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Ummul that was kinda scary....u gat hair standin straight @ d bck of ma neck....& a lil scenario,....I was takin a hike & down came this van...coloured whyt.....I quickly zapped away...even when it turned out 2 b a delivery van...now am so supa scared of whyt cars..... :D Honest I am :o

Hafsa......oh well she has so many drama'z of her own...
PS: plz xclude me nxt tym...as private issues shud b dealt out privately(she smiles). Kiddin yah Blad..b/4 u unleash on me

It took me two weeks to get over white cars also. I'd feel my heart jump the moment a car approached me!

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah
Please,before reading my story,try andput your self in my own poisition,don't abuse,curse or take me to be an irresponsible person,the story i want to share with u is not my own making i found myself in that situation and whatever..........for the purpose of getting advise or prayer!!!!!!!!
i'am in great dilemma,ina da aure da 'ya'yauku,ina son miji na so na tsakani da Allah,miji na mutum ne da duk wani uba zai so yaga 'yarsa ta aura,sannan mutum ne da duk wani da zai so ace shine mahaifinsa,ya rungumi danginsa da duk wani wanda ya nemi taimako a wurinsa yana da wadata daidai gwargwado,in lokacin hutu yayi yakan dauki ya'yansa da matarsa wani lokacin har da mahaifiyarsa su tafi uk canada holland paris ,a bar ta maganar hajji da umura wanda wannan a cikin 'ya'yansa shida ba wanda baije sau biyu zuwa sama ba[yana da uwargidansa]infact he protected me and my children from the hostility of his wife and grown up children not that he denied the other children and his wife their right,no,kowa yana bashi hakkinsa,that is not the story,this is just the background,i only want you to know the tyoe of person i'm married to,so that you can judge me,idan ina bacci to sai dai ya kwana da yunwa amma ba dai ya tashe ni yace a kawo abinci ba,in kuma zai fita zai ce min ga driver in akwai inda zaki,bayan na koyi mota sai da ya tambayeni irin motar da nake so kuma ya tilasta ni na koyi mota,rayuwa ta kyautatawa da soyayya ba irin wadda bana yi masa shima kuma ta bangarensa haka,to kamar yadda yake gidansa a cike kowani lokaci,his junior brother used to come and stay with us,'cos he is the one running my husband's business since he[my husband ]is a civil servant,during that stay we became very close ta yadda duk inda zanje tare muke tafiya,shi yake rakani makarant a kasuwa da sauran wurare,kar ku manta shima fa yana da aure sai dai bai yi sa'an mata ba duk rashin hankali da wani dabbanci ba irin wadda ba tai masa,sai su yi fiye da wata shida bata je dakin sa ba,
to,yawanci in mun zauna yakan min bayanin irin zaman da yake yi da matarsa da irin munanawar da take yi masa sannnan gashi yana ga ban kai matar tasa shekaru ba amma ga abinda nake yiwa mijina saboda haka abin yana bashi sha'awa.,infact he even told me their sexual affairs and so on,'yan uwa kun san halin shaidan a she shi duk abin nan da ake ciki ba wadda yake so a duni yar nan irina !!!!! ??? ???ko mai nake so zai kawo min yarana duk abin da suke so suma zai musu wani lokacin in na bashi sako wurin maigidan nawa maimakon ya karbo sai shi yayi min da kudin sa,to ni duk na dauka saboda brother din shi yake min haka,na saki jiki da shi sosai ta yadda duk gidanmu ba wanda bai san shi ba,in anzauna ana tadi kowa a danginsu sai yayi maganar kusancin mu,kowa kuma ya dauka saboda irin soyayyan dake tsakanin su da wansa ne yasa haka,kun san kuma dama idan aka ce mata biyu ne a gida to,dole a sami wanda yake favourite dinka,kuma dole you have to form an alliance with