Having a Girlfriend: Is it Permissible?

[bamalli]

Question : What Does Islam say about having girfriends or boyfriends?

Response : It stands to reason that having a girlfriend is not the
manner of a Muslim. It is forbidden for a male Muslim to have a
girlfriend, as it's forbidden for a female Muslim to have a boyfriend.

Muslims should have good relations with all people, males as well as
females. At school, at work, in you neighborhood etc. You should be kind
and courteous to everyone. However, it is not allowed in Islam to take a
non-mahram person or persons of the opposite gender as a very close
friend. Such friendship often leads to Haram. In the Quran, Allah
mentioned that good men and women are those who marry, do not have
fornicating relationships and do not have "paramours" or Akhdan. (see
the quran chapter Al-Nisaa verse 4:25; chapter Al-Maidah verse 5:5).

Akhdan are "sweethearts" or for a man a "mistress" and for a woman a
"lover".

The Prophet, peace and blessings be upom him, is reported to have stated
that: whenever two strangers of the opposite gender are alone with each
other, Satan becomes the third one between them.
(hadith in Al-Tirmidhi, 1091)

So it is not allowed for a Muslim boy to have a girlfriend or for a
Muslim girl to have a boyfriend. Howsoever pure your intentions may be,
the danger is that it will lead you to sin. Or at least you will be
alone with each other and spend more time together.

Thus, you should be friendly with your classmates, boys and girls both;
but do not take a girl as your intimate friend. Of course, homosexuality
is also forbidden in Islam. So do not take a boy either as your intimate
friend in the "gay sense" of the word.

If your friend, not girlfriend, is interested in Islam, by all means
help her to become Muslim. Give her the Islamic books and ask her to
attend Islamic meetings and lectures. Let her accept Islam by her own
will. Do not force her or put any pressure on her to become Muslim.

A friendship wth the opposite sex is not of Islam. It used to be of the
Jahiliyyah (pre-Islamic era) style of life. A friendship of the two
sexes can never be safe or sex-free. I agree that in some exceptional
cases, it could be innocent. But, a law is usually amended for social
regulations. There is no law to be customized for a certain person or
few people.
The Qur'an and Sunnah guidance for the sexes dealing with each other has
a main major issue for which Islam has set principles and rules to
govern.

[Dan-Borno]

 ??? masha Allahu ya sheik alkanawi. 

soon talk to you concerning this girlfriend/boyfriend issue,
its isnt clear enough for me.

[gogannaka]

Wai!