Poll
Question:
Do long distance relationship work
Option 1: no never
Option 2: they can it depends
Option 3: is not worth it
Can u kindly cast your vote to the above question thank you
Hehe! thats a really bias poll u've got up there. Anyways, yes long distant
relationships work, depending on the commitment of the people involved in
it. Hehe, why did you ask IBB? Abi is there gonna be a wedding soon??
anya do they work kuwa? gashi wai Brangelina have split into two?? How true is that? I saw it on the cover of one of those gossip magazines which I felt i couldnt waste money on...
Quote from: IBB on May 31, 2007, 11:54:24 PM
Can u kindly cast your vote to the above question thank you
ranka yadade, a gaskiya it doesnt, especially with a hausa gal, and kuma kai ma kasan Gayu shegu dama jira akeyi kabar gari su zaga, ita kuma shashashar madina ;D ai tayi kasuwa ::) :o.....she no go chase them away.......sai kafa jin jita jita ai wane na zuwa wurin.
Ai kawai man , get one within d domain that u r......................................
oga na ko u want example, ;),,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,lol lol.
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 01, 2007, 10:14:43 PM
anya do they work kuwa? gashi wai Brangelina have split into two?? How true is that? I saw it on the cover of one of those gossip magazines which I felt i couldnt waste money on...
just like you said in those gossip magazines, those two are still together. Going back to the original post, i believe long distance relationships do work if the two ppl involve understand and know what they are getting into.
Well i guess it does depends but the result is very slim, i have seen a lot of case studies...trust me they end up bitter, we are all human and we must surely get tired of waiting for our loved ones to return someday somehow, so many reasons are involved you know, only very few people have actially achieve this height, and even if they did there is always a tragic part of the story to go with.
May advice to you out there, dont allow this development to be a part of yur live, it will be like fetching weater with a string. She una grab?
Quote from: Fateez on June 01, 2007, 12:49:33 PM
Hehe! thats a really bias poll u've got up there. Anyways, yes long distant
relationships work, depending on the commitment of the people involved in
it. Hehe, why did you ask IBB? Abi is there gonna be a wedding soon??
Why do u say the poll is bias, do u want more options?
Nah IBB, nevermind...it doesnt really matter anyway. All da votesso far are positive 8) 8)
Quote from: mufi on June 02, 2007, 01:56:57 AMjust like you said in those gossip magazines, those two are still together. Going back to the original post, i believe long distance relationships do work if the two ppl involve understand and know what they are getting into.
Anya kuwa? Let them get hitched up first then they can long distance as much as they like, but in so far as each is a free agent.... I dont see it working out.. Men are such unfaithful polygamous creatures.
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 04, 2007, 08:19:18 PM
Quote from: mufi on June 02, 2007, 01:56:57 AMjust like you said in those gossip magazines, those two are still together. Going back to the original post, i believe long distance relationships do work if the two ppl involve understand and know what they are getting into.
Anya kuwa? Let them get hitched up first then they can long distance as much as they like, but in so far as each is a free agent.... I dont see it working out.. Men are such unfaithful polygamous creatures.
It's not easy to have a long distance relationship, but believe me if they are on a good standing i think it will workout. One thing that i noticed is that you can trust your significant other but the ppl around or just outside ppl that you can't trust, believe me, even if you don't have issues they will create one for you.
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 04, 2007, 08:19:18 PM
Quote from: mufi on June 02, 2007, 01:56:57 AMjust like you said in those gossip magazines, those two are still together. Going back to the original post, i believe long distance relationships do work if the two ppl involve understand and know what they are getting into.
Anya kuwa? Let them get hitched up first then they can long distance as much as they like, but in so far as each is a free agent.... I dont see it working out.. Men are such unfaithful polygamous creatures.
well, i dnt think u should say MEN!, y dnt u look at the thing in a broad view way, u perfestly know that there is no one hausa girl that goes out with only one person and stick to him (even if she does that.....other external factors.....will brain wash her to get anoza person), so the other party does that too.
By d way not all men r UNFAITHFUL N POLYGAMOUS......
World of technology has successfully connect the entire world
Which means distance relationship is almost unavoidable to singles who have access to the Internet.
And it can work, depend on the people involved, their commitment and arrangement.
Good and open communication, i think will be key to it success.
