All of u gather around lets converse!!!

[ummita]

Dis guy can make noiseeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Dee-kay, ha' body? Enjoyed all d storiesssssssss.........I read

Got a really moving story of ma own aswell, if u guys wanna hearit lemme know.....though its a LITTLEEEEEE bit long

[Anonymous]

Dis guy can make noiseeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Dee-kay, ha' body? Enjoyed all d storiesssssssss.........I read

Got a really moving story of ma own aswell, if u guys wanna hearit lemme know.....though its a LITTLEEEEEE bit long

its like i'm d only one home....talking baut noise u know i learnt 4rm hafcy &...baut d story..i dont mind if its encyclopedia volume juss roll..there u go gurl..

[dan kauye]

Dis guy can make noiseeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Dee-kay, ha' body? Enjoyed all d storiesssssssss.........I read

Got a really moving story of ma own aswell, if u guys wanna hearit lemme know.....though its a LITTLEEEEEE bit long

its like i'm d only one home....talking baut noise u know i learnt 4rm hafcy &...baut d story..i dont mind if its encyclopedia volume juss roll..there u go gurl..

ooops..4got 2 log in.

[Fateez]

u walk an inch i run a mile y'cant win u always right behind me

Hey Dan kauye u listen to Spice girls? heheh wierd, dats from "Stop" in their Spice world album rite?

nothing phoney dont hate on me whut u get is whut u dont see..ok

ummm and dis one is from Jenny from da block? hehehe

& this reminded me another one,it wasnt long ago,infact it was during d last ramadhan(as in dis years') i escorted a frend 2 d industrial side of bompai....went 2 see someone in one of d offices there,i waited in d car while he went in...it was few minutes away 4rm iftar(shan ruwa)..i spotted a crowd of abaut thousand ppl outside(no jokes)....trust dan-kauye..i dashed over 2 see whut was up....2 my astonishment ,i found out that one rich lebanese guy took d responsiblity of feeding all d poor masses mostly company labourers during ramadhan..& one busybody even gave me som irrelevant additional in4mation..i was told dat d lebanese guy does dat philanthrophic act each & every ramadhan & chose 2 remain anonymous...but d food reciepients? they were bizy tearing each others clothes,shouting @ d top of their voices & threathning hell & high waters all because of a plate of rice & beef & d funny i mean sad part of d story was dat a couple of lebanese blokes & chicks parked their cars & watched a free show while they laffed thier asses & chatted in poor arabian accent..my heart really bled! in kano! kano of all states! kano of all of all center of commerce! kano home of riches! land of milk & honey flowing non-stop(ofcourse it flows but only d home of rich)..so how ironic!..whut do u think?????

i'll be right bak.....peace y'all

wat i don't understand is, was it da "food-sharer" dat was watching and laughing?

If dats da case then he's not only wasting his money but he's also getting

zunubi

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Got a really moving story of ma own aswell, if u guys wanna hearit lemme know.....though its a LITTLEEEEEE bit long

YAN MATA, ABAMU MU SHAAAA. BA KOMAI INDAI LABARINKI DA DADI, BARE NASAN MA AKWAI SAI KI BABU MU SHA MUNA SAURARO. IDANUWA ZURU-ZURU KUNNUWA WALA WALA. BISMILLAH

[dan kauye]

@ fateez a.k.a miss scrutiny,nope..dats not 4rm spice gurls but jay-z(song;u cant ,year ;96)..but hey i'm not surprised coz these bunch of popstars often bite out 4rm emcees...& yup d other was j'los'

with regards 2 d other story,the lebanese philanthrop wasnt part of d ppl who watched & rediculed our ppl..u got it now?

[dan kauye]

