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Assalaam!

Na gaisheku Ihsan da Bahaushiya. Shukran. Gaskiya ne ko ina yaro ko dan adam ya ke zai iya lalacewa. Allah ubangiji ya siryarda nu.

Amma ai magana nan ita ce, parents su na da na su responsibility zu wa ga yayan su. Wanda ya ke shi ne su tabbatar cewa sun aza yayan su bisa akan hanya da tsari mafi kyau. Saura kuma sai addu'a da rokon Allah ya yi jagora

Therefore, our role as parents is to make sure we choose a path that we know is most sensible for our children. Dan-Kwairo and others say, kome ka shuka shi za ka girba.

This therefore brings back to what Shira said. I really agree with him. There is need for parents to insulate their children from early childhood exposure from western culture till after such children are grounded in tarbiyya da al'adun gida. The wisdom here is that, idan yara su ka tashi gida, kome shi ga duniyar su, a karshe za su dawo. kuma ba za a ga sun yi wani abin da zai yi shaking the very foundation of their lives ba, kamar mace ta yi auren wani wanda ya ke ba addinin su daya ba etc etc. Please don't judge me that, no matter what there are some people who do these things no matter where raised. I concede there are exceptions. But the whole issue is, as parents have we done what is right from our understanding of the problem while allowing God take control?

My advise is that, kar a tura yara kasar turai at an early age. A bari sai sun kare secondry school tukuna.

Allah ya ka ra lurad da mu a ko yaushe - Ameen!

Dan-Sokoto

 
Salamu Alaikum

Allah ya kiyaye....coz  there are some people that are from very religeous backgrounds, and   completed their high schools and yet they are of bad characters.......

Wisdom is  not age.... some kids I know that are 13 and suna da hankali.......whereas I know some that are 40  and all u will do is pity them....

So either high school graduates or not, if their Iman is strong , they will have second thoughts before doing bad things.... and If their Imam is weak...sorry for them...

OOOh YEAH~ There are some kids from states like Kano, Katsina, Sokoto...and u will find them drinking...and Wallah, they  will tell u that they started drinking Alchohol back in Kano, Katsina, Sokoto....  

So Many of them come abroad, already rotten!!! They just have more freedom to do it abroad coz they dont have their parents near....

All I can say is May Allah  Guide and Protect us from Satan...Ameen
:)

Assalaam Alaikum,

Wallahi kam gaskiya ne Fulanicious, wadanda suka kare makarantar secondary din a Nigeria wallahi idan suka fita waje har sunfi wasu wadanda dama a wajen suke lalacewa. Abun kawai sai gyaran Allah. Allah ya shiryemu baki daya.

 
AMEEEEEEEEEEEEN

i agree with bahaushiya!!!!..... no difference between outside, inside....... even if na outahspace.....same destiny baybeeee...

:D LOOOOOL , CANT HELP MYSELF, LOOOOLLLL

MY DYME SISTA:) U NEED HELP, SERIOSULY :).........LOOOL U R JUST OFF THE HOOK!!!!!! 8) :D 8)

Assalaam!

Now you folks are re-directing the issue from a simple stated theme to a general issue of lalacewar yara. In all my submisssions, i agreed that, wether in or outside Nigeria, with or without parental supervision or guidance children could get astray. I even went further in my earlier submission to say parents could only do this much and the rest sai addua da rokon allah kawai.

Let me once more re-affirm that, in or outside, outer-space or below the ocean, even in Mecca and Medina children do go astray and could still go astray. This is a statement of fact. So what are we supposed to do? Fold our arms and keep quite and do nothing? We should not talk about it or even suggest a way out?

On the issue of lalacewan yara wether at home or outside, can somebody help us with what may be responsible? And ?recommend way out? Don Allah a taimaka. Come on sisters and brothers, please put on your thinking caps, i need help on this issue.

Wassalaam Dan-Sokoto

Salamu alaikum

I say a WEAK HEART!!!  no matter even if Ahmed Deedat is ur teacher! If u have a weak heart u will forget about the Islamic ways of life ......

Some people may say its peer pressure. But Wallah i dont belive in that. If u let your friends get u tangled in the wrong things,then it is because U WANTED to get tangled!!!

What is so wrong with changing friends? to get new and more positive friends ,even if the person is just 1 .huh  ?????????

And if ur afraid that u won't be considered  "cool" anymore...think of it this way, u will be a cool person before your decent friends, before  your family, and most importantly before Allah who created YOU! :o :o :o

So tell me, who should u fear most MAN  OR  GOD  ?? ?? ?? ?? ?? ??

somethin to think about......

