To wai menene ma'anar"hausa mentality"!!!

Nabulsi · October 22, 2005, 02:27:40 PM

For god's sake! From where have they gotten this concept "hausa mentality"? Why do our girls always reckon that they are to be chased and not be the chasers?
Thank god I am not a girl. Otherwise, I would have to be conflict with my colleagues. Because I see no reason for me to keep my love for a guy in my gaddamn heart. Kai! I just have to utter it out.
I wonder when this perspective will change direction. Hope sooner than later.

Fateez · October 22, 2005, 03:53:01 PM

Oh puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez!!! Just because zizo used da phrase

to prove a point doesn't mean it's a trend. Cos seriously i have never

heard it before.I guess Zizo only meant "the hausa way of thinking"

nothing more nothing less. infact what makes u think Zizo is a girl? eh? u

shud be sure first cos even i don't know.

Back to ur question...hmm Lallai ma, i can't beleive u r saying this. U r

only saying it because u r a guy. cos seriously if u were a girl, trust me u

won't do that. if a girl says her mind or chases a guy, it's da same guys

dat'd be calling her yar duniya, ko kuma su ce wai bata da kamun kai.

Infact ma za ta yi experiencing wulakanci kala-kala, kuma ba yanda za ta

yi ta riga ta fada. Personally i wud'nt even think of it. It has happened to

one of ma best friends and she ended up with nothing but a shattered

heart and u think i wud risk it? hell no!

PS: zizo, r u a girl or guy?

zezezee · October 23, 2005, 06:43:07 PM

well, i would go with Fateez opinion here. being a girl, wether hausa or not, only means u have a level of self control. dnt get me wrong tho, some girls abuse it. most especially from parts of the world we r from. and by this i am referring to cases wen girls dont even know when to say thnk u to a guy (which pisses me off personally).

but on the general sense of it, i think shes right. keep up the good work girl :wink:

neozizo · October 24, 2005, 04:38:50 PM

ZIZO is a GUY/MAN!!!!!!!
Hmmm........ have my views on issues in this site been effeminite(hope dats d word)?or is it that some ppl just misunderstand them?maybe i shld start a thread bout dis.

Quote from: "fateez"Oh puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez!!! Just because zizo used da phrase to prove a point doesn't mean it's a trend.Cos seriously i have never heard it before.

It is a trend.Which rock have been living under? :)

Quote from: "fateez"....cos seriously if u were a girl, trust me u won't do that. if a girl says her mind or chases a guy, it's da same guys
dat'd be calling her yar duniya, ko kuma su ce wai bata da kamun kai.
Infact ma za ta yi experiencing wulakanci kala-kala, kuma ba yanda za ta
yi ta riga ta fada.

Well fateez there is a situation where kama kan zai yi yawa ya wuce gona da iri.
Our girls need to master the art of finnese and moderation when it comes to courtship.i agree no guy likes an "easy" babe but you girls tend to go too far to make this point.the middle course pls!

Quote from: "fateez"it's da same guys dat'd be calling her yar duniya, ko kuma su ce wai bata da kamun kai. Infact ma za ta yi experiencing wulakanci kala-kala, kuma ba yanda za ta yi ta riga ta fada

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I would have to agree here.I wud also concede that there is a breed known as horses who wud indulge back-biting and gossipin among other undesirable traits.

Quote from: "fateez"Personally i wud'nt even think of it. It has happened to one of ma best friends and she ended up with nothing but a shattered heart and u think i wud risk it? hell no!

Is this a justification for "hausa way of thinking" in babes?
Can we SAFELY say,then, that you have a little bit of malo in u? :D :) :D

Nabulsi · October 25, 2005, 04:35:36 PM

Quote from: "Fateez"

Back to ur question...hmm Lallai ma, i can't beleive u r saying this. U r

only saying it because u r a guy. cos seriously if u were a girl, trust me u

won't do that. if a girl says her mind or chases a guy, it's da same guys

dat'd be calling her yar duniya, ko kuma su ce wai bata da kamun kai.

Infact ma za ta yi experiencing wulakanci kala-kala, kuma ba yanda za ta

yi ta riga ta fada. Personally i wud'nt even think of it. It has happened to

one of ma best friends and she ended up with nothing but a shattered

heart and u think i wud risk it? hell no!

Well, truely speaking, I meant my words. At times, girls acted to their own detriment. She would be dying for a guy, yet she wouldn't let him know.
Ko kin san cewa duk wanda yarinya tace tana sonshi, yayi mata wulakanci he is boring himself? Ai yanzu duniyar ta canja. Su kansu matan nowadays sun fara gano cewa wulakanci is unfair.
To shi kenan, kar ma ta gaya masa, ta zauna har wanda bata so ya fito ya aure ta. Wa tayi wa? Bai wuce kanta ba.

