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i intended to bring this to the forum since saturday evening
when one of our regular and esteem member made the above
comment on his wall in facebook, one of the worlds largest
social website.

the question now is, how true is it, that these social networks
can ruin someone's relationship, wether marital or otherwise?

as for me, so long you are fair and transparent in your dealings
you should have nothing to fear concerning your activities on
the website.  but for those with double face might likely face
trouble.

facebook has now become a world platform, apart from making
new friends, old buddies reunite once again - i luv it that way?

lets hear Gogannaka's view tukuna???????????????????????????
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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #1 on: August 18, 2009, 05:41:08 PM »
It might ruin for some but not for everyone.
Ghafurallahi lana wa lakum

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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #2 on: August 19, 2009, 12:18:44 PM »
Assalamu alaikum,

The site (facebook) piss me off. Unlike many people, I presume. I am more interested in sites where real discussions take place; where you meet intellectuals and discuss, debate, etc with them; where you, if you are that lucky, meet your...eh, as well. It happens right? ;D ;D ;D

Thus I don't think that frigging site can have a speck of influence on me in any way. I just visit it as under duress. Should I continue? ;D ;D ;D

Or probably as Husnaa put. Agreed.
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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #3 on: August 19, 2009, 01:24:58 PM »
Db why do you want me to respond first?
Have you heard of the person that attempted to kill his wife because she changed her status to single?

@Muhsin you know actually there are amazing and intellectual people on facebook too.

I think one needs to be cautious of his words and comments on the social websites especially when you have your spouse and family members on your friend list.
A simple change of status on facebook can jeopardize a relationship ko ba haka ba? E.g from 'engaged' to 'single'
And also people find it easy flirting around on these sites especially with the very attractive pictures circulating these sites.Before you know it,you are caught one day by your spouse (or whatever) and you have no excuse.
Surely after suffering comes enjoyment

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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #4 on: August 19, 2009, 02:31:49 PM »
lol GGNK, the last time i erroneously changed my status to single
i received more than 10 private message from my wives friends
and family, i just have to change my status back immediately,
kasan singles do sell very well on facebook
 8)  8)
« Last Edit: August 19, 2009, 04:01:48 PM by Dan-Borno »
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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #5 on: August 19, 2009, 03:19:51 PM »
@Muhsin you know actually there are amazing and intellectual people on facebook too.

I know. But it's unlike this forum and its likes where not every Dick and Tom can just register and withstand the "actions" going on.

kasan singles do sell very well on facebook  8)  8)

I'm single, and so it is on ma facebook profile. But am yet to sell. Anything wrong?

Where is TKT ya duba min?
« Last Edit: August 19, 2009, 03:22:46 PM by Muhsin »
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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #6 on: August 19, 2009, 04:19:37 PM »
Assalamu alaikum,

The site (facebook) piss me off. Unlike many people, I presume. I am more interested in sites where real discussions take place; where you meet intellectuals and discuss, debate, etc with them; where you, if you are that lucky, meet your...eh, as well. It happens right? ;D ;D ;D

Thus I don't think that frigging site can have a speck of influence on me in any way. I just visit it as under duress. Should I continue? ;D ;D ;D

Or probably as Husnaa put. Agreed.

Muhsin, try and get some of yr friends together and register as members. You will begin to enjoy it then. Its not a forum for debate. Its a global majalisa.
Ghafurallahi lana wa lakum

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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #7 on: August 19, 2009, 05:00:00 PM »
@ DB:To kai ma wa ya kai ka?

Were you looking for a new catch?Don't trust all those pictures you see.
My friend almost lost his mutunci and girlfriend when another girl posted their photo together.

@ Muhsin,kai da baka saka hoton ka ba yaya za'ayi kayi selling?
There are several reasons why people register with these sites.
Some go there to find suitors,some to stalk on other people,some to reunite with old buddies and some to make new friends or market.
It all depends on the manner you use it.
Yanzu zumunci ya koma facebook or the social networking sites.
Surely after suffering comes enjoyment

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« Reply #8 on: August 19, 2009, 05:40:54 PM »
Who's on facebook here? I never did get to like the site. I visit once in a while, but I'm not too much into it.

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« Reply #9 on: August 19, 2009, 06:06:47 PM »
BKGZ,it is better that you don't enjoy it.
You are a dangerous guy.
Surely after suffering comes enjoyment

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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #10 on: August 19, 2009, 09:11:52 PM »
You are a dangerous guy.
;D  ;D  ;D  ;D what about if compared with IBB?
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« Reply #11 on: August 20, 2009, 09:25:15 AM »
Hmm,Its like you don't know BKGZ.
You know he is the most anonymous user even on kanoonline so he can be an anonymous user on facebook as well.
No one can ever know. I just don't trust him  :P

Have you heard of the MI5 ex boss that was on facebook using a fake identity.
He is thought to have shared classified information while disguising himself as an espionage freak.
Wish i had him as a friend.

Sannan DB kai ma i don't trust your moves on facebook and twitter.
I received confidential information that you are toasting a facebooker who didn't know you had two wives and she almost fell for you.
Aji tsoron Allah.
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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #12 on: August 20, 2009, 09:53:28 AM »
 8)  8)  8)  8) carry on pls tunda abin ma fallasa ne,
duk barnar da nura jibo yakeyi baka gani ba just because
you and him are singles ko?

i am changing my status back to SINGLE and SEARCHING.

bakangizo ai is very difficult to understand, don't mind him,
we have just assigned a special radar to uncover him
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Re: "These social networking sites can ruin a relationship" - FACEBOOKER
« Reply #13 on: August 20, 2009, 11:24:34 AM »
Muhsin, try and get some of yr friends together and register as members. You will begin to enjoy it then. Its not a forum for debate. Its a global majalisa.

Majalisa...in what sense? I feel like I even don't know the site's function.

Actually I use to wonder, for I realized, for long especially during Obama/McCain campaign, how Western countries and their nationals take facebook; they revere it. And many more instances.

@ Muhsin,kai da baka saka hoton ka ba yaya za'ayi kayi selling?
There are several reasons why people register with these sites.
Some go there to find suitors,some to stalk on other people,some to reunite with old buddies and some to make new friends or market.
It all depends on the manner you use it.
Yanzu zumunci ya koma facebook or the social networking sites.

Hmm??? I'll do that right away...

Wish myself good luck. ;D
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« Reply #14 on: August 20, 2009, 04:23:55 PM »

Hehe, nice topic! I think social networking sites are what you make of them. If you've got skeletons

in your closet then yeah it'll ruin your relationship. But if you're secure and honest in your dealings than it

won't hurt anyone at all. In fact, it may even strengthen it. Facebook can tell you a lot more about a person

in a less awkward way.

I love facebook because it helped me reconnect with people from my past that I never thought i'd meet again

in this lifetime. Now instead of writing personal emails to each friend or writing a group email, I can just update

my status! Killing lots of birds with 1 stone and that my friends, is the efficiency of Facebook.

Although I did get the shock of my life when I got a notice that my Mother had added me on facebook. Then it got

more complicated when my friends started adding her too and referring to her as "their cool Aunty" on her wall postings!

But hey, I realised that I had absolutely nothing to hide so by all means, add away Mummy!

Social Networking sites are not bad if your intentions are clean.

Facebook is good. Though Twitter is the new black.


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