From the proceedings of an earlier topic "in search for the missing Ribs", i can still see that Girls always reserves their affections. They mostly cant approach a Guy when they have feelings for Him, even at the expense of their lives. I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad. Why shouldnt the forum and the society at large lunch a rigorous and vehement campaign to encourage girls into expressing their feelings when the need arise. :'(
Quote from: Lawwali on October 30, 2007, 09:31:26 AM
From the proceedings of an earlier topic "in search for the missing Ribs", i can still see that Girls always reserves their affections. They mostly cant approach a Guy when they have feelings for Him, even at the expense of their lives. I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad. Why shouldnt the forum and the society at large lunch a rigorous and vehement campaign to encourage girls into expressing their feelings when the need arise. :'(
lawallı you know as ladıes we have to carry that name along wıth us. do u know that ıts serıously embarrasıng when a gırl ıs beıng told she ıs not actıng lıke a lady?(zagı ne to me) habba aı as ladıes we should be modest ne kawaı. on the other hand yaran yanzu ba abında basuyı about your sıster hmmmm... was once ın her shoes. ıts hard for us cuz we are soft mınded ALLAH ne yayı mu haka bawaı yın mu bane. ıs not lyk u dont wanna go up to that guy ur feelıng so bad. u want to go and tell that guy how u feel but you jst cant because some men are mean. thy could use that agaınst you some day. amma na serıous desease not beıng able to show ur feelıngsş hıdıng them ınseıde for only GOD knows how long. ıts kıllıng man. but hey we are ladıes..........
You see Lawwalli one thing u should consider is that women have pride. Every woman has that element of Jan'aji a tattare da ita. Its normal. You don't just expect them to submit themselves to you like that bcos you will consider them cheap and eventually sai ka rena mata hankali. I think guys should know that they do that bcos they have an interest to protect. I am nt advocating for them to engage in jan'aji or class struggle. For if its too much they end up in quandary and premature perdition of hopelessness. Lafs!!!I remain loyal
Quote from: hafsee on October 30, 2007, 10:20:47 AM
Quote from: Lawwali on October 30, 2007, 09:31:26 AM
From the proceedings of an earlier topic "in search for the missing Ribs", i can still see that Girls always reserves their affections. They mostly cant approach a Guy when they have feelings for Him, even at the expense of their lives. I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad. Why shouldnt the forum and the society at large lunch a rigorous and vehement campaign to encourage girls into expressing their feelings when the need arise. :'(
lawallı you know as ladıes we have to carry that name along wıth us. do u know that ıts serıously embarrasıng when a gırl ıs beıng told she ıs not actıng lıke a lady?(zagı ne to me) habba aı as ladıes we should be modest ne kawaı. on the other hand yaran yanzu ba abında basuyı about your sıster hmmmm... was once ın her shoes. ıts hard for us cuz we are soft mınded ALLAH ne yayı mu haka bawaı yın mu bane. ıs not lyk u dont wanna go up to that guy ur feelıng so bad. u want to go and tell that guy how u feel but you jst cant because some men are mean. thy could use that agaınst you some day. amma na serıous desease not beıng able to show ur feelıngsş hıdıng them ınseıde for only GOD knows how long. ıts kıllıng man. but hey we are ladıes..........
My naughty friend Hafsy! Welcome. It has been a long time since I passed comment in ur post. My sister, all what u said is right. But if I may ask what d u mean by some men are mean? Pls expatiate on that if u would not mind.
Quote from: hafsee on October 30, 2007, 10:20:47 AM
Quote from: Lawwali on October 30, 2007, 09:31:26 AM
From the proceedings of an earlier topic "in search for the missing Ribs", i can still see that Girls always reserves their affections. They mostly cant approach a Guy when they have feelings for Him, even at the expense of their lives. I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad. Why shouldnt the forum and the society at large lunch a rigorous and vehement campaign to encourage girls into expressing their feelings when the need arise. :'(
lawallı you know as ladıes we have to carry that name along wıth us. do u know that ıts serıously embarrasıng when a gırl ıs beıng told she ıs not actıng lıke a lady?(zagı ne to me) habba aı as ladıes we should be modest ne kawaı. on the other hand yaran yanzu ba abında basuyı about your sıster hmmmm... was once ın her shoes. ıts hard for us cuz we are soft mınded ALLAH ne yayı mu haka bawaı yın mu bane. ıs not lyk u dont wanna go up to that guy ur feelıng so bad. u want to go and tell that guy how u feel but you jst cant because some men are mean. thy could use that agaınst you some day. amma na serıous desease not beıng able to show ur feelıngsş hıdıng them ınseıde for only GOD knows how long. ıts kıllıng man. but hey we are ladıes..........
Well, like your tread says "in search of the missing rib" The woman is naturally very shy which hinders her from alotta lifes thrills, but that is the way it is supposed to be. It is said that when Adam and Hauwa where roaming the earth looking for each other, she found him first and couldnt come forward to him for a number of years till he found her himself. SO dont blame the modern lady or your sister afterall, our mother was even greater.
HOwever, times have changed drastically, and honestly, men have pride too. As for "using it against", it is used against men everyday. Considering our distribution in gender and number, and the way the world is all out every man for himself. Everyone needs to go out for what he wants, hence the large population of women educated and working, hence the struggle for political power, women right and all...be careful what you wish for, cuz u just might have it. I'm not against any of the above, but since women rub shoulders in struggle, they might as well just fo for what they want
As for men who take advantage in a wrong way over this, or who would "raina mata wayo" they dont deserve the feeling associated to them, now she knows, life goes on. The man has endured this for so long, today we are growing....whats that word....EQUAL!
NO insult or harm intended anywhere
Peace be on u all
You know all what hafsee said about modesty and not seeming to be too forward is true. This has been the case from time immemorial, maybe from Nana Hauwa'u possibly. This thing also cuts across all cultures. Its not only in our society that women hide how they feel about a man unless he makes the first move. It has something to do with being modest and having kunya, which are attributes associated with a woman.
On the other hand, if a woman really feels for a man and he has no way of knowing, then she can use women's ready tricks to attract his attention. Like for example, she could get some old women (who are known to have some licence for saying their minds due to the greatness of their ages and no one would misinterprete or misrepresent their meanings) to make subtle suggestions to the man.. like if he is looking for a marriage partner, has he considered the daughters of wane kaza... especially wance kaza? At the very least, the next time he sees the girl, he will pay some attention to her. It is up to her to take advantage of that attention with good manners and good behavior.. who knows? He might find he is interested and didnt really consider it, or he might find that the girl is really good looking and he never really looked...
That is just one way.. and it is a halal way as well.
Sometime is just fear of rejection, that will really break a woman into pieces..
Quote from: Lawwali on October 30, 2007, 09:31:26 AM
I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad.
Eyyah!! poor gal. She will find someone her heart will be comfortable with. You know Allah blessed women with soft heart.
As per encouraging the ladies to express their feeling, I will also suggest the guys should be encourage to accept and not disrespect the ladies that would do that as well as not take advantage. If no like be diplomatic about it
Quote from: Nuruddeen on October 30, 2007, 10:25:02 AM
You see Lawwalli one thing u should consider is that women have pride. Every woman has that element of Jan'aji a tattare da ita. Its normal.
Quote from: Myself on October 30, 2007, 06:08:08 PM
Sometime is just fear of rejection, that will really break a woman into pieces..
To ashe ba jan aji bane kenan, ko?
