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Started by ummita, May 05, 2003, 01:26:58 PM
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QuoteGood Topic Ummita. When I was a little boy (aged 9yrs).I was very naughty.
QuoteWhen I was training to be a teacher we did child psychology and I remember the lecturer arguing that if a child learns early enough to be obedient beating will never be necessary. Up to 18 months is the best time to instil obedience in a child he told us and a small child is very susceptible to a strong tone of voice. If the child is very stubborn a stinging smack on the buttocks or the back of the hand (which pains but does no damage) will reinforce the message "NO" and the child will become very biddable. Learning to do what it it is told before 18 months and showing respect becomes a very good habit as the child grows up. Many silly white people have developed a theory that a child should do as it likes when it is very young. "It will learn by its mistakes" is their theory. Like it will learn that the ground is very hard when it falls out a three storey window or kills itself by sticking its fingers into the electric socket! These children are the ones you see the parents beating - as the theory has proved to be wrong, the child won't do what it is told and the parents can't control them. If you have no control early on you can't then get control when the child is adolescent - and beating makes the behaviour worse - even to the extent of hitting back.
QuoteSome theories are not applicable,'cos every child has his own peculiarity.
QuoteIf that is so, then y not adopt & apply a theory which will b applicable ?2 ur childs peculiarity. Obviously not every sort of punishment works 4 every child. If a child does wrong................a theory u can apply KILISHI(Go directly, see wat d child is duin & tell him he musnt)! Parentage is a very important profession in life, for a parent 2 b'cum a professional they hav 2 apply the best way 2 train their kids. If if they think beating is by far the best way to bring up & discipline a child, then I dont think that person fits d role of parent 2 d child. Why? Sooner or later that child will get used to beating & wat point does it make wen a leaopard does not change his spots or change his feelings that spots r rather a credit? :-/They beat children but it doesnt change their ways!
QuoteWhere I stand on the issue of beating a child is I believe it is ok to correct ur child through light physical contact.
Quote Light Contact?!!!!! :o Wat? Who du u think wud give lyt contact as in say.........a spank @ their back? If u tlkin bout Nigerians most especially northerners theres no such thing as litht contact.....however theres blows & real corporal punishments ::)
Quotehaba ,ai kowa yasan na yoruba sabi beat their child like donkey,but is minimal in the north
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