i'm bak,ummita since u r not ready yet...lemme talk 2 'd voice within' they say i make so much noise but i think it pays alot 2 be outspoken..a research @ a london institute revealed that those who open up leads happier lives,hardly hold grudges,& wud likely live longer compared 2 thier mealy-mouthed/keep-sealed-lips conterparts! where's hafcy?? plz make som joyful noise!
bak 2 bizness, do'y know whut i've bin thinking abaut lately??? year 2005!,they say "it's funny how tyme flies" but i, dan-kauye of all ppl says "its scary how tymes flies"....once upon a tyme not too long ago,remember d Y2K bug??? wen prophets of doom prophesised thier intricate network of lies abaut d world ending,computer bugs,earth ozone layer getting broken & all??? now its bin 5 dunking years..yes 5(its not a misprint)..
y'all might be wondering whut inspired me 2 pen down dis piece...last couple of months were x-perience-filled 4 me,too personal 2 share here but 4 sure i did a  thorough soul-searching assesement on my whole life;my goals,pitfalls,shortcomings,failures,weakness,strength,power,faith,behavior,achievement,success,plans,& all..infact i thot abaut my whole life as whole,as if dat wasnt enuff i dived in2 searching thru d lives of my freinds,colligues,parents,siblings,neighbors & all..i came 2 a simple conclusion..life is not born but made so life is whut u make it,its up 2 u 2 broaden up ur horizons & see beyond d superficialities & trivialities of life.fate always hav a hand in our daily dealings but u can choose 2 cheat fate if u r strong,hardworkingly diligent & determined..only if u walked a mile in my shoes will u comprehend well.
now we r juss couple of days away 4rm year 2005..this means getting older,getting closer 2 d seven feet under(grave),taking more life responsibilities ,xploring life itself & best of all knowing why i/u/we is/are here in d 1st place!..do u realize how much tyme we spend trying 2 better up d world around us not d world 2 come  4 us in the here after?, see,i ain't preaching but hey no matter how much u love this thing called earth u were not here 150 yrs bak & wil not be here 150 yrs 2 com..so now its up 2 u to do d rest of d calculation & make d best out of it.here's a little mind boggler..do u realize that men spend more tyme playing football,PS 2,basket ball,making transactions,sleeping, than they do wen it comes 2 religion;prayer,wa'azi,& all?..as 4 women its all gossip,make up,sleeping,cooking,net,ceremonies!..so now how many hours do u sacrifice 4 GOD out of d 24 hrs given 2 u every day??? they say an average person shud sleep 4 atleast 8 hrs every day & sure we try 2 comply & notch up even more..if we sleep for 8 hrs everyday  4 a year this means dat we get 2880  hrs of sleep per year!..whut of prayers?? lets assume we spend 12mins in each prayer( i'm sure most most of us dont spend up to 5 mins)..we use up only 720 hrs 4 prayer per year...so why were un here (earth) in d 1st place?? out of 8640 hrs we hav in a year we spend 720hrs praying,2880 hrs sleeping & d remaining 5000 hrs goes 2 other worldly sectors of our life! dont get me wrong plz,i'm not saying we shudnt get enuff sleep ..all i'm saying is how much effort do we put in religion compared 2 d effort we put in wordly activities?? so does dat justify our actions?? we r all guilty of sum of us are guiltier than others...kai i don tire i'll be right bak...

[dan kauye]

na dawo again, oya gather around lets converse ..lol..talking abaut new year's resolutions,do u hav one? coz i've truck loads of them...som ppl want 2 stop smoking,som want 2 learn anger management,som want to loose weight(lol),som want 2 become more religious,some want learn how 2 save,all these we call them resolutions.& believe it or not we all hav em..u
where do i begin? the truth is i really want 2 see a new me..afterall new year means 2 me ' new me' & wen i say 'new' i mean new in all aspects especially religion.then career,relationships,family, finance,etc..i really want 2 stick 2 these resolutions but its easier said than..talk is cheap u may say but no infact big  NOPE!  i'm hell bent on seeing a better me next year..

1.religion;i've done enuff surutu on how much i wanted a  positive change wit regards 2 how i handle religion..but it takes much more than juss typing 2 accomplish my mission..funny enuff,religion in itself covers every & anything in one's life...whuteva it is check it out ..its in there in ISLAM  if its not there then believe me its not worth its salt...i still recalled that tyme a frends heard me rapping over jay-z song 4rm verse one 2 three ..& he goes like.."hmmnn..it wud do u a lot of good if u can cram up d holy QURAN"  ....it never made sense 2 me then..but now? yup lots!..i'm basically a good memorizer,trust me i can memorize d whole QURAN  in matta of month if i eva wanted ..here i am..not even half of it without reading thru d texts! so i want a change..i want 2 go bak 2 islamiyya,join an islamic organization,join online islamic forums,learn arabic,hadith,ahlari,qawa'id,fique..all! yup i can do it & so cud u!

2.career; this is d last thing i eva want 2 talk abaut coz d road there is really rough,& in my own case & terms less travelled,my career took so many turns dat i became lost,confused,disappointed..but come feb next year(insha ALLAH) every thing will be ok..but hardwork is always d buzzword ..lets juss see sha..