Quote from: Nuruddeen on October 30, 2007, 10:31:12 AM
Quote from: hafsee on October 30, 2007, 10:20:47 AM
Quote from: Lawwali on October 30, 2007, 09:31:26 AM
From the proceedings of an earlier topic "in search for the missing Ribs", i can still see that Girls always reserves their affections. They mostly cant approach a Guy when they have feelings for Him, even at the expense of their lives. I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad. Why shouldnt the forum and the society at large lunch a rigorous and vehement campaign to encourage girls into expressing their feelings when the need arise. :'(
lawallı you know as ladıes we have to carry that name along wıth us. do u know that ıts serıously embarrasıng when a gırl ıs beıng told she ıs not actıng lıke a lady?(zagı ne to me) habba aı as ladıes we should be modest ne kawaı. on the other hand yaran yanzu ba abında basuyı about your sıster hmmmm... was once ın her shoes. ıts hard for us cuz we are soft mınded ALLAH ne yayı mu haka bawaı yın mu bane. ıs not lyk u dont wanna go up to that guy ur feelıng so bad. u want to go and tell that guy how u feel but you jst cant because some men are mean. thy could use that agaınst you some day. amma na serıous desease not beıng able to show ur feelıngsş hıdıng them ınseıde for only GOD knows how long. ıts kıllıng man. but hey we are ladıes..........
My naughty friend Hafsy! Welcome. It has been a long time since I passed comment in ur post. My sister, all what u said is right. But if I may ask what d u mean by some men are mean? Pls expatiate on that if u would not mind.
hey wassup when ı saıd some men are mean ı mean that thy can be wıcked.
Quote from: HUSNAA on October 30, 2007, 05:24:03 PM
On the other hand, if a woman really feels for a man and he has no way of knowing, then she can use women's ready tricks to attract his attention. Like for example, she could get some old women (who are known to have some licence for saying their minds due to the greatness of their ages and no one would misinterprete or misrepresent their meanings) to make subtle suggestions to the man..
Well said Husnaa
Besides i do think the thing has a lot to do with genetic makeup. Ladies have that ability to tolerate and persevere. A man that loves a lady will never put the white flag up until he achieves his aim or loses out completely. A lady can stay her whole life loving you without you ever knowing. She can as well stay with you her whole life without you knowing she doesnt love you.
Quote from: Myself on October 30, 2007, 06:08:08 PM
Sometime is just fear of rejection, that will really break a woman into pieces..
It is a long time since last I heard of a true statement. Please keep on..........
Salam.
I think it has to do with culture and tradition...and maybe a little bit of being ladylike,which of course is what is expected of a woman in our culture after all if we keep religion aside,like assuming there was no Islam in the north,the tradition and culture of a Hausa man does not really give much breathing space to a woman.If for instance a girl should ask a man out,he will begin to wonder why(maybe ba mai santa or maybe yer iska ce)because it is soooo unusual for the Hausa people.Women of other tribes do ask a man out.
The three things a Hausa woman might do are:
1. Tell him to his face about her feelings(if she is more exposed or if the man is more exposed)
2. Show him how much she cares by other means but indirectly.She will do what ever she can to make him approach her without him or anyone realizing that she actually led the way.
3. Or she could decide not to do any of the above and keep her secrete to her self.now that is very painful but she will do it anyway for reasons best known to her.
Most Hausa women will do the last two
Although all that's to be said have already been yet I find it of little significance to say a bit more on the topic which is being a topic of hot debate for ages among ladies and guys.
Let me first of all recommend one expression that attract me most, though there are other meaningful ones but this one, I can say, is the most well said one TO ME. Good!
Quote from: Myself on October 30, 2007, 06:08:08 PM
Sometime is just fear of rejection, that will really break a woman into pieces..
Eventually, from the responses, I learnt some potion is missed unintentionally or rather unnoticed. And this is the fact that even some men find it very heavy and difficult to express their inner feelings to ladies. Don't urge because I myself (embrassed :-[) have once undergone such situation. Why? I don't know why. That is why, in my unpublished novel (A Weird Hope) I describe the word love as the most difficult to pronounce by all mouths and I mean it. I have never, though am never been in love, ever pronounce it notwithstanding the fact am rational not irrational, understand this Xpression?
Lots actually needs to be said but unfortunately time won't let. Any way, wish am on the line.
Thanks.
Quote from: Muhsin on November 01, 2007, 02:52:19 PM
Although all that's to be said have already been yet I find it of little significance to say a bit more on the topic which is being a topic of hot debate for ages among ladies and guys.
Let me first of all recommend one expression that attract me most, though there are other meaningful ones but this one, I can say, is the most well said one TO ME. Good!
Quote from: Myself on October 30, 2007, 06:08:08 PM
Sometime is just fear of rejection, that will really break a woman into pieces..
Eventually, from the responses, I learnt some potion is missed unintentionally or rather unnoticed. And this is the fact that even some men find it very heavy and difficult to express their inner feelings to ladies. Don't urge because I myself (embrassed :-[) have once undergone such situation. Why? I don't know why. That is why, in my unpublished novel (A Weird Hope) I describe the word love as the most difficult to pronounce by all mouths and I mean it. I have never, though am never been in love, ever pronounce it notwithstanding the fact am rational not irrational, understand this Xpression?
Lots actually needs to be said but unfortunately time won't let. Any way, wish am on the line.
Thanks.
Mallam Muhsin I think there is nothing difficult in describing the word LOVE. Literally, it is considerd as affection, care or concern shown to anybody. But this definition seems to me, too vague and falls short of conveying the real meaning of the word under discussion. I said it times without number that this word LOVE does not exist. If a lady for instance happens to fall in love with a guy, what she is interested in him are certain qualities such as talent, skill, brilliance, wealth and/or materialism. There must be a quality in him that she identifies,which lures her into falling in the so-called LOVE. But I know many people have different perception and understanding of the word. A typical case of this was a scenario and an unfortunate incidence that happened to a very good friend of mine. He got married to a lady when he was working in NNPC. The girl pretended as if he was the only person that she loves in the world. But as destiny would have it,my friend was sacked from the oil company. By the time she realised that his money has started going down, she developed absolute hatred for him. What a balderdash Muhsin! So in this case, the girl loved him bcs of his dough but not bos of who he is-MATERIALISM.I will subsequently furnish u with the things women do these days but with due apology to our learned ladies in this forum.
Quote from: Bee on November 01, 2007, 12:14:58 PM
Salam.
I think it has to do with culture and tradition...and maybe a little bit of being ladylike,which of course is what is expected of a woman in our culture after all if we keep religion aside,like assuming there was no Islam in the north,the tradition and culture of a Hausa man does not really give much breathing space to a woman.If for instance a girl should ask a man out,he will begin to wonder why(maybe ba mai santa or maybe yer iska ce)because it is soooo unusual for the Hausa people.Women of other tribes do ask a man out. The three things a Hausa woman might do are:
1. Tell him to his face about her feelings(if she is more exposed or if the man is more exposed)
2. Show him how much she cares by other means but indirectly.She will do what ever she can to make him approach her without him or anyone realizing that she actually led the way.
3. Or she could decide not to do any of the above and keep her secrete to her self.now that is very painful but she will do it anyway for reasons best known to her. Most Hausa women will do the last two
From all indications, this bee is a queen bee not a drone!! welcome aboard sister!
Quote from: sadiq on November 01, 2007, 11:19:36 AM
Besides i do think the thing has a lot to do with genetic makeup. Ladies have that ability to tolerate and persevere. A man that loves a lady will never put the white flag up until he achieves his aim or loses out completely. A lady can stay her whole life loving you without you ever knowing. She can as well stay with you her whole life without you knowing she doesnt love you.
kai! i think it is possible for a woman to stay her whole life loving a person and his never knowing it. But I cant quite agree that she can stay with a person her whole life while detesting him and he not being aware of it. Its simply not possible. it cant happen and it doesnt happen. Once a woman detests a man, she feels like a caged bird that wants to fly for freedom!.... GEE.......... simply impossible not to show her aversion..brrrrrrrrr...