one of the members of your husband's family so that he can forward your interest,protect,and establish you within his family members,duk dai wanda yake nigeria,yasan issue of extended family,wata rana ina kwance sai ya shigo dakina sai yake tambayata mai nake yi sai nace ai wanka nake so in shiga saboda zanje makaranta,sai yake cewa ko inzo in miki wankan ne,i felt ashamed though i did'nt say anything sai na fita na tafi dakin maiugida nayi wanka bayan na fito sai ya bani letter ina budewa sai na ga kalamai da bazan iya kawo su anan ba kuma wai gashi yayi mafarki so so and so .........is happening btween us,that day makarantar da ban je ba kenan,maigida ya dawo daga wurin aiki yaga ba yadda nake ba,kuma ganin shima kanin nasa ba walwala sai yayi tsamammanin munyi wani rigima ne,kuma shi bai cika shiga cikin fadan mata da 'yanuwansa ba sai dai idan abin yayi tsanani,naso in gaya ,masa meke faruwa amma saboda kusancin su da kuma sanin cewa yana da high blood pressure sai nayi shiru,muka tafi a haka a she shi gogannaku bai hakura ba yayi ta bin hanyoyi da dama har at last......................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kun san sharrin shaidan sai ya kasance wata rana ya dauki small radio na maigida shi kuma is part of his habit in zai kwanta barci sai ya kunna radio a ahnkali idan barci yaso ya dauke shi sai ya kashe,to sai ya nemi radio na gaya masa cewa ai kanin sa ya dauka sai yace in je in karbo,oh!Allah naje na yi knocking ya bude koifa na gaya masa ya bada radio and when he brought it instead of him to give me he hold my hand and shaidan automatically start his work he kissed me though short and in a hurry i left,the next day he send a short message thanking me for that short kiss saying it was the shortest and sweetest in all his life,in short he was expecting more of it. :'( :'( :'(
Abinka da shaidan da kuma kasancewar we are always alone,we kept on kissing saying good words to eachother[,mark you no sex ,only romance and exchange of letters]we stayed like that for almost a year,and whenever he is living[yana zaune a wani gaRIN DABAN DA INDA MUKE,he only comes if there is any work at hand]rabuwa muke yi irin ta romeo and juliet,sai ya kasance idan ya tafi baya sati biyu sai ya dawo yayi kaamar six weeks sannan ya koma he stayed more with us than with his family,wasu abubuwan zan boye su to avoid leaking secret,wannan kamnar summary of what happened nake baku,wallahi sai ya kasance shi dai so yake kawai ace na zama matarsa,zai yi kuka yayi hayaniya wai bada gaske nake sonsa ba,in da da gaske ne da yanzu nasan yadda nayi na aure shi,to a gaskiya abin da ba ku sani ba ,prior to that relationship i'm a very faithful girl[i'm only 25]duk wani abu na addini ba ya wuce ni,kuma duk wani abu da zanyi sai na hada da ubangiji,kusan duk wata sai na sauke mana alkur'ani nida yarana da mai gida,don har wasu suna ga shine sirrin zama na a gidan idan aka duba irin dadewa da kuma gogewar wacce na samu a gidan wasu sun dauka bai fi in yi shekara ba in fita amm sai suka ga sabanin hakan bayan kuma irin kauna da mijin yake nuna min,to most of the time i'll tell him the implication of what we are doingboth islamically and socially,amma shi a kullum ba haka ba,duk wani wanda bai sona to shima basa shiri,duk kuma abin da nake so in har ya sabawa ra'ayinsa in dai nina ce to ya zaunu,duk abin da zai yiwa 'ya'yansa ,matarsa,mahaifiyarsa,sai na sani kuma sai nayi approving,wallahi in zai ci abinci nace a'a to bazai ci,duk wani abu da nace bana so zai bari,ta inda na tabbatar da yana haukan sona sai ranar mun tafi makaranta,shi yake driving sai yake tambayata mai zance game da soyayyar mu,sai nake nuna masa cewa wannan abun bazan iya cewa daga Allah bane tun da bai yi daidai da koyarwan musulunci ba,sannan gaskiya bazan iya rabuwa da miji na saboda shi ba,haka kuma koda mutuwa miji na yayi yasan ba zai yiwu in aure shi ba,kafin in gama bayani ,wallahi sai kawai gani nayi mutane sun kewaye mu ana tambayar ince dai baku ji ciwo ba,a she yayi loosing control har yaje ya bugamu da jikin pavements na kan titi,kai irin abubuwan da suka faru suna da yawa wa'yanda na tabbatar da gaske yake yi.