Fateez · October 29, 2005, 07:09:50 AM

Quote from: "Nabulsi"
Well, truely speaking, I meant my words. At times, girls acted to their own detriment. She would be dying for a guy, yet she wouldn't let him know.
Ko kin san cewa duk wanda yarinya tace tana sonshi, yayi mata wulakanci he is boring himself? Ai yanzu duniyar ta canja. Su kansu matan nowadays sun fara gano cewa wulakanci is unfair.
To shi kenan, kar ma ta gaya masa, ta zauna har wanda bata so ya fito ya aure ta. Wa tayi wa? Bai wuce kanta ba.

Duniya ta canja? If we follow all da changes in da world today do u know how we wud end up? Useless. So because "duniya ta canja" we shud jump on da bandwagon and change even though it goes against our trad? I don't think so.

If u are one of da people that say comments like "Children of nowadays are bad" or even "western movies are spoiling our kids" then u really shudn't say "duniya ta canja". All da children are doing is going along with da "changes of da world". So according to ur phrase, its oky for da kids today to be bad. :? ?Just because the world is changing doesn't mean we shud lose our morals. There is beauty in conservatism.

As for wulakanci, i think it's really wrong, infact most of the time it's stupid, but sometimes, i think it can be justified. To Hausa men {at least majority of them} Ur feelings just don't matter to them. They like u, u dont like them, yet they disturb u day and night, they haunt u, infact they stalk u, and then they expect u to like them back instantly. Most of da time u don't know jack about da person. Don't they know it doesn't work like that? It's a relationship b/w 2 ppl. but no, to him it's his way or the highway.

It's happening these days isn't it? the girl makes da first move, the guy plays along and everything is going on smoothly. When it's time for da man to settle down, he ditches the girl and goes for someone culturally inclined. That's whats happening today. he flirts in da big city, time for him to get married he goes to back to da kauye. not just in hausa men, but nigerians in general.

Fateez · October 29, 2005, 07:26:05 AM

@ Zizo: There is nothing like kamun kai ya yi yawa. To mutanen arewa,

it's either tana da kamun kai, ko bata da kamun kai. there can't be a grey

area.

These girls are only being overprotective, which i don't blame them. With

the kind of guys in da wolrd today, i think everyone shud be

overprotective and extra careful before they let anyone into their lives.

It's hard to trust anyone these days. Consider ur sisters. Sometimes

Brothers are so overprotective u'd feel like runnning away from home.

Consider da girls attitude as doing what u wud tell ur sisters to do: Being

careful before she lets anyone into he life.

*~MuDa~* · November 05, 2005, 12:07:42 PM

Quote from: "Fateez"

if a girl says her mind or chases a guy, it's da same guys

dat'd be calling her yar duniya, ko kuma su ce wai bata da kamun kai.

Infact ma za ta yi experiencing wulakanci kala-kala, kuma ba yanda za ta

yi ta riga ta fada.

Ohooo! So Tima u r now anticifating zat We ze guys...we r ze YAN DUNIYA and we dont habe ze KAMUN KAI ko? Tell me, is zere any book were it is written zat boys must do ze asking in romantic matters? Depinately NO! 8)

neozizo · November 09, 2005, 03:19:21 PM

Quote from: "mudacris"it is written zat boys must do ze asking in romantic matters? Depinately NO!

True talk my broda!

FATEEZ,i really can't agree with you bout there not being a moderate kind of kamun kai.You only leave us with too extremes:kamun kai=snubish OR rashin kamun kai=promiscuity.Which one may i ask are you?

Being overprotective and untrusting are really not bad,but I dont see how these traits can be equated with the Hausa mentality we are talking about.Besides a relationship is a 2-way thing,its give and take equal amounts, you have to open your self up a little so the other side can get to know the real you and vice-versa.
Just becos you allow a person into your life in the process of geting to know them is no guarantee that they areMr/Miss. Right(the whole point is to find out if he/she is the right person).Beside a person who leaves after a while is not the kind you want(you should be thinkn "good-ridance).

Quote from: "fateez"the girl makes da first move, the guy plays along and everything is going on smoothly. When it's time for da man to settle down, he ditches the girl and goes for someone culturally inclined. That's whats happening today. he flirts in da big city, time for him to get married he goes to back to da kauye. not just in hausa men, but nigerians in general.

Is culturally inclined a bad thing?what does it mean?
It is not true that men abandon educated women for kauyawa(not in the Northern part of Nigeria at least).