Quote from: Muhsin on November 01, 2007, 02:52:19 PM
And this is the fact that even some men find it very heavy and difficult to express their inner feelings to ladies. Don't urge because I myself (embrassed :-[) have once undergone such situation. Why? I don't know why. T
Muhsin, u are correct. Its not only men who find it difficult to express that inexpressible word. Yes I know what u mean. Unless its really from the heart, its difficult to utter that word to any person in the world... except one's kids of course, but that is a totally different kind of love.
Oh thanks so much Husnaa.You are about the only person who realizes i am a woman!
lol u are very welcome.. looking forward to great contributions from u!!
Quote from: Nuruddeen link=topic=3388.msg33517#msg33517
color=blue]Mallam Muhsin I think there is nothing difficult in describing the word LOVE. Literally, it is considerd as affection, care or concern shown to anybody. But this definition seems to me, too vague and falls short of conveying the real meaning of the word under discussion.
Malam
Nurudden, I don't think the main gist of my words because I wasn't saying it's non-descipt word but am saying it's really hard and hard to easily be uttered.
Quote from: Nuruddeen link=topic=3388.msg33517#msg33517 . I said it times without number that this word LOVE does not exist.
/quote]
I really does. And this is apparent, isn't it?
[quote author=HUSNAA link=topic=3388.msg33521#msg33521
Muhsin, u are correct. Its not only men who find it difficult to express that inexpressible word. Yes I know what u mean. Unless its really from the heart, its difficult to utter that word to any person in the world... except one's kids of course, but that is a totally different kind of love.
Haka yake!
Quote from: Bee on November 01, 2007, 12:14:58 PM
Salam.
I think it has to do with culture and tradition...and maybe a little bit of being ladylike,which of course is what is expected of a woman in our culture after all if we keep religion aside,like assuming there was no Islam in the north,the tradition and culture of a Hausa man does not really give much breathing space to a woman.If for instance a girl should ask a man out,he will begin to wonder why(maybe ba mai santa or maybe yer iska ce)because it is soooo unusual for the Hausa people.Women of other tribes do ask a man out.
The three things a Hausa woman might do are:
1. Tell him to his face about her feelings(if she is more exposed or if the man is more exposed)
2. Show him how much she cares by other means but indirectly.She will do what ever she can to make him approach her without him or anyone realizing that she actually led the way.
3. Or she could decide not to do any of the above and keep her secrete to her self.now that is very painful but she will do it anyway for reasons best known to her.
Most Hausa women will do the last two
Well said. Amma abin ya fara canzawa fa, may be saboda zamani, ko boko.
Anyway, I'd rather the first one. Ba noke noke.
In search of a missing rib?!?!?! Dude,please.Lay off that fantasy,for your heart's sake.Unless,of course,your perfect little world's override reality.
*Dead*
Love is wayyyyy overrated anyway..
I'm strongly not of the opinion that bottling up one's feelings is strongly related to a sense of man/womanhood or pride!!! I mean ,seriously,woudn't life wudda been a lot easier if people(women especially) express how they feel? Since when was a coal the new beige? On a second thought though,I think it may have alot to do with a cultural context.I think the Hausa culture,which's to large degree derived from Arabic culture,really exagerrates feminity.And the firmly rigid nature of the culture in question means that gender roles are strictly pronounced,thereby strenghtening the stereotypical social conditioning associated with either gender.I say,if you like him go for him.Ain't nothing wrong that.Nothing ,hun!
Quote from: Bee on November 01, 2007, 12:14:58 PM
Salam.
I think it has to do with culture and tradition...and maybe a little bit of being ladylike,which of course is what is expected of a woman in our culture after all if we keep religion aside,like assuming there was no Islam in the north,the tradition and culture of a Hausa man does not really give much breathing space to a woman.If for instance a girl should ask a man out,he will begin to wonder why(maybe ba mai santa or maybe yer iska ce)because it is soooo unusual for the Hausa people.Women of other tribes do ask a man out.
The three things a Hausa woman might do are:
1. Tell him to his face about her feelings(if she is more exposed or if the man is more exposed)
2. Show him how much she cares by other means but indirectly.She will do what ever she can to make him approach her without him or anyone realizing that she actually led the way.
3. Or she could decide not to do any of the above and keep her secrete to her self.now that is very painful but she will do it anyway for reasons best known to her.
Most Hausa women will do the last two
Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote from: HUSNAA on October 30, 2007, 05:24:03 PM
Like for example, she could get some old women (who are known to have some licence for saying their minds due to the greatness of their ages and no one would misinterprete or misrepresent their meanings) to make subtle suggestions to the man.. like if he is looking for a marriage partner, has he considered the daughters of wane kaza... especially wance kaza? At the very least, the next time he sees the girl, he will pay some attention to her. It is up to her to take advantage of that attention with good manners and good behavior.. who knows? He might find he is interested and didnt really consider it, or he might find that the girl is really good looking and he never really looked...
That is just one way.. and it is a halal way as well.
You know this old lady thing could actually work but (and a huge BUT); It could backfire as well.
Case 1Especially in families like mine that Auren Gida is preferred, I can imagine
a girl going to maybe her granny or an old woman who has standing to do
such for her and she may get the response:
"Ke in ban da abinki, ba ga dan gidan kawun ki ba shima yana nema? Me wancan
ya fi shi? Ya fi shi kyau ne ko ya fi shi wayewa. Ki manta da shi mana ga dan uwan
ki nan. Kin ga tuwo na mai na. Zan turo mi ki shi an jima." Typical. That's how they'd
push you to someone else and before you know it you'd end up with the wrong person.
If you try to wriggle out they'd tell you "kin fi san bare fiya da dan uwa?" if you still
persist they may even cut ties with your parents. So the poor girl, in the interest of
keeping her family united and not being the cause of a conflict between her parents and
the entire extended family, will agree and probably be miserable for a loooooong time!
Case 2You know how old ladies always sit together a tsakar gida ko kuma ana daka suna hira
da surutu. eh hen, idan dai hira ta yi dadi the person you tell can accidently let it slip
and depending on who you tell it can be misinterpreted and taken for what it isn't.
Little talk like "Ita dai ta shiga uku. Yanzu ta zama kwantai tana rokon a hada ta da dan
gidan wane". And then the whole issue about "ba ta da kunya" and "Ai yar bariki ce, ina
ta san tarbiyya?" will arise.
Of Course these may not happen but I'm just saying one should be wary that these are
possibilities that may arise if (and only if) it backfires
Quote from: Lawwali on October 30, 2007, 09:31:26 AM
From the proceedings of an earlier topic "in search for the missing Ribs", i can still see that Girls always reserves their affections. They mostly cant approach a Guy when they have feelings for Him, even at the expense of their lives. I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad. Why shouldnt the forum and the society at large lunch a rigorous and vehement campaign to encourage girls into expressing their feelings when the need arise. :'(
You see people have different reasons for not being upfront. My reason for this
would be not only be about the whole "girls should be modest" thing but also
because I most certainly dont want to be feeding the man's ego. So you tell the
person that you have feelings for him, his head swells bigger than a kabewa and
he goes to his friends and brags about how you are crazy over him, how his social
status has risen and how he can even choose which girl he wants because he is
oh so irresistable *rolls eyes* (Not that I would fall for anyone as immature as that
but I'm just saying). I know not every man is like that but hey, I dont want to risk it.
