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Are we romantic????????????!!

Started by gogannaka, December 01, 2003, 05:43:29 PM

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gogannaka

Quote from: "Tukurtukur"'in ba ke ba rijiya'.  wetin pass romantic like dis! :shock:

akwai romance in ze north.
LOL,

Lately i found out that Bororo(bororoji) people are the most romantic people in Africa.If you have observed them you will notice that the husband and wife always move together and to show his love and attachment to her,the husband plaits his hair like the woman's and he takes care of the kids most of the time.He strokes her in public and whenever they are having a chat they wear smiles on their faces.
Northerners fa?
We must admit that we have our own kind of romance but mostly it occurs before marriage,and as kitkat said,after the marriage its a whole new Ball game.
Later on we will list some of the romantic attitudes of Northerners.[/color]
Surely after suffering comes enjoyment

Dante

We're really romantic as any other tradition. Alot of issues like "kishiya" covers it and our women dont get the message when the husband tries to show...

The issue here comes from the northern girls who feed you tuwo day in day out. Calls you ALAJI instead of a sweet (romantic) name and stuffs like this...
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Gaskiya tafi komai..........هو الذي

ummita

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Quote from: Dante on August 12, 2006, 06:47:23 PM
We're really romantic as any other tradition.
*Coughs*......ehemmm, uhummmm, uhummmmm. Ku suwa? Oh wai ku maza? Bros, u sure? ;D

Quote from: Dante on August 12, 2006, 06:47:23 PMand our women dont get the message when the husband tries to show...
lol, lol, lol.......Can I just ask how you show it? It sounds alien to meh........cus common to put your emotions on display wuna no go fit......instead find it condensing your macho embroidery!

Quote from: Dante on August 12, 2006, 06:47:23 PMhe issue here comes from the northern girls who feed you tuwo day in day out. Calls you ALAJI instead of a sweet (romantic) name and stuffs like this...
cant stop laughing at Hafsy's comments. You too much! But quite frankly, she has a point, she said baku saba jin hakah ba, so kada ma wai a batah lokacin farawa ;D ;D ;D

Dante iner kah boyeh neh? Kwana diyawah......Abi she don begin dey address you wit shiwit, shiweet names ne?



Despite ur slammin, am still jammin!!!

sadiq

*Coughs*......ehemmm, uhummmm, uhummmmm. Ku suwa? Oh wai ku maza? Bros, u sure? ;D

wanene ya gwada ya ga ba hakan bane? ai kowa ya san mu wajen soyewa laaaafs!!!!!

Quote from: Dante on August 12, 2006, 06:47:23 PMand our women dont get the message when the husband tries to show...

eh ai  tsayawa suke nsuna yangan mara tasiri. suna so suna kaiwa kasuwa
oday s beautiful moments are tomorrow s golden memories.

ummita

#79
Quote from: sadiq on December 15, 2007, 09:32:43 PM
*Coughs*......ehemmm, uhummmm, uhummmmm. Ku suwa? Oh wai ku maza? Bros, u sure? ;D

wanene ya gwada ya ga ba hakan bane? ai kowa ya san mu wajen soyewa laaaafs!!!!!

Quote from: Dante on August 12, 2006, 06:47:23 PMand our women dont get the message when the husband tries to show...
eh ai  tsayawa suke nsuna yangan mara tasiri. suna so suna kaiwa kasuwa
Ai yanga is what makes a woman complete and differenciaties her ways of doing things from a man. Iden kumah baayi yengah dinbah..........you will b the first to complain........."ai ingayamakah abokinah, iden kah gantah kamar ba mace bah

Yanzu if you ask a man the last cutest thing he did or gave his wife. In all probability this is the response you will get...* long pauseeeeeee * then, ermmm, err, I just told her I love her. Dude she knows that already!

