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Quote from: EMTL on February 13, 2009, 10:20:31 AMQuote from: waduz on February 13, 2009, 08:25:16 AMIn our continuation of the fruitful discussions on the bazawara and bazawari, or rather kotono woman and man, we all must be mindful of silly mistakes we daily make at home which ultimately, may result into very unacceptable actions that may lead to terrible consequences. We must be careful when travelling away and leaving our family in the hands of irresponsible rascals. The story I am going to narrate is about a buzu nightwatchman and his master.BUZU: Maigida, kudin aikina fa ya karu. MAIGIDA: To, ta ya ya?BUZU: Bayan kayi tafiya na kwana bakwai, ni nake yi wa uwargida wanka.Of course what follows afterwards was an irrevocable divorce handed over to the wife and the nightwatchman fire. Little wonder then, why the bazawarai and bazawaris are daily multiplying?Assalamu alaikum,This is sad story.Islam forbids any Man allowing his wife, daughter, sister to be in isolation with any body that is not related to her (Muharim)- for instance a woman must not travel with ONLY Driver without third person. The hiring of houseboys, security, etc. must be done with caution. Allah (SWT) Ya kare mu tare da iyalanmu.
Quote from: waduz on February 13, 2009, 08:25:16 AMIn our continuation of the fruitful discussions on the bazawara and bazawari, or rather kotono woman and man, we all must be mindful of silly mistakes we daily make at home which ultimately, may result into very unacceptable actions that may lead to terrible consequences. We must be careful when travelling away and leaving our family in the hands of irresponsible rascals. The story I am going to narrate is about a buzu nightwatchman and his master.BUZU: Maigida, kudin aikina fa ya karu. MAIGIDA: To, ta ya ya?BUZU: Bayan kayi tafiya na kwana bakwai, ni nake yi wa uwargida wanka.Of course what follows afterwards was an irrevocable divorce handed over to the wife and the nightwatchman fire. Little wonder then, why the bazawarai and bazawaris are daily multiplying?
Quote from: waduz on February 18, 2009, 09:19:21 AMLawalli, wannan maganan haka ta ke. To amma ai ka san mutane da rashin sanin ilmin addini. Every day you hear "waazin kasa" here or there, but do the people listen to what was being preached for them to understand the message of God and the Prophet? There is an acute knowledge and understanding of the teachings of the Koran and the Hadith. Most of the learned only cram the knowledge but cannot interprete correctly and clearly what was enjoined on us by the books. That is why you find a lot of violations of the teachings of the Koran and the Hadith among adherents. As for the buzu case, my thinking is that the wife must have encouraged him to help bath her on the pretext that she will ask for a pay rise for him, and he willingly obliged her. It could also be that the husband was not playing his matrimonial "role" properly, which drove his wife to look else where. But giving excuses will not defend their misdemeanour against the offence the two committed. Look at the confidence and the audacity the buzu displayed while explaining his need for a pay rise. Did he know the extent or gravity of the offence he committed? What are the punishments, if any, the Sharia will impose on himand the wife?
Quote from: waduz on February 13, 2009, 08:25:16 AMBUZU: Maigida, kudin aikina fa ya karu. MAIGIDA: To, ta ya ya?BUZU: Bayan kayi tafiya na kwana bakwai, ni nake yi wa uwargida wanka.
Quote from: HUSNAA on February 20, 2009, 06:39:01 AMNi I think he is not a buzu, but a bafilatani ( ;D ;D ;D).
Quote from: HUSNAA on February 21, 2009, 06:06:16 PMNura, you are overstepping the boundaries of politeness, I think. There are three women here who posted on this bazawara and bazawari thread. Me, Husnaa, Ummitta and MYSELF. Now I dont know what any of us has done to you for u ka cimana mutunci. This is a thread to air one's views. We have aired our views. You know nothing about us, whether we are married, divorced or widowed. We like to respect everyone on this board and we believe some is owed to us as well. In wata ce ta bata make rai, please do not offload your angst on us.P.S. Tunda kai tuzuru ne, ai bai kamata ka bata lokacin ka anan ma ba writing at all. You are not qualified since ko auren ma baka taba yi ba.