If, God forbid, the girl falls for a man that happens to be pervert he may even take
advantage of her. I can imagine after this people will tell her "ba ke kika ce kina son
shi ba? Wai ke kin waye ko? ai ga maganin ki nan". Also, there is a possibility that
assuming they end up together and they have a misunderstanding the man can decide
to make her life miserable by justify his wrongdoings by saying "Dama ba ni na ce ina
son ki ba, ke ki ka ce kina so na".
______________________________
People that are saying girls should be more open, why do you say so? To make your job
easier as a man, is it? Well I'm of the opinion that if the men want the girls to be more
open then they themselves have to cut the girls a little more slack. If the motive for
wanting girls to be less reserved is to make us all more like equals then you should be
ready to give the girls other rights in the household for instance; areas like decision making.
So it's a two way thing. You can't want the girls to be more open if you are still going to
make them feel less powerful than you. There can only be harmony when both parties agree
that they are going to engage in a mutual agreement where they both respect each other
equally, make decisions together and when they both hold an equal status - No more talk of
one being superior to the other. If that is not achieved, then the subject of girls being more
open is rather impractical - especially in our society, oh Northerners.
Quote from: Fateez on November 04, 2007, 05:12:14 PM
Quote from: HUSNAA on October 30, 2007, 05:24:03 PM
Like for example, she could get some old women (who are known to have some licence for saying their minds due to the greatness of their ages and no one would misinterprete or misrepresent their meanings) to make subtle suggestions to the man.. like if he is looking for a marriage partner, has he considered the daughters of wane kaza... especially wance kaza? At the very least, the next time he sees the girl, he will pay some attention to her. It is up to her to take advantage of that attention with good manners and good behavior.. who knows? He might find he is interested and didnt really consider it, or he might find that the girl is really good looking and he never really looked...
That is just one way.. and it is a halal way as well.
You know this old lady thing could actually work but (and a huge BUT); It could backfire as well.
Case 1
Especially in families like mine that Auren Gida is preferred, I can imagine
a girl going to maybe her granny or an old woman who has standing to do
such for her and she may get the response:
"Ke in ban da abinki, ba ga dan gidan kawun ki ba shima yana nema? Me wancan
ya fi shi? Ya fi shi kyau ne ko ya fi shi wayewa. Ki manta da shi mana ga dan uwan
ki nan. Kin ga tuwo na mai na. Zan turo mi ki shi an jima." Typical. That's how they'd
push you to someone else and before you know it you'd end up with the wrong person.
If you try to wriggle out they'd tell you "kin fi san bare fiya da dan uwa?" if you still
persist they may even cut ties with your parents. So the poor girl, in the interest of
keeping her family united and not being the cause of a conflict between her parents and
the entire extended family, will agree and probably be miserable for a loooooong time!
Case 2
You know how old ladies always sit together a tsakar gida ko kuma ana daka suna hira
da surutu. eh hen, idan dai hira ta yi dadi the person you tell can accidently let it slip
and depending on who you tell it can be misinterpreted and taken for what it isn't.
Little talk like "Ita dai ta shiga uku. Yanzu ta zama kwantai tana rokon a hada ta da dan
gidan wane". And then the whole issue about "ba ta da kunya" and "Ai yar bariki ce, ina
ta san tarbiyya?" will arise.
Of Course these may not happen but I'm just saying one should be wary that these are
possibilities that may arise if (and only if) it backfires
Fateez! where una day go hide dis long time?? wuna too welcome fa!!
OK to get back to biznes
OK if ur house dem too like auren couzins, then make una no gist di tin to ur granmama. find one old woman whom u know is not affiliated to the family, but is friendly with yr family. At least she go go carry message kuku hopefully. Secondly yes there is always that slip of the tongue issue, especially in hira tayi dadi. But hey! would you let that stand in the way of getting yr heart's desire? think about it. If akayi maganar and one calls u a maras kunya, its only for the moment and the meantime. Once u have achieved yr heart's desire (ie the man), he is for KEEPS remember! FOREVER! You will be together long after an manta da zancen ma! Kuma if the aure is very successful, there will be pride on the part of the little old lady who agreed to the little contrivance. In fact the way the old folks are, she will forget that she wasnt the initiator and swear that she had felt the inevitability of the match in her bones like her recurrent rhuematism! hehehehe! ;D ;D ;D
On the other hand if kika biye ma ta zancen wai rashin kunya, u will languish in regret long after the dear old folks have departed for the nether regions and left u with ciza dan yatsa and making do with what u got left with.... ;D
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 04, 2007, 07:35:54 PM
Fateez! where una day go hide dis long time?? wuna too welcome fa!!
OK to get back to biznes
OK if ur house dem too like auren couzins, then make una no gist di tin to ur granmama. find one old woman whom u know is not affiliated to the family, but is friendly with yr family. At least she go go carry message kuku hopefully. Secondly yes there is always that slip of the tongue issue, especially in hira tayi dadi. But hey! would you let that stand in the way of getting yr heart's desire? think about it. If akayi maganar and one calls u a maras kunya, its only for the moment and the meantime. Once u have achieved yr heart's desire (ie the man), he is for KEEPS remember! FOREVER! You will be together long after an manta da zancen ma! Kuma if the aure is very successful, there will be pride on the part of the little old lady who agreed to the little contrivance. In fact the way the old folks are, she will forget that she wasnt the initiator and swear that she had felt the inevitability of the match in her bones like her recurrent rhuematism! hehehehe! ;D ;D ;D
On the other hand if kika biye ma ta zancen wai rashin kunya, u will languish in regret long after the dear old folks have departed for the nether regions and left u with ciza dan yatsa and making do with what u got left with.... ;D
Heheheheehehehehehehehehe! Recurrent Rheumatism! That was funny.
I hope the girls heed to your advice becuase it may actually be a good idea.
Thank you! I have been working hard to make a living. U know say these
days life no easy. Everything just dey costly. To even manage put my pikins
for school. Anyway we thank God. U know God talk say person must suffer
before enjoyment. Ehen, na the suffer I dey suffer now. I hope say enjoyment
no too far away 8) 8) 8) 8)
Amin Fateez.
It is just natural for women to reserve their affection for a man.
Idan mace na son ka za ka gane haka idan bata so.
Does anyone here believe in telepathy?
If the affection is genuine then za ka ji a jikinka.
Quote from: gogannaka on November 11, 2007, 12:54:13 AM
Amin Fateez.
It is just natural for women to reserve their affection for a man.
Idan mace na son ka za ka gane haka idan bata so.
Does anyone here believe in telepathy?
If the affection is genuine then za ka ji a jikinka.
well, ggnk i am not DOCTOR LOVE, amma is not natural for girls to hide that affection, but rather they
capability to hide it. I can prescribe some drugs for u that can make u knw
TELEPATHTICALLY......................but for girls affection gaskia they r like a BALL with no sides and can
change.
anytime.
Quote from: Muhsin on November 01, 2007, 02:52:19 PM
Eventually, from the responses, I learnt some potion is missed unintentionally or rather unnoticed. And this is the fact that even some men find it very heavy and difficult to express their inner feelings to ladies. Don't urge because I myself (embrassed :-[) have once undergone such situation. Why? I don't know why. That is why, in my unpublished novel (A Weird Hope) I describe the word love as the most difficult to pronounce by all mouths and I mean it. I have never, though am never been in love, ever pronounce it notwithstanding the fact am rational not irrational, understand this Xpression?
Lots actually needs to be said but unfortunately time won't let. Any way, wish am on the line.
Thanks.
Haba Mushin, How can you never be inlove in your life before? And be a victim of finding it hard to pronounce? To who then? Check yourself brother!