Well............its a two way thing but can be possible, but depends on many things eg if your serious about dat person,or if you trust em and all them kinda of things n if your not then scrap it, cos ur on d other side of the world while he/she is on the other so its quiet a slim chance then if your in the same country or area. :-\
Relationships all depend on trust,belief and commitment.
Quote from: amira on June 04, 2007, 10:41:15 PM
cos ur on d other side of the world while he/she is on the other so its quiet a slim chance then if your in the same country or area. :-\
Right Amira, but what about if the other may agree to relocate.
You can build the love and trust from distance, then later one can relocate if possible.
Might work but depends on the commitment of the parties, and the distance. For instance inter-country/continental relationships are difficult to maintain. My friend courted a girl who's in Abuja, while he's in Katsina. They are now married. He beat a guy residing in the USA for the girl's affection, despite the fact that the USA guy was there before him. I'm sure the distance played a great part against the unfortunate "American", who only see the girl at most twice in a year.
Another important factor is the "age" of the relationship. I mean relationships that are in their formative stages are more difficult to keep when the parties move to different locations ( that is if they were initially together).
it does work. depend how you much love your in. furthermore, its like gambling.you spend alot of energy and money for something thats not in your hand.
as IBB say: once you are not intown, guyz don start knocking on her door. most chicks cant say no unless she is one in a million.
MC With those overflowing trousers and those moves....how could any girl agree to hook up indefinitely....? ;D ;D ;D ;D
kai husnaa, kina ban dariya ;D ;D
Quote from: Myself on June 05, 2007, 11:06:07 PM
Quote from: amira on June 04, 2007, 10:41:15 PM
cos ur on d other side of the world while he/she is on the other so its quiet a slim chance then if your in the same country or area. :-\
Right Amira, but what about if the other may agree to relocate.
You can build the love and trust from distance, then later one can relocate if possible.
gaskiyar ki thats also true myself. :)
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 07, 2007, 12:16:03 PM
MC With those overflowing trousers and those moves....how could any girl agree to hook up indefinitely....? ;D ;D ;D ;D
Lallai ma Aunty Husnaa, you are far left behind
Dont you know that these yan matan zamani
na dis kind saurayi dey want.
Kar ki sha mamaki with those overflowing trousers
yana nan yana ba yan mata wahala, suna binshi
kamar kuda sun ga zuma.
Things have change o - seriously.
MC ci duniyarka.
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 07, 2007, 12:16:03 PM
MC With those overflowing trousers and those moves....how could any girl agree to hook up indefinitely....? ;D ;D ;D ;D
Those are killer moves. U know ladies think a good dancer is also good in ............ i will let u figure out the rest
Quote from: Dan-Borno on June 07, 2007, 07:25:49 PM
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 07, 2007, 12:16:03 PM
MC With those overflowing trousers and those moves....how could any girl agree to hook up indefinitely....? ;D ;D ;D ;D
Lallai ma Aunty Husnaa, you are far left behind
Dont you know that these yan matan zamani
na dis kind saurayi dey want.
Kar ki sha mamaki with those overflowing trousers
yana nan yana ba yan mata wahala, suna binshi
kamar kuda sun ga zuma.
Things have change o - seriously.
MC ci duniyarka.
Lol Dan Borno, I maybe a cranky old tyre, but i keep up with the times and those trousers are definitely NOT HOT anymore! (except in PAKISTAN as someone pointed out). The fashion today or a few yrs back was to have the trousers falling round yr hips (not hipsters) and be held up just, so that the leggings fall in ripples round the ankle... Whenever I see a teen dressed like that, the first thing that comes to my mind is that he'd had to make an emergency exit from some toilet and hadnt had time to adjust the trousers.... ;D ;D
The classy male casual dress that I find appealing is the just below the knees trousers (khaki preferably or some neutral color) matched with a t shirt a pr of sandals and gucci sun glasses...hair neat or skull cropped. Now that is a cool look....
Quote from: IBBThose are killer moves.
Quite right, IBB, they'd move any relationship to an early grave... those flailing arms would knock a girl dead on the floor, and those back slides.. looks like he is practising how to reverse a bicycle.... ;D
??? Over to you MC, both myself and IBB
have tried in convicing our Hon. Aunty that
you are a Choice for good relationship, but it
seems Aunty is not buying our idea.