a cikin shekarar mu ta uku muna secret love,the type that even romec and juliet will salute us,sai ya kasance duk wani abin da zanyi wa maigida na ba ya so,in na kawo mana abinci [da ysake duk tare muke cin abinci]nakan yi sreving din miji na ko shi yayi muna hira sai ya kasance ya daina cin abiunci damu,in mun zauna da daddare ana hira sai yaki zama,in na tashi zan tafi in kwanta nace masa sai da safe sai yaki amsawa,daga karshe he told me that he felt very bad for me to abandoned him and slept with somebody after i knew how much he loved and desire me,na kanyi consoling din sa tunda na riga nasan mai yake so,in tabbatar masa ba yashi a duniyar nan,sannan nasan weeekness dinsa in daina masa magana in kuma daina kula shi to nan kan har kasa zai tsuguna akan in yafe shi,baya kira na da sunana sai sunan da yara ke kira na ko kuma anti,to da yake kullum cikin addu'a nake ubangiji ya kawo min karshen wannan al'amari tun da dai yanzu kusan ko a gaban waye zai kokarin nuna min so wanda nakan yi kokarin in kau da kaina ,sannann nakan nuna mmasa implication na abinda muke yi daga hujjoji na zaman yau da kullum,shi dai bai hakura ba amma ni Allah cikin ikon sa after four years of our love [kuma nima na soshi son da ban taba yiwa wani da namiji ba,]abin ya fita araina amma shi kam sai ma abin da ya karu don in har yana nan ban isa in amsa wayar wani ba sai ya kama hauka yana fadin maganganu,ko da kuwa mace ce tai min waya saiyace wai gani yalke kamar in ina kula ta bazai samu attention dina ba,duk wani suna da ke cikin handset dina na namiji yayi deleting sai dai in bar number a diary amma ba handset dina ba,ina amfani da mtn da kuam nitel sai na yi kyauta da handset daya saboda haka in dai zanyi amfani da line daya to dole dayan ya zama na baya functioning nan ma don me nafi amfani dsa nitel maimakon mtn wato kenan tun da shi yana mafani da econet bana so yayi min waya kenan ,abin wallahi ya fara damu na yanzu tun da nida i ALllah ya yaye min amma kuma tun dashi kamar yanzu ya fara sona kunga da sauran rina akaba,a kwai hanyoyi da dama da zan yi in rabu dashi to amma ,dole in yi protecting zaman aure na tun da ya riga yayi portraying din image dina a wurin family din su,sun dauke ni star bana laifi,kuma duk wani abin da ya faru suna goya min baya[u know the politics of staying with a rival]sannan idan na fada masa abin da yake zuciyata bansan irin reaction din da zai yi bsa,tun da wani lokacin yakance zai je ya fada wa mahaifiyarsu shifa ba wanda yake so sai ni,nakan kwabe shi to idan kuma na rabu dashi kunga komai na iysa faruwa,ni dai yanzu addu'ar da anke yi shine tun har Allah ya amsa addu'a ta ya cire min son sa a zuciyata,shima Allah ya cire masa ni a zuciyarsa,sai dai kuma fa banan gizo ke sakar ba domin akwai lokacin da yake tambaya ta yaya zamuyi da irin wannnan son da muke yi wa juna?sai nake ce sai mu roki Allah ya cire mana yadda yayi na tsorita matuka don yana rike da zobo a glass sai kawai naga ya saki a aksa yace shi da ya roki Allah ya cire masa ni a zuciya gara ya roki mutuwarsa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-X :-X :-X :-X

