Asalam Alaikum,
Firstly i will like to introduce myself ::), go to www.azeezrevo34.20megsfree.com , there u can get to read about me ::) :o.
To the point ;),
I think the issue of courtship and marriage should also be did coursed in this forum cos. Most people here may be married and will be in better position to advice we up coming ones.
I am interested in getting married Hausa girl (no one inspecific for now ). cos I have studied them to be a tribe that have this loyal and honest kind of attitude.
But am form kwara state here in Nigeria and have not meet any hausa girl be4 but i have some hausa friend i just met them not too long .
I think there should be a kind of islamic dating program which will feature the islamic way of coutship(dating) and marriage but not that of the western beast(pardon me).
I hope this will be put into consideration.
ALLAHU HAFIS.
Masalam.
Islamic Dating Program???? :-/
na wa for civilization o! :o
meeh i thought relatives are already playin that part.....
Pardon me for not explaining what i meant by Islamic dating program.
Unlike the weatern dating programm it should be strictly for singles looking for partners accross the Globe and should be stated according to islamic protocol of courtship and marriage.
I believe there is an arrangement for that in the shariah just like there is for
Banking in an Islamic setting
Women participating in governance(islamic setting)
Women in sports(islamic)
so also dating (islamic)
this will work out better if the islamic scohlars are in charge of the program.
Hope u understand me sha. :)
:-[
Assalamu Alaikum
HI there!
It is perfectly acceptable, in my view, to have a dating forum as long as it conforms to Islamic Ideal.
Only traditionalistist will reject this but, haven't they rejected Scientific education either?
revo....all that na wahala... oh!!!... get ur friends to introduce u to peeps...
the whole message board can be whut ur lookin' for.... if u see someone u dig..juss holla... u know :) no need for a formal datin' forum...
but still.. i think its kinda messed up... cuz its juss not gonna work out... but maybe it will... but oh well...
Assalaam Alaikum,
First of all, there is nothing like "dating" in Islam, u see a girl u want to marry...talk to her guardian (waley) he'll go about it, but at the same time, the girl has to agree ;D .
Oh Well, just as Fyne says, it's "civilisation".
Ma'3ssalaamah.
P.S....anyone here that can please enlighten us more on this? Insha Allah.
datin'...courtship...worreva...worreva... its all kinda basically the same thang.... juss gettin' to know ur "interest" better before u jump the broom...
but an online Islamic datin' joint.... hmmm... i dunno.... but we might as well use this. ;D
*ahem*
Hi...my name is FyneDymeQueen... i come from where i come from... i'm old enuff... i like eatin' and sleepin'... :)
whut about u? 8)
Assalaam Alaikum,
Yeah, all true
;D Fyne...we all come from where we come from and like eating and sleeping (lol)
My name is Ihsan. Take care
Ma'3ssalaamah
Assalam alaikum,
As far as my knowledge of shari'a dating ,i know islamically when you see a girl you don't just walk to her and started saying bla- :o :-Xyoou have to contact her parents first and inforem them about your intention to befriend their daughter,when they give you go ahead then you can confront the girl and....................well,civilised people ;D
hmmm.... shira... not necessarily.... but that's the decent way... and that way.. ur sure that the guy is takin' u seriously... but u know the zamani of today.....
newayzzzzzzzz........
so no one wan halla at meeh :-[ ......... ihsan... anyone holla'd yet?.... :P
Lol Fyne...quite few...but u know yanda zamanin namu yake...baka san me zaka tarar ba...so, for the mean time...I'm holding onto my karatu ;D (which is reliable-lol)
dating ?
wow
yeah am on tha list
i wana learn too
who's the date master around
;D
ali hamza
eya.... u too?... :-[ u neva get betta pesin?... ok... lets see.... ::)
well....sorry.. ;D....ihsan juss dubbed her karatu more reliable than u....so, go chill for a while...until another contestant arrives...
;D
Asalam,
Seems this forum on courtship is having participants, just like Queen as introduced herself. I think I should follow suite.
I am Abdul Azeez
21 and in Lagos ,Freelance computer engineer, web designer , average weight, 5.9 feet.
will like to meet an honest and nice person.
bla ............
www.azeezrevo34.20megsfree.com
but note that was designed 1.5 yrs ago so pics are that years old.
azeez@programmer.net
Masalam.
i'm sorry but i don't think this will work cuz there's this thing about the north........a girl cannot think of introducing herself to a man talkless of even marrying him thru the internet.
she will be considered shameless.............MY GRACIOUS GOD! How did you even think of such a thing???? :o
whut makes u think the "boys" can do it and not be considered shameless?