Ask a woman, two seconds she is likely to deliver this: I made him a nice meal, escorted him to his car and before he drove through the gates I rang him to tell him I already missing his presence, I turned up to his work place unexpectedly, had my little baby held out a piece of paper that says: mummy n I luv u daddy n sent it via picture messaging, dropped a little cute message in his jacket and certain he will see it if he goes fishing for keys or other pocketries, remind him to take a lot of rest during work to avoid stress and the list in endless. You ask some of our "opposite counterpart", you will just be disappointed. Anyway not all men are like that, mudai we pretty lucky. ;D

Quote from: sadiq on December 15, 2007, 09:32:43 PMai kowa ya san mu wajen soyewa laaaafs!!!
Ewwwww, wallah I hate dat word soyayah.....Anyway, me wasun sukah iya? In banda ego centrism da pompousness kawai. If woman begin dey do all this, sai ku fara jin kunya..... toh abindah ba'a saba ba, kada mah a sayi muku. Its not a daunting job for some women, its some men that consider being r'tic.......... a herculean task! And the sooner some men stop finding being passionate difficult undertaking, the better. This is because it could rescue many marriages and relationships that are on the brink of dissolution.

Sadiq, hav u read Hafsy-Lady's comments? All of it?, Lol lol lol lol lol lol.
Despite ur slammin, am still jammin!!!

Hafsy_Lady

#80
Quote from: ummita on December 16, 2007, 12:14:33 AM
Quote from: sadiq on December 15, 2007, 09:32:43 PM
*Coughs*......ehemmm, uhummmm, uhummmmm. Ku suwa? Oh wai ku maza? Bros, u sure? ;D
wanene ya gwada ya ga ba hakan bane? ai kowa ya san mu wajen soyewa laaaafs!!!!!
Quote from: Dante on August 12, 2006, 06:47:23 PMand our women dont get the message when the husband tries to show...
eh ai  tsayawa suke nsuna yangan mara tasiri. suna so suna kaiwa kasuwa
Ai yanga is what makes a woman complete and differenciaties her ways of doing things from a man. Iden kumah baayi yengah dinbah..........you will b the first to complain........."ai ingayamakah abokinah, iden kah gantah kamar ba mace bah
Don't mind dem jare, I remember back in my youthful years. I was the definition of yanga. Yanzu ko tsufa yazo. Kinsan cikar mace iya gaye amma yaushe za'a ma a bata lokaci ayiwa wani abu wai shi namiji yanga? They often mistake kwalliya da gaye for yanga. Masu musu yangan ma nada lokacin su ne

Quote from: ummita on December 16, 2007, 12:14:33 AM
Ask a woman, two seconds she is likely to deliver this: I made him a nice meal, escorted him to his car and before he drove through the gates I rang him to tell him I already missing his presence, I turned up to his work place unexpectedly, had my little baby held out a piece of paper that says: mummy n I luv u daddy n sent it via picture messaging, dropped a little cute message in his jacket and certain he will see it if he goes fishing for keys or other pocketries, remind him to take a lot of rest during work to avoid stress and the list in endless. You ask some of our "opposite counterpart", you will just be disappointed.
Ke ki bari kawai, duk wannan na freshers ne, in zama yayi zama kina zuba musu one or two kids, an dena dauki amarya zakiga changi. Idan da ana kiranki da wani favorite name sai kiji an koma "ke", kawo mun abinci na" don ma tsananin wulakanci. Maza!

Quote from: ummita on December 16, 2007, 12:14:33 AMAsk a woman, two seconds she is likely to deliver this: I made him a nice meal, escorted him to his car and before he drove through the gates I rang him to tell him I already missing his presence, I turned up to his work place unexpectedly,
Ke, Ummita, mhmm when breeze blow and fowl backside open ehn....Na miji ko!!! Bari na baki wani life scenario. Irin wannan surprise visits din wata kawata mijinta na aiki a NNPC, haka kawai wai ita mai son mijinta, ta tashi taci kwalliyarta, tayi mishi girke girke - varities taje kaimishi office. Ta shiga office dinshi kenan, saiga wata katuwar budurwa zaune gankeke a chinyar maigidanta kumama wai inyamura. Ko meya gani anan oho! Abun da ya raba aurensu kenan. Ta sake aurenta, yanzu wani ya aure and the proud owener of a pretty wife who really knows her worth and appreciates what she shows him. I was talking to her one random day and I out of the bloom I asked: nace wai ke wani irin abinci kikayi wa Mahmud? Tace danbanza, perpesu ne dasu sausage rolls da roasties. Nace ai da kin dauki perpesun dake foot warmer dinne da zafinshi kin kwara ma yan banzan daga shi har inyamurar. She said to me, Hafsy ai an kaini na dawo rakiya.

