Kuma inna ganin ko addinancema hakane
That husband will sound more right to me, had he allowed the transfusion then divorced her
afterwards if he really feels he can't live with that..
Quote from: MySeLf on November 24, 2008, 04:17:14 PM
The topic asked why does women have jealous minds... But Hafsy's post and that of
DBarno proved men have more jealous minds then women.........
I believed a woman will have no second thought where help comes when her hubby's
life is in danger..
I can't even understand how that husband got time to think where that blood is coming from..
Emergency situation is period where you have to do with what ever readily available to save
life,,, Is the life that count then and nothing else.... Kuma inna ganin ko addinancema hakane
That husband will sound more right to me, had he allowed the transfusion then divorced her
afterwards if he really feels he can't live with that..
Fada musu gaskiya 'yar uwa. Wai kishi yasa namiji ya haukace tir!! He isnt worth marrying. Barkan ta da ta rabu da shi. Kai kuma DB, I doubt what u say.. I will give u the benefit of the doubt, cos the above behavior is way out of the ordinary run of events.
Hafsyyyyy................Yay!!! Bhoi am I glad!!! I mean oh NO..... >:( you shouldnt hav made a comeback!!!! It was just paradise without you!!!! ;D
Quote from: Dan-Borno on November 24, 2008, 10:29:03 AM
Let me seize this opportunity to apologise to my
one and only daughter in this forum UMMITA (she knows y).
A father is never in the wrong in the eyes of his daugther. Just dont forget, you owe me a birthday present, my goron sallah and also for the forth-coming sallah in two wks or so.
Quote from: Dan-Borno on November 24, 2008, 10:29:03 AM
ai kaji she was even referring the ex as HERO, how did he become hero after he was beaten hand down lokacin neman aure - abeg spare me and call him the opposite.
No, I think hafsy was saying that women like men that play hero's especially when it is a love triangle situation. As in the exboyfreind came to the rescue in due course. Women find that a kushy "awwww" "wowwww" he did that just for her thing!!! *rolls eyes*
Quote from: Dan-Borno on November 24, 2008, 10:29:03 AM
haba, yan arewa a kline kuyi tunani mana, you just came to
the hospital and saw this guy har ya ba matar ka blood with
out your knowledge, i courtesy demands that you be contacted
as soon as your wife requires that blood,
Were u in a rush wen u read the story? Because basically the fact of the said had it that everything was set and they have not in actual fact administered the blood onto the woman.
Quote from: Dan-Borno on November 24, 2008, 10:29:03 AM
Ita kuma, though, i am not the divorcing type, amma definitely
zata ci ubanta wallahi,
INNALILLAH....... lol lol lol lol lol ohhhhh mah God, people in this forum can kill. Daddddddddddddddddddddddy!!!!!!!!!! ha, ha, ha ha, ha u got me throwing out my drink all over myslf. Am in hysteriaaaaa. lol, lol.........I hav not laffed this bad of recent. lol, lol, I just cnt stop laffin. :-X :-X :-X
I really wanted to add some few points from my observation from member posts but lol, lol, I cnt 4 now. My dad's done messing my head up.......Am sorry people but lol, lol, lol.....nahhhhh am outta this place!!!!!! ;D
PS: Myself..........EXCELLENT. You've just nailed it.........True talk.....a woman would not even think twice if it were her husbands ex-girlfriend that was to donate her blood. She will even beg the woman!!!!
I still cant stop laughing. Ah!!!!! Daddy.............I just hope my siblings dont hear that at all...........lol lol lol
thanks my daughter for waking me, i was in a hurry
so, i couldnt read post thoroughly, but i still maintain
my stand, ai har an ja jinin with the intention of the
transfusion, there are other alternatives ai, amma
ba za a sa na wannan tsohon saurayin ba, and thanks
to the wife since she also agreeed with her husband
wannan shine soyayyar gaskiya.
in view of this development, i will not lock up the guy
but give him a strong warning never to interfere with
my family again, no matter how - kai, kishin maza fa
yafi na mata, i cant take this bull shit - ina.
Allah ya kyauta dai! If such a thing should happen, then thats when people will see the man in you or the chicken you.
From my point of view, if a situation is a matter of life or death situation. The best solution is the one that will be effective and readily available. So per is within the guidelines of Sharia.
The EX is effective (same blood group) and available (when there is no alternative). I agree hes a hero. However a big big threat to the husband.
Quote from: IBB on November 25, 2008, 08:06:41 PM
Allah ya kyauta dai! If such a thing should happen, then thats when people will see the man in you or the chicken you.
From my point of view, if a situation is a matter of life or death situation. The best solution is the one that will be effective and readily available. So per is within the guidelines of Sharia.
The EX is effective (same blood group) and available (when there is no alternative). I agree hes a hero. However a big big threat to the husband.
Clap fo IBB. Voted man of the year. Allah Ya Baka mata ta gari ameen. Irin ku muke nemar wa 'yayayen mu mata. Taking decisions with ur God given faculties and not with a red light district mentality. clap clap clap
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 25, 2008, 08:14:18 PM
.........not with a red light district mentality. clap clap clap
na shiga uku a hannun auntyn muhsin.
I think special circumstances calls for certain majors to be taken.
First of all I think the wife should know the kind of husband she has, how he'll react towards her EX. On the husbands side, just like my other ladies said those are the kinds of husbands we pray our daughters never set foot on their door step as wives.
Some men do whatever it takes to bring the bacon home (I mean whatever it takes) so what happens to going out of your comfort zone to save your other half. If it were me definately had to think twice about even going back to his house after been discharged from hospital. Allah ya kara rufa asiri.