So, its up to you to point out the good
qualities in you, may be she will stamp
u aright ;D Mukam dama bama sa irin
wannan wandon.
Lol Dan Borno!!
I love MC's avatar!! We are discussing it not HIM!! I am not sure he is a choice for a good relationship ,bcos I hardly know the guy neither do u although i dont know that............ lol his avatar is just so entertaining, only not guaranteed to send a lady's pulse soaring!!!!!!!!!! ;D (except with laughter!)
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 09, 2007, 11:00:35 AM
Quote from: Dan-Borno on June 07, 2007, 07:25:49 PM
Quote from: HUSNAA on June 07, 2007, 12:16:03 PM
MC With those overflowing trousers and those moves....how could any girl agree to hook up indefinitely....? ;D ;D ;D ;D
Lallai ma Aunty Husnaa, you are far left behind
Dont you know that these yan matan zamani
na dis kind saurayi dey want.
Kar ki sha mamaki with those overflowing trousers
yana nan yana ba yan mata wahala, suna binshi
kamar kuda sun ga zuma.
Things have change o - seriously.
MC ci duniyarka.
Lol Dan Borno, I maybe a cranky old tyre, but i keep up with the times and those trousers are definitely NOT HOT anymore! (except in PAKISTAN as someone pointed out). The fashion today or a few yrs back was to have the trousers falling round yr hips (not hipsters) and be held up just, so that the leggings fall in ripples round the ankle... Whenever I see a teen dressed like that, the first thing that comes to my mind is that he'd had to make an emergency exit from some toilet and hadnt had time to adjust the trousers.... ;D ;D
The classy male casual dress that I find appealing is the just below the knees trousers (khaki preferably or some neutral color) matched with a t shirt a pr of sandals and gucci sun glasses...hair neat or skull cropped. Now that is a cool look....
Quote from: IBBThose are killer moves.
Quite right, IBB, they'd move any relationship to an early grave... those flailing arms would knock a girl dead on the floor, and those back slides.. looks like he is practising how to reverse a bicycle.... ;D
wayyo allah......... ;D ;D husnaa your replies liven up the atmosphere ;D
to my experiance, distance relationships do not work.first you think tis going to,but along the line somehow things change to the other direction. b4 u know it, it will be like days you dont communicate, then weeks, months.
yea like how them trousers in your avatar are changing directions ;D okay back to the dicussion u've said it well.
wai ina naga IBB's reference to aljanni na sallah ne? which thread was that? IBB I want to say to u that I cant believe that u didnt watch the clip. I am quite sure u did. There was nothing scary about it except that it really does look like a jinn at prayer and at the end of the clip when the side view of the carpet was shown there was what looked like the profile of a black face. All in all fascinating, but not scary come on.... who is afraid of aljannu? I certainly aint... I think........ ;D
I once slept in a room full of aljannu who stood at the foot of my bed and kept staring at me. Everytime I opened my eyes, the room would be deathly quiet it was pitch black also and there was no other refuge to go to. The moment I closed them and drifted back to sleep I see them all congregated at the foot the bed and it was as if I had been transported to a marketplace because the room became so noisy. One even placed a baby at my side. The baby gurgled for a few minutes as if in play, then it suddenly got up and jumped off the bed by stepping across me and slightly jabbing me in the ribs. That happened precisely the same moment I opened my eyes, so I felt something crossing me although I couldnt see it at the time as i had opened my eyes. So I sat up and said ayatul kursiyy again rubbed it all over and went back to sleep. Only ofcourse I saw myself lying on the bed and then someone opened the door and came and sat down on a chair close to where I lay and just stared at me also. I opened my eyes again, felt the deathly quiet of the room and said ayatul kursiyy and tried to fall back asleep, unsuccessfully. This went on till asuba was called. Then I got up, went to the loo performed ablution came out and prayed subhi and only then was I able to get three hours sleep. To tell the truth although then I wasnt frightened at all, I was reluctant to spend another night in the same room and I knew I would have to do that if I didnt wrap up what I was doing in that area and leave it. Allah Ya taimake mu, muka gama abin da ya kai mu and left the place the same day, much to my relief.
So I know that at least we are very well protected against them given that one reads ayatul kursiyy into one's hand and rubs it all over one's body as many times as poss.
