In search for the missing Ribs

[Mufi]

In my opinion any man should be proud to be able to provide for his family, and shouldn't put an eye on how much his wife/wives are eating, you know kamar yadda GGNK ya fada, she was eating that much in her parents house in the first place. Unless of course tana bannatar da abincin ne.

Haj. Husnaa, I can't believe such thing could happen, you know the mistress thing and the 'yar hayaniya for dinner..., poor women ;D ;D ;D. but like u said " menene na halin maza that is not an open book?" :( :( :(

[HUSNAA]

Haj. Husnaa, I can't believe such thing could happen, you know the mistress thing and the 'yar hayaniya for dinner..., poor women ;D ;D ;D. but like u said " menene na halin maza that is not an open book?" :( :( :(

Really? u cant believe it?
Well bara in baki wani dan takaitaccen labari of an exchange of dialogue that happened right before my very eyes and in my hearing.
Wata rana, I happened to be going to BUK. I was waiting to get a taxi, then a quasi relative (irin I knew him since childhood) happened to be passing by in his car. He stopped and gave me a lift since he was a staff at the BUK clinic and was also headed that way. He had a friend of his in the front seat and they were just talking generally. So his friend related a story to him of  what happened to him that day or the day before or during the week. He said:
"Wallahi baka san abinda ya faru da ni ba ranan!"
My relative enquired "mene ne fa?"
"Mtsch! Matata ce ta tambayeni in bata naira ashirin dan zata yin wata 'yar bukatar ta da kudin, sai ni kuma na hana ta kuma nashiga dan fadace fadace. Amma sai ga kuma wance kaza wannan yarinyar da na ke nema, ta tambayeni naira dari biyar. Na ce ta yi hakuri zan bata. Da na tashi sai dari uku kurum na samu na bata, amma baka ji irin fadan da tai tayi ba akan haka!"

Ni kuma ina zaune a kujerar baya a motar, sai nace a cikin raina, Allah Ya kara maka fiye da haka, da ma jifan ka tayi da dari ukun!!

[Mufi]

Wane rashin mutunci yafi wannan, I bet u inda mata tashi ce tayi mashi haka the story might have a different ending ;D ;D. Allah ya kyauta, Amin.

[amira]

He said:
"Wallahi baka san abinda ya faru da ni ba ranan!"
My relative enquired "mene ne fa?"
"Mtsch! Matata ce ta tambayeni in bata naira ashirin dan zata yin wata 'yar bukatar ta da kudin, sai ni kuma na hana ta kuma nashiga dan fadace fadace. Amma sai ga kuma wance kaza wannan yarinyar da na ke nema, ta tambayeni naira dari biyar. Na ce ta yi hakuri zan bata. Da na tashi sai dari uku kurum na samu na bata, amma baka ji irin fadan da tai tayi ba akan haka!"

Ni kuma ina zaune a kujerar baya a motar, sai nace a cikin raina, Allah Ya kara maka fiye da haka, da ma jifan ka tayi da dari ukun!!

Ai da kyau, maganin kare da yaga rawar kura.
Dama ya bada in za'ayi masa godiya ko Allah ya saka masa amma ya bada naira dari uku ana masa masifa.
Allah kyauta Ameen.

[Bayya]

True, maza can be terrible,selfish and greedy at times, amma kar ku manta
ba duka aka zama daya ba. Malama Husnaa, mata ma fa ba baya ba.
Wani lokacin da gaske mijin bashi da shi amma sai ta ki taimaka masa ko da
da kudin maggi, bayan kuma tana da halin yin hakan.
abin dai it takes two ....

[Fateez]

Husband: Wannan fa, abincin waye?

Wife: Lalalala..kar dai baka sani ba? Ai rabona kenan! ;D

Husband: Naki?!!!!!! Allah ya sauwaka, in kin cinye, ki tafi na
              sakeki saki uku! Wallahi ba zan iya ba.

You see, he was lucky that day he saw what she was consuming caused her continuity in her husbands' houses.