People, you have been enjoying yourselves i can see that, i have been away for a while, you guys know that from experience i'm build for this kind of conversation. So please can anybody pls summarise the whole idea?
Muda, in summary,why do you think girls reserve their affection towards men.
When a girl loves or has a crush on someone she finds it difficult to express it or show the guy.Meyasa?
Quote from: gogannaka on November 12, 2007, 09:04:04 AM
Muda, in summary,why do you think girls reserve their affection towards men.
When a girl loves or has a crush on someone she finds it difficult to express it or show the guy.Meyasa?
Assalamu alaikum,
Gogannaka, although you asked Muda but permit me to contribute, please.
I think it is the nature of ladies, it is something natural, remember as somebody mentioned earlier Adam (AS) went looking for Eve (AS)....
And courage is another aspect.. a man can take a NO!!! as an answer, though will also feel bad it but could manage that blow, but that would be devastating to a lady.
When we were in the Uni a lady un-expectedly send a message to a course mate that she liked him........ i pity the guy, she was probably his first girl friend..... within days the guy was something else instead of 'differentiation' he was carrying out 'integration' of a function.
Moreover, when Allah was describing Love in the Glorious Qur'an in Suratul Al imran the Almighty and Wise says........
"Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: women and sons; heaped-up hoards of gold and silver; horses branded (for blood and excellence); and (wealth of) cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this world's life; but in nearness to Allah is the best of the goals (to return to)." Quran (3:14)
Quote from: EMTL on November 12, 2007, 11:55:08 AM
Quote from: gogannaka on November 12, 2007, 09:04:04 AM
Muda, in summary,why do you think girls reserve their affection towards men.
When a girl loves or has a crush on someone she finds it difficult to express it or show the guy.Meyasa?
Assalamu alaikum,
Gogannaka, although you asked Muda but permit me to contribute, please.
I think it is the nature of ladies, it is something natural, remember as somebody mentioned earlier Adam (AS) went looking for Eve (AS)....
And courage is another aspect.. a man can take a NO!!! as an answer, though will also feel bad it but could manage that blow, but that would be devastating to a lady.
When we were in the Uni a lady un-expectedly send a message to a course mate that she liked him........ i pity the guy, she was probably his first girl friend..... within days the guy was something else instead of 'differentiation' he was carrying out 'integration' of a function.
Moreover, when Allah was describing Love in the Glorious Qur'an in Suratul Al imran the Almighty and Wise says........ "Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: women and sons; heaped-up hoards of gold and silver; horses branded (for blood and excellence); and (wealth of) cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this world's life; but in nearness to Allah is the best of the goals (to return to)." Quran (3:14)
EMTL, i equally want to believe it is neutral, but why is it so only to the Girls in this part of the world ( Hausas penisulla)
To all i can say is that haka Allah yayimu ko ba haka ba, some girls are able to show their feelings up front whilst others are unable. As someone mentioned before you dont want to go up front to a guy releasing what ever is in your heart as that can make him big headed, (believe me i see it happen) ko kuma yayi ta yawo da hankalin yarinyar or just total rejection, and yes it does take us a while to let go or heal from this rejection.
So thats why you see some girls take the easy option until they have found the one and then it just goes on from there.
Quote from: amira on November 18, 2007, 01:17:12 AM
To all i can say is that haka Allah yayimu ko ba haka ba, some girls are able to show their feelings up front whilst others are unable. As someone mentioned before you dont want to go up front to a guy releasing what ever is in your heart as that can make him big headed, (believe me i see it happen) ko kuma yayi ta yawo da hankalin yarinyar or just total rejection, and yes it does take us a while to let go or heal from this rejection.
So thats why you see some girls take the easy option until they have found the one and then it just goes on from there.
ı tottaly second you on thıs ıssue. rıght behıng your back gurl. not the one that u tell a guy hey ur cute ı kında lyk you. and bcus sum guys are so chıldısh ı saıd SOME they swell up and take advantage. so.... wats a poor gırl to do
Quote from: hafsee on November 19, 2007, 07:46:47 AM
Quote from: amira on November 18, 2007, 01:17:12 AM
To all i can say is that haka Allah yayimu ko ba haka ba, some girls are able to show their feelings up front whilst others are unable. As someone mentioned before you dont want to go up front to a guy releasing what ever is in your heart as that can make him big headed, (believe me i see it happen) ko kuma yayi ta yawo da hankalin yarinyar or just total rejection, and yes it does take us a while to let go or heal from this rejection.
So thats why you see some girls take the easy option until they have found the one and then it just goes on from there.
ı tottaly second you on thıs ıssue. rıght behıng your back gurl. not the one that u tell a guy hey ur cute ı kında lyk you. and bcus sum guys are so chıldısh ı saıd SOME they swell up and take advantage. so.... wats a poor gırl to do
Hafsee & Aira are all right,but how do u think this can be ersed or at least be reduced. my concern was how it affects the lives of our sisters. :'(
Lawwali, what happened to the M in ma name, hmmmm but i kinda like dat Aira sounds nice. :)
Quote from: amira on November 19, 2007, 03:01:23 PM
Lawwali, what happened to the M in ma name, hmmmm but i kinda like dat Aira sounds nice. :)
??? ??? ??? ;D ;D :o :o sorry. just anxious and eager to agree with your point ;D
Quote from: amira on November 19, 2007, 03:01:23 PM
Lawwali, what happened to the M in ma name, hmmmm but i kinda like dat Aira sounds nice. :)
Yeah sounds cute! khairat..airat
FROM: DB
TO: LAWWALI
CC: HUSNAA
SUB: QUERY
State in less than one word, why are
you so anxious and eager to agree with
Amira's point to the extent you will
distort her username?
and why are u so interested in that? ? ? ;D
Quote from: Dan-Borno on November 19, 2007, 05:24:22 PM
FROM: DB
TO: LAWWALI
CC: HUSNAA
SUB: QUERY
State in less than one word, why are
you so anxious and eager to agree with
Amira's point to the extent you will
distort her username?
So that i remain with the truthfuls.(LI A KUNA MA' ASSADIQEEN). in zaka fadi fadi gaskiya, komai taka ja maka ka biya( sa'adu zungur) in zaka yi bi kabi Gaskiya...............(Lawwali) ;D ;D ;D
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 19, 2007, 05:18:16 PM
Yeah sounds cute! khairat..airat
Airat, cute huh? yeah i think so. C below
Airat = Ai-rat = Ai-bera = Aibera
Aibera how does that sound? I like the name it sound cute i mean it. Pronounce it like this "Aybera" or "Ayberra" like Rebecca
Yeah this struck me to open a topic where u distort members name. It may be cool watch out for it
Wow my name has caused a lot of comotion lol.
Quote from: HUSNAA on November 19, 2007, 05:37:17 PM
and why are u so interested in that? ? ? ;D
GUD QUESTION
Quote from: Lawwali on October 30, 2007, 09:31:26 AM
From the proceedings of an earlier topic "in search for the missing Ribs", i can still see that Girls always reserves their affections. They mostly cant approach a Guy when they have feelings for Him, even at the expense of their lives. I was once visibly moved and shaken when one of sisters collapsed after she learnt of one of our cousins' marriage plans. Unknown to all of us she was deeply but secretly in love with him, but alas! neither he knows of that nor she made him to know. To my utter suprise, that girl is one of the Brillient and wise children of my Dad. Why shouldnt the forum and the society at large lunch a rigorous and vehement campaign to encourage girls into expressing their feelings when the need arise. :'(
Hmmmmm!!!!!! Lawwali kenan,to me is even neccesary 4 girls to reserves their affections reason being that, they are naturally made 2 be so, that is why even the shyness that ladies posseses is more than 10times that of the guys.Idealy Allah has created them to beautify the earth (Almalu wal banun zinatul hayautuddunya 'QURAN') ko ba hakabane?
