Marriage is not lust and the woman is not just pleasure and enjoyment

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Marriage is not lust and the woman is not just pleasure and enjoyment



Saturday, 12 January 2008
The noble Sheikh, the Mufti of the committee of major scholars in Saudi Arabia,
Sheikh Abdul Aziz ibn Abdullah Aali Shiekh declared that marriage is
not just about lust and fulfilling the desires rather it is security
and living together and stability.
And
the noble Sheikh said: Some of the Muslims have an incorrect
understanding about marriage, understanding it in a way other than its
reality. Some of them have an understanding that marriage is simply
about fulfilling their desires, so although they might implement the
legislated marriage contract, their intention with this marriage is not
stability nor commitment rather he marries and in himself he is
planning to divorce her, meaning he knows in himself that he will marry
her for a specific time period even if he does not mention this or
disclose this.

So he marries her due to his desire for her not
to have serenity and peace of mind with her, but he only counts her as
just a simple pleasure; so he's always on the verge of divorcing her
and bringing in someone other than her. So he is a husband and at the
same time he mixes this with the intention of divorce. And he does not
want from the woman anything other than pleasure.

This
is deception to the woman and dishonesty and misleading her; and if a
man came to his daughter or his sister and he knew that he did not want
her except for this purpose he would not allow him to marry her, but
when it comes to other people's daughters he does whatever he wants.

And
all of this is from deception and dishonesty and fraud and betrayal.
And for this reason Islam has prohibited temporary marriage; and this
is to marry for an estimated number of days for an agreed upon specific
duration. Therefore this was made impermissible due to the harms that
it contains.

And the Sheikh said: So what the person does not
like for his daughters then he should not like it for the daughters of
the Muslims.

And the Sheikh said: And some of the people might
travel to places in order to find marriage for a specific number of
days or months and he thinks this is a marriage contract and all of
this is trivial to him, so he falls into sin.

And
there are some who marry a number of women before (the other women he
divorced) finish their waiting period. So he will merge the marriage to
more than ten women in one month without any concern for the Islamic
legislated contract.

And the Mufti said: The Muslim must have
good judgment and he should not let his goal be to fulfill his desire
in a way that is not in accordance with the Islamic legislation. And he
must adorn himself with the manners of Islam, and he must look at other
people's daughters just like he looks at his own daughters and his own
sisters, and he should put people in the position that he likes to be
in.

Therefore if the person believes it allowable to do evil
to the daughters of others and to not comply with the Islamic standard
and then he does not want this same evil for his daughters; then why
this discrepancy? Where is the balance, where is the justice?

Unfortunately,
there are some Muslims who make permissible that which Allah has made
impermissible so in a matter of days they marry a number of women, all
with the intention of divorce, seeking by this to gain some benefit
(from the wife) in the summer or the winter or other than this, and
Islam prohibits this. Therefore Islam wants for us to be well-balanced
in our contracts and to put others in the position of our daughters and
our sisters and to be truthful in our dealings.

And the Sheikh
said: ...and some of them go and travel and get married against the
normal system and then they fall into sin or serious situations and
perhaps they might abandon their wives or leave them and not return to
them after they have become pregnant or given birth to his child, so
this exposes the Muslim descendants to danger. And some of them don't
care about their wives or their children so major problems occur as a
result of this treacherous marriage.