3,relationship;lol..right now i'm single as a pringle & ready 2 mingle..lol.see i've a thing 4 pretty gurls..i dunno i juss lov'em..tall sorta short,short sorta tall,slim sorta fat,fat sorta slim(no honesly not fat..lol)..fair sorta dark,dark sorta fair..i just lov em..i guess dat goes wit most men coz dat how we r genetically wired,but no! its not how far but how well..so its not juss having a girlfrend but having d right one..& again 1st things 1st..wid d look of things around me presently i doubt if women r @ d top of my priority ..i wudnt mind  2 date if its britney spears fa..lol.ok now seriously,i'm trying 2 be sensible wen it comes 2 gurls coz i'll hav 2 admit i'm a total freak wen it coms 2 dat..no maybe 4 d pretty chicks dai..lol.so the resolution here is 2 stay away & keep off as much as possible @ least in d meantyme since i've got bigger issues on my plates
...2 be continued...............

[precious]

You know dan billage,ni ma I just got into this relationship problem and believe me it put me into this deep thinking mood and I swear life is just so insignificant ..well at the moment.Anyway it, that is the problem, made me realise a lot of things.Like you said shorcomings and longcomings(wat's the opposite of shortcomings).Sha u all get, ai ko?So i have things i need to do ,correct,step up on,stop doing blah, blah,blah.
First of all i have to thank God for my family.I just didnt realise how lucky i am to have my parents,brothers and sisters.God they were sooo supportive and caring and loving.just thinking of them wants to make me cry.Anytime i got real sad i called them and i felt happy.
2nd cos of the problem i began to pray alot.I felt so ashamed of myself that i only began this prayer all the time when i got a little trouble in life.So i have decided to continue my prayers ,problems or no problems,happiness or sadness,health or illness.Now i'm into dhikr all the time and i intend to make my life such.
3rd i have decided that i must come first in my life,no one should come and destroy my happiness,my self esteem,my progress in life.Afterall the prophet said when you pray,pray for yourself 1st,then your parents and etc. so now i sit and think,really wat do i want in life and how do i achieve it?Of course after life there is nothing to think about but Al-jannah so dama wanan ba sai na fadi me zan yi ba.
So here I am,changed ,armoured and ready to tackle life and it's problems head on.And i say to myself 'be good,have a good heart and good tongue,trust in Allah and let the world come.I'm ready.'

[elgaazus]

Precious,

Being redeemed is truly a sweet thing and i pray that God continues to guide us aright. But even with the shortcomings or longgoings in life one should not forget that, this life has been designed along a definite course such  that any attempt towards reversing it is dangerous. Precious if you are a gal, permit me to say this. It has always been the attitude with some ladies as i observed, when they unfortunately experience a 'not workable' relationship ( i mean boy friend/girlfriend) they resort to a more dangerous trail, that of the Feminism with the illusiion of women liberiation. BRB!............. take care. Though am not a women chauvenist at all!!!!!!!!!!!!! i have lots of respect for them, i believe the feminist movement is not the right channel to defend their rights rather it leaves them so ashamed of theirselves trying to adapt to being men. sorry, its only my sincere supposition. Byah

[Anonymous]

Sannuku dai,

Hello to all members and non-members before I make further move let me just make a brief intro to make myself known. I happen to be using a freinds laptop about 4months ago and saw this particular website. I asked her about it and she told me its just a regular site. Since then I have become attached to this website and I have been very well enjoying reading so many post. I may say that I have read far to many and too much of the posts and am very well familia with alot of members here unknown to them. Amman abun shine, I registered twice but I seem never to be connected. I wanted to get in touch with the administrator or moderators but failed, amman ba komai I can still make a post.