So to say ladies in general do hav an extra ordinary diginity in the society as a whole that must be secured $ be protected by them.There 4, for this to be achieved they definately have 2 reserved their affection, to be frank i luv them being like that SABODA SHI AKE CEWA AJIIIIIIII. :)
Idealy Allah has created them to beautify the earth (Almalu wal banun zinatul hayautuddunya 'QURAN') ko ba hakabane?
So to say ladies in general do hav an extra ordinary diginity in the society as a whole that must be secured $ be protected by them.There 4, for this to be achieved they definately have 2 reserved their affection, to be frank i luv them being like that SABODA SHI AKE CEWA AJIIIIIIII. :)
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Gaskiya ne! Malamai magada Annabawa. Thanks bro for the info.
Quote from: amira on November 19, 2007, 03:01:23 PM
Lawwali, what happened to the M in ma name, hmmmm but i kinda like dat Aira sounds nice. :)
U should have said dan saurayi saurayi, ya ya ba ka rubuta suna na ba dai dai duk da sanayya. Ko ka manta ne? Hausdawa na cewa motsi yafi labewa.
Quote from: Nuruddeen on December 08, 2007, 12:53:02 PM
Idealy Allah has created them to beautify the earth (Almalu wal banun zinatul hayautuddunya 'QURAN') ko ba hakabane?
So to say ladies in general do hav an extra ordinary diginity in the society as a whole that must be secured $ be protected by them.There 4, for this to be achieved they definately have 2 reserved their affection, to be frank i luv them being like that SABODA SHI AKE CEWA AJIIIIIIII. :)
Gaskiya ne! Malamai magada Annabawa. Thanks bro for the info.
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yes class ıdan bamuja ajı ba the gys see us as cheap ınfact ı thınk guys lyk tough gırls masu class
Hafsee, you see you are right no doubt a man would make humour of the woman he woed successfully so easily, but then the ladies kuma dont have to pull the class too much, i mean whats the need to front anyway, idan aka ja aji dayawa tsinkewa yake yi, am sure you are familiar with that saying, the guy might not be a player afterall, he could be the mister right you have been waiting for and then what happens, you loose!
i have a question....
to the girls: is it true that a guy must come and tell the girl that he is in love before she recognizes him?
even though he shows her all the necessary signs, he still has to say it verbally ?
to the guys: is it your last option to tell her u've fallen or does it simply come out just like that ? and do u usually show her all the necessary signs?
anyway, if men should tell them, i think women too should, after all they are all human beings, culture aside.
cheers
Arubuta welcome back.
Let me tell you, if you are in love with a girl, ideally you need not tell her verbally that you love her. She's supposed to know from your actions. Amman dai ka san mata yanda suke, sai kayi ta nuna mata amma idan ta tashi wataran sai ta ce a kai kawai abokin ta ne, imagine!
So dan haka idan kana son ta tell her KILIYALI, GWARI-GWARI, DA WASALI, DALLA DALLA. Don haka gobe bata da wani excuse ta ce ai kai ne baka fada ba.
Lamarin mata sai su.
Ikon Allah, Babban Abokina ka fadi gaskiya, amma dont
forget wallahi things have really changed this days,
yan mata sukan fito fili baro baro su ce suna son mutum
especially in this age of GSM.
Kamar dai yadda ka fada, the best thing is for the man
to speak out DALLA DALLA da wasalinsa KILIYALI cewa
yana sonta. Sai dai kuma kada ta fara yi masa jan aji
as they always claim that it maintains their level.
Allah ya hada kowa da masoyiyarsa.
Eh ehem *cough* *cough* earth to Gogannaka, earth to arubuta; girls don't have
supersonic powers (I repeat, girls DO NOT have supersonic powers) and just like you
men, we cannot receive information outside our 5 senses, thank you very much. So
if you've got something to say you speak out or forever hold your peace.
P.S. Just so you know, we women believe that platonic friendship between a man and a
woman is possible. So when a man is being nice to a woman, she takes it as he is a nice
person and nothing more.
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Hehe! I just watched that new Disney Live action meets 2D cartoon movie Enchanted.
Check out the soundtrack "How does she know." Maybe that will answer your questions
on how to divulge your feelings. ;) ;)
Quote from: Dan-Borno on January 16, 2008, 11:33:07 AM
Ikon Allah, Babban Abokina ka fadi gaskiya, amma dont
forget wallahi things have really changed this days,
yan mata sukan fito fili baro baro su ce suna son mutum
especially in this age of GSM.
Kamar dai yadda ka fada, the best thing is for the man
to speak out DALLA DALLA da wasalinsa KILIYALI cewa
yana sonta. Sai dai kuma kada ta fara yi masa jan aji
as they always claim that it maintains their level.
Allah ya hada kowa da masoyiyarsa.
Lallai you know exactly things happening in these days. I remember, you married less than a year ago, eh? There you learned this experience, I suspect. Kuma bakaniya ka ce ko? Thats it, am sure.
I have seen where a guy was dating a girl for like 1 year amman ba ta aure shi ba cos bai gaya mata cewa son ta yake ba.
Kuji fa,ya bar gidan su tun maghrib ya je wajenta hira sai 10 yake dawowa.Ya kashe dare yana mata waya.
Duk birthday din ta sai an sayo gift. A dinga misali cewa idan muka yi aure so and so will happen har ma wani sa'in zancen 'yaya ake.
Duk da haka wai bai ce mata i love you ba.Dan haka bata sani ba.
Fateez i also believe friendship exists between namiji da mace but not to the extent that zai dinga wuni a gidansu tun maghrib har dare ko kuma su dinga kewaye gari tare a matsayin abokai.
Shine daga dawowa har da watsa min kasa ko!
U are lucky u are just new here if not....hmm wahala.
Quote from: gogannaka on January 16, 2008, 01:38:05 PM
I have seen where a guy was dating a girl for like 1 year amman ba ta aure shi ba cos bai gaya mata cewa son ta yake ba.
Kuji fa,ya bar gidan su tun maghrib ya je wajenta hira sai 10 yake dawowa.Ya kashe dare yana mata waya.
Duk birthday din ta sai an sayo gift. A dinga misali cewa idan muka yi aure so and so will happen har ma wani sa'in zancen 'yaya ake.
Duk da haka wai bai ce mata i love you ba.Dan haka bata sani ba.
Fateez i also believe friendship exists between namiji da mace but not to the extent that zai dinga wuni a gidansu tun maghrib har dare ko kuma su dinga kewaye gari tare a matsayin abokai.
Shine daga dawowa har da watsa min kasa ko!
U are lucky u are just new here if not....hmm wahala.
GGNK Kash! Wato kamanta kaddara ta riga fata ko? Ba uban 'yayan ta bane shi yasa. Its rather sad though.
thank you all
lallai lamarain mata sai su.
DB mind u nowadays mata sunfi son wanda yayi aure. dayan is not reliable!
GGNK, fateez, i think saying I LOVE YOU to a girl is kind of old fashioned, don't you think so, especiallyQuote from: Dan-Borno on January 16, 2008, 11:33:07 AMin this age of GSM.
to amma fateez mata basu ganewa ne?, i believe its not a sixth sense, its pop'n'clear, KILIYALI, GWARI-GWARI, DA WASALI, DALLA DALLA, yana nunawa amma ta ce ta gane baza ta nuna bane! sai an shiga kawaye........
you can imagine GGNK ta sani, tana sane, ba son shi take ba, maybe (i really don't want to say this, its an abuse to we ladies ???) ohh what the ....
she used him.
a point here, i believe cewar there is a friendship between the two sexes amma mata da sunga ana friendship, idan suna hira tsakanin su sai su ce sona yake ya kasa fada. so i think this type of friendship has a limit and disadvantage.
fateez so men too can say to women if you've got something to say you speak out or forever hold your peace.