Hehehehehehe! Sorry to say but this is the most despicable excuse

for divorce I have ever heard of! Do these people even know what

love is about? He is ready to let go of the person he loves because

of a reason as petty as "she eats too much"? Did he even think before

his action abi did he just react as the impulse of the moment? I think

this man needs get his brain checked up; there's obviously something

wrong in the frontal cortex! I thought marriage was about compromise

and hakuri da juna? How about "Ki dan rage mana. Kinsan abinchi na

tsada kwannan nan" or even "Haba ya yi yawa ki ji tausayi na mana."

A'a, oga just thought abeg commot for my house. Without even weighing

the pros and cons of letting her go. 

What next?

"Why did you wake up before me? Saki uku!"

"Why didn't you watch the news? Saki uku!"

Or better still...

"I don't like your earrings! Saki uku!"

Nonsense and Ingredients!

[amira]

LOL Fateez that is serious,abin kuma zai wuce gona da iri.

Husband: Wannan fa, abincin waye?

Wife: Lalalala..kar dai baka sani ba? Ai rabona kenan! ;D

Husband: Naki?!!!!!! Allah ya sauwaka, in kin cinye, ki tafi na
              sakeki saki uku! Wallahi ba zan iya ba.

You see, he was lucky that day he saw what she was consuming caused her continuity in her husbands' houses.

This sounds like something Ibro and margayiya Tsigai would do ;D

[Dan-Borno]

Sannunku Jam'iyyar Matan Arewa, yau lamarin ba a cewa komai.
What ever you will be saying, the truth of the matter is, if a
woman eats too much and never performs as espected, dole ne
fa mijin yayi fushi da ita, and in some cases, it can even lead to
divorce.

GGNK, will you tolerate a woman who if your family comeby to
see you dont bother to give food or water as entertainment and then
she consumes everything alone?

Or abincin da ka saya a gidanka is only for herself and her family,
watakila ko haifuwa ma bata yi.  THere is wisdom in   this.

Ke kuma Husnaa, there is one thing you women dont understand at
all.  If a man is under courtship, he is expected never to say babu,
he should try as much as possible to birge wannan babygirl, not to
truely show her the what marriage is all about until she comes in, that
is the logic your cousin's friend used.  Ai ita wanda take gida is already
in hand, you are now spreading your net for a fresh fishing with some
tiny worms to attract your baby    ;D

Fateez, you are welcome.  Amma its good for you to know that the
case under study should be given critical analysis.  The guy is fed up,
watakila albashinsa is so little and they have promised to maintain the
101 rationing system before the economy will be alright, she broke the
rule and eat above what they have arranged, and he feels she has
seriously betrayed him, the trust and confidence is no longer there, not
to talk of  love.  While he is busy suffering for them, she is here busy
eating like giwa with out anything to reciprocate.  Kash.

[MySeLf]

This topic of mata and hadiyar Abinci ya isheni daji.....
Have you guys forgotten that a woman can as well provide for her family as the man....
Most women of now days are hard working independent women who wait not for their
husband salary........ So how can what she consume be a problem?

[gogannaka]

[quote-Dan-Borno]GGNK, will you tolerate a woman who if your family comeby to
see you dont bother to give food or water as entertainment and then
she consumes everything alone?

Or abincin da ka saya a gidanka is only for herself and her family,
watakila ko haifuwa ma bata yi.  THere is wisdom in   this.[/quote}

DB na dauka marriage is all about tolerance?
Wise men said:women are like a soft stick that needs to be straightened.If you straighten them too much they break and if you leave them they continue bending.


In any case,wannan issue din da ka fada yana faruwa da yawa.Idan dangin ka suka zo gida wadansu matan can be very unpolite which is very wrong.
Batun kyauta da abinci kam dama mata sun gaji kyautar da abincin ka.Maybe they are more compassionate?
Haifuwa kuma daga Allah ne ba laifin ta bane.You, as well,could be saddled with that same problem.
Idan ka ga you desperately want children kuma confirmed bata haifuwa sai ka auro wata.

Husband: Wannan fa, abincin waye?