Quote from: ummita on December 16, 2007, 12:14:33 AM
Anyway not all men are like that, mudai we pretty lucky. ;D
La ila ha illal lahu yaushe kikayi baki haka? Ashe ana love one tin-tin ne mu na gefen wani duniya bamu sani ba. Zamuzo kallo. Inga idanuwan mara kunya? Iyyeh!!!! Ashe koke-koken nan duk na munafurci ne. ;D
What you see is what you get[/b]

EMTL

Assalamu alaikum,
Kano-online is like a 'Classroom' to me, this Thread (Are we romantic?) is kind of a very educative 'Subject.'

Thanks to all contributors.
In the Affairs of People Fear Allah (SWT). In the Matters Relating to Allah (SWT) Do not be Afraid of Anybody. Ibn Katthab (RA).

sdanyaro

Quote from: EMTL on December 16, 2007, 10:12:49 AM
Kano-online is like a 'Classroom' to me, this Thread (Are we romantic?) is kind of a very educative 'Subject.'
Haba Malam EMTL, you should be a prof regarding these matters...

*~MuDa~*

Quote from: ummita on December 16, 2007, 12:14:33 AM

Ask a woman, two seconds she is likely to deliver this: I made him a nice meal, escorted him to his car and before he drove through the gates I rang him to tell him I already missing his presence, I turned up to his work place unexpectedly, had my little baby held out a piece of paper that says: mummy n I luv u daddy n sent it via picture messaging, dropped a little cute message in his jacket and certain he will see it if he goes fishing for keys or other pocketries, remind him to take a lot of rest during work to avoid stress and the list in endless. You ask some of our "opposite counterpart", you will just be disappointed. Anyway not all men are like that, mudai we pretty lucky. ;D


That is exactly what Dante is saying...exactly, the whole of it (Back-up for you my brother), now ummita tell me how many hausa women, sincerely do such a thing to their husbands? How many? These things we only see on TV, other people do them, europeans do them, Asians do them, oh my God even Indians do them, why cant we please each other by doing them um?

Now tell me what a contemporary hausa woman does to be labelled romantic? They wait for you in the evening before you come back from the office, they take bath only immediately before you come back, they spray turare and ci kwaliya to the teeths, you come back they tell you Sannu da zuwa, they dont rush your briefcase, they dont pull your shoes, they dont massage your feets, they dont wipe your face when your sweaty, God they dont even help you with your Coat or Babarigar to the room. Well they bring the food alright wich is tuwo all night 24/7...c'mmon how romantic can that be? and in the end you get to discover that all the kwaliya and yanga in the first place is all preparations to ask for money for some yeye yayin biki.

Haba get a grip on yourselfs and expand your Horizons! go a little out of the box, a husband cant be spending on you 24/7 and not expect something in return, by little gifts that doesnt cost much, he will apppreciate the move, at least if you dont have any money, use out of the money he showers on you mana? Do not be rigid or stagnant, shikenan an aure ki shikenan kin zama tsohuwa? Behave like the yarinya you use to be before the marriage, wear your kananan kaya, trousers, minies, spaghetties and shorts in the house, be creative and i swear, you will NEVER, i repeat NEVER get a kishiya! lol!
...He begot not, nor is He begotten!
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Nuruddeen

Quote from: *~MuDaCriS~* on December 16, 2007, 05:05:21 PM
Quote from: ummita on December 16, 2007, 12:14:33 AM



That is exactly what Dante is saying...exactly, the whole of it (Back-up for you my brother), now ummita tell me how many hausa women, sincerely do such a thing to their husbands? How many? These things we only see on TV, other people do them, europeans do them, Asians do them, oh my God even Indians do them, why cant we please each other by doing them um?