Seeing so many stories in particular that of Hafsys and her escapades with her boyfreind and of recent the one of precious motivated me to come out of a shell and tell a story that has made me see in total darkness. Yanuwa bari na baku wani labarin zuci, a story that only my heart knows & a story that only my heart can trully tell. I am 20yrs of age, hausa, studying and leaving in Abuja. I had been in and out of 3 long relationships not that I was a player not mentioned the primary one nursey 3 kind of boyfreind thing. But the first ever boyfreind and liked was when I was 16, though we got seperated when I was 18 after two years that was because he left the country. He said the distance brougt us apart when he came back and he wanted me back badly. Perphaps a genuine reason right? But a realisation I made long ago is tha maybe he never was interested because even distance cant come between love, but a more excuse on my side was because I was young, naive, and wanted to a big girl so I made a quick exit and got myself acquinted with my second boyfreind.  The second boyfreind I had when I was 19 and ended everything up when I clicked 20 was that he was such a good guy and everything, came from a very religious and known background. He was abit of those niggah nonsense of you know what I mean but he was so good to me. Well it all ended when he went to abroad for 3months in hols and he came back. He rang me because he could wait to see me and I was all calm and he taught I wasnt happy of his return. Of course I was but the thing is my quite, calm nature is really giving people wrong impressions about me. (When my older sister would jump, sing hug my mum kiss her & run around the house, say after getting a present from my mum,mine is usually a thank you to God and a big hug to my mum. This always saddens her because she always thinks am having problems and wount talk about it. Though she knows me & she bothers no more.) Thats just my sort of nature. Anyway my boyfreind from abroad came to visit me and I came out from our house after being told he has arrived. I approached him with my frequent smile & teasingly said to him, I taught it was Will Smith all dressed up looking cute. So he smiled and he came close to me I knew right there and then what he wanted to do. Ok kissing is something I wouldnt do. He asked me why I said he needs to rethink, its not our culture nor our tradition. No male or female can come in contact till after marriage, so he said its juss a kiss I said what ever. My face reaction changed to the worse. I folded my hand looking confused thinking is this the right guy I used to know? Well my older sister studied all her growing life abroad but nothings changed her. Infact the day she came home she was dressed in zani da riga and how gorgeous and pretty she looked. She is juss so crazy and funny but she didnt come home with the kissing thing even after she met her boyfreind. Anyway my boyfreind got upset and left. He gave me some presents which I told him he shouldnt have because coming home in one peace is enough happiness. He insisted and I refused it was later that our maigard brought it inside the house that someone brought me a message. So I kept it and the next day my freinds parted me with all. I soon heard that my bf had gone round spreading tales that I was so local and unsocial and he cant believe how a pretty girl will behave so unsocialised. I didnt bother and didnt care but I told my sister who told me he was no good and he was a little naive  kingthergathern boy and I should never see him again. This was a decision I already made long ago at heart. Few of my freinds who came back telling me what he said were saying just because of a kiss how could I break up with such a guy? Maybe just a kiss meant nothing and was of no big deal but to me it means hell alot! We exchange kisses and hugs with my family members but not someone I call a boyfreind. Maybe some do but I dont. Maybe after my marriage I can. So I ended the relationship because he was acting like an immatured, little boy. Between 20 yrs to 21 I had so many men asking for date so many, it began to scared me, I expected that so many men chasing after my sister because she talks too much and she is abit bubblier than I am. Yet so many attention was focused on me, nothing about boasting truth is what I tell. I had boys in my age group asking me out, Men in 20's and even so many proposals for marriage settlement. I rejected because I knew deep inside me I was not ready or maybe am scared. Of what? I cannot say. A year rolled with education on go and the constant admirers who would do anything just to bear the title that am the one they are dating. I soon met a guy, I wasnt ready for relationship but he wont let me go off his sight easily and he constantly came around. We became really close he was such a gentleman, good manners, kind and charming. He made me believe that trully we have prince charmingssss in this world of today. I wanted him so much like a brother, he wanted, he liked, Love is the word, he loved me dearly like a girlfreind more like a wife. I never liked staying on campus so immediately after lectures I will be out of Gwags heading to Wuse. This guy would pay me visit twice a day, between the intervals of every single day he would call me in his office for endless conversations. One thing about me is that am abit quite and so this really saddens him for he would sit on & tell me things and the only response he normally gets is either a'a, a, or my very frequent smiles. I will sit with my chin in my palms just to listen. This he sometimes thinks I never cared. But I did, I wasnt the type of girl who hide my feelings or prideness is something am too much for. I level down to everything and that is what makes my life so simple and easy for me to ride on. All was well between myself and my boyfreind. He was the one thing next to my immediate family because am the second child of my parents. My older sister is 24 full of life, graduated of recent. She is the chatty wild type who has life full in her hands. We hardly have time to sit and talk she is always around and engrossed with her freinds. Lokaci daya ne nakan samu mu zauna muyi hira. Trully the only spare time we have for talks is when she is having a bath. That when I would push open the door halfway and sit by the door. I use to be so happy for the little time we spent together. She loved me dearly and sticked up for me much during the younger days till present. As she dresses, I ask her about things like why wont she marry she has people who trully cared, she would then turn around and smile telling me that she swore on