Wife: Lalalala..kar dai baka sani ba? Ai rabona kenan! ;D

Husband: Naki?!!!!!! Allah ya sauwaka, in kin cinye, ki tafi na
              sakeki saki uku! Wallahi ba zan iya ba.

You see, he was lucky that day he saw what she was consuming caused her continuity in her husbands' houses.

Hehehehehehe! Sorry to say but this is the most despicable excuse

for divorce I have ever heard of!

Wallahi nima haka.

[Bee]

Salam
      Well this is not surprising.A Hausa man will do anything no matter how silly to get rid of his wife if he wants her no more.I know of a case that the husband divorced his wife becasue sunyi fada a kan sabulu.You see, this is the unfortunate reality.Why should he send her away because she eats more than he does?Since when has eating become a  competition between husband and his wife?The prize is certainly not the winner getting the upper hand to rule the family.I thought that is what most Hausa men are afraid of?A woman having a mind of her own.
       And in regards to what dan barno said,that a man has to pretend to be who he is not when courting a girl.The actual fact is,that is what a man (who really does not know what he wants)thinks of what is expected of him but not what is really expected of him.Shi yasa long courtship is very important.The girl will have an idea of what the man might be like when she becomes his wife so she could ajust(if she can)her eating habits if she is like that unfortunate woman.
        Speaking about that woman,she is only unlucky to fall into the hands of selfish men.Let's look at those men who have to feed four wives and a sea of kids and they are not even rich!All they want is to see that thier wives and kids are healthy with no hunger problems.Su kuma fa ace masu me?
       I cant even begin to imagin that!Sending your wife away because she eats more.If he can do that to his wife,then he can do that to himself by starving himselve so he can save food or whatever it is he is hoping to save.

[HUSNAA]

Haqqun haqqun haqqun Bee u've said it all!
I am really shocked at DB, who condones playing false when courting a girl or woman. The problem with playing false outside the marriage and revealing yr tru colors within it, is that the woman no longer treats the man with respect, because she sees deception as the end result.
Besides DB is really beating about the bush. The plain statement was that a husband saw his wife eating too much and divorced her. There were no other strings attached, like erstwhile perfomance or that her she treats her relatives better than his own, or buhun gidansa is down or any 101 rationing. DB is just searching wildly for anything to present as justification for the unjustifiabe!

Haba! rowar abinci!! Matsayin bada abinci ai ya fice abada misali ma! Allah SWT Yana fada a Quran mai girma that if one cannot fast for expitiation of sins or even the regular ramadhan fast because of larura or other, then one must feed others as substitution for the azumi.   Bugu da kari, matsayin azumi a wajen Allah SWT is so great, saboda Ya ce  Shi ake wa  azumi, because it is the one ibadat that is truly hidden from the public in terms of its authenticity and validity. All other acts of worship u can do for ppl to look and admire, but not azumi. To kuma sai Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala Ya ce in ka kasa, ga abin da zai maye gurbin azumin. To ashe kuwa ciyar wa wani babban muhinmin abu ne! Bayan haka kuma ance baiwa dan uwanka sadaka na da lada kashi biyu fiye da baiwa na waje sadaka. Duk lomar da namiji ya ciyadda matarsa, ta na matsayin sadaka  gare shi!! to ashe kuwa babban lada maza suke zubar wa!
Ko da yake it is no wonder! Duk abin da zai kusantar da dan Adam izuwa ga Mahalliccin sa, Shaitan baya kaunar sa. Shi yasa Shaitan yake zuba wa maza azabar rowar abincin da za su ci da matan su... har ta kai su ga sakin auren, abin da Allah Ya Tsana.....

Allah Ya Kyauta dai :-\

[Bee]

Ameen husnaa,ameen.Kuma Allah ya tsare....

[Fateez]

Bee and HUSNAA have told it like it is.

Dan Borno, there is no possible way to justify this case.

Besides, waduz narrated the story. If the woman did all the things that

you claim she may be doing behind the scenes then i think he would've mentioned it.