Quote from: Nuruddeen on February 21, 2009, 05:15:13 PMNi yanzu ne ma zanyi aure sabo fil dan ubansu
Quote from: Nuruddeen on February 22, 2009, 11:46:43 AMAmma Allah madaukaki mai girma mai kowa da komai yana fada acikin littafinsa mai tsarki cewa " WALLAHU MA'ASSABIRIN" A wani guri kuma yace "INNALLAHA MA'ASSABIRIN", ma ana Allah yana tare da masu hakuri.
Quote from: ummita on February 22, 2009, 06:45:52 PMHusna, this has sparked me to tell you all what occurred to a friend of mine recently. Sometimes, it seems it only seems that...until you open up and push reality under ppl's nose before they begin to smell it.On a Friday, I taught I would do something immaculate to clear off all the badness from friends who label me as the soooo not nice person for not either visiting or keeping in touch with them. I decided to visit a childhood friend of mine who is known by alot for her sweetness, kindness and respect. Happy she was to see me and after exchanging hugs and pleasantries, we sat for a chat. She was eager to bring in some munchies and drinks. I was apprehensive of the spring rolls being a very picky person when it comes to food and the cake looked too butty. I lied to her that I was on a diet but would have some cranberry juice. My friend was in stitches mocking me for she never knew I was never among the class of concerned about my weight girls. She snubbed me off saying she wished she could burn off some calories and have my dress size. I smiled feeling silly for lying and being busted. What ever the case the spring rolls looked too oily and the cake was not my likes.....Anyway, we were having a nice chat and she looked abit erked and complained of being very tired these days. I gave her a look that "us" know and she told me not to even think about that. I said to her I wasn't. My friend kept glancing over an entrance which led to another sitting room looking abit worried. I was beginning to worry aswell. I didn't know what was coming through that door or what the worry was all about. I felt like asking if everything was ok but didn't. And so we kept chatting about life though our subject was about tailors and how they can mess you up. She glanced again over the door and it was then she lowered her voice and said "gaskiya Ummita am not happy, am trouble. I wanted to run away. I hate listening to things like this especially marital issues. She said things were not "ok" between her and the bread winner. She complained of his arrogance, rudeness and lack of affection for her and for no material reason. He was just so rude to reason and has a temper. All I could mutter and kept repeating to my friend is not to worry, inshallah you be fine, just keep praying. Kiyi hakuri and don't tell anyone even your parents. It shall come to pass. I wished I didn't say all that now. I really do. A loud voice came through and quickly, my friend was juggling towards her living room her fish tail skirt giving her no room to hurry up. I taught oh...owww didn't know her hubby was home and I taught mhmm his voice tone sounded rude and asserting for sure! I heard the click clacking of plates and spoons and my friend's voice asking if he wanted more food or water or drink. I wasn't eavesdropping ok. I could hear them loud and clear. I didn't hear her hubby reply, perhaps he shaked his head, shrugged a shoulder or whatever. Next thing I heard was a slight argument going on and I began to feel realyyyyyyy uncomfortable I have been uncomfortable all along anyway. Then arguments turned into insults and I heard my friend saying "gaskiya Aminu kada ka kara zagin mahaifiyatah" and I knew it was a slap that I heard next. It was like a bolt from the blue when I heard him saying that did he have to call her twice before she summoned herself? Between sobs I heard my friend replying I swear I didn't hear you. I was with ummita next door. I felt plsssssss don't call names not mine plz, pls, pls!!!! Then I heard ita Ummita ne ko Umma ko wacece bataji ina kira ba" I was like hell no.........dont dictate on me now!!!! I aint your wife. Command on her not me! I was beginning to see eye to eye of what my friend was complaining about earlier. I really wanted to go now and I started looking for my gele, keys and bag. Now there was verbal abuse going on from the husband......da kuma gori, I cloth you, I am rich and can marry up to four, your father is nothing but a big political thief. I was like *WTF* My friend was now crying cussing him of how heartless and disprespectful of him to