marrying the same day I will. She didnt care about what people will say, all she cared was to see me happy. I would laugh and then ask her what does she think about my boyfreind. Then she would come next to me to tell me he really cared and infact he calls her every say 3 days to pay his dues "yaya babba". She said to me why am I scared to introduce him to the family? At that instant it just caught me because I happen to know even his second generation of great grand parents before his immediate parents. His bros and sis, relations and they loved me dearly. I felt shame, because all he know was my sister and one best freind. Not that I didnt have a chain of freinds because the more close he gets the more real things get! My freind always tells me what a hadsome and gorgeous guy he was. How life-treating made me well. How so many of my freinds envy & had admiring crush on me. I would laugh and shake my head. Maybe is my quite nature. We would go out with my freinds and how they love to see him. They would gather & we would all chat together. My freind was my second sister but she was in her finals in uni. So during hols she stayed back writing her finals & after that  me and my bf would go pick her from Gwags back into town.  He soon became like a brother to her. She was also the only daughter of her parents so you can imagine how dead spoilt she is. Things were going so well and my loving parents were too caring. They spoiled me with pure unconditional love but taught me about every good deed. I read my quran, read about hadith, I prayed everything I had & everything I know I do. I made a decision to introduce him to my family to meet my mum her older sisters, my aunt, female cousins of my age clan and so on.My father was on a trip abroad and I taught he can meet my dads mum & so on. The day came my sister was going on a wedding of her freind so my house was more than full, they were dressing up, chatting and clapping away I was on my bed shaking and and one of my sisters freinds turned around saying (havent I eaten?) I asked why? She said because I have been eating away my fingers. Then I realised and stopped. My aunt came in to call me to tell me that my grandmum & mum are ready to receive my boyfreind and I should usher him in. I was weak in my legs so I sent him a text telling him to come in and he should make sure he remembers all the rules. He should never mention that he is here for marriage! Because if he so does I will end the relationship, (he is just here) to make himself known. He text me back "saying yes your majesty, I heard all and will abide all". That was a little relieve because I smiled and summoned the courage, went out to see my mum and if you know how aunts behave, they were busy laughing and teasing me, I couldnt even look into my mothers eyes because I was too shy. This is the woman I lay on her laps, play with her hair even after so much scolding I wont let go of her hair. I went off and soon saw one of my cousin. He is one boy that knows me inisde out , the one person that we have so much in common, the one person we fight for bicycle during our young days he was like a twin brother to me, so I settled myself down and his usual stories of laugther soon suspended the fact that my boyfreind was in a sitting room with half a dozen of my family members. Soon my aunt walked in, saying shikenan an gama magana you will be getting married in a week. I didnt know but I was hot, felt a right headache coming throguh, lost words, when she realised my worriness she told me to calm down that she was only joking. My boyfreind left without seeing me. Later that day he rang me to tell me all that happened and how he never got the chance to see my mum. I was a little bit taken aback. I asked why he said he just answered a few questions from the lady who called me before he left and that was it. He didnt raise his head up, bowed down because he was shy and doesnt even know my mum who is my mum. My boyfreind is abit quite and very shy, even with my girls, they end up  chatting and all he does is smiles and he would glance from one to the other and would look at me and he would just smile and shake his head. He asked me how I handle my freinds because we were totally opposite they were radio I was like a cemetry. My boyfreind came in the evening and in my hand was a photo. I showed it to my bofreind and he goes this woman is looking so matured but she is gorgeous. I wasnt at all jealous because I know my boyfreind had trust in him so I didnt care what ever comments he makes on girls. He asked me if she was arabian with an astonishing smile just like mine. I said its alright am not jelous so he should not make references to me. I said to him this woman is the woman he couldnt have the nerve to raise his head up and look at her and that this is the woman I love and call a mother. But I respected that and wasnt upset because it showed his respect, kunya is a second to good biyyaya to parents and that gave me more reasons really accept him in my heart. Not that I dont I do but something keeps holding my whole trust from him. I wasnt suffering from insecurity problems but I guess thats just my nature or taking precations to hidden repacautions. Later around 8pm I saw a couple of missed calls just seeing my sis name of my phone made me smile so I quickly rang her. There was lound music; Dan Asharalle for those that know him, in between she said even though she is in the biki her mind has not been there and she was so worried I didnt pick up. She asked how did everything go go? I just said good. In a pitched worried tone she said what do you mean good? I said all is well> She started shouting that I shouldnt hide anything. Then I said seriously everything was ok and fumbled a giggle. Then my sister started shouting and saying she was so happy for me I taught she was getting the wrong impression. So I said sista ba maganan aure yazo ba fa, just to make himself known and she said she knows. She said she misses me and that I should get ready she is sending someone to pick me up for the wedding. I tried saying no but she insisted. I was at the wedding and my sister, the freinds and bride and the whole battilion of abokan ango were all doing the spray. I soon spotted my best freind and went up to her, she was cursing at me saying that I said I was not going for the 'eve' party and that I said I was going for the luncheon and she was so upset. I apologised and told her all that happened from my boyfreind/family to my sisters persuasion to come. She was relived at face, so she asked me to come join the dance, I said no am shy besides I dont know how to dance. She pulled me in