Quote from: HUSNAA on August 07, 2007, 08:58:44 AM
wai ina naga IBB's reference to aljanni na sallah ne? which thread was that? IBB I want to say to u that I cant believe that u didnt watch the clip. I am quite sure u did. There was nothing scary about it except that it really does look like a jinn at prayer and at the end of the clip when the side view of the carpet was shown there was what looked like the profile of a black face.
Wow I couldnt watch it my body went dead i just closed the clip instantly. Ur story is quite scary, it happen sometime u wouldnt be scared. Where was a time our car spoiled on a road at midnight so i went to get water to put in the radiator and one Jinn stopped me from fetchin da water, i told it we want to put it in a car and it started cursing so I apologise n fetch a little
Many of you have contributed your opinion on long distance relationship. I realised most of you are in the believe that it doesnt work.
I havent contribute to the topic coz i wanted to hear your opinions. From my experience, not me but some people around me, I will say it works. It depends if they like each other and they are serious. Long relationship cant work if the partners are not serious. No one will waste time and resouces for something if it is not worth it.
Love doesnt neccessary have to be there for a long relationship to exist, trust me. As long as they confortable with the character of each other, which turns to likeing. But havent fall in love and they depart each other, as long as they are thinking of taking it to the next level I mean they are serious. That relationship would survive because they will keep up communicating. However I dont believe it will survive without communication.
Quote from: HUSNAA on August 07, 2007, 08:58:44 AM
I once slept in a room full of aljannu who stood at the foot of my bed and kept staring at me. Everytime I opened my eyes, the room would be deathly quiet it was pitch black also and there was no other refuge to go to. The moment I closed them and drifted back to sleep I see them all congregated at the foot the bed and it was as if I had been transported to a marketplace because the room became so noisy. One even placed a baby at my side. The baby gurgled for a few minutes as if in play, then it suddenly got up and jumped off the bed by stepping across me and slightly jabbing me in the ribs. That happened precisely the same moment I opened my eyes, so I felt something crossing me although I couldnt see it at the time as i had opened my eyes. So I sat up and said ayatul kursiyy again rubbed it all over and went back to sleep. Only ofcourse I saw myself lying on the bed and then someone opened the door and came and sat down on a chair close to where I lay and just stared at me also. I opened my eyes again, felt the deathly quiet of the room and said ayatul kursiyy and tried to fall back asleep, unsuccessfully. This went on till asuba was called. Then I got up, went to the loo performed ablution came out and prayed subhi and only then was I able to get three hours sleep. To tell the truth although then I wasnt frightened at all, I was reluctant to spend another night in the same room and I knew I would have to do that if I didnt wrap up what I was doing in that area and leave it. Allah Ya taimake mu, muka gama abin da ya kai mu and left the place the same day, much to my relief.
So I know that at least we are very well protected against them given that one reads ayatul kursiyy into one's hand and rubs it all over one's body as many times as poss.
Walla yesterday nite i dint go to sleep till 4:00am after reading about your story, it was okay to read during daytime but as nite came i wished i hadn't read the story cos it all came back, i was in my room trying to hide under my duvet but kept peeking out of it every about 5seconds i was sooo scared then i did as you did by reciting ayatul kursi and passing it over my body then i took one last look at the surroundings and retired.
lol lol
Quote from: amira on August 09, 2007, 11:08:45 PM
Quote from: HUSNAA on August 07, 2007, 08:58:44 AM
I once slept in a room full of aljannu who stood at the foot of my bed and kept staring at me. Everytime I opened my eyes, the room would be deathly quiet it was pitch black also and there was no other refuge to go to. The moment I closed them and drifted back to sleep I see them all congregated at the foot the bed and it was as if I had been transported to a marketplace because the room became so noisy. One even placed a baby at my side. The baby gurgled for a few minutes as if in play, then it suddenly got up and jumped off the bed by stepping across me and slightly jabbing me in the ribs. That happened precisely the same moment I opened my eyes, so I felt something crossing me although I couldnt see it at the time as i had opened my eyes. So I sat up and said ayatul kursiyy again rubbed it all over and went back to sleep. Only ofcourse I saw myself lying on the bed and then someone opened the door and came and sat down on a chair close to where I lay and just stared at me also. I opened my eyes again, felt the deathly quiet of the room and said ayatul kursiyy and tried to fall back
asleep, unsuccessfully. This went on till asuba was called. Then I got up, went to the loo performed ablution came out and prayed subhi and only then was I able to get three hours sleep. To tell the truth although then I wasnt frightened at all, I was reluctant to spend another night in the same room and I knew I would have to do that if I didnt wrap up what I was doing in that area and leave it. Allah Ya taimake mu, muka gama abin da ya kai mu and left the place the same day, much to my relief.