husna, was up? so you go to school in michigan huh? I know people there, write me an email at emkay44@yahoo.com. I'm just couple of states away from you

Wai.............Errrrrrrrrrr....am kinda speechless 'ere. Well Mrs........whueva. Ur story........is so..............way outta ma bound 2 come 2 a conclusion...or say judge....Well hear this: If u like d guy & he like u.............tell ur man. Probably ur husby myt compromise & sacrifice his marriage vows (he may call it off) 4 his bro'z sake 2 marry u.

If @ all otherwise, then I say u beta b real careful. I kinda know somebody that has quite a similar situation 2 urs (but I'll keep zipped 4 now)

Well wat can I say..................u wanna save ur marriage? Then tell d guy 2 get d hang of things. He shud sort himself with his wife. Islamically a man is not allowed 2 come in2 d same shelter if he knows d woman his not his wife......ka son din mutum ne. So b real careful. For u wud not wan2 bcome a sinner(dont think am being mean) But its d fact.

I hope everything goes well....hmmmwishin u all ze best

:o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o I need to go see an optician...I don't think am seeing quite right... :-X

Lady, ur story really is something... Man!!! U shud have told ur husband since THE FIRST DAY the guy asked if he can do wanka for u...Subhanallah...even repeating that makes me feel ... :-/

But Alhamdulillah Allah ya cire maki sonshi...coz really it is jaraba... uh uh...to yanzu this guy ya ki barin ki...what if ur husband finds out? You shud have told him wallahi tun farkon abun...oh ni..  :-/

Allah shima ya cire mashi sonki daga zuciyarshi...ya kuma gyara between him and his wife...Ki yi ta addu'a insha ALlah komai yayi dai dai... Amma fa ni mijin ki nike ji...don kuwa a shiga hakkinshi sosai... :-X... to, ALlah ya kara kiyayewa

Ya ALlah ka gyara al'ummar musulmi baki daya...Allah ka rabamu da rudin shedan da mutum...Ameen

SUBHANALLAH WA'IYAZIBILLAH! :o[/b]
"Unknow" as you name your self, Thats shocking:o
You said we should try and put ourself in your position,
why can't you try and put yourself in your husband position, How does that feel?
Sister you have no excuse what so ever,
You are killing your husband and destroying a family, Subhannallah.
Wallahi you better sort it out NOW and seek forgiveness b4 is too late,
In kika bari har kuka mutu da haka, Lallai kedashi kunshiga uku.
Kuma i don't believe you never had sex,
And you too must have given him a green light b4 he make the move.
Hummmmmmmmm!! SUBHANALLAH, AllaH ya kare :-X[/b]

Maganar ki duts 'yar uwa Ice... Unknown, better ask for ur hubby's forgiveness b4 me kasancewa ta kasance (either you or him)...wallahi I'm still shocked  :o... it's not like wai this kind of thing will NEVER happen...it's just that this is the first I have ever heard... :-X... Allah ya kara kiyayewa

QuoteWai.............Errrrrrrrrrr....am kinda speechless 'ere. Well Mrs........whueva. Ur story........is so..............way outta ma bound 2 come 2 a conclusion...or say judge....Well hear this: If u like d guy & he like u.............tell ur man. Probably ur husby myt compromise & sacrifice his marriage vows (he may call it off) 4 his bro'z sake 2 marry u.

Ummita, marriage between Hajiya Unknown and her brother's husband ya haramta har abada. There is no way that they can be lawfully married in the Sight of God ever. I say this on the assumption that at one time or the other, he the husband's brother might have tried to encourage her to leave her husband. In fact it is so judging from what she said about his surly behaviour when she has to serve her husband food and so on. ?

On my part, I will advise her never to mention this sordid state of affairs to her husband What good would it do? It will destroy her marriage, it will put a wedge between her husband and his brother, it will probably cause him a massive injury since he (the husband) is hypertensive. It will utterly destroy her relationship with her inlaws although that is secondary really since she will not be a part of the family once her husband divorces her and he will once the full extent of this reaches his ears. Women have been divorced on far less serious things.

The problem with inlaws is that whether they become her X inlaws or not, they'll never let her live down this event. They will hound her with abuses, she'll be much gossipped about especially a gidan suna gidan biki and the like. God help her if she appears at a public function where some of her inlaws are also going to. ?