Well akwai wani abu sdayake sa mutanenmu su auri non-muslim daga wata kasa,most of them is because of citizenship in sukai aure aka basu citizenship sai su rabu,wasu kuma so ne yake musu yawa sai kaga ya kaisu ga aure,koda yake bana jin haram ne ga namiji ya auri mace wadda ba musulmaba saboda zai iya musuluntar da ita,amma mace bai halatta ta auri wanda ba musulmiba,Allah y vakaremu Amin.

I was wondering where I have been when u guys are busy discussion thes interestingly important topics. Iam happy I can now say a few things. U guys have said so much already; to amma abin da na ke so na kara shine, a gaskiya kamar yadda manzo(S.A.W.) ya ce ne; a ciking jiki akwai wata tsoka, idan ta gyru to dukkan jiki sai ya gyaru, hka kuma idan ta baci dukkan jiki sai ya baci, wannan itace "zuciya". Abinda yasa na kwao wannan shine, I have a friend whom I know to be RAW, I mean very raw in every sense of the word. Suddenly he got a chance to go abroad for his karatu, my heart was all out for him. To my uttermost supprise after some month he sent me picture of him and the people they have succeeded in converting to Islam, he is now seriously into propagation of the word of Allah even though he more exposed to the western culture ( as he is in the US). Simply, he is more of a saint in the US than when he was in Nigeria. At first I thought, the reason is because he realised that ' what ever he wants to do there are people doing  worser things out there and he decided to let go'
In a nut shell, mtum dai shi zai rike zuciyarsa, domin akwai yaran da iayayensu ma ba yadda za suyi da su sai dai addua'a.
Allah ya kauta, amin!!
kamil

ameen Wallah

Wallahi so true brother Kamil..zuciya dai itace..ta gyaru komai ya gyaru, ta baci, komai ya baci....

Allah ya shiryemu...Ameen

Well it look like I'm really late to enter this conversation. But I have to agree with the most people here, It's all destiny--- whatever suppose to happen it will happen you can be in kano or in washington it will not change. ba hausawa nace wa tun ran gini tun ran zane be. it's just that we disgust nasara(western people) so when ever our people are with them we tend to think that they will behave just like them. Amma ni a ganina going to school outside of nigeria will not hurt or fix your children in any way it's just an experience for both the kids and parents.

yeah.... experience i agree... some will be soooo proud... and others...madd dissapointed...hehe... na so be lyfe...
so many things our peeps do... even in their very own village... so we should all kick the idea of "people abroad are spoilt and raw" to the curb... cuz it aint true...

Tahiyyatiy al-islam,

Bravo Dan-Sokoto for "triggering" up this discussion, had I the required expertise I would have given you namijin goro daga Zaria as opposed to the "female" goro Salisu gave you from Kano :).

It is evident today that everything from everywhere can reach everywhere within just a blink of an eye. Lalacewar tarbiya, ko 'yan uwanmu mata su rika DATING wasu wanda ba musulmi ba ya zama ruwan dare ko ina har ma a gida nan. In ABU Zaria here (that is where I do " Kwadago" ) the thing is becoming... uhm what is the right word?...Yes I find it: "O-U-T-R-A-G-E-O-U-S". My profession; being an IT personnel; my different associations and my convial disposition, sukansa na saba da mutane da yawa sosai cikin sauki. Yanzu haka dinnnan da nake rubuta wannan ina kallon wata yarinya musulma(bahaushiya) da saurayinta wadda shike ba musulmi bane suna surfing net a cikin laboratory dinda nake.

I have ruminated over and over again for long on why this thing is happening. Because I believe The Hausa-Fulani in Nigeria alone are more than 35 million. We have a unique identity; a civilization; a culture we must to indefatigably defend.  So I went a step further to interviewing some of the sisters involved - and you may be surprised - but by God they spoke out their mind.  

In short, what is common in their wordings as the reason for their -what I will here call  "Embezzlement of Gene"- is LACK OF ATTENTION from their "ordained" brothers, that they may have to their company AND accomplishment: the right and most perfect influence. And believe you me sincerely it is true. For I can still remember a certain popular NTA network newscaster that married a Christian. When asked of the reason why? she replied: I find peace in him, for my own did not deem it fit to marry me.

Yes, as the prophet (PBUH) of Islam would say:  Hearts do tilt to it that is favorably disposed towards it.

I’ll forward my suggestions as a sequel to this in Gods permission. I am in deep hurry now.

Thank you and God bless

Waziri