Now tell me what a contemporary hausa woman does to be labelled romantic? They wait for you in the evening before you come back from the office, they take bath only immediately before you come back, they spray turare and ci kwaliya to the teeths, you come back they tell you Sannu da zuwa, they dont rush your briefcase, they dont pull your shoes, they dont massage your feets, they dont wipe your face when your sweaty, God they dont even help you with your Coat or Babarigar to the room. Well they bring the food alright wich is tuwo all night 24/7...c'mmon how romantic can that be? and in the end you get to discover that all the kwaliya and yanga in the first place is all preparations to ask for money for some yeye yayin biki.

Haba get a grip on yourselfs and expand your Horizons! go a little out of the box, a husband cant be spending on you 24/7 and not expect something in return, by little gifts that doesnt cost much, he will apppreciate the move, at least if you dont have any money, use out of the money he showers on you mana? Do not be rigid or stagnant, shikenan an aure ki shikenan kin zama tsohuwa? Behave like the yarinya you use to be before the marriage, wear your kananan kaya, trousers, minies, spaghetties and shorts in the house, be creative and i swear, you will NEVER, i repeat NEVER get a kishiya! lol!



O boy na true talk wo. They dont know how to nurse their husbands. All they specialise in is Asiri a mallake miji sai yadda akayi da shi. Wannan shi ne abin da matan arewa suka iya. Indeeeed, most of them do not know that the word ROMANCE, IS A QUID PRO QUO OF A SORT
o try and fail is atleast to learn. That will save one the inestimable loss of what might have been (positive or negative).

Bee

   Hahahahaha.kai kun bani dariya wallah.Akwai thousand and one ways one can be romantic but it takes two to tango.A man cannot be romantic and expects his wife to be.Same thing for the wife.If for a change,the man will hold her hands in public,open the door for her before she passes though or gets in a car,give her kisses on her forehead to remind her how much he cares,hide some love notes in her cooking pots to tell her he appreciates her cooking and waiting on him,brings her breakfast or offer to cook dinner for a change,take her out for a romantic get together away from the kids,never gets tired of telling her how beautiful she is and how lucky he is,never feels too big to say he is sorry...kai the list goes on and on and on,i think that might solve part of the problem.
   You see, you dont have to buy her love or romance.The mistake men make is thinking that with money,everything is possible.It is possible kam but to an extent amma have it in mind that what ever she does,she deos it for the money,like bathing some minuits before you get home and doing only what is expected of her to do as a wife and not a lover.
   Do not always think that the man is the only one that needs pampering.The wife needs that too and in a romantic way.She needs to be taking care of.A woman has lots of emotional gymnastics circulating around her.Let her know that you care and will always be there.Do not always remind her that you are the head of the family so things should always go your way.She knows that.Let her have breathing space and a say when it comes to decision making.hear her out for a change.Do not always expect her to do things for you because that is absolutely not romantic.Get up and get that cup of water for a change.she will not only feel closer to you but it is also a form of exercice for you.
   We all can be romantic you know.If your partner isnt,encourage him or her by trying to be very romantic yourself.Your partner will move with the flow.Good luck. :)
Born To Bee Great

HUSNAA

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Quote from: *~MuDaCriS~* on December 16, 2007, 05:05:21 PM
Now tell me what a contemporary hausa woman does to be labelled romantic? They wait for you in the evening before you come back from the office, they take bath only immediately before you come back, they spray turare and ci kwaliya to the teeths, you come back they tell you Sannu da zuwa, they dont rush your briefcase, they dont pull your shoes, they dont massage your feets, they dont wipe your face when your sweaty, God they dont even help you with your Coat or Babarigar to the room. Well they bring the food alright wich is tuwo all night 24/7...c'mmon how romantic can that be? and in the end you get to discover that all the kwaliya and yanga in the first place is all preparations to ask for money for some yeye yayin biki.

Lol Muda u sound like u've got some experience hehehe. Me  I say that is not being  a romantic.. that is being a slave...