If her husband divorces her, even let's say the brother can marry her, her Xhusband will not like it let alone want it, and he is an influential member of his family so the lovelorn brother will probably fall in line and do what his elder brother wants and that is not marry Hajiya Unknown. Her former husband will not be the only one who wouldn't want to see her married to his bro. All his other family members would be against it too and especially his mother who probably happens to be the mother of both sons. The mother will be thinking of her sons' happiness and after the tragedy of the first marriage with the elder son, she will not want the same woman married to her second son as she will believe the girl will do to him exactly what she did to his elder brother.

And would the brother's wife take it lying down? She will fight tooth and nail to see that Hajiya Unknown does not become her cowife, despite what ever her husband accuses her of dong to him. For all Hajiya Unknown knows, the brother may be lying about his wife. What sort of a happy life will she build for her self then? She will sink to the lowest of the low in the eyes of her inlaws especially after what she as said of doing no wrong currently in their eyes. ?

There is an English saying that the grass is always greener on the other side. Also it is human nature to covet what you cannot have. So this man covets his brother's wife precisely because she is not his wife and she is his greener pasture on the other side simply because he cannot have her. And when a person believes himself to be in a clandestine love affair or situation, everything about it becomes more heightened in terms of emotions e.t.c. because of the secrecy ?and covertness involved.

I suspect this man does not really love Hajiya Unknown, he is just reliving his fantasies through her and unfortunately for her she did not see through him from the beginning. He is in the grip of lust and not love. If he truly loved her, he will consider her happiness, and keep himself away from her, seen less of her and not disturb the status quo and tranquillity of her married life. He is also an extremely selfish person as he knows very well that our society does not condone this kind of behaviour. ?I can also bet my last kobo that this man will never marry Hajiya Unknown given the chance. You value less what you have than what you don't have, so the moment she becomes free to marry and it is sanctioned for example by his family, he will back out because reality is not as rosy a a dream. He will adopt the same attitude towards her as he has towards his wife.
In cases like this, women are always the losers. There has never been a time when a woman won in situations involving extra marital affairs. The woman becomes the social outcast stigmatized rejected and ostracised. The man? ?He is forgiven by the world at large and he is usually found a suitable bride to marry and everything settlesdown nice and comfortably for him. His indiscretion becomes life's little experiences. After all even in our Hausa society isn't there a saying about extra marital affairs for a man being equated with 'ado or kwalliya?'

So I shouldn't advise her to tell her husband. Think of her children as well, how it will affect them especially when they have to live motherless with a probable wicked stepmom, and ?'yan uba who will always provoke them about their mother being a scarlet woman.

Hajiya Unknown, your best option lies with prayers to Allah. It is a good thing that Allah has removed the disease of lust for this man from your heart. He has become for you what Glenn Close ?in the film 'Fatal Attraction' became to the character of Michael Douglas: an obssessive thorn in the flesh. But he is removable in Sha Allah. My advise, dont ever let your husband know about your indiscretion, you will harm yourself in far more ways than you can imagine. Allah Ya rufa miki asiri, kada ki tona wa kan ki.

Ki karanta Surah Yasin kafa 41 with the intention Allah Ya raba ki da wannan mutumin. Also there is a verse in Surah Kahf verse 78, where the prophet Zulkifl (Alaihi sallam)(I think that is what he is called) is talking to Prophet Musa (Allaihi Sallam) " ?
"Kala Haza fariqu bayniy wa baynak. Sa unabbi uka bi ta'wiyli ma lam tas tati' 'alayhi sabra"

The first part of the verse is the most important for your case. Translated the whole verse is something like this:

"He said this is the break (parting) between me and you. I will explain to you the allegories for which you could not be patient. (Correct me you learned imams out there, this is my own translation I don't have a translated Qur'an at hand at the moment).

