MENS WARDROBE (STRICTLY FOR MEN)

[arubuta]

Mr. DB kenan, wai wats da advise

frankly, there are two options here:
she should not marry the guy or
kar ta yadda ya aure ta

idan mutun ya san shaaranren dan iska ne
to ai dama shawarar da zai bayar ita ce
kar a bashi matar, Ma'ana kar ayi auren,
idan kuma mai ba da shawarar bai san dan iska
bane, (oops forgot u asked in English)

so if the adviser doesn't know dan iska ne
but he should have heard the thing that happens
at the Bachelors eve party.
definitely if u love that girl and her future
you say no to that marriage.

it goes like this, never trust a drinker, even if he says
he has quit.
it ADDICTIVE and addiction is a terrible thing
its difficult to stop.

let her change her mind, the courtship timing is
too short for my liking hmm.. 4 months.
thats why she did not know the true inner guy
that wants to marry her. but i dont blame her, its society
(the guys that are ready for marriage are a bit unavailable)
plus the girls' liking for rich people as husbands (sorry girls
sometimes the truth hurts)

well DB the first paragraph says it all
kowa ya san naka stands din.

anyway my advise to her is:
he did it before he can do it again, who knows what he'll
do to you, alone one faithful night coming back from one
of those pubs, beating,? or even worse, and u bearly
know him. if u love yourself, stop the marriage, u can find
a better guy, don't be in a haste.

to the parents:
please don't allow her to marry him. think of her future
her life and your grandchildren. his not trust worthy.

[gogannaka]

Well said arubuta.

The girl's mind would never be at rest knowing that her husband is a heavy drinker.
How could he be drunk on the eve of his wedding.He'll go to the wedding with a hangover.

It is a complicated issue sha.

[Dan-Borno]

GGNK, ai ya sha giyanne out of happiness that he
is getting married  8)

[gogannaka]

And most likely it has cost him his marriage.

You wonder what some people do for marriage.

A friend once told me that wani a unguwar su was about to get married to a girl.
The guy was now afraid that since he has not made love to a girl before, he might actually not impress the girl when she comes in,and kuma ka san maza want to impress their wife on the first night.
The guy expressed his fear to his friends who advised him to go and get an 'ashawo' that he can practice on.
He heeded to their advice and got one a week to the wedding and took her to his bunk.
Unfortunately after the practice the girl ta fara ciwon ciki (ashe bata da isasshiyar lafiya) and she died in his room,middle of the night.

Mutumin naka ya rasa yadda zai yi.
He decided to go and dump her in a nearby pond.
He wrapped her up in a mat (tabarma) and on his way to the pond was seen by vigilante group on patrol.
Asked what was he carrying, he broke in tears.
He was sentenced to years in prison (i don't know how many years) but he sure didn't marry he girl.


See how people misbehave just prior to marriage ko.


Dan haka abokin ka da ya sha giya yayi wa kan shi.
Next time tell him to drink coca cola on his bachelor's eve  ;D

[Dan-Borno]

and she died in his room, middle of the night.
Mutumin naka ya rasa yadda zai yi.
He decided to go and dump her in a nearby pond.
He wrapped her up in a mat (tabarma) and on his way to the pond was seen by vigilante group on patrol.
Asked what was he carrying, he broke in tears.
He was sentenced to years in prison (i don't know how many years) but he sure didn't marry he girl.
See how people misbehave just prior to marriage ko.

Dan haka abokin ka da ya sha giya yayi wa kan shi.
Next time tell him to drink coca cola on his bachelor's eve  ;D

:o   :o  Inna lillah, your friend's case is even worst than that
of my friends own lol.

Haba kai kuma GGNK, yaya zai sha coca cola after there are
more 'manly' drinks available.  coca cola ai sai abar wa mata
da kuma yan kauye. (quoting abokan ango at kaduna)

[waduz]

DBN, kai......wannene kuma "manly drinks? Ko dai kana nufin irinsu kunun zaki da zobo ne? ;D ;D ;D

[Dan-Borno]

Yes Waduz, how did you know their nick names
ko dai they are your favourites ne? Kunun Zaki
and Zobo yes, you got them right.

[waduz]

Nicknames for what???????????? Oh, i.c ;D ;D ;D ;D

[Dan-Borno]

good you c.  so how does it taste Waduz

[waduz]

Jaja jajannan, zobo ko? Ai it tastes sour! Amma it tastes better if the drop of flavour is not much!!!!!!!

[Dan-Borno]

good waduz, you will be appointed our chief consultant on
men's drink in this forum.

this case came up earlier this week, and there is need to
dissect the case and classified it under men's wardrobe.

we have seen several cases alike, and men knew it, we
don't have to deny it all the time acting holier than.........
this guy was newly employed in one of these giants nnpc
subcidiaries that paid handsomely.  his marriage was only
6 months old, for those who are married knew that period
is still within the most sweetest moments.

they graduated from the same university, though he is one
year ahead of her.

now, after six months of marriage, as usual, it is the desire
of every man to see that his wife conceives for the first
time, but shiru kake ji.  they both become worried and he
eventually took her to a gynae doctor who after several
check ups and tests declared that her uterus has suffered
some minor injuries  as a result of previous abortion(s).
the gynae further  disclosed that she might not get pregnant
because of the scar tissue in the uterus which would make it
harder for an embryo to implant.

the young guy tried to explain to the doctor that his newly
wed amarya was virgin when he met her, so, how could this
be possible?  the doctor told him that that was the result of
his tests and examination, whether his wife was virgin or not
is not an issue to be discussed in the hospital, may be home
will be better.

issues:
(a)  is the bride virgin on their first night? if yes, how come
      she got a damaged uterus confirmed to be caused by
      several abortions.  How come the ango didnt notice that
      she is not a virgin if truely she is not a virgin?