and I was just standing laughing, soon my sister and her freinds spotted me and they all came rounded me and started doing the money thing on my head. I was happy seeing my sister having fun and the good dancer she was I started to do the little baby steps I could beside her. I didnt even want her to move an inch. In an instant I froze because there was this gentleman that was putting money to the bride and groom I came to find about he was the babban aboki, and everywhere I went he followed me, kept looking at me. I had no choice so he started talking to me and my sister and freind were out of sight. I was shaking because I know he wants relationship but I already have a boyfreind. I was explaining all to this and he was just in the midst of apologising because he didnt know. I felt someones eye burning I turned round and spotted my best freind  staring deeply with some sort of smile that I couldnt say whether it was a grin or that sort of 'you are cheating on you boyfreind and I will tell smile'. I made a quick excuse and left. After the wedding I told my freind to sleep over at home. In my room I told her all that happened with my bf when he came in today. Her face reaction kind of changed and she said why did I introduce him? I said because he kept budging and I felt selfish knowing his once and he doesnt know any of my family except sister Hameeda & herself. She made a face like 'whatever' and told me she wanted to sleep. I was suprised because she never acted the way she did. The next morning my bf called me and my freind was in the shower. He said I should say hi so when she came out she asked who called me and I told her it was my bf and that he says hi she said he is such a bug-a-boo and that why is he calling this early mornin? It was 12pm by then I felt shocked but I didnt say a word. We had breakfast and decided to visit a freind. Around 2pm I knew my boyfreind was going to call but he didnt, 4pm there was no call. So I called him because he told him he was going to KD so I shouldnt bother calling him incase I lost service. So I called him and we said hi and all but I could tell from the tone of his voice that  he was a bit cold. I asked him what the problem was and he told me, he called I refused picking up and when he rang again my freind told him that I was sleeping and that he coudl hear my voice from the background. I apologised and said to him my freind might have not recognised his voice. We said goodbyes and I felt bad but didnt say anything. I didnt want him to have a bad impression about my best freind and I also didnt understand the sudden hate my freind developed for my bf and why she was acting mean. In the evening my phone battery went low, and I didnt  speak to my bf to tell him that I got him drugs because he had a bad cold and he is the type that would never ever go to the hospital so I took it upon to provide treatement. I am an unqualified doctor and in my bathroom are all sorts of tablets from paracetamol, to actifed, to propanol etc so its just a matter of digging in the cupboard and re-surfacing with maganin mura. I didnt know how to reach him because I felt embarassed asking our freind if I could use her landline to call a guy. So my bestfreind said I should call him with her phone and I told her he just got a new number I stored it on my phone but I havent crammed it yet. Besides it wasnt a big deal because the cold wont do harm I can wait till tomorow if he comes home. She insisted so I used her phone to call him. I said he would come right away because he just came back from Abuja, so I said he doesnt have to, if its not getting worse he can come for it tomorrow. Well things kept happening like my freind showing more distate for my boyfreind. One day I rang her and she said she was having a bad headache, so I rang my bf to tell him not to come see me because I wanted to have a days out with my sister. I heard a females voice on his phone and someone hanged up. Nothing crossed my mind at first so I redialed and it went straight to voicemail.  I called his other phone it kept ringing but no one picked up. I didnt bother so I hanged up. My sister asked if I told him we were going out. I said I tried but some girl picked up and hanged up. My sister went what? She said "and you are here acting stupid someone is after your man", I started laughing because I was just happy that my sister is just crazy to be lovable. I said no, even if it was a girl might probably be relation or just a freind. My sister said she was ringing him and I said no. My sister said if he was cheating she would surely kill him because no one can treat me like that. She was cursing and I just followed her to the car holding her bag thinking if she was on liquior or something. As we pulled out from our drive I just spotted a red car and I knew it was my boyfreind. My sister was saying thank God it will make it more easier for me to kill. Should she just drive me over or wait till he comes out? I started laughing and went out of the car. My bf approached me saying is that not my sis and why was she giving him that kind of look because he was so worried, so i told him not to worry. So he said I couldnt even call him after telling him to go on an errand. I laughed because I knew he could make jokes. My sister started honking for me to come along. So he went over to great her and she behaved) So he told my sis that he wanted to visit me but I told him to go on an errand and my sister asked him what did I say he should do? He said oh she said that I should help her pick up her bestfreind to our house and when he went over she said she was no more coming and that he should drop her in someo other freinds house. I was a little bit suprised but I didnt say a word ratheI thanked him and he left. My sister wanted to have fun and my mind was somewhere but I shooked it away and soon I was laughing at my sister who was singing to Toni Braxton. Well aleast she was sing driving and not drink driving. I didnt tell my sister that I had not assigned my bf to give my bestfreind a lift on his way or to whereever because she would kill my freind and I dont want our relationship to end because she is indeed a good freind not till what happened. I was tempted to call her and ask her but I kept quite.  