Anyway recite this verse as many times as you can at anytime of the day and night in sha Allah, Allah zai rabaki dashi without your husband ever being aware of your predicament. ?Also in Surah Yasin, recite this verse

"Wa ja alna mim baini aydihim saddau wa min kalfihim saddan fa aghshaina hum fahum la yubsirun." This verse was recited by a friend of mine Allah Ya jikan ta many years ago when she had a ring on her finger and she didn't want some one to see t and I asked her why she ws reciting the verse and she said that if you did not want some one to see something or become aware of something about you, you recite it. Also when I was watching a movie once upon a time about the life of the prophet, I saw this verse written ?and being recited at the moment when the Mushriks of Makka went to assasinate the Prophet on the night he began his hijrah from Makka to Madinah and he came out of his room and went through the mushriks and out without their ever seeing im because Allah made him invisible to them.

Another thing if you read the Qur'an always have a translated copy at hand. When you read the arabic version and the translated version, you will find instances that fit circumstances in your life like a glove in your hand. When ever you fall in to a difficulty, always recite those ayas that fit into your particular circumstance and seem to be talking about your situation and insha Allah you will see that things will work out.

I sincerely wish you luck because What is that saying of something na mace na mace ne? I have forgotten. One last thing however, Ki roki Allah Ya baki tsahon rai you and your husband so that in the far future, you can confess to him when you wouldn't have so much at stake then.

Good luck.

P.S. I remember the quotation:
Ciwon 'Ya mace na 'ya mace ne' and I know a lot about inlaws; I have them.

Unknown,
I feel you. I will love to sit down and talk to you, I have seen this problems a lot. I really didn't want to talk about it, but as part of my profession this is what I sometimes do. I really don't know what to say here, I will probably want to talk to you one on one. some people might disagree with me but this position unknown at it's very difficult.  she can try to put herself in her husband shoes which I bet she has done that tons of time, but I also think she need a professional help, she need somebody to talk to before she made one HUGE mistake that she has to live with for the rest of her life. First of all I will have say tell your husband but as ummul said what good will it do? you know your husband better than anyone how do you think he will react to this situation? is forgiveness in the air? is he willing to forgive eventhough I don't think he will forget? so by you telling it will cost you everything... your children, integrity, and your future. I also understand that you feel by not telling him it's like you are cheating him, please spare him the pain and not. I know it's difficult to live with such a lie in your mind,heart and soul but honey you need to try. the only way you can try to live with this is by getting rid of his brother, by that I mean all that romeo/juliet thing gotta go. talk to him and ask him if he really care about you he should be a man enough to let you go and take care of the people that you love. but I will like it if you try to reach me you can still be anonymous but I feel your pain and I will want to try to help you. gilr please save your marriage I'm around your age and believe I have seen a lot and ?:-/.... just take care of yourself. I see that Ummul really see something about this brother, eventhough it has been going on for 3 or more years this guy is nuts and crazy. why would you want your love ones to be unhappy?

