We are very materialistic. We do everything to show the world that mun isa. Kabaa'ir. That is the word. Anyway, I am not surprised at DB's words, mutan Borno an san su da jin kai da takama. Saboda haka, anything to show that they ARE, they will do. Its like Muhsin said, takurawa iyaye ne. Kuma bayan haka its not a question of kayi iya karfin ka, no, there is a standard where by one must meet, kuma har kirga wa ake yi how many buhus of food u were taken with, just like GGNK mentioned above. Bayan haka ma, ai abincin gets shared out amongst dangin mijin ba wai barma matar ake yi 100%. Dangin miji da su ka bi suke addabbar matar dan uwan su.
Lets talk on a serious note please, i know, my people sabi
'jiji da kai' but only few are doing that these days, the effect
of globalisation is high here in Borno, we accept changes.
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I was trying to post this when I was notified of Muda's post.
Malam Muda, let me tell you something, in as long as you did
not find fault in not doing gara, then there is no way you can
see fault with a person who despite his economic standard
accept to do gara to his only beloved daughter going to her
matrimonial house, a preparation which took him may be 2
or 3 years.
That is why I said there are things that even though they are
show off, but its also allowed. So, when I am marrying out my
two daughters, i dont mind selling any of my property if i dont
have cash with me to make them happy just for once.
Kuma I will make sure you Muda on your wedding day na sadakar
da dukkan gayan garanka, including the Honda Accord 2008 model.
Amma a gaskiya Husnaa you have never taken a weak side
like this, except may be if i still misunderstood the term under
criticism.
We all knew how our traditional marriage is, the father alone
doesnt shoulder all the responsibilities, aunties, uncles, cousins,
grannys and so many dangis come together and contribute
which transforms into gara. On several occasions, if it were
to be left alone to iyaye kawai, so many of them cannot afford
amma da taimakon jama'a sai komai yatafi dai dai.
So many young girls that are so enterprising make good use of
their 'gara' and in no much time, it transforms into wealth thereby
gaining an economic independence catering for her immediate
problems.
I can vividly recall a friend who was unfortunately involved in a
banking scandal, he was out of job for a very long time and in
between the 'hard period' the girls' gara did wonderfully in
sustaining the house.
Whoever initiated this gara of a thing, surely did it for a purpose.
Gata kan gata; ko su waye such succesful husbands?
Ka turo Auntyn ka muyi magana, ai kai yaro ne!!!
Finally, let me emphasis to Auntyn Muhsin that there are things
you must do to show off.