Kool down Walidarh the world is changing alot of Northern Girls have dropped that timidity and are now very direct
Ai AbuMujahid gaskiya ka fadi ,domin yanzu kana sayan mota sai yanmata su fara cika "form" suna damin ka da waya.
mhm.. ba wani! u know the reason why u floss wit' cars is to get the laydeez naaa.. haba.. na u spoil 'am... ;D
Abeg all thosse women kaza kaza talkative make them keep quite, all I know say what ever the case at the end of the day, na one women who go still be your soulmate.
Abeg if man wan seek women, make him comot go find. which kind online dating programme, we dont have to go all the way to the end westernised.
Imagine! one morning I feel like I need to find a new guy. I will switch my PC Go to Islamic dating & start categorising. Like one zombie, oh! La ila, ha! ha! ha! Good gracious lord !!! B it Islamically or all religion dating online services is sounds numb to my ears.
Revo go ahead! My words of encouragement to you
When r we goin 2 start havin online marriage services? Am just curious, cant blame me 4 thinkin out loud :-/
who wld look for a "partner" online aniwayzzzz?
Looking for Muslim online matching/dating service try this site for grooms, brides and pictures click on the link and voila!!!http://www.123matrimonials.com/
online matchmakers.....ok.. tell meeh whuts wrong with the people around u?? ?? are they THAT bad?? meetin' someone inline.. u might as well juss hookup with godzilla...
We dey 4 kanoonline ne, or matchmakin online? All shud not stress it, my own is.... if man wan find gel he knows where & they know how the play their games...
eg 4 Male: Xcuse r u not Aisha Nasir bro
eg 4 Female: she go drop hanky 4 ground, shikuma dama yana near tree waitin 4 privilegde...as soon as he see opprtunity he go pick race 2 get d hanky.............
& there they got theirselves hooked up....no need 4 online...wey go consume electricity, take time to search gud category, xcetra
For those interested in online dating... its highly up 2 them, but my own b say make constant electricity dey!
Then again... women & their pride, du u think wasu masu pride zasu zauna kan pc, Men wuna know sum women kun daai san hali......... zasu zauna neman maigida kan pc. where as they go fit buga dressin comot!!!! ;)....Gud lord, this is so funny :D Haka naji kuma na gani wo!!! :-X
LOL :D Ummita,
I know women really sabi use style, hehehehe
mhmmm These days its more of a COURTSHIP & COHABITING slash patners thing goin on.......To me its a really mynd annoyin issue with match makin, findin a date or a soul mate onlyn b it wateva circumstance...ko na Islam ne sef...Ya'all r 2 westernized when (S.A.W)said a gurl paps will choose her a husby that is if she is still young..& huh? gurls of nowadays...who will stick their faces on d screen clickin & clickin & searchin 4 a boi 4 that matterrrrrrrrrrr puhleeeeeez!!! I need su, fresh air[/b]
not to make you guys feel bad but it's good to let you know that online dating it's happening. I know couple of marriage couple who met online all northerners but living in different countries and now they are joined together in holly motrimony. It's really not that bad especially if you live away from home and the only way you can meet someone that's from "home" is noline. may be queen and ummita should give it a try 8) even though I know that's alot of people around you but try it, you never know... what's in store for you. may be your soulmate is online.
QuoteIt's really not that bad especially if you live away from home and the only way you can meet someone that's from "home" is noline. may be queen and ummita should give it a try 8)
Gimbiya wallahi u don finish mi gaba daya.........Ni onlyn matrimony abi online relationship abi onlyn fyndin soul mate...........kini online try wetin? Kinsen Allah Counsellor...hmmm eniwez......(she laffs)
but kom how many bobos hav u met onlyn? & amongst them who is ur soul mate? and amongst them u r u engaged with? and amonsgt them who will tie d not with u in holy matrimony?;) C'mon dont b shy? Kinganki!!!! ::)Juss tell us d Mr Right ur cursor mouse clicked on. (Gimbiya how did u meet ur husby......wallahi with d help of my mouse & cursor) haba Gimz ke how u even see am? Mummy how did u & dad met by Technology (lurd!!!)
Anyways all I know is that all guys that meet girls onlyn, if the finally hook up, d next day d gurl will b on d front covaz missin or dead? Kai komon sense why online.......kai lol kanoonliners ya'all crak me up[/b]
Come to think about it telling my children that I met their father through technology doesn't seems to be a bad idea, I really admire tech. nowadayz. dang I guess I most be a cool mom who hung out all day in front of my monitor hugging and kissin' it :-*.
personally i think 'online dating' is one of the many bi-products of the west's degenerating social standards. . the computer is so impersonal, and people can be so fake online. I thought only desperate people would resort to this sort of thing.