?? ko?
yh i know i mean y do girls do dat seriously guys im wiv u i sooooooooooo dont understand gals dey're jus in a different world dan me tut tut tut
well im off to my home planet see u guys soon *GETS ON SPACESHIP AND FLIES OFF SAYONARA EARTHLINGS*
so fateez, i've heard that song
it did ask about how does she knows he loves her
in the song she didn't mention, not even once, that he should
say it KILIYALI
one interesting thing though is that she mention some of the
SIGNS i told u about which in the song include:
Send her flowers; (which isn't our custom, we don't understand the flowers ???)
Dedicate a song for her; (it's done but he might still be a friend) ko ba haka ba GGNK
Show her u need her; (still like a friend, a dear one) ;D
Don't take the one u love 4 granted; (as if we do)
Leave a little note to tell her she's on ur mind; (amongst the signs that are the sixth sense to them)
either i don't understand the song or there is a hidden words that only girls understand
One big reason why i think girls reserve their effection to guys is because the woman's heart they say is a deep ocean of secrets or dont you think?
Quote from: *~MuDa~* on January 20, 2008, 01:25:02 PM
One big reason why i think girls reserve their effection to guys is because the woman's heart they say is a deep ocean of secrets or dont you think?
maybe who knows u need to ask a gal dat
Quote from: ladymerciful on January 20, 2008, 04:44:55 PM
Quote from: *~MuDa~* on January 20, 2008, 01:25:02 PM
One big reason why i think girls reserve their effection to guys is because the woman's heart they say is a deep ocean of secrets or dont you think?
maybe who knows u need to ask a gal dat
he may actually be somewhat right you know.the whole thing about gals being reservesd is jst because we were created to be like that we come with it in us jst like a meal in Mcdonals comes with french freis and drinks/ :D
Quote from: arubuta on January 20, 2008, 11:57:53 AM
so fateez, i've heard that song
it did ask about how does she knows he loves her
in the song she didn't mention, not even once, that he should
say it KILIYALI
one interesting thing though is that she mention some of the
SIGNS i told u about which in the song include:
Send her flowers; (which isn't our custom, we don't understand the flowers ???)
Dedicate a song for her; (it's done but he might still be a friend) ko ba haka ba GGNK
Show her u need her; (still like a friend, a dear one) ;D
Don't take the one u love 4 granted; (as if we do)
Leave a little note to tell her she's on ur mind; (amongst the signs that are the sixth sense to them)
either i don't understand the song or there is a hidden words that only girls understand
Hehe! Arubuta you actually listened to it! Good song, ko? And you have to agree the
song raises some very important points that the average Hausa man fails to understand.
*cough* sorry guys, but it's true.
Now what on earth is wrong with sending your special lady some flowers? So because
it isn't our custom ko? Hehe, I can name a million things we do that are not part of our
culture, but don't we do them anyway? So "it's not part of our custom" is a lame reason
to not send freshly plucked flowers to that special person.
But no, to them all these little things are unnecessary. The man just rocks up to your
door step and out of nothing but sheer politeness; you go to see what on earth this dude
wants from you. He'll probably discuss politics or how his container is going to be cleared
from customs tomorrow. Next thing, "An kawo kaya daga gidan Alhaji wane". That's how
I almost became Mrs. Scruffy Beard, wife number 4 by force!
Like I said earlier, girls believe in platonic friendship and we don't assume that every guy
that decides to be nice enough to speak to us likes us.
Remember the line from the song:
"You've got to show her you need her, don't treat her like
a mind reader"
So in the light of all this U.S election hype:
"Ask not why the girl reserves her affection; ask what you have done to make her show her affection!"
my dear nearly Mrs. Scruffy Beard, wife number 4 by force!
Gaskiya i kind of liked the song
you can name a million, hmm
amma shiru nake ji.
you r just lucky u did not met a romantic guy
but one dat speaks of things that are not of
interest to u
lets just say may be yana da experience akan
yan matan kano ne thats why ya ce his
container is going to be cleared
from customs tomorrow. and the Next thing he'll
say, out of the same old knowledge,
"An kawo kaya daga gidan Alhaji wane"
well kar na kai mu wani topic din da its already in the forum ;D
amm kin san i too believe in platonic friendship
but just imagin this
u are married and ur husband is having
on of those 'platonic friendship' with a
nice younger looking lady, will u agree to that
surely not, zai kara aure ne
u've got to show hee u need her,
well i think i tried showing affection
care, concern and the like, but they
didnt understand, sai dai ka fada
san nan za su gane,
but my song didn't say such a thing
kin san turacin yayi min karanci
ki fasa min ma'anar
don't treat her like a mind reader
*falls to ground laughing*lol haha lol.....wait, really? *burst out into uncontrolable laughter* lol kai
Fateez and Arubuta...I love u.
It has never been easy, it will never be. meeting a friend ma is not easy not to talk of making a loved one. *Walks away laughing* Oh I love u guys...
May Safety and peace be with u
Quote from: Fateez on February 07, 2008, 07:22:49 PM
Hehe! Arubuta you actually listened to it! Good song, ko? And you have to agree the
song raises some very important points that the average Hausa man fails to understand.
*cough* sorry guys, but it's true.
Now what on earth is wrong with sending your special lady some flowers? So because
it isn't our custom ko? Hehe, I can name a million things we do that are not part of our
culture, but don't we do them anyway? So "it's not part of our custom" is a lame reason
to not send freshly plucked flowers to that special person.
But no, to them all these little things are unnecessary. The man just rocks up to your
door step and out of nothing but sheer politeness; you go to see what on earth this dude
wants from you. He'll probably discuss politics or how his container is going to be cleared
from customs tomorrow. Next thing, "An kawo kaya daga gidan Alhaji wane". That's how
I almost became Mrs. Scruffy Beard, wife number 4 by force!
Like I said earlier, girls believe in platonic friendship and we don't assume that every guy
that decides to be nice enough to speak to us likes us.
Remember the line from the song:
"You've got to show her you need her, don't treat her like a mind reader"
So in the light of all this U.S election hype:
"Ask not why the girl reserves her affection; ask what you have done to make her show her affection!"
Fateez, i just want to stress one thing, especially on the issue of flowers, its not like we dont want to send flowers to our women, God flowers are so affordable than pearls...lol its just that if we do send you flowers, wallah you will not appreciate it, if you in particular will, then howmany will not? Think about it, yanzu za a fara zagin mutum, ina jin idan ka je zance da flowers then the next day she wouldnt come out or will turn face B immediately, and incase you havent noticed yet...flowers easily wilt in this part of the world. that is why its not even considered for centuries ago.
lol flowers do wilt away waste of money if u ask me jus buy a girl a games console and video games she'll be happy well atleast i will be neway lol
Quote from: ladymerciful on February 12, 2008, 05:54:19 PM
lol flowers do wilt away waste of money if u ask me jus buy a girl a games console and video games she'll be happy well atleast i will be neway lol
Ana wata ga wata game kuma? kai duniya da fadi take.
were is Ibro2g, please translate the above to Lady M.