Amma its good for you to know that the
case under study should be given critical analysis.  The guy is fed up,
watakila albashinsa is so little and they have promised to maintain the
101 rationing system before the economy will be alright, she broke the
rule and eat above what they have arranged, and he feels she has
seriously betrayed him, the trust and confidence is no longer there, not
to talk of  love.  While he is busy suffering for them, she is here busy
eating like giwa with out anything to reciprocate.  Kash.

Idan ma ance albashinsa is not enough, me zai hana ya gaya mata? ba ya da

bakin magana ne? ko kuma vocabulary dinshi is only restricted to na sake ki?

Da a ce ya fadi mata cewa ta rage cin abinci amma still ta kiya then yes, he

has a valid reason to be angry. Amma zancen divorce is still far fetched. Irin

wannan mazan ne da ba sa tsoron haduwarsu da Allah. I still insist his brain is

not correct. There is a lesion somewhere waiting to be discovered. A tattara

duka ex-husbands dinta da mazan da za su sake matan su saboda abinci - Naija

Neurologists suna da aiki a gaban su!

[Dan-Borno]

Let us analyse the author's post, may you ladies and
gentlemen will give the husband a fair hearing.

Surely and going by a story told by someone, we must be careful in making choice of a life patner.

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The author is trying to advise members that while making a
choice for a life partner one has to take his time before
marrying.  This advise is based on a story as told by some
one the author knows very well.

The story is that a woman was married and divorced by many men. Nobody could say why the woman was being irrationally sacked by any husband she marries.  She was beautiful and good natured, but no one knows why she gets kicked out after getting married withon a few months.

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The above opening of the story tells everything about who
the woman was.  Her curriculum vitae is full of very early
termination of appointment, even though non of her
previous husbands could actually reveal the true reason for
the various terminations.  Fi sabilillahi, a woman divorced by
not one person, not two person, definately the problem must
have emanated from the wife.

However, I underlined the word irrationally, may be the author
will explain that later.

Now this guy decided to marry her and discover by himself why her case was as it was. They lived for baout six months without him noticing any problem from the wife. One day when he returned from work he found the wife has just finished cooking and was sharing it dishes. His eyes caught one particular dish that was so big and wide and was still being filled up by the wife. He stop abruptly and enquired:

Husband: Wannan fa, abincin waye?
Wife: Lalalala..kar dai baka sani ba? Ai rabona kenan! ;D
Husband: Naki?!!!!!! Allah ya sauwaka, in kin cinye, ki tafi na
              sakeki saki uku! Wallahi ba zan iya ba.
You see, he was lucky that day he saw what she was consuming caused her continuity in her husbands' houses.

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The above incidence is the last tsinke that broke the camels
back.  After six months of observation, she keeps on becoming
very beautiful, while her natural habit is well adorned.

However, he came to understand why all her previous husbands
run away from her, they cant bear it any more, because a normal
persons bowl of food will never scare a  husband, then definitely
what she consumes as her food is beyond the normal food a
normal person can eat alone.

In order to confirm the truth of the matter, the husband patiently
inquire whose food is this in a very giant bowl? and when he came
to understand that she answered in affirmative confirming that it
is her own, he now took a decision that will be good for him, since
the marriage is never for better for worse.

Infact, his statement In kin cinye, ki tafi na sake ki is a very
good evidence that the husband has given her an option to comply
with his ethics, as he is the head of the house.

Husband: Wannan fa, abincin waye?
Wife: Lalalala..kar dai baka sani ba? Ai rabona kenan! ;D
Husband: Naki?!!!!!! Allah ya sauwaka, in kin cinye, ki tafi na
              sakeki saki uku! Wallahi ba zan iya ba.
You see, he was lucky that day he saw what she was consuming caused her continuity in her husbands' houses.

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May be whe husband's confession of

Wallahi ba zan iya ba.

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will convince you that the man is seriously innocent, he
has point black told her that he can no longer bear it, just
like his predecessors.

Mai daki shine yasan inda yake yi masa yoyo.  His decision
is right for him.