Lol where have I been all this days
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eg 4 Female: she go drop hanky 4 ground, shikuma dama yana near tree waitin 4 privilegde...as soon as he see opprtunity he go pick race 2 get d hanky.............
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Naija bobo go juss carry di hanky dey go...e go still thank God ontop "thank God I don get hanky".
lol...ummitah anf quen, u give mi da laffs.
I agree wid both lionger and walidarh... this will end up in the garbage, like our ongoing sharia system or even worse!
Quote I really admire tech. nowadayz. dang I guess I most be a cool mom who hung out all day in front of my monitor hugging and kissin' it :-*.
LOL gimbiya are mad funny. But gaskiya am with Ummita, how weird is it if people ask ke da mijinki ya kuka hadu mun hadu ta layin online service for match making.....so how does one explain this to illetrates........ :-/ I really dont like this idea of online match making, a man can pretend or the girl can pretend and put up the best behavior sai anyi aure balai ya fara ::)
but still gimbiya you cracked me up. So lets get personal, kida da maigidane ;) I love being nosy.
Quote.... if man wan find gel he knows where & they know how the play their games...
eg 4 Male: ?Xcuse r u not Aisha Nasir bro
eg 4 Female: she go drop hanky 4 ground, shikuma dama yana near tree waitin 4 privilegde...as soon as he see opprtunity he go pick race 2 get d hanky.............
& there they got theirselves hooked up....no need 4 online...wey go consume electricity, take time to search gud category, xcetra
For those interested in online dating... its highly up 2 them, but my own b say make constant electricity dey! ?
lol he he he he he he ;D
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but still gimbiya you cracked me up. So lets get personal, kida da maigidane ;) I love being nosy.
hahaha, me and my maigida used 2 be like on the comouter all the time I'm like the mouse and he's the keyboard tying the internet all day and all night and losing our priority, but after he got me and he knows I'm head over heel in love woth him he start to hate computers, he can't even stand the fact that I work in front of a computer all day long. awwwwwww, ain't that cute and romantic? 1/2sy and ummita? Everytime I sit in front of my computer right now I have to smile :D . I think This is one of the best romantic story I have ever heard.
so do you guys think a picture marriage/courtship or phone marriage/courtship is better? 'cos I know few people who met their soulmate via phone and fix. tell me what you think.
and by the way this are hausas'
ohhhhhhh ola la la viola Gimbiya lets move this hira to somewhere else ;)? Is it possible we can have something called womens section or womens talks? Oga admin?
Gimbiya da gaske kina da aure or u juss mockin ;) & tell me di truweth wuna jam online?
Ni dai I still disapproveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Now aint that som'n
QuoteCome to think about it telling my children that I met their father through technology doesn't seems to be a bad idea, I really admire tech. nowadayz. dang I guess I most be a cool mom who hung out all day in front of my monitor hugging and kissin' it :-*.
ah aunty gimbzz.. i get wut ur sayin.. LoL. i guess its ok when u dont have lots of northerners in ur area. besides, when its northerners, its different.. because MOST LIKELY the person knows ur cousin, friends, family, etc etc..
Naija is a small place.. everyone kinda knows everyone.. its some kinda Northern Connection! ;D
And how about if a dood k-onliner hooks up with a babe k-onliner, they end up getting married and they met here for the first time, think its wrong and/or impossible ???
eeeewwwww
I 4 one think that'll be fobulous, just remember to invite me to the wedding. ok fyne,ummita,1/2sy. ;D
So is true online dating works? :-/
Well I can't wait for the first couple of kano onliners
Who Is't gonna be?
UMMITA & ANWAR?
DYMEQUEEN & VENOM?
HAFSY & IBRO?
IHSAN & LADIES PAPI?[/b]
Well guys make sure you invite all of us to the wedding 8)
See? Its already showing a lot of promise and prospects ;D ;D
Ummitah, Ice ta riga ki.
and Ice, thats so cool, but I noticed somn in da post.
Kin hada *should I say enemies* masu fada tare, but dont u know fadan damuka yi da hafcy is neva to bi spoken of. Mi and hafcy are more than what u think of now... so abin da kikka rubuta doesnt bug us at all, unlike venom, queen etc.
besides, why arent u in dapicture?
