Is it allowed for a Muslim Lady to marry a non Muslim man?

[NewEte]

I need to know if it is allowed for a Muslim woman to marry a non Muslim man. I ask because there is certain Malian girl (muslim) that has been seeking marriage to a guy that is clearly not a Muslim. She knows this guy is not Muslim, her parents know, but that does not seem to matter. So I have asked this same question of other African Muslims, and it seems in countries like Ivory Coast, Senegal, Mali, etc, inter-marriage between faiths is not such a big deal, as such relationships are common.

Why is this different however with Nigerian Muslims especially the ones from the north? Is it a taboo, and if it is, what is the problem with other African Muslims that are not following this injuction?
Since I have been accused of not understanding anything in Islam, I am hoping someone better understanding in this area can shed some light. I ask very humbly and with respect. There are no motives behind my asking. Maybe the response will help me understand why the young lady interested in marrying the unbeliever is so determined and unrelenting.

Thanks.

[Dan-Borno]

Ete, issues about religion are very fragile, i want to appeal to you to please forget about this topic, because this topic is purely based on BELIEF.  You can not change the belief of other people, and if you try to, they might see you as an enemy to them.

We might see a Hindu worshipper in a different eye glasses, and he will also be looking at us in a different eye-glasses, we wont understand each other.

Ete talk about something social, political.

Mine is only an advice: Be guided please.

[HUSNAA]

 Yes Islam does not permit muslim ladies to marry non muslims, and I distinctly remember discussing this issue in some thread somewhere and I was directing the response to you when u were Ete, instead of the newEte. So i suggest, u hunt the thread down and reread it. You even commented afterwards I think.
As for the young lady, if she is so determined and unrelenting, then I am sure she will go ahead and marry him. Who is to stop her except herself? 

[alkanawi]

Husnaa you forgot to add "love can move mountains".

[ummita]

On d other hand Ete, men r allowed 2 marry women with dissimilar religious credence from them. And there are ethical reasons under Islamic culture surrounding the issue of why a muslim woman cannot wed any man who practices another faith.

Like Eve said: "Love is Blind" I guess it justifies the Malian girls actions

[ummita]

She knows this guy is not Muslim, her parents know, but that does not seem to matter. So I have asked this same question of other African Muslims, and it seems in countries like Ivory Coast, Senegal, Mali, etc, inter-marriage between faiths is not such a big deal, as such relationships are common.

Why is this different however with Nigerian Muslims especially the ones from the north? Is it a taboo, and if it is, what is the problem with other African Muslims that are not following this injuction? Thanks.

Faith aint deep!!!! Culture alters religion sometimes!!!! Limited religious awareness!!! Selfish interest!!! Comtemporary ideas!!! I dont care/cant be bothered attitudes!!!..........and many more are causative factors that changes some people's religious convictions.

And amid some of these reasons, Bryan Adams also said: Everything I do, I do it 4 love........that alone singles out her act. I dont think we should sink deep for reasons 2 justify her lack of commitment to religion or as to why some Africans couldnt care less in the midst of those who stick to rules. Obvious reason: she did it our of sheer love! What people could do 4 love!!.....Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww cute!!!

[MySeLf]

Ete don't you know some muslims are just muslims by name not by heart?
they do nothing islamic....... Such people can do anything answering muslim name.
Just like the none practicing christian...............
You can find such muslims in nigeria too especially in the south.

Islam is a religion not individuality mr ete.

[ummita]

Oh! did I mention.........how it sickens me when Geography is used to demarcate religious strengths & weaknesses amongst people.

Am back!!!!!

[NewEte]

Thank you to ummita and others that responded candidly to these question. To those that cannnot answer a simple question but want to take it to another dimension, I say shame on you. Anyway, thanks again to Ummita, myself, Dan Borno, and alkanawi. Now, I have better understanding. I see that Mali girl is actually a good woman with true love in her heart. The kind of love that conquers all. I wonder what kind of love exist in this room sef! shikena!  >:(

[alkanawi]

I dont think love in itself is necessarily a positive value.to use a worn out cliche(itself a worn out cliche) "love is blind" meaning it doesnt let you make an objective assessment of the object/subject.For example an alcoholics' love for his drink,a junkie's love for his drug,a racist's love for his race,etc.On the flipside,you might not like something or even hate it but that is what is better for you,for example most sick people dislike taking their medicine and food,and generally kids dont like going to school or reading their books but that is better for them.

[HUSNAA]

Thank you to ummita and others that responded candidly to these question. To those that cannnot answer a simple question but want to take it to another dimension, I say shame on you. Anyway, thanks again to Ummita, myself, Dan Borno, and alkanawi. Now, I have better understanding. I see that Mali girl is actually a good woman with true love in her heart. The kind of love that conquers all. I wonder what kind of love exist in this room sef! shikena!  >:(

Lol Ete, you feel too deeply. Me thinks the Malian girl issue is closer to yr heart than u'd like to own up  ;D.. What say you? eh?? Fess up!!! :D

[NewEte]

No Husnaa, I was just trying to understand some stuff. I think I do now.

[HUSNAA]

Husnaa you forgot to add "love can move mountains".

I havent seen a single mountain it has moved... so far ;D..... so I am skeptical. 

Love is blind

Sometimes, but other times, love nurtures itself on what it cant have, so it grows like a cancerous tumor.

And amid some of these reasons, Bryan Adams also said: Everything I do, I do it 4 love........that alone singles out her act.

For a little while only. When those rose colored lenses that filter out reality, get scratched, she'll see his warts farts and human frailty. If she can still want him despite all, then... that would be the test of true love. ;)

No Husnaa, I was just trying to understand some stuff. I think I do now.

So exactly what stuff did u understand? if I may ask,... apart from love conquers all?

[Dan-Borno]

Left to me, we have come to the end of this topic, both for and against have fully taken stand and understood each other.

OK Brothers and Sisters post another topic.

[Mai neman Ilimi har China]

I believe that our teachings are clear on this point. It is not allowed for a muslimeena to marry a non muslim. However - if he sees fit to convert then it's fine. On the other hand Muslim males may marry from the 'ahl kitabeen' the people of the book, namely Christians and Jews.