My freind started acting weird and rude to me. Anytime I call her if she is up and felt like going out she would tell me she is busy. Soon we came to hardly not calling each other. One day my bf picked me up to go pick up some clothes from the tailors. On our way he saw his freind and he went over to see him, I was in the thinking of which of the tailors did my sis give her clothes to so I can pick hers as well when my bf phone rang. I picked up and someone hanged. This happened 4 times and I wanted to know who it was so when the phone rang again I refused to pick up and it went to miss calls. I quickly went on his miss call list and I was hoping to see a name but it was just titled 'A' so I traced up the number and the number looked so familiar then I knew it was Aisha my bestfreinds number. Just then a text message came in I knew it was not right to read someone elses even though it was my bf's but I opened it and it read "kuna tare da itane?" kuma meyasa baka daukan waya na? call me back lov Aish.  I saw more text with 'A' titles my hands were sweaty and shaking I read about four and in one I froze because it read "muna tare da angel dinka a biki amman tayi sabon saurayi" pls call me I have something to tell you. I noticed I could see well my eyes were blurry. It was after something trinked on my skirt did I notice it was tears. I was suprised at why I was crying, I never knew I had so much weak at heart. I was the brave one at home, I hide my emotions and I never allow emotions to eat me up in terms of relationship. Yet today I was crying, tears were spilling on my bf handset and as I show a blurry figure coming towards the car and I knew it was my bf I quickly wiped off my tears. I was trying so hard to make a decision before his shuts his car door. Or to fully break down.  I didnt know whether to shout or remain calm whether to tell him what I saw or to remain quite and see how lengthy they could go, or to start spying on them but I felt it was stalking. Part of me didnt want to believe, part of me belived it, part of me regretted knowing him even introducing him to people of all my mum part of me regretted even coming out from home on that day.  Part of me said I shoudl walk out of the car. But I was too shock and lost to even make a quik decision something I am very good at in times of emergency. I looked straight as he came in and sat down saying what is amusing my eyes or is it that I have never seen men fighting over a jerican of petrol? I quickly pushed my finger on the play button of his radio so that he wont catch me up in any conersation and I realised it was one of my CD's I gave him Zain Bhikah and that song wanted to make me cry the more so I I told him that I didnt want to go get the clothes and that I rang the tailor who has not finished sewing. He was soon worried he kept looking at me and checking for the traffic light to hit green. I looked straight not caring if he care or not. I didnt even want him to ask me anything so I just handed him over the phone not for him to know but for him to give me the benefit of being alone because him talking will only add to my misery. I finally turned round and smiled saying him your girlfreind Aisha called 5 times and she even sent you a text, go ahead open it. He looked confused, so scared. I didnt say a word and I told him to take me home. He tried all that a man can do, he called more than my counting limits, he called my older sisters phone, he even rang my house phone something he has never done. I was eager to go back to uni atleast my mind will be else where an focused on my studies. During my lectures anytime I spot a red car I will either squat under the table or hide behind trees. He kept coming to Gwags in the morning and immediately after my lecture beccause he already know my timings. I didnt even know if he took hols off his very demanding job. When I went back to uni I didnt want nothing to do with Aisha freinds who are equally my freinds saboda gulma so I moved with other freinds.  It happened we were sitting with my freinds they were busy chatting when one said who is that cute guy coming towards I raised my head up and saw well my ex, now I can call him an ex boyfreind dont you think? Anway I took off in such a quick pace and before he could follow I was lost in my faculty building. I never wanted nothing to do with him. I was hurt but I wasnt hurt because am glad I didnt take it too far I very much thank my concious mind on its refusal to saying yes on his request if we could marry. He kept living me voicemails on how it was not his fault, and how my freind kept sending him love text, how he told her to leave him alone and accused her of being a deceit but I didnt care. Even if it wasnt his fault. A mouse will only love a cat if the cat says he loves the mouse back. So he must have given her the face. As for Aisha,I boycotted her she called me, she came home and I wanted to be distant from her because thats the only way to keep peace. I never confronted her about why she was dating my bf. I said nothing. I can her once in a blue moon. I think by know she knows what she has done but she is too narrow minded to apologise or maybe she cared less about how I felt. She can have my ex it will no longer upset me. What made me upset was at first she was my bestfreind, if he was befreinding someone I dont know and not close to I wont even care but move on. I didnt tell my older sister what happened because surely if I do Aisha will be miserable for God knows how long and she will be bruttal with my bf but I taught let them live it is not the end of the world. I dont know if I should tell my sis. I know she will soon start asking of him. Because she has already started saying why didnt he call these day. I told her he travelled, but for how long should I keep lying to her. If I dont tell her she might think I have no trust and this is my sister. As for Amir and Aisha they can have each other the more reason why their names start with (A's dont you think?) It makes me laugh these days am not insane but all Aisha attitude about why I introduced him to my family, about why she hated him, about how she made me use her fone so that she can retrive his number on her caller list to start calling him. All this jumbo mumbo puzzle I finally fixed together is what makes me laugh now. But with sister and with freinds like the person who I first saw kanoonline website on her system have helped me continue from where I stopped. She is what I call a real true freind. I have now moved on and already doors are really opening up to a brighter future for me. I dont know if I can tell all the girls not to trust their girlfreinds because one proved to be a back stabber but another is proving herself as a worthy freinds. I dont know if I can say you should not trust boys but sometimes he take trust for granted but what I can trully say is having a crazy funny sister is what I am surely happy for because I now realise that I have nothing to loose. With a broken heart someone has already started fixing it up.