(b)  the guy is now under pressure from his family never to
      sleep with her until this case has been resolved.

(c)  Is it a bad idea for a lady to inform her fiancée that she
      is not virgin as he expects and the guy to also tell her the
      truth that he is also not a virgin?

they love each other, what is the way out now?

[bakangizo]

Babban magana.

a) I think they should go for a secong confirmation test. It is a very heavy discovery, and the outcome can be quite devastating, especially on the girl if she's innocent but they wrongly relied on the first test. As for why the husband failed to notice that she wasn't a virgin, I remember hearing that it is possible for a woman to conceal that. That a way have been devised, using some herbs, medicines, exercises and what have you. So it is difficult for an inexperienced (assuming he is inexperienced ;D) man to know the difference in that respect. Besides, it is not uncommon for girls to lose their virginity in different ways once they reach certain age.

b) I'm not sure I support that, but knowing our society, I'm not suprised. I believe we've  missed one important issue. What was the relationship like prior to the marriage? I mean, ka san akwai irin wannan soyayyar ta unibasiti wadda kar ta san kar ne ;) Did she present herself to him as this, 'clean, innocent. vituors' girl? Did she promise him, or gave him the impression, expressly or impliedly, that she's a virgin? I know that for most men that is the general expectation and is taken for granted. But there are exceptions, and if the answer to the above questions is negative, then it is unfair for him to turn back and blame the girl. I mean, kowa ya sai rariya ya san zata zubar da ruwa.

c) It is not bad to open up about the true state of your position to your proposed spouse. It is even desirable. It will save lot of headaches in the future.

Since they love each other, they should just carry on. He should consider having a second wife in the future if he so much love to have kids, provided all avenues of curing his wife have been exhausted without a positive result.

[waduz]

Well said arubuta.

The girl's mind would never be at rest knowing that her husband is a heavy drinker.
How could he be drunk on the eve of his wedding.He'll go to the wedding with a hangover.

It is a complicated issue sha.

Goga, menene kuma "hangover"? Ko rataya kake nufi?

[bakangizo]

good waduz, you will be appointed our chief consultant on
men's drink in this forum.

this case came up earlier this week, and there is need to
dissect the case and classified it under men's wardrobe.

we have seen several cases alike, and men knew it, we
don't have to deny it all the time acting holier than.........
this guy was newly employed in one of these giants nnpc
subcidiaries that paid handsomely.  his marriage was only
6 months old, for those who are married knew that period
is still within the most sweetest moments.

they graduated from the same university, though he is one
year ahead of her.

now, after six months of marriage, as usual, it is the desire
of every man to see that his wife conceives for the first
time, but shiru kake ji.  they both become worried and he
eventually took her to a gynae doctor who after several
check ups and tests declared that her uterus has suffered
some minor injuries  as a result of previous abortion(s).
the gynae further  disclosed that she might not get pregnant
because of the scar tissue in the uterus which would make it
harder for an embryo to implant.

the young guy tried to explain to the doctor that his newly
wed amarya was virgin when he met her, so, how could this
be possible?  the doctor told him that that was the result of
his tests and examination, whether his wife was virgin or not
is not an issue to be discussed in the hospital, may be home
will be better.

issues:
(a)  is the bride virgin on their first night? if yes, how come
      she got a damaged uterus confirmed to be caused by
      several abortions.  How come the ango didnt notice that
      she is not a virgin if truely she is not a virgin?

(b)  the guy is now under pressure from his family never to
      sleep with her until this case has been resolved.

(c)  Is it a bad idea for a lady to inform her fiancée that she
      is not virgin as he expects and the guy to also tell her the
      truth that he is also not a virgin?

they love each other, what is the way out now?

Baka gaya mana yadda aka kare ba.

[Dan-Borno]

Sarkin Baka, lamarin an koma rokon Allah, kasan dan
arewa akwai imani sosai.

this one is also a brand new case and very much involved
in it, infact, nine alwalin yarinya and her dowry is still with
me.

the marriage is not up to a month now, and i promise never
to be involved in a marriage where thorough hiv/aids is not
conducted, this case is an eye opener to me and insha Allah
continue the propaganda to other ulamas never to give fatiya
to any marriage without presenting certificate of fitness.

on the wedding nyt, while the guy is busy undressing to taste
his new flower, she broke into tears and confessed that she
is hiv positive and infact she has even started taking drugs
(antiretroviral) - jhon thomas nan take ta kwanta, sai gumi
and he called me that nite and explain everything to me
as her alwali.

kai Allah ya rabamu da abin kunya, lallai arewa muna sakaci
and i can see it from my actions wallahi, dole mu farka mu
rika yin yanda yakama ayi.

nace masa wannan auren is spoilt ab initio saboda an boye
wani aibu and was not disclosed to the other party until after
the marriage.

Allah ya kyauta kuma wallahi ayi hattara a rika tambayar
hiv test certificate kafin a daura aure kuma a kai sako zuwa
ga masu unguwa da alarammomi.

happy weekend.