say that. I was now contemplating of whether I should go in there or just head out. Then a loud thud came, he must have rammed her against the sofa or wall or shoved her...whatever it was it was getting physical. I was walking quickly to towards the entrance door dead scared. What I saw coming was terrible......Her husband pulled off a DVD system and aimed it right through my friend. I couldn't move, all I saw was a flying object, it happened all too quickly. I frozed and all I could see was my friend on the floor and blood oozing from her head and all I could her hear repeating was "innalillahi wa inna ilahir rajium". I was shaking I didn't know when I started repeating after her. I was by her side with my hand pressed on her head to stop the bleed. Situation was bad. My friend was in pain and shock and I went into panic. I felt like running even though I was a witness by the victim and the culprit was standing inches away above us looking like incredible hulk. I was scared to a state. My friend was in her conscious state but still I was thinking all sorts. I looked over and all I could come out with was "Mallam wannan wani irin hauka ne". He just walked passed us and said "dukanku ku fita gidana". I taught I had no time to reply a lunatic like him. I quickly called their house girl and their driver and we were heading straight to hospital. What was I to do? I rang her elder sister who rang her mum who then rang the dad, before you knew it her elder brothers were trooping in the hospital. It was like an ally's formation. Her elder brother looked me saying. Ummita sannu ko, Allah ya saka da alkahair. I gave him this confused look thinking....what did I do, I was nowhere able to stop him besides I wished I was never there in the first place. All I could say was "toh". Then the questions began from almost all her family members? Ina Aminun yake? I said I don't know. Meya faru? I said I don't know? Dame ya fasa kanta? I said DVD? How? I said I don't know. It happened all too quickly. Me tayi mishi? I said I do know. My palms were sweaty I was shaking, confused as I was bombarded with zillion questions at a time. I kept using a paper to fan my eye and kept looking up and blinking to stop tears flowing. My friend was not in a very critical state but she was bad. I felt sick and weak and wanted to go home. Thoguh I didn't know if it was ok for me to leave. Of course everybody was concerned about my injured friend even I myself but common........I am a witness who is under shock too!!! I needed me some attention and TLC too. ;D Anyway I called out, was taken home, clean the blood stain off my hands couldn't eat, took some paracetamol and went off to bed.Come Saturday morning, I couldn't go visit my friend. I woke up with a very heavy head and felt drained out. Towards midday I rang in to check on my friend and was given details that she was doing fine, though she had to go through stitches, and she was going to be held in for a two day observation. I went to see her on Sunday eve to visit her. Eventually she was fit to be discharged by Monday. I paid her a few visits back at her parent's house because I had to travel on emergency grounds. I returned two weeks later only for story to reach me that my friend and her husband are now divorced. Apparently he issued the divorce. We later learnt that is is dating some Igbo girl called who happens to be his office secretary and I taught that might have been the reason for all his waywardness. Though words got round that he had it in hims a history of dodmestic violence as it was what ended his first marriage!Allah dai ya kyauta ya kare. Now I ask.....does this make my friend an undesirable woman for another man to marry? Ita ne tayi zalunci? Ko bata san daraja na auren bane? Ko kuma even if we cannot do anything, we should not discuss what is happening in the diaspora? Ko kuma iden munyi Magana akai bata lokaci neh? Ko kuma itaceh ta kasa hankuri da shi din da ya kai da rabuwan? >:(Abge some ppl should think again!
Quote from: Dan-Borno on February 20, 2009, 12:54:16 PMQuote from: waduz on February 13, 2009, 08:25:16 AMBUZU: Maigida, kudin aikina fa ya karu. MAIGIDA: To, ta ya ya?BUZU: Bayan kayi tafiya na kwana bakwai, ni nake yi wa uwargida wanka. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D Quote from: HUSNAA on February 20, 2009, 06:39:01 AMNi I think he is not a buzu, but a bafilatani ( ;D ;D ;D). thank you auntyn muhsin, see you guys monday.
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