So THATS EXCATLY HOW MY BEST FREIND STOLE MY BOYFREIND.

[Mufidah]

Sorry I forgot to write my name (Mufidah).

I enjoyed all the stories I read here few months back. Never got the chance to say I did but I trully did.

[bobboss]

am just commending u guys 4 this wonderful and indeed lenghty stories , i swear i no go fit write plenty rubutu like this one o!!!! i no, no wedar na lazyness or na lack of talent .but i love reading it .so thanks guys KEEP IT UP AND I WILL KEEP READING.

[dan kauye]

mufida
welkom onboard,u'll surely hav a nice stay here & make som terrific freinds, nd abaut ur story..HUH! i'm @ loss of words u deserve a nobel prize(lol)...i'm really moved ..no ,she's not ur freind she's ur foe..i cant say u shoulda,coulda,or woulda coz i'm not in ur shoes..i really cant clearly imagine how it feels 2 get hurt like dat ..but one thing's 4 sure;u r an epitome of womanhood..as i've learnt in ur narration;it all sprung 4rm jelousy/envy..i know it wudnt make much sense if i assume all women r like dat coz she(ur so-called freind) duz not rep women but hey,xcuse my brash thot,a lot of women r like dat..as in its atypical of a lot of d women folk 2 indulge in d best buddy-treachery-r/ship thang,of course u hav nothing 2 lose wit ur bright future,experinces,looks,& best of all supportive sis/fam..& abaut ur bf, (mind u i'm not trying 2 take sides wit him..its juss whut i see)i think he sounds alot like a very good chap if not 4 ya freind who must hav manipulated /muscled her way 2 his heart so shud i say 2 his hands(coz it ain't luv @all),i believe dis guy really loved & cared 4 u coz he exhibited all d qualities of a real guy & prospective hubby, as in...good family background,calling & caring 4 most of d tyme,being eager 2 meet ur parents,respecting ur sis,being occupationally responsible & best f all luving & respecting u ..whut more cud u possibly want  4rm a guy???his only fault was dat he rolled on 2 her beats but hey,dont be surprised he dusnt/never feel anything 4 her which i strongly believe.he even called & did everything within his capability 2 xpress his apology...i think dis guy deserves a second chance..who knows! he might juss be ur MR right & u mentioned something like hearing his own side of storyl;if a guy aknowledges his mistakes especially in a r/ship..& tried 2 apologise & make ammends guinienly ..then he's likely 2 be a  real guy...& dats a good expression of masculinity & bravado not d other way round(coz men r generally not really good @ r/ship issues)...but d trouble is do u still luv him??? (i suppose u still do),is he worth his salt?,do u think u can move on wit him again? if yes then ,take him bak ..u hav nothing 2 lose! ...i'll be right bak..peace !

[Fateez]

@ fateez a.k.a miss scrutiny,nope..dats not 4rm spice gurls but jay-z(song;u cant ,year ;96)..but hey i'm not surprised coz these bunch of popstars often bite out 4rm emcees...& yup d other was j'los'

with regards 2 d other story,the lebanese philanthrop wasnt part of d ppl who watched & rediculed our ppl..u got it now?

hehe...my bad then, and um it's not scrutiny just a lil observation :P , oky?

and about that philantrophy, it's da pple {da ones dat ate da food} dat

fooled themselves i don't blame those pple 4 laughing at all {if u see free

show u no go watch?} it's just so sad dat some of our pple act like dat but

wat can i say? naija wud neva be fun without all those lil extra stuff