Assalamu alaikum
I will like to thank u for your response and advice,particularly ummulhuda and emkay,though some of you are too harsh on their response despite the appeal that you should look at it with idon basira,nevertheless,i myself sometimes think wheather i'm the much awaited dujal[or ist iblis?]but sometimes if i remember Alllah's saying that he is all forgiven and compassionate i felt at ease and calm,but what i really want you to know is there is no lye about this man's love for me,i have stayed with his wife,infact even lived in the same house with her,i have seeing how she treated her husband infact everybody knows how she maltreated her husband,he made several attemts to add another wife but still she will scuttle the affairs threatening the girl and even the husband himself,so to say he lied to me  about his relationship with his wife did not even arise,remember he is my in-law,that means i'm an insider to the happenings of the family.
I volunteered this information without any body forcing me to do so,ko mai mutum yake yi ko mai rashin ilminsa yasan abu mai kyau kuma yasan mara kyau,kamar fadin annnabi[S.A.W] cewa zunubi shine abin da yayi kaikayi a zuciya kuma baka son mutane su sani,to haka wanannan al'amari kunsan the closest person in my life will be my mum amma kun san ko ita taji sai ta harzuka talkless of other people,kamar yadda ummulhuda tace fada bazai yi wani alfanu ba,to hakan ne,kuma kamar yadda nace a farko no sex!!!to haka abin yake saboda ba dalilin da zai sa in yi karya bayan the damage has already been done,so what i want you to understand is this thing have been in my mind for so long and its the grace of Allah that i said it,kuma at least i felt a li8ttle bit relieved,ko yau na mutu nasan ina tsammanin rahamar ubangiji,tun da yace in har kayi niyyar aikata mummunar abu sannan sai ba ka aikata ba to kamna da lada ,to shi yasan mai ke zuciyata duk abin da na fada wasu baza su gamsu ba,amma har ga Allah wani abu bai shiga tsakanin mu ba,sannan sama ace na fada in the initial stage who do you think will believe me apart from my husband?idan mahaifiyarsu taji do you think zata yarda danta yayi wannan abun kuma ko yaya zasu yi su kare shi zasu yi,ita kanta kishiyata will capita;lise on that and blackmail me,ai ya auro wata da har tazo zata rabashi da 'yanuwansa!you know ire iren wa'yannan abubuwa da kuma su kansu yarana they may try to abandone them,and even hate them for the sin of their mother,kowa yasan yadda society din mu yake tafiya da kuma yanayin zama a cikin surakanai,ku da am baku sanni ba ga judgement dinku balle wa'yanda suka sanni?tsakanina da miji na akwai zaman lafiya kuma nasan in har yaji hankalinsa zai tashi though i don't think he will divorce me,but where is the trust that build a happy home,me kuke tsammani idan ya ganni da wani namiji koda kuwa dansa ne,kumsan ire-iren wannnan su suke kawo rashin zaman lafiya har akai ga rabuwa,kuma walllahi badon 'ya'yaan ba da tuni nayi confessing masa na bar garin 'cos he deserved my sacrifice,kamar yadda emkay tace it will really touch the future of my children,shawarar ummulhuda abin dauka ne,ni dai yanzu bana jin sa a zuciyata,kuma insha'allah zan yi adduoin da kika bani ina kuma gode muku bisa irin fahimtar da kuka yi Allah ya shirye mu ya kuma shirya aman 'ya'yanmu.
emkay i don't know how to contact you but i am also interested in your advise.

Assalamu alikum
Wai hausawa suka ce" in ka dade to lallai zaka ga da dau" gaskiya i will first commend the effort of mrs unknown for trying to put the record straight,it seems she is God fearing ,if not of  what importance is it for her if ever anybody come across her behaviour in the net?she really made a great effort by trying to tell other people of her predicament and her resolved to change for the better,though i have come across similar issues but have a little bit differnce the difference is the people involved in the affair in my own case is between husband's friend or servant or even maiguard with the masters housewife,another differnce is the other is due to lack of satisfaction and care,whoever is in kano from 1993 to date know of the increasing demand of millionaires wives to have someone as thier stand by husbands incase the husband is not around then the other will fill in the gap,
Kasancewar da yawa daga cikin masu kudin mu don't have time for their wives what they are married to is their bsinesses they dedicated their time and energy in neman kudi forgetting their responsibility to theri wives,zamu ga film din hausa da suka yi film on that angle in da ace ba ya faruwa ai ina ga baza suyi ba,what i'am saying is not in support of mrs unknown oor her actions no,abin da nake so ince shine duk wanda kaga ya samu courage na sharing problem din sa with another person to akwai likelihood na cewa yana son ya shiryu.i so much agree with the views of ummulhuda ummita and emkay and since the woman said she never had sex with that man i think there is no need to tell her husband ,had it been that she had sex with him then that will automaticallly haramta aurenta da mijin ta,Allah shine masani.

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though some of you are too harsh on their response despite the appeal that you should look at it with idon basira,

Ayyah Sista Unknown...wallahi no harm was meant... :-[ If I was harsh, it was not intended.. and plz do forgive me... :)

I just thought ur hubby has the right to know ...but maybe I am wrong... :-X

Cool As Ice uknown
We mean no harm.
Is just that Man made disaster is always shocking :-X

Nas hiya Allah ya kara maka hakuri Allah ya mana gafarta mana. keep ur head up.