Quote from: *~MuDa~* on February 09, 2008, 01:38:59 PM
Fateez, i just want to stress one thing, especially on the issue of flowers, its not like we dont want to send flowers to our women, God flowers are so affordable than pearls...lol its just that if we do send you flowers, wallah you will not appreciate it, if you in particular will, then howmany will not? Think about it, yanzu za a fara zagin mutum, ina jin idan ka je zance da flowers then the next day she wouldnt come out or will turn face B immediately, and incase you havent noticed yet...flowers easily wilt in this part of the world. that is why its not even considered for centuries ago.
Lol. Har ka Tuna min da wani hausa fim da na gani. Saurayin ne ya kawo wa budurwarsa flower, wai shi ga sarkin soyayya. Ai kuwa uwar yarinyar ta leko ta gani, tace, "
Kai, ubanka gardener ne? To 'ya ta bata gaji ban ruwa ba. Dan nema, dan masu diban taki" ;D ;D
very well said sadiq ;D
Quote from: Bakan~Gizo on February 13, 2008, 12:47:32 PM
Quote from: *~MuDa~* on February 09, 2008, 01:38:59 PM
Fateez, i just want to stress one thing, especially on the issue of flowers, its not like we dont want to send flowers to our women, God flowers are so affordable than pearls...lol its just that if we do send you flowers, wallah you will not appreciate it, if you in particular will, then howmany will not? Think about it, yanzu za a fara zagin mutum, ina jin idan ka je zance da flowers then the next day she wouldnt come out or will turn face B immediately, and incase you havent noticed yet...flowers easily wilt in this part of the world. that is why its not even considered for centuries ago.
Lol. Har ka Tuna min da wani hausa fim da na gani. Saurayin ne ya kawo wa budurwarsa flower, wai shi ga sarkin soyayya. Ai kuwa uwar yarinyar ta leko ta gani, tace, "Kai, ubanka gardener ne? To 'ya ta bata gaji ban ruwa ba. Dan nema, dan masu diban taki" ;D ;D
The mother is Daso, i saw the movie at home...very funny. i think th tittle is
Komai Dozen
muda i know wot ur saying or wot u sed in ur language lol
erm well i'll come kano hopefully one day i'll think about it if u buy me flowers 1st :)
Iyye..muda ya samu catch 8)
Quote from: Bakan~Gizo on February 13, 2008, 12:47:32 PM
Quote from: *~MuDa~* on February 09, 2008, 01:38:59 PM
Fateez, i just want to stress one thing, especially on the issue of flowers, its not like we dont want to send flowers to our women, God flowers are so affordable than pearls...lol its just that if we do send you flowers, wallah you will not appreciate it, if you in particular will, then howmany will not? Think about it, yanzu za a fara zagin mutum, ina jin idan ka je zance da flowers then the next day she wouldnt come out or will turn face B immediately, and incase you havent noticed yet...flowers easily wilt in this part of the world. that is why its not even considered for centuries ago.
Lol. Har ka Tuna min da wani hausa fim da na gani. Saurayin ne ya kawo wa budurwarsa flower, wai shi ga sarkin soyayya. Ai kuwa uwar yarinyar ta leko ta gani, tace, "Kai, ubanka gardener ne? To 'ya ta bata gaji ban ruwa ba. Dan nema, dan masu diban taki" ;D ;D
LOL...cin mutunchi....*falls off*
Quote from: Fateez on February 07, 2008, 07:22:49 PM
But no, to them all these little things are unnecessary. The man just rocks up to your
door step and out of nothing but sheer politeness; you go to see what on earth this dude
wants from you. He'll probably discuss politics or how his container is going to be cleared
from customs tomorrow. Next thing, "An kawo kaya daga gidan Alhaji wane". That's how
I almost became Mrs. Scruffy Beard, wife number 4 by force!
LOL mata abokan shawara ne ai..ko ba haka ba?
Quote from: gogannaka on February 14, 2008, 01:05:40 AM
Iyye..muda ya samu catch 8)
Ah! Babu ruwa na, yanzun nan wanna Kohona Ninja din zai nemi ya yayanka ni!
Are u reserving ur feelings Senor Muda?
Safety and Peace
Quote from: *~MuDa~* on February 15, 2008, 01:04:06 PM
Ah! Babu ruwa na, yanzun nan wanna Kohona Ninja din zai nemi ya yayanka ni!
Quote from: Ibro2g on February 17, 2008, 09:43:41 PM
Are u reserving ur feelings Senor Muda?
Safety and Peace
DAN DAN DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
Quote from: amira on February 17, 2008, 10:48:44 PM
Quote from: *~MuDa~* on February 15, 2008, 01:04:06 PM
Ah! Babu ruwa na, yanzun nan wanna Kohona Ninja din zai nemi ya yayanka ni!
Quote from: Ibro2g on February 17, 2008, 09:43:41 PM
Are u reserving ur feelings Senor Muda?
Safety and Peace
DAN DAN DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
LOL...kai amira kin bani dariya wallahi.
Lemme go get a popcorn and some coke.
Quote from: Ibro2g on February 17, 2008, 09:43:41 PM
Are u reserving ur feelings Senor Muda?
Safety and Peace
Pls no need for the blades, i meant no harm, its a misunderstanding.
U guys dont get things wrong. Me and Muda have been good friends over the years...However *opens up his cape* I just want to know, I want to understand...what misunderstanding?
Goga, lallai da bukatan bayani anan, ko ba haka ba? ;D
Quote from: Ibro2g on February 18, 2008, 09:26:39 PM
U guys dont get things wrong. Me and Muda have been good friends over the years...However *opens up his cape* I just want to know, I want to understand...what misunderstanding?
Ehen...ko kai fa...tell 'em?
They just derive pleasure in
implicating innocent souls.
Matsoraci
Seems to me, ba muda ne ya sami catch ba, Muhsin ne yake so ya samu.. he's all gone gaga and incoherent over LM, especially da ta sa hoton ta.. he's asking if its her.. lol... signs of his having gone tongue tied or brain tied as it were since he cant talk to her...hehehehehe ;D ;D ;D
lol husnaa u are so funny i cant blive u sed dat lol muhsin mite come n beat u up now lol
besides someone else on dis group has captured my heart (soo cheesy cnt blive im saying dat) lol
Quote from: HUSNAA on February 20, 2008, 09:25:01 AM
Seems to me, ba muda ne ya sami catch ba, Muhsin ne yake so ya samu.. he's all gone gaga and incoherent over LM, especially da ta sa hoton ta.. he's asking if its her.. lol... signs of his having gone tongue tied or brain tied as it were since he cant talk to her...hehehehehe ;D ;D ;D
Well :-\ may be...yeah...but i was thinking sumhting a little bit different.
Its very obvious that Muhsin is in the habit of always trying to get to the
bottom of everything, he is more overtly than anyone else in this forum.
Whats the big deal if LMerciful decides to put her real pic as the avatar?
I dunno Muda wot is the big deal lol
Well :-\ may be...yeah...but i was thinking sumhting a little bit different.
Its very obvious that Muhsin is in the habit of always trying to get to the
bottom of everything, he is more overtly than anyone else in this forum.
Whats the big deal if LMerciful decides to put her real pic as the avatar?
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Quote from: ladymerciful on February 22, 2008, 05:47:46 PM
lol husnaa u are so funny i cant blive u sed dat lol muhsin mite come n beat u up now lol
besides someone else on dis group has captured my heart (soo cheesy cnt blive im saying dat) lol
never mind even if u dont say it we know who it is right?? ;D ;D
As for Muhsin beating me up... hahahaha.. I can think of a number of things Muhsin would rather do.. but beat me up...hahahahaha... I think he will faint with shock just
thinking about it!! ;D ;D ;D