Oh puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez, brova, gimme a break.who on earth will marry a guy online. Allah ya sawake. Besides marriage....... :-X aint sum'en anyways :-X :-X
Wallahi Gimbiya ni dai ki gaya mini geske kin aure man naki afta gettin hooky on d net?
Kai kai kai.........ni dai I diassaproveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, online courtship!!!...so we myt as well start havin online marriages, online baby production,...online komai.......
I c absolutely no point but regard it as ridiculous to rest ur self on ur bed or chair surfin d net 4 wat!! 4 a man!!!? Holy God!! Help me. Wen all is done & dusted...one plans to meet up together & then marriage!!!! Kai....now how lame dux that sound?!!!
ICE? errrr well wat becums of u :-/? Online hookin mistress? Wondaz shall neva end :-/
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ICE? errrr well wat becums of u :-/? Online hookin mistress? Wondaz shall neva end :-/
Nah! Nah!!!!
I hook no one with no one
Thats how I see it.
And Never say Never Ummita
Because you never know Tomorrow.
lol.. ummita lol.. not like that...
u know, in north naija.. people tend to know each other... so even when u do meet someone for the first time online.. the person will know someone u know...(it always happens to meeh).. juss like that person u know and i know.. and GUESS WUT? venom, ibro, mohdibro, gfella.. all know that person!
then its most likely ya'll will bump into each other somewhere in kano... cuz i know i met lots of people in abuja, kano, and even saudi lol..
we have a small society... ;)
its similiar to someone seeing a picture in a friend's house, then ask the people in the house to introduce the person in the picture.. etc etc.. its not that bad when u think about it...
but meeting people onilne, also shows lack of game.. lol :P
for a person like me i don't know how to do.I'm a hausa and muslim and i'd rather to marry a hausa girl.But i live in a country where there are not single hausa-foulani girls.and in my mind i see that create relationships through net is very impersonnal cos we don't use our senses and our sensibilities in courtship.and it's very sad.
Oh lurddddddddd kan I laff? (she laffs)
Kamal.......so u think online datin is d best!! Ok not 2 worry u hav cum 2 d ryt place....wherez ma gurl ICE? get Kamal a hooky online. Sista Gimbz c wat u guys r duin now..... Now as u can c...Kamal the girls here are hausa-Fulaniz........juss hola @ ma Lady ICE!!! ;)If u dont end up fallin 4 her, shez gon get u d ryt typ.
Ni dai I still oppose, disregard, dissaproave & diagree about online dating.
QuoteBut i live in a country where there are not single hausa-foulani girls.and in my mind i see that create relationships through net is very impersonnal
Haba, c u intermarriage, u no fit marry a gurl that is not ur tribe? U can marry a spanish,Indian, British,American, Egyptcian, Croatian, Tanzanian (wai) South African,
HABA d biggest of all c our ladies Yorubaz, Igboz, Tiv gurls...........they r all available. Juss log on 2 ur internet.....& start d online finidng d right gurl business.........since its ok 2 fynd a mate online as ya'all r sayin
It Alwayz look funny but it's true. There's people who live in a country where there's lack of our own people and by being online they kinda find that someone special may not be in the counrty they reside but they will work with it.
I remember there were used to be this forum Hausa e-circles oh you can call it e-circles allright, because right now I know about two married couple that meet there and both used to live in different coutry.(but they can make it work) I am making mines to work,my guy and I live in the same country but different states, hey our time is also different. but with the gift of god(internet) it's working allright. it's like we see each other everyday;D I used to think that it will not work just like ummita thought... I :'(, >:(, and :-[ hey everything but now I can tell you this ;D ;D ;D ;) ;) ;)and chillin' 8). So Ummita it aint a bad idea. especially for the people who are down on hausa women/men.
QuoteI remember there were used to be this forum Hausa e-circles oh you can call it e-circles allright, because right now I know about two married couple that meet there and both used to live in different coutry.(but they can make it work) I am making mines to work,my guy and I live in the same country but different states, hey our time is also different. but with the gift of god(internet) it's working allright. it's like we see each other everyday;D I used to think that it will not work just like ummita thought So Ummita it aint a bad idea. especially for the people who are down on hausa women/men.
