SALAM SALAM SALAAAAM
MAAAN..ITS BEEN MADD LONG.... HOW R MAH PEOPLE... AND I SEE MANY NEW ONES...YALL WELCOME!!!!
SOOOOOOOO JUST WANNA SEE PEEPS OPINIONS WHY THEY THINK ITS CRAZY FOR A GIRL (TALKING BOUT AREWA GURLS) TO MARRY A FORIENGER ...... its like all members of the family will go BEEZERK when they find out the girl is hooking up to a guy that aint from her country........
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OOOOOOK-kay people start rollin on!
Hhhhhmmmm ance ruwa baya tsami banza, is dat why u've been away for long???
QuoteHhhhhmmmm ance ruwa baya tsami banza, is dat why u've been away for long???
kai kuma ina ruwa ka da dade wanta.
well mah sister deres nothin' in it is ur chose.
i don't like it coz it helps in destroying our culture. ;D ;D ;D
i think its all depends on your family ...........but me left to me i see nothin wrong in it as long as religious(muslim for me) is there any culture that is better than addini so me i think once musulmi ne and i love him he loves me that perfect
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SALAM SALAM SALAAAAM
MAAAN..ITS BEEN MADD LONG.... HOW R MAH PEOPLE... AND I SEE MANY NEW ONES...YALL WELCOME!!!!
SOOOOOOOO JUST WANNA SEE PEEPS OPINIONS WHY THEY THINK ITS ?CRAZY FOR A GIRL (TALKING BOUT AREWA GURLS) TO MARRY A FORIENGER ...... ? its like all members of the family will go BEEZERK when they find out the girl is hooking up to a guy that aint from her country........
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OOOOOOK-kay ? people start rollin on!
Where were u all zis while, u zis gurl u 2 de yawo-yawo, u no de stay por 1 flace, where r u coming prom? Unless u tell me i 'll not answer u!
Assalamu alaikum,
There is nothing wrong in marrying a foreigner provided the person is a concious Muslim.
BUT there is no place like home.
Fula, it will be interesting to have somebody whose religion, culture, etc. matches yours', for instance a Bazazzagiya ta sami wani Bazazzagi na kwarai............... Allah (SWT) yayi jagora-amiyn.
yes medulla......i stopped coming coz my paza and moza will not let me marry ?brad pitt! AW the pain and agony..I couldnt..just couldnt come to spend time on Kano O nomore! :-/
yo mudalicious homylicious...missed yah! wassap!
hey baby gal...hey EMTL... sup kharuldeen....sup tata!
lol just to fill yah in....this aint bout me... I just noticed the whole thing when i was in nija.... and just thought yall might answer my question.... coz from what i understand itll be kindda rude if i ask elders back home....
AND I ALSO THOUGHT IF THE FORIEGNER S A GOOD MUSLIM AND IF YALL FIND WHAT YALL HAVE IN COMMON....IF U PERSUE SIMILAR INTERESTS.... I MEAN, WHAT DA DILLIO...NUTHIN BAD IN MARRYING SUCH PERSON!!!!!
BUT OTHER PEOPLE I TALKED TO JUST DONT WANNA UNDERSTAND...
"""""The fresh springing of herbs after the rains,
The glittering of flowers when the night clouds have rolled away in the hush hour between dawn and sunrise,
The plashing of waters as they run thru'
the stalks of golden blossoms,
The equisite beauty of white castles encompassed by verdant meadows____
NOT -and I repeat- NOT lovelier is any of these then union with the WELL BELOVED,
Whose character is VIRTUOS
and LAUDABLE her disposition
Whose attributes are evenly matched in perfect BEAUTY.
Truly that is a miracle of wonder surpassing the tongue of the eloquent,
And beyond the range of the most cunning speech to describe:
The mind REELS before it and the intellect stands ABASHED!!!!!!!!"""""
Yes, perharps those who do not want their sister Arewa Gurl to marry a foreigner have a stronger reason, with a stronger foundation in love, than the foreigner himself. Maybe, Maybe, Maybe..................