So I know that at least we are very well protected against them given that one reads ayatul kursiyy into one's hand and rubs it all over one's body as many times as poss.
Walla yesterday nite i dint go to sleep till 4:00am after reading about your story, it was okay to read during daytime but as nite came i wished i hadn't read the story cos it all came back, i was in my room trying to hide under my duvet but kept peeking out of it every about 5seconds i was sooo scared then i did as you did by reciting ayatul kursi and passing it over my body then i took one last look at the surroundings and retired.
It doesnt happen like that Amira. You wouldnt know if ur room had jinn in them just like that. I didnt know the room was full of them. I went to bed directly after isha prayers the night the event happened. The moment I began to drift off, I started to see them. If they are not there, u wont see them when u begin to fall asleep or they may be the type that do not disturb ppl, so u wont see them. Do not be scared of them. If you happen to be one of those ppl who is always performing ablution before each prayer and try to keep yr self free of najasa as much as possible by thorough cleaning after u've been to the toilet (there is actually a technique for that), and yr clothes are always cleansed of najasa, you have nothing to worry from aljannu bothering u. They cant penetrate ur armor. Bayan haka kuma, akwai mala'iku specifically attached to each human who act as shields against the malice of the bad jinns. Yr greatest weapon against them is the knowledge that sai yadda Allah Yayi da su. I just tell myself that suma Allah ne Ya Hallicce su and Has total control over them, and in so far as I ask Him to Protect me against them, I will be protected.
PS. That was not the first time I have had brushes with aljannu.
Madalla for that bayani.
P.s i dint see anything i think i was just being parnoid bt thanks for the tip :)
Quote from: amira on August 10, 2007, 01:57:50 PM
Madalla for that bayani.
P.s i dint see anything i think i was just being parnoid bt thanks for the tip :)
wo wo wo, amira,its o.k. to b scared,if not for the protection allah(swt) has given us and the faith we have,u may probably
run mad.
i'm sayin this cos i've been subjected to same situation.i was sleepin on my bed when i heard someone speakin french beside my me,from my frightened translation i assumed dat the jin told her pals to leave this guy for now,igot stunned & couldn't move for some minutes,i just kept prayin and wished our ladan will call for subhi prayer early.
i think the jinn enjoys frightenin humans,therefore gettin afraid them only makes them wanna scare you more until u get mad.just stick to
the protective stuffs given to us by the prophet(saw).
Thanks kharuldeen also for your contribution, alls good ;) Allah karemu dasu amin.
Quote from: kharuldeen on August 11, 2007, 03:08:04 AM
Quote from: amira on August 10, 2007, 01:57:50 PM
Madalla for that bayani.
P.s i dint see anything i think i was just being parnoid bt thanks for the tip :)
wo wo wo, amira,its o.k. to b scared,if not for the protection allah(swt) has given us and the faith we have,u may probably
run mad.
Yeah its OK to be scared cos one cant help being scared. But its not a good thing either. Its getting scared that eventually leads to conditions of unwell as experienced by ppl who have had run ins with them. If u are not scared of them, then they become wary of the individual. Its like having a dog scent fear in a human; the dog will capitalize on those fear pheromones and become more aggressive than it otherwise would have been.
Its cool thanks again ;)
Ni dai Amira, I cant reconcile this Iya Gwaggwaro with yr persona, hehehehehehe.......
To Haj Husnaa, kin Mayar da dakin nan dai dakin Aljanu ko? lol I will change the room to "RUQIYYAH" wat do u think? He smiled
Ni ne mai bulala...lol!
Quote from: HUSNAA on August 14, 2007, 10:11:15 AM
Ni dai Amira, I cant reconcile this Iya Gwaggwaro with yr persona, hehehehehehe.......
;D ;D ko in baki ne hajiya ;D ;D
I think it can work well if both party play their part well. level of comitment also has the rol 2 play. idont mind hookin 4rm anywhere in the globe. cheers!
You know what if Allah yaso kuma akwai rabo to shikenan in kuma babu sai a tarbi gaba.