Sista Gimbiya abun ne da ban dariya. Besides am not bothered about d whole relationship online datin...rather (she re-adjusts her sittin position) Bani labarin u & ur bobo jare!!! ;) Oya...topics closed those that want 2 start online datin, its up 2 them, those that dont, highly up 2 them..In d main tym can u all xcuse us: maself & Gimbiya....Gimbiya yarn me jo!!! So wuna meet by online u & ur bobo? How sid u ask him out? So how did he know u 2 were a match made in heaven ;). Nawawo...so all this love na true....Its only bcuz of Gimbiya...I wud agree but juss quarterly...but errrrrrr I STILL DISAGREE
Gimgiya,try to explain to Ummita that i can and i have the opportunity to marry a spanish,yoruba,hindian girl.I live in a multicultural country.But i'm down with hausa-foulani girl,for many reasons.Is it simple no?
QuoteBut i'm down with hausa-foulani girl,for many reasons.
Like...........................................................
O.K. Ummita you gotta sit now, this is the story. I was in college outside of nigeria, it was around 1997 when the internet was bumming, so I found myself to be so attach to the computer. I start enjoy chatting with people partiucular who are not from northern nigeria but from the country I reside. well I know for a fact that my father will not let me marry any bature so I need to marry someone from my side of the culture, that will be a little hard for me I don't have friends who are from northern nigeria neither do I know any guy who is from thier.I startchecking out some forums just out of curiousity and one day its BOOM my soul-mate the love of my life. He also live outside of Nigeria but in different country, we start a long journey of courtshio just by chatting online I know on my side I was very truthful to him.. anyway what do you expect I'm a very frank person. I also believe that he's sincere too. so we finally decided to take the relationship to the next level by calling each other on the phone it was tough though but hey we gotta do what we gotta do. later on in life what fyne said will happen happen, it happen that my father knows his father. well we are like family friends, I guess you can say nature take it course. all I can say is that the rest is history....
i'd rather to marry a hausa girl even i can marry others girl for these reasons:
1-hausa-foulani girls are among the most beautiful girls in africa
2-i love my culture and it 'll be more difficult to raise my children in hausa culture if i live in a westerned country and more yet difficult if my wife came from another culture.
3-women are also guardians of children education
4-hausa girls are proud of their culture.
Don't forget something:i'm opened mind,i can marry a person who came from a different culture but if i have the choice,i'll rather a hausa girl.And if there is no choice,we'll see Inch'Allah
aaaawwwwww aunty gimbzzzzzz... :'( ;D :D ;) awwwwwwwww..... kute kute kute!!!! awwww!!!! aww! awwww!!! i can go one!
and venom.. u berra mind urself... u know exactly wut kamal meant! lol
kamal, haha, dont worry.. juss go to tha village for holzz ;D
ke kuma ummita.. that pic is HUGE
fyne I myself feel the same way whenever I remember. love can be a wierd thing and you can find in different places. ;D
fyne I myself feel the same way whenever I remember. love can be a wierd thing and you can find in different places. ;D
QuoteO.K. Ummita you gotta sit now, this is the story. it happen that my father knows his father. well we are like family friends, I guess you can say nature take it course. all I can say is that the rest is history....
D world iz a small place, Allah sarki........so Gimbiya naku iz love @ first screen!!! Wishin u all d best.......still scracthin........so with Gimbiyaz story.....onlyn datin really works !!! hmmm. But "ouch"!! ur story really touched ma inner skin, my dermis & epidermin duka......
but nidai Love+Online dating=Ummita still disagrees (but err that is in MY own case)
& ow by d way Dyme, yeah d pic was massiveeeeeeeeeeeee :o & boi wat a major impact did it hav.........cuz..... :-X (she laffs & cracks up again)
well....i dont really support "internet" marriage too, and if u marry a guy u know juss through tha internet....thats juss out of tha question. its juss not riiight..... :-/
*personally talkin to u FDQ.... :P (lol)
loooooool...
ok check it... i met luts of people online.. and then we meet in person.. and we continue as friends.... its not bad...
same thing, when u meet someone online... then get to continue to know that person "offline"... its not that bad..
before i go on sport trips... i get introduced to people online, then i go meet them.. and we become tight friends.. juss like, when i'm going to travel... i'm introduced to people that i could meet and talk to in the new place.. and thus the friendship continues...
so internet is like a phonecall, picture, wuteva u may call it.. COMMUNICATION thingie!
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so internet is like a phonecall, picture, wuteva u may call it.. COMMUNICATION thingie!
Na gode FDQ, you hit right on the point.
FDQ ofcourse tha boys can do wat eva they want to do, and its not considered "shameless."
u know how nija culture rolls now.... :-/
FDQ ur actually riight, but u juss dont meet a person online and then start to like him....without even knowin him in person!!!.....get tha puntoooo!!!?!....ke de u know wat i be talkin bout.... :P