May Allah give us what we cherish best, may Allah bless us with the ability, mental and physical, to be able to do justice to those people we love. But the best of love we should learn to offer others is to adjust to what they wish whenever they form a wish.
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Waziri, you spoke the contents of many hearts...........
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HOOKING UP WIT A FOREGINER, BUT SOME PEOPLE SAY ITS NOT RIGHT AND ITS WRONG!
MY AUNTS FREINDS SON MARRIED A MALAYSIAN AND CAME TO LIVE IN KANO & ALL DEM HAUSAWA'Z WERE LIKE WHUTTTTTTTTTT? :o YA SHI FULANI ZAI AURO YAR MALAYSIA? ............
ERRR MECHANU....& SHARRAP TO ALL OF THEM, WHAT IS WRONG WITH A MALAYSIAN? SHEBI SHE BI MUSLIM :-/? OR DAT ONE IS IT A TABOO? ::)::)
i dont think there is any thing wrong with that, we are all humans and as long as she loves u and u love her too then ba komai.
Well well well....i think marrying a foreigner is not supported by our ppl because of the cultural differences btw the couples and once there's a difference in culture it'll affect the child's upbringing.(my opinion).Also the children of such marriages do not usually know their relatives from one side....etc etc............
But dai fulanicious i'm not discouraging you from marrying a foreigner.........feel free.....
I don't have any problems with it, but a person have to consider the future of ones children. sometimes we think we understand all that needed about one's culture but when we really think about it raising a child with two different heritage plus onother (the adopted heritage) is really hard. even raising a child where both parents are from the same heritage but the child is raised in different place or country is really an obsticle.
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There is nothing wrong in marrying a foreigner provided the person is a concious Muslim.................................................................................it will be interesting to have somebody whose religion, culture, etc. matches yours', for instance a Bazazzagiya ta sami wani Bazazzagi na kwarai............... Allah (SWT) yayi jagora-amiyn.
Salam alaik,
This is one of the thing that keeps the KNot tight! That is: - Marryin someone from the same culture, religion, .... i mean to match your partner in all ways. It's the key to a successfull marriage.
i kind of like tha idea of hookin up wit a foriener cos u r people get to diversify. if people do not accept people in to there culture they will b slo in development, eg u kno dat islam it self was brougth about though interractions wit foriegners (arabs) so .................to b continued
Fulanicious nawao, is this topic speaking ur mind???I delayed my response to see the fellows comment...
Kharuldeen was clearly against it while Ppl like Tata, babygirl, hafsy lady see nothing wrong in it. ETML, Dante and gogannaka appear to be neutral but bit cautious... Waziri, this ur gramma......mhm mhm mhm!!!
I also see nothing wrong in it wherever one find a right partner. Naturally, humans are selfish, Bakano might prefer bakano, Nija will prefer Nija. To me, this selfish attitude has to stop....We are all human...this has been happening in my family gon gon till recently.....Almost all my family marry within themselves,,,they dont marry from outside nor give out..If a little bomb will be drop within our extended family houses, I will have relative no more...any person u will count within 40 houses of mine is my blood relative, close or distant...Still my family prefer such marriage,,,,,but I veto. I think, It is a time to marry anyperson that fitted u from any where..Itstill remain personal decision as u know ur self best.
hehe whats makes u think so?
am already married with 5 kids ;D ......to a CHINESE!
i seriously think that half-asian n half black kidz r the MOST adorable things!!!!
Well, mu dai duk matan da Baba ya aura toh Iya ne, kuma duk mijin da Mama ta aura to Baba ne. so A foreigner or not a foreigner duka dai aure ai aure ne
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hehe whats makes u think so?
am already married with 5 kids ;D ......to a CHINESE!
i seriously think that ?half-asian ?n half black kidz ?r the MOST adorable things!!!!
but you know the eyes will always follow ;D ;D
QuoteFulanicious nawao, is this topic speaking ur mind???I delayed my response to see the fellows comment...
Kharuldeen was clearly against it while Ppl like Tata, babygirl, hafsy lady see nothing wrong in it. ETML, Dante and gogannaka appear to be neutral but bit cautious... Waziri, this ur gramma......mhm mhm mhm!!!
I also see nothing wrong in it wherever one find a right partner. Naturally, humans are selfish, Bakano might prefer bakano, Nija will prefer Nija. To me, this selfish attitude has to stop....We are all human...this has been happening in my family gon gon till recently.....Almost all my family marry within themselves,,,they dont marry from outside nor give out..If a little bomb will be drop within our extended family houses, I will have relative no more...any person u will count within 40 houses of mine is my blood relative, close or distant...Still my family prefer such marriage,,,,,but I veto. I think, It is a time to marry anyperson that fitted u from any where..Itstill remain personal decision as u know ur self best.
Mhm, Ali God don catch you today. Tell us who you are marrying, you a Nigerian living in United Kingdom. Are you marrying a foreigner or a Nigerian or even among those cousins of yours who are forty houses away from your house and yet are your relative????????? .
Make sure you tell the truth or else I will tell the truth ma self ;D ;D ;D
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Mhm, Ali God don catch you today. Tell us who you are marrying, you a Nigerian living in United Kingdom. Are you marrying a foreigner or a Nigerian or even among those cousins of yours who are forty houses away from your house and yet are your relative????????? .
Make sure you tell the truth or else I will tell the truth ma self ;D ;D ;D
Mhm Mhm...Pls. waziri, spare me some degree of introversin...The truth is I can marry from any where and any one who deemed to be a perfect partner for my self. I dont care if a foriener or not. Emphatatically, I see no blame marrying a foreigner, so far diligence scurtunity and projection are observed...
LOL Ali kenan. So you can marry from anywhere but at the moment you are marrying from somewhere in rrstrictions ko??????????
Yes, resurrecting an old thread.
I met a an online friend sometime early this year
and she was asking me that she got a white boy
friend who is proposing to marry her. She is asking
if she is doing the right thing?
I told her I have no objection to the proposal from
her boy friend and this depends on her lifestyle.
Because so many of our children were born there
and all there lifestyle is western. How can you ask
this group of people that they shouldnt go ahead
and marry foreigners.
Amma those of us who are there for chi rani and only
stayed there for a year or long and willing to come
back home for the damina, i think its no good to come
home with a foreigner.
Whatever the case - do what is good for you and
your family, marriage entails so many things.
Ashsha! Dan-Borno ai kuwa ni dai zan taho maka da 'yar Faranshi (France). Ko baka lamince ba?
All that is important is there love and respect between both partners.
For analytical purposes, I think this topic is unique if we are to take the advantages and the disadvantages, one by one. However, I believe in what Danborno said that if one is outside and have been staying there for a long, then he can hook up with a foreigner, at least for conveniency sake.
Now, we all know that all humans come from the Almighty and that marriage is also part of our destiny. Therefore, if it was destined for one to have a foreigner as a life patner, no body change that to suit his purpose. The believe is that The Almighty has since created your upsrings even before you got married.
The genesis of marrying from home, I think started with the refusal by some tribes to marry those not from their own. Some refuse to get married to others on religious grounds, and also social identities. There is always the believe that when a husband of a foreign wife dies, the tendency is that she will pack all the kids and return to her base, thereby depriving the husbands family, the children forever.
Me, I prefer 'yar gida. For so many reasons. I won't go into the pros and cons (don't feel like it), however, suffice it to say that while it is not a 'crime' to marry a foreigner, it is much much advisable to avoid it, it it can be helped.
The most important thing to consider when marrying outside the home turf is that the two ppl are of the same religious affiliation, or that they marry according to what is made halal under Islamic Sharia. If this is adhered to, marry a Martian for all I care.
Cultural difference is also something that need be taking into account when hooking outside ur race...
Sometime that a lone can be problem that will break you up later...