Quote from: *~MuDaCriS~*link=topic=1024.msg35633#msg35633date=1197821121
Haba get a grip on yourselfs and expand your Horizons! go a little out of the box, a husband cant be spending on you 24/7 and not expect something in return, by little gifts that doesnt cost much, he will apppreciate the move, at least if you dont have any money, use out of the money he showers on you mana? Do not be rigid or stagnant, shikenan an aure ki shikenan kin zama tsohuwa? Behave like the yarinya you use to be before the marriage, wear your kananan kaya, trousers, minies, spaghetties and shorts in the house, be creative and i swear, you will NEVER, i repeat NEVER get a kishiya! lol![/color]

Waya ce maka maza shower women with money? what a myth. Even the richest of  them, may not be stingey when it comes to giving material things, but not lucre..... lol its like they are giving a little bit of their souls if they have to part with money!!!
Ghafurallahi lana wa lakum

EMTL

Quote from: sdanyaro on December 16, 2007, 03:11:32 PM
Quote from: EMTL on December 16, 2007, 10:12:49 AM
Kano-online is like a 'Classroom' to me, this Thread (Are we romantic?) is kind of a very educative 'Subject.'
Haba Malam EMTL, you should be a prof regarding these matters...

Assalamu alaikum,
Haba Mallam kunanan ai ba mai magana- Gangaran na wuri ta ya za'a yi 'kolo yace katabus.
In the Affairs of People Fear Allah (SWT). In the Matters Relating to Allah (SWT) Do not be Afraid of Anybody. Ibn Katthab (RA).

*~MuDa~*

Quote from: HUSNAA on December 17, 2007, 01:09:08 PM





Quote from: *~MuDaCriS~* on December 16, 2007, 05:05:21 PM
Now tell me what a contemporary hausa woman does to be labelled romantic? They wait for you in the evening before you come back from the office, they take bath only immediately before you come back, they spray turare and ci kwaliya to the teeths, you come back they tell you Sannu da zuwa, they dont rush your briefcase, they dont pull your shoes, they dont massage your feets, they dont wipe your face when your sweaty, God they dont even help you with your Coat or Babarigar to the room. Well they bring the food alright wich is tuwo all night 24/7...c'mmon how romantic can that be? And in the end you get to discover that all the kwaliya and yanga in the first place is all preparations to ask for money for some yeye yayin biki.

Lol Muda u sound like u've got some experience hehehe. Me I say that is not being a romantic.. that is being a slave...


Quote from: Bee on December 16, 2007, 10:34:43 PM
Akwai thousand and one ways one can be romantic but it takes two to tango.A man cannot be romantic and expects his wife to be.Same thing for the wife.If for a change,the man will hold her hands in public,open the door for her before she passes though or gets in a car,give her kisses on her forehead to remind her how much he cares,hide some love notes in her cooking pots to tell her he appreciates her cooking and waiting on him,brings her breakfast or offer to cook dinner for a change,take her out for a romantic get together away from the kids,never gets tired of telling her how beautiful she is and how lucky he is,never feels too big to say he is sorry...kai the list goes on and on and on,i think that might solve part of the problem.

Then this is also slavery ko?...lol!
...He begot not, nor is He begotten!
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Nuruddeen

Quote from: gogannaka on December 11, 2003, 01:50:36 AM
Talking about dressing up to impress your wife or hubby,here's an incidence that happened btw a man and his wife............
I heard the story from an imam when he was preaching on the same subject matter.........
Here goes.........wai the woman annoyed the husband to the extent that he promised himself that yana dawo wa gida he will give her the quit notice( zai sake ta saki uku)......the woman knowing that she has wronged the husband imediately took a bath and put on a her beautiful nightgown she has never worn............Bawan Allan naka da ya dawo,he was all frowning but when he saw her he was like ?:o :o :o........dont ask what happened later :-X
At the middle of the "something" he told her to please remind him to buy her a new nightgown tomorrow idan Allah ya kai su.....



Bai sake yin maganar sakin ba.............



Thats the way it should be Goga. The whole life is very easy. There is no wahala in it. We are all humans bound to wrong one another. Kuma ai karya ne ace wai shi Namiji sai abin da yake so matar sa zata yi. Domin mu tuna fa cewar Allah yayi ta da halinta kuma shima da irin nasa. Halayen sa da nata ba zai zama daya ba. Good one bro.
o try and fail is atleast to learn. That will save